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Fighting for Your Voice | Better Together

Watch Fighting for Your Voice  |  Better Together
June 13, 2019
26:51

When do you fight back and when do you stay silent? Let's talk about it! | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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  • - Do you feel like you have to fight to be heard?
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  • Join the conversation.
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  • It's time to take back the power of our voice.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - [Lisa] The very first time I ever preached
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  • was an incredibly traumatic experience.
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  • My husband was the youth pastor.
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  • And he just kept saying to me,
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  • "I really feel like you should do a whole service."
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  • And I was like, no, no.
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  • First of all, I'm not a package deal.
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  • You don't get to just make me do things.
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  • You're the youth pastor, I'm the breastfeeding wife,
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  • (laughs)
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  • I don't do this.
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  • And so John went on a missions trip to Haiti.
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  • And he was supposed to have his co-pastor do it but he said,
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  • "I just feel like I'm supposed to have you do it."
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  • So he did a video announcement cause he didn't wanna
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  • tell anybody that a woman was preaching.
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  • So he did a video announcement.
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  • He told everybody,
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  • there's a special guest speaker in two weeks,
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  • there's a special guest speaker in a week.
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  • - Oh my.
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  • - [Lisa] And we had a group of about 200 people
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  • and I have been there youth pastor for two years.
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  • And then John did this little VHS announcement
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  • and said, "I just want you to know,
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  • my favorite preacher, my favorite person,
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  • is going to be speaking and ministering tonight."
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  • I sitting in the back room, my heart is like racing,
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  • my upper lip is sweating.
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  • And he said, "It's my wife, Lisa."
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  • I walk to the front and as I walk to the front,
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  • all I heard was metal chairs folding
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  • and people throwing them all into a stack.
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  • And they said,
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  • "I'm not staying here and having a woman speak."
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  • So the crowd of 200 came down to like, 50.
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  • And I had to just stand there
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  • and wait til everybody was done.
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  • And I just looked at everybody and I said,
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  • "I wish I could do the same thing.
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  • I wanna leave right now."
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  • I preached the stupid message.
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  • I'm pretty sure I just read Scriptures.
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  • (laughing)
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  • - They regret that decision now, though.
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  • - And then John was in Haiti.
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  • I was pregnant with Austin.
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  • And I put Addison to bed.
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  • And that night, someone came to my house
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  • and pounded on my windows, knowing my husband was gone,
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  • knowing I was by myself.
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  • And I had to call the police
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  • and it was a spirit of intimidation.
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  • It was not even a possible,
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  • maybe someone's trying to shut you down.
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  • It was
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  • super intense.
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  • I told my husband, "If you speak and have a bad day,
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  • you just had a bad day.
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  • If I speak and I have bay, I have a Jezebel spirit.
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  • Or maybe witchcraft, or seduction, or whatever it is."
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  • And I said, "I'm not willing, I am not willing,
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  • to have that kind of scrutiny and persecution."
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  • Plus I said, "I only have one eye."
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  • Like, I am a one-eyed woman, I have a handicap,
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  • I do not have to get up on the stage.
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  • And my husband just kept saying,
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  • "There's young girls in the audience."
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  • You know, it's fascinating to me that
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  • it says that "God is not giving you a spirit of fear."
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  • One of the translations said, "Or of timidity."
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  • That would be intimidation.
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  • "But He's giving you a spirit of love, power,
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  • and a sound mind."
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  • See, a spirit of fear
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  • comes after your authority in the spirit,
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  • it comes after your ability to love.
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  • Because a spirit of fear is always gonna cause you to say,
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  • "What about me?
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  • What about mine?
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  • I don't wanna lose."
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  • And it comes against your soundness of mind.
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  • Your mind is constantly going to be bombarded
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  • with worry and shame.
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  • But God is not the one who gave you that spirit of fear.
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  • He gave you power, love, and a sound mind.
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  • And intimidation comes after the very gift of God
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  • that is on your life.
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  • And when you deal with a spirit of intimidation,
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  • you're gonna discover on the other side of that
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  • the gifting of God.
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  • I personally found out that the very area
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  • that the enemy attacked me in,
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  • was the area that God wanted to anoint me in.
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  • So, if you're under attack,
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  • you need to be resilient like me.
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  • You need to say, "What is it that is so terrifying about me
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  • that the enemy has launched a full-scale onslaught?"
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  • Throw your shoulders back,
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  • and understand that you've got the Word of God,
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  • which is the sword of the Spirit
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  • and you speak it boldly and in faith.
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  • You know we talked about Ester.
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  • And Ester did not use her influence for herself.
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  • - That's right. - Exactly.
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  • - Ester is so not me.
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  • While she was fasting,
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  • she prepared a banquette.
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  • When I fast, everybody pays.
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  • (laughs)
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  • (laughter drowns out speaker)
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  • "You get rice and beans"
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  • I'm gonna feed you what I don't wanna eat.
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  • - That's right, like tofu. (laughs)
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  • - But we have to have a generation that is willing to fast,
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  • that a banquette can happen for the next generation.
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  • And what was easy for Hosanna,
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  • and hard for Holly and I, we're not mad.
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  • 'Cause I remember one time getting a little frustrated,
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  • you know, there was a young girl and she was adorable
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  • and preaching and she'd invited me to speak
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  • at her conference and she got up and actually preached
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  • one of my messages,
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  • which I was like, "Okay, that's awesome.
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  • I won't do that one."
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  • (laughs)
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  • But I have to tell you, she did better than me.
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  • She did way better.
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  • She was cuter, she was more confident.
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  • And the Holy Spirit, you know, I looked at her
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  • and I was like, "Okay, why is this easy for her.
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  • Why does she get to be cute.
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  • Why does."
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  • And He said, "You are despising the answers
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  • to your own prayers."
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  • - He said, "You have prayed that this next generation
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  • will rise up strong and fury and vibrant and beautiful.
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  • And now you're upset that I answered you prayers."
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  • And so, we have to be aware that there's going to
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  • still be external things.
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  • But it's not from Jesus.
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  • - No. - Right.
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  • - The last thing He did was the Great Commission.
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  • And the Great Commission is our permission
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  • to go into all the world, whatever our world looks like,
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  • and preach the gospel.
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  • - (Holly) And the trick,
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  • because I've been places where I get up there
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  • and there go the men. - Yeah.
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  • - And many times I've been the first woman on a platform
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  • - Yeah, same. - But,
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  • but regardless, whether our voice is used on a platform or
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  • at family settings or
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  • at a school or wherever your voice is used.
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  • When you know that there's an attack coming against it.
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  • For me the trick is to not get angry about it.
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  • - No. - Yeah.
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  • - Or bitter.
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  • - Or see what's on the other side of it.
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  • - Right.
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  • - Because Jesus (murmur) up before Him.
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  • - Well, it took me a minute to get to that.
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  • (laughs)
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  • - [Lisa] Probably took me five,
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  • - [Holly] Because,
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  • (laughs)
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  • You just get angry.
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  • - Yeah. - Yeah.
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  • - And so then, if you get angry then you voice
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  • becomes a voice that's fueled by anger.
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  • - Right. - And that actually,
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  • isn't gonna help anybody.
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  • If my job, like you my job has been to open a door
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  • and keep it open for a generation to come through.
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  • And so I can do that in a way that will cause,
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  • I could shut it because I'm angry or bitter or cynical.
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  • Or sort of casting. - Or a victim.
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  • - [Holly] Or a victim and I'm not a victim.
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  • I'm a pioneer, right.
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  • So you push through and that's what it is.
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  • But I just think you have to be, for me,
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  • be careful that even though there's been
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  • attack against your voice, whatever it would be.
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  • That you don't let the anger cause you to get hateful
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  • or critical or defensive, which intends to be my go-to.
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  • - I think it's really important that when we are attacked,
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  • that we're not just fueled with all this anger,
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  • Like Holly said.
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  • And we're just acting out of a revengeful spirit.
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  • Because the enemy would have a victory in that too.
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  • I think it's important that we're not just acting
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  • out of a hateful,
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  • malicious spirit 'cause then the enemy would
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  • have victory over that too.
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  • What would be the worst for the enemy
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  • is if we went after the thing he used to come against us.
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  • So it would be better if we were filled with anger
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  • towards division.
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  • It would be better if we were filled with anger
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  • towards hatred.
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  • If we were filled with anger towards the things
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  • that tear apart people and divide and discourage.
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  • We should be angry at those things,
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  • but instead the enemy makes us angry at this woman
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  • that said this thing to us.
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  • Instead the enemy lets us waste all of our time
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  • being angry at ourselves for what we did.
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  • When God's grace covers all of it,
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  • you and her and him and them.
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  • So it'd be better use of our time if we let our anger
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  • be towards the things that the enemy
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  • has used against all of us.
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  • The Bible says that our fight is not with flesh and blood,
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  • but it is against principalities of darkness.
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  • We need to be fighting the right battles.
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  • Don't waste you time trying to fight against
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  • another child of God.
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  • Fight against the thing that divided you two.
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  • Speak on the things that unify.
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  • Speak on the things that bring hope.
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  • I promise you, the enemy has a lot to be afraid
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  • about when we do that.
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  • - Everything about Christianity is counter culture.
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  • It says that we bless those that curse us.
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  • - Yeah. - That we do good
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  • to those those who - That Jesus
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  • would just pushes the edges.
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  • (laughs)
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  • - [Lisa] He says when they slap us,
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  • we're suppose to turn the other cheek.
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  • - It's true.
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  • - Our culture is not doing that right now.
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  • If somebody curses us, we curse them back.
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  • - Right. - If somebody hits us,
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  • we hit them back, harder.
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  • - Right, right.
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  • - [Lisa] So everything about Christianity is
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  • counter-culture and so if you had said,
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  • "That's it, it's not fair, I'm gonna be angry."
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  • It would've shut you down and God would not have been able
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  • to use you to open doors for other people.
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  • And so, I know for me,
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  • the church that I went to,
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  • they believe that women were the last to be created,
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  • the first to sin.
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  • They were easily deceived, gullible.
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  • Very much like a lot of things we hear in certain theology.
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  • And I lived under that
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  • and yet I knew that that's never how God talks to me.
  • 00:09:43.250 --> 00:09:47.180
  • - Yeah, right.
  • 00:09:47.180 --> 00:09:48.230
  • He never talks to me like that.
  • 00:09:48.230 --> 00:09:51.130
  • - He never says, "Hey, you know, I would've liked
  • 00:09:51.130 --> 00:09:55.030
  • it better if you were a guy.
  • 00:09:55.030 --> 00:09:56.230
  • I could've used you more if you had been a male.
  • 00:09:56.230 --> 00:09:59.290
  • Your probably stupid."
  • 00:10:01.010 --> 00:10:02.130
  • well, you know, I've been stupid.
  • 00:10:02.130 --> 00:10:03.240
  • I've been deceived
  • 00:10:03.240 --> 00:10:05.190
  • but we've all been redeemed. - Yes.
  • 00:10:05.190 --> 00:10:07.170
  • - And so we have to understand, as woman,
  • 00:10:07.170 --> 00:10:11.020
  • and once we find our voice,
  • 00:10:11.020 --> 00:10:12.080
  • the last thing we could do is use it to
  • 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:14.220
  • yell back at the men.
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  • - [Holly] Exactly.
  • 00:10:15.230 --> 00:10:16.180
  • - Or shut down the men.
  • 00:10:16.180 --> 00:10:17.220
  • - [Holly] Right, or anybody.
  • 00:10:17.220 --> 00:10:19.240
  • - Or anybody, we have to use it on the serpent.
  • 00:10:19.240 --> 00:10:21.190
  • 'Cause Adam and Eve,
  • 00:10:21.190 --> 00:10:23.140
  • they misused their voice
  • 00:10:23.140 --> 00:10:25.020
  • because they used it on one another.
  • 00:10:25.020 --> 00:10:26.260
  • - Right. - And then blamed God.
  • 00:10:26.260 --> 00:10:29.040
  • Instead of saying who it really was.
  • 00:10:29.040 --> 00:10:30.230
  • "The serpent deceived me."
  • 00:10:30.230 --> 00:10:32.050
  • and so we have a whole generation trying to shut down
  • 00:10:32.050 --> 00:10:34.270
  • the women or saying,
  • 00:10:34.270 --> 00:10:36.070
  • "You men have shut us down too long,
  • 00:10:36.070 --> 00:10:37.210
  • now we're gonna yell."
  • 00:10:37.210 --> 00:10:39.070
  • And we need to, we need to get the right balance back.
  • 00:10:39.070 --> 00:10:41.170
  • - Yeah, it's not attacking somebody else
  • 00:10:41.170 --> 00:10:43.260
  • to give you your own voice.
  • 00:10:43.260 --> 00:10:45.050
  • - That's right. - It's never that.
  • 00:10:45.050 --> 00:10:47.050
  • - Back years ago, when I got married
  • 00:10:47.050 --> 00:10:50.170
  • and we were kinda instantly on television.
  • 00:10:50.170 --> 00:10:53.110
  • I remember I was sudden getting
  • 00:10:53.110 --> 00:10:56.270
  • critical letters and stuff.
  • 00:10:56.270 --> 00:10:58.190
  • You'd get good ones and then you'd get these horrible ones.
  • 00:10:58.190 --> 00:11:01.220
  • People just saying horrible stuff,
  • 00:11:01.220 --> 00:11:03.140
  • like they do on social media today.
  • 00:11:03.140 --> 00:11:06.060
  • And it just always just shocks me that people
  • 00:11:06.060 --> 00:11:08.270
  • can be so mean and so vile
  • 00:11:08.270 --> 00:11:11.280
  • but it happens.
  • 00:11:11.280 --> 00:11:14.000
  • And I remember a friend of ours that had been in ministry
  • 00:11:14.000 --> 00:11:18.170
  • for year, he said "Laura,"
  • 00:11:18.170 --> 00:11:20.100
  • he said, "You know what the meaning
  • 00:11:20.100 --> 00:11:22.290
  • of true spirituality is."
  • 00:11:22.290 --> 00:11:24.030
  • And I said, "What."
  • 00:11:24.030 --> 00:11:25.160
  • And he said, "That's when you can get a letter
  • 00:11:25.160 --> 00:11:27.230
  • that says you had just set the moon in place,
  • 00:11:27.230 --> 00:11:31.100
  • God has just used you so much to minister to me
  • 00:11:31.100 --> 00:11:34.120
  • and then you can get another letter that says
  • 00:11:34.120 --> 00:11:36.200
  • you have got to be the daughter of the devil."
  • 00:11:36.200 --> 00:11:39.130
  • (laughs)
  • 00:11:39.130 --> 00:11:40.280
  • And he said, "And they both affect you the same way."
  • 00:11:40.280 --> 00:11:43.120
  • And I've never forgotten that,
  • 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:45.240
  • that a third is gonna love you,
  • 00:11:45.240 --> 00:11:47.220
  • thirds gonna hate you and third don't care about you anyway.
  • 00:11:47.220 --> 00:11:50.280
  • So you just have to walk where God put you.
  • 00:11:50.280 --> 00:11:54.100
  • Don't let them, don't let criticism
  • 00:11:54.100 --> 00:11:56.270
  • close your mouth into loving people.
  • 00:11:56.270 --> 00:11:59.050
  • You stay on your coarse.
  • 00:11:59.050 --> 00:12:01.010
  • You stay doing what God has called you to do.
  • 00:12:01.010 --> 00:12:05.180
  • And that's the only validation that you need in your life.
  • 00:12:05.180 --> 00:12:08.170
  • - I would tell my 20 year old self,
  • 00:12:09.230 --> 00:12:11.290
  • Sorry for not having the best upbringing
  • 00:12:11.290 --> 00:12:14.280
  • and best influence in your life.
  • 00:12:14.280 --> 00:12:16.280
  • No nurturing.
  • 00:12:16.280 --> 00:12:18.100
  • You have the power of choice on your side.
  • 00:12:18.100 --> 00:12:20.290
  • To choose wise friends, good friends that will help
  • 00:12:20.290 --> 00:12:23.180
  • you in life.
  • 00:12:23.180 --> 00:12:24.260
  • You're not defined by your failures.
  • 00:12:24.260 --> 00:12:26.260
  • And to forgive as quickly as you can.
  • 00:12:28.010 --> 00:12:31.250
  • You can watch, Better Together episodes on demand,
  • 00:12:31.250 --> 00:12:34.160
  • - Go to bettertogether.tv to strip all of our
  • 00:12:34.160 --> 00:12:37.060
  • latest conversations.
  • 00:12:37.060 --> 00:12:38.130
  • - Hindrance is, you know, whether it's
  • 00:12:42.050 --> 00:12:44.080
  • the attacks that come from the outside.
  • 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:47.050
  • What does that fuel inside you.
  • 00:12:47.050 --> 00:12:49.130
  • When someone's trying to, you know,
  • 00:12:49.130 --> 00:12:51.040
  • stop your voice. - Right.
  • 00:12:51.040 --> 00:12:53.180
  • - I mean some people, maybe their tendance is to go,
  • 00:12:53.180 --> 00:12:54.280
  • "oh, okay."
  • 00:12:54.280 --> 00:12:55.220
  • But that wasn't mine.
  • 00:12:56.200 --> 00:12:57.170
  • Mine was to go. - Yes.
  • 00:12:57.170 --> 00:12:59.090
  • - I always used to try and fight back
  • 00:12:59.090 --> 00:13:00.180
  • and often times I think I, initially,
  • 00:13:00.180 --> 00:13:03.190
  • you know, would fight back wrong
  • 00:13:03.190 --> 00:13:04.260
  • and if I hadn't gotten a hold of it,
  • 00:13:04.260 --> 00:13:07.220
  • I wouldn't have been entrusted with (mumble)
  • 00:13:07.220 --> 00:13:10.140
  • - I think a lot of that is validation,
  • 00:13:10.140 --> 00:13:12.100
  • where we get our validation from, you know.
  • 00:13:12.100 --> 00:13:15.100
  • And knowing that,
  • 00:13:15.100 --> 00:13:17.220
  • that God is in control.
  • 00:13:17.220 --> 00:13:20.130
  • And God sets us in places to use our voice
  • 00:13:20.130 --> 00:13:24.150
  • for His honor, for His glory.
  • 00:13:24.150 --> 00:13:27.270
  • And when we're validated in that,
  • 00:13:27.270 --> 00:13:31.190
  • I think, then looking to man or woman for any kind of,
  • 00:13:33.020 --> 00:13:37.230
  • you know, accolade or validation, isn't necessary anymore.
  • 00:13:39.110 --> 00:13:43.120
  • But that's a lifetime.
  • 00:13:44.040 --> 00:13:46.220
  • - It took a grout, right.
  • 00:13:46.220 --> 00:13:48.210
  • - And we're women that have men,
  • 00:13:48.210 --> 00:13:50.080
  • who celebrate our strengths.
  • 00:13:50.080 --> 00:13:51.110
  • - Yes. - We're all,
  • 00:13:51.110 --> 00:13:52.060
  • we're all (mumble)
  • 00:13:52.060 --> 00:13:53.110
  • - Most days they celebrate our strengths.
  • 00:13:53.110 --> 00:13:54.140
  • (laughs)
  • 00:13:54.140 --> 00:13:55.250
  • - We have beautiful men in our world,
  • 00:13:55.250 --> 00:13:57.280
  • that believe we add value.
  • 00:13:57.280 --> 00:13:59.180
  • And there's a lot of women in the world however,
  • 00:13:59.180 --> 00:14:01.170
  • that don't have that and so we,
  • 00:14:01.170 --> 00:14:05.060
  • who have voice, need to be voice
  • 00:14:05.060 --> 00:14:07.120
  • for those who have no voice.
  • 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:09.030
  • And I think sometimes you know, like your reaction
  • 00:14:09.030 --> 00:14:11.110
  • would be like to react.
  • 00:14:11.110 --> 00:14:13.010
  • Mine reaction would've been to cower.
  • 00:14:13.010 --> 00:14:15.130
  • I'd be like, "Okay I don't want that judgment,
  • 00:14:15.130 --> 00:14:17.210
  • John you do it." I'm gonna cower.
  • 00:14:17.210 --> 00:14:20.050
  • But then there came a part where I realized
  • 00:14:20.050 --> 00:14:23.250
  • "I never want this for my daughters."
  • 00:14:23.250 --> 00:14:26.080
  • This is really important.
  • 00:14:26.080 --> 00:14:27.190
  • This is really important and sometimes silence
  • 00:14:27.190 --> 00:14:30.150
  • looks like endorsement.
  • 00:14:30.150 --> 00:14:31.290
  • And if I will not speak out and say,
  • 00:14:31.290 --> 00:14:34.000
  • "You guys this isn't right."
  • 00:14:34.000 --> 00:14:35.270
  • Then, if I know something and I don't say it,
  • 00:14:35.270 --> 00:14:39.000
  • I'm gonna answer to God.
  • 00:14:39.000 --> 00:14:40.030
  • And I don't want that.
  • 00:14:40.030 --> 00:14:42.140
  • And so we have to, for the sake of Hosanna's.
  • 00:14:42.140 --> 00:14:45.280
  • For the sake of Paris, for the sake now
  • 00:14:45.280 --> 00:14:47.180
  • of my beautiful daughter-in-laws and my granddaughters.
  • 00:14:47.180 --> 00:14:50.030
  • We have to use our voice, but be aware that
  • 00:14:50.030 --> 00:14:53.030
  • the enemy is not the men.
  • 00:14:53.030 --> 00:14:54.190
  • The enemy isn't religion that's oppressed women,
  • 00:14:54.190 --> 00:14:58.110
  • that's something the enemy might use,
  • 00:14:58.110 --> 00:14:59.240
  • but the enemy is the serpent who came against us
  • 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:03.080
  • and tried to shut down our voice in the very beginning.
  • 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:05.230
  • And so now we just have to use it in such a compelling way
  • 00:15:05.230 --> 00:15:08.180
  • that it dismantles what the enemy is doing with wisdom
  • 00:15:08.180 --> 00:15:12.160
  • and love and tenderness and creativity.
  • 00:15:12.160 --> 00:15:15.070
  • And God has given you a voice, whether you ever asked
  • 00:15:15.070 --> 00:15:18.020
  • for it or not.
  • 00:15:18.020 --> 00:15:19.060
  • You know, to the nations
  • 00:15:19.060 --> 00:15:21.060
  • and it's a stewardship issue.
  • 00:15:21.060 --> 00:15:23.050
  • Many of you out there,
  • 00:15:23.050 --> 00:15:24.190
  • you are in a situation where you don't feel like
  • 00:15:24.190 --> 00:15:26.030
  • you're supported.
  • 00:15:26.030 --> 00:15:27.170
  • You don't have men, you don't have women around you
  • 00:15:27.170 --> 00:15:28.250
  • telling you, "Yes, we believe in your voice,
  • 00:15:28.250 --> 00:15:31.010
  • yes we need your voice."
  • 00:15:31.010 --> 00:15:32.070
  • I'm gonna tell you there's one,
  • 00:15:32.070 --> 00:15:33.220
  • there only needs to be one who believes in your voice.
  • 00:15:33.220 --> 00:15:36.280
  • I'm thinking about that woman who pressed through
  • 00:15:36.280 --> 00:15:39.120
  • the crown, that had the issue of blood,
  • 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:41.230
  • and she got a hold of Jesus' garment
  • 00:15:41.230 --> 00:15:44.170
  • and he sensed the power and the virtue leave His body
  • 00:15:44.170 --> 00:15:48.250
  • and go into that woman and heal her.
  • 00:15:48.250 --> 00:15:51.070
  • I'm gonna tell you, that one that you need,
  • 00:15:51.070 --> 00:15:53.230
  • that one is Jesus.
  • 00:15:53.230 --> 00:15:55.190
  • Jesus believes in the value of your voice.
  • 00:15:55.190 --> 00:15:59.060
  • Jesus believes in the value of women.
  • 00:15:59.060 --> 00:16:02.230
  • He was always very counter-culture,
  • 00:16:02.230 --> 00:16:05.140
  • He spoke to women, when there were Samaritan women
  • 00:16:05.140 --> 00:16:08.110
  • or women that nobody thought that He should be talking to.
  • 00:16:08.110 --> 00:16:12.040
  • And Jesus wants you to find your voice
  • 00:16:12.040 --> 00:16:16.050
  • and be this incredible force for goodness in this world.
  • 00:16:16.050 --> 00:16:21.050
  • We need your voice and I'm sorry other people haven't
  • 00:16:22.190 --> 00:16:23.250
  • ever told you that.
  • 00:16:23.250 --> 00:16:25.070
  • But I hope that you understand, this isn't just a show,
  • 00:16:25.070 --> 00:16:28.180
  • but that we actually want your voice.
  • 00:16:28.180 --> 00:16:31.170
  • There is a sound
  • 00:16:31.170 --> 00:16:32.250
  • that is coming from the earth
  • 00:16:32.250 --> 00:16:34.100
  • and there's something that happens with everybody,
  • 00:16:34.100 --> 00:16:37.130
  • is saying the same thing at the same time.
  • 00:16:37.130 --> 00:16:41.050
  • That kind of dynamic is when God says,
  • 00:16:41.050 --> 00:16:43.180
  • "If there are one accord and in once place,
  • 00:16:43.180 --> 00:16:47.030
  • then nothing is gonna be impossible."
  • 00:16:47.030 --> 00:16:50.020
  • We are asking you to come into this impossible time
  • 00:16:50.020 --> 00:16:54.010
  • and see what, how miraculously God will do.
  • 00:16:54.010 --> 00:16:56.180
  • - I would tell my 20 year old self now,
  • 00:16:57.230 --> 00:17:00.220
  • that not everyone is an expert at what you're called to do.
  • 00:17:00.220 --> 00:17:04.160
  • I think I wanted to get so many people's advice,
  • 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:08.100
  • that maybe I got too many people's advice.
  • 00:17:08.100 --> 00:17:10.000
  • I wanted to respect everyone that was surrounding me,
  • 00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:13.150
  • especially my elders, especially people with more experience
  • 00:17:13.150 --> 00:17:16.010
  • but I think I would've told 20 year old self,
  • 00:17:16.010 --> 00:17:18.050
  • "Trust the Holy Spirit inside of you.
  • 00:17:18.050 --> 00:17:19.280
  • Take all of this advise with Samaritan
  • 00:17:19.280 --> 00:17:21.260
  • and a grain of salt.
  • 00:17:21.260 --> 00:17:23.160
  • Don't have too many opinions.
  • 00:17:23.160 --> 00:17:25.080
  • Know that not everyone is an expert at what you're
  • 00:17:25.080 --> 00:17:28.110
  • called to do and follow the Holy Spirit
  • 00:17:28.110 --> 00:17:30.240
  • and the Word of God first and foremost."
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  • - What do you think about today's topic.
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  • Join the conversation on social media.
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  • We can't wait to hear from you.
  • 00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:39.290
  • - When we're talking about external fights
  • 00:17:42.110 --> 00:17:43.010
  • - When we're talking about external fights
  • 00:17:44.040 --> 00:17:46.110
  • or how to fight for your voice.
  • 00:17:46.110 --> 00:17:48.130
  • How to advocate for your voice.
  • 00:17:48.130 --> 00:17:50.090
  • I think in my own journey in life,
  • 00:17:50.090 --> 00:17:52.260
  • because of my past because of my cultural upbringing.
  • 00:17:52.260 --> 00:17:56.060
  • In my own family there was incensed abuse,
  • 00:17:57.130 --> 00:18:00.280
  • sexual abuse and I could see how the enemy was,
  • 00:18:00.280 --> 00:18:05.270
  • not only intimidating my voice to be quiet and be silent,
  • 00:18:07.090 --> 00:18:10.160
  • because of the assignment of God on my life,
  • 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:12.290
  • but it was the constant reminder in my home,
  • 00:18:14.170 --> 00:18:18.150
  • not to speak up and so when I confronted my abuser.
  • 00:18:18.150 --> 00:18:22.210
  • He literally said, "You've ruined my life."
  • 00:18:22.210 --> 00:18:26.060
  • My husband was sitting right next to me and he says,
  • 00:18:26.060 --> 00:18:28.150
  • "Do you have anything to say, Dianna."
  • 00:18:28.150 --> 00:18:30.170
  • and I told him
  • 00:18:30.170 --> 00:18:32.180
  • and he's gone on.
  • 00:18:32.180 --> 00:18:34.290
  • He's transitioned into life and he has to account
  • 00:18:34.290 --> 00:18:37.190
  • for his actions but I told the
  • 00:18:37.190 --> 00:18:41.150
  • the one who abused me, I said,
  • 00:18:41.150 --> 00:18:43.190
  • "I forgive you, I release you.
  • 00:18:43.190 --> 00:18:46.130
  • You don't owe me anything."
  • 00:18:46.130 --> 00:18:48.280
  • and so I saw as soon as I did that,
  • 00:18:48.280 --> 00:18:53.080
  • how much it redeemed things in my life,
  • 00:18:53.080 --> 00:18:56.260
  • that only the Lord can add to.
  • 00:18:58.100 --> 00:19:00.180
  • That now I'm able to sit here with things that God
  • 00:19:00.180 --> 00:19:04.120
  • has done for me that are,
  • 00:19:04.120 --> 00:19:07.250
  • that's echoing and reverberating through the body of Christ.
  • 00:19:07.250 --> 00:19:11.230
  • And there are daughters still today, grown daughters,
  • 00:19:11.230 --> 00:19:14.130
  • 30, 40, 50, 60 years old that are still struggling
  • 00:19:14.130 --> 00:19:18.060
  • with secrets, even my own mother who struggles
  • 00:19:18.060 --> 00:19:21.080
  • with her own secrets.
  • 00:19:21.080 --> 00:19:22.250
  • And so I determined within my own family line,
  • 00:19:22.250 --> 00:19:26.290
  • I said, "For the sake of my daughters,
  • 00:19:26.290 --> 00:19:28.280
  • this is not going to haunt or ghost in the family linage."
  • 00:19:28.280 --> 00:19:33.270
  • And so now I have four confident daughters
  • 00:19:35.020 --> 00:19:36.140
  • that are like drastically different from me.
  • 00:19:36.140 --> 00:19:39.110
  • I'm growing up where I would hid behind my mothers skirt,
  • 00:19:39.110 --> 00:19:42.170
  • my daughters are confident, strong and so,
  • 00:19:42.170 --> 00:19:46.040
  • fighting for your voice.
  • 00:19:46.040 --> 00:19:47.270
  • The external things, the challenges that happen.
  • 00:19:47.270 --> 00:19:50.180
  • It's a real thing in either country, demographic,
  • 00:19:50.180 --> 00:19:54.090
  • cultural experience.
  • 00:19:54.090 --> 00:19:55.240
  • It is a real thing.
  • 00:19:55.240 --> 00:19:57.030
  • And so my encouragement for a lot of the women
  • 00:19:57.030 --> 00:20:00.090
  • that are probably, you know, just wondering
  • 00:20:00.090 --> 00:20:02.180
  • will it happen for them.
  • 00:20:02.180 --> 00:20:04.090
  • It's just taking that step of, you know,
  • 00:20:04.090 --> 00:20:06.120
  • "I'm gonna risk it, I'm gonna try.
  • 00:20:06.120 --> 00:20:08.240
  • And I'm gonna resolve this so it won't pass on
  • 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:11.200
  • to the next generation."
  • 00:20:11.200 --> 00:20:13.100
  • - It's important for us to forgive those
  • 00:20:13.100 --> 00:20:15.090
  • who attack our voice, because ultimately it sets us free.
  • 00:20:15.090 --> 00:20:19.110
  • Now I hate forgiving people who have hurt me.
  • 00:20:19.110 --> 00:20:22.110
  • I love holding grudges, I'm very good at it.
  • 00:20:22.110 --> 00:20:24.250
  • But I will say that all the years I spent holding grudges,
  • 00:20:24.250 --> 00:20:29.140
  • it was years of my life wasted.
  • 00:20:29.140 --> 00:20:31.160
  • And that doesn't mean that I had a face to face
  • 00:20:31.160 --> 00:20:34.040
  • confrontation with some people that've
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  • done wrong against me and forgiven them to their face.
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  • That doesn't mean that I've allowed people that were
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  • people that were violent towards me or people that
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  • did physical wrong towards me, back into my life.
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  • It doesn't mean that.
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  • It means that inside of me, that I have let go
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  • of my revengeful attitude.
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  • I have let go of the hate in my heart.
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  • I have let go of the feelings I used to have,
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  • that they would never know Jesus
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  • and they would just have terrible lives.
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  • I had to let go of that feeling.
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  • The feeling that they would never be restored.
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  • And I had to fake it till I made it.
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  • I had to,
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  • while driving in my car, pray for people
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  • that said horrible things to me in public.
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  • While doing my dishes, cleaning my house.
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  • Flying to another job, I had to in my heart,
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  • pray that these people who hurt me,
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  • that God would heal their wounds.
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  • So it wasn't always a face to face confrontation
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  • with the person, but it was me,
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  • truly inside of myself, letting go of the way
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  • I had to hate this person.
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  • And that set me free.
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  • - The thing that like gets me.
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  • I get emotional about your story is that,
  • 00:21:39.040 --> 00:21:42.030
  • so you had an actual physical attack against your life,
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  • to silence you - yeah.
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  • - And when you had a chance, you used your voice
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  • to forgive and to release.
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  • And I just thought.
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  • That's actually what it's supposed to be.
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  • - For women that's not a natural tendency.
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  • - No, no.
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  • - For a woman it's to be mad.
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  • - I don't think it's anyone's natural tendency.
  • 00:22:07.140 --> 00:22:09.140
  • - It is to be mad, which is rightfully so
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  • and don't have a grieving process.
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  • You'll get upset, you'll try to vindicate yourself.
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  • You'll try to do anything, you know,
  • 00:22:17.180 --> 00:22:19.210
  • to resolve that hurt and pain.
  • 00:22:19.210 --> 00:22:22.140
  • And I think for most incensed survivors of,
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  • people that have been abused, molested,
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  • whatever you wanna label it.
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  • I think you know, it really comes down to,
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  • will you allow Jesus to do the work for you
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  • and vindicate you.
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  • - 'cause He says, "Vengeance is mine."
  • 00:22:38.290 --> 00:22:40.170
  • - Yes, yes.
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  • - After all of those. - After all of those
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  • - Vengeance is mine - he has it.
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  • - I'll take care of it. - That's in Romans,
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  • He has it, He has control.
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  • - [Lisa] So you didn't, "I'm the victim."
  • 00:22:47.250 --> 00:22:49.100
  • that's the power, you took away the victim hood.
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  • - The forgiveness was for you.
  • 00:22:51.140 --> 00:22:53.020
  • - Yes. - It set you free you.
  • 00:22:53.020 --> 00:22:54.200
  • - Yes, yes and it's never like poison you wanna drink.
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  • It's a releasing and I dedicated even in my own heart,
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  • you know driving in my little swagger wagon down the road.
  • 00:23:04.100 --> 00:23:08.060
  • Just thinking to the Lord, I said,
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  • Lord, if he said in his last breath,
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  • "Please forgive me Jesus."
  • 00:23:13.170 --> 00:23:15.290
  • if he's in Heaven, I'm okay with that.
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  • I'm okay with that.
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  • I'm okay with that.
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  • As soon as I said it out loud, there's this sense of
  • 00:23:22.190 --> 00:23:26.160
  • the presence of God over me,
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  • you know I'm just so glad that your heart was there.
  • 00:23:29.160 --> 00:23:32.070
  • - But that's what Christ did for us, He said,
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  • "Forgive them, Father."
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  • - Yes. - They know not what they do.
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  • - Yes. - He didn't say,
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  • "They know exactly what they're doing, kill them all."
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  • (group laughs)
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  • - Annihilate them.
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  • - I think that we really need to understand
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  • that the fight is real.
  • 00:23:48.290 --> 00:23:50.190
  • The attack is real, but we're not wrestling
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  • with flesh and blood.
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  • We're wrestling with principalities and powers
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  • and rulers of wickedness in high places
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  • that would exalt themselves against the knowledge of God.
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  • And if you understand what's behind that,
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  • you'd see there's always a back story.
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  • (murmur)
  • 00:24:06.100 --> 00:24:07.080
  • molested when they were a boy.
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  • - (mumble) out to destroy everybody.
  • 00:24:08.180 --> 00:24:10.230
  • That abuser, Satan's trying to destroy their life with that.
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  • - That's powerful. - You fought
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  • that attack with good and I just.
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  • - Good on you.
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  • That's what it's all about.
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  • - Alright, I'm gonna speak to you out there
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  • and I wanna say I understand that you've afraid
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  • to understand that you've been misunderstood.
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  • And I'm not trying to make you feel bad,
  • 00:24:29.250 --> 00:24:32.080
  • but you've probably misunderstood again.
  • 00:24:32.080 --> 00:24:34.100
  • I understood you've been misrepresented.
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  • It may happen again but you can't drop back.
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  • You can't give any person that much control over you life.
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  • Your life is submitted to the Word of God
  • 00:24:44.150 --> 00:24:47.040
  • and to the leading of the Holy Spirit.
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  • So I'm gonna pray that that God gift in you life,
  • 00:24:49.170 --> 00:24:52.190
  • that gift that God planted as a seed in you
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  • when He wove you in your mothers womb.
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  • I'm gonna pray that that gift comes forth
  • 00:24:57.250 --> 00:25:01.080
  • and that that gift adds voice and purpose to you life.
  • 00:25:01.080 --> 00:25:05.040
  • So, Heavenly Father, I come to You in the Name of Jesus
  • 00:25:05.040 --> 00:25:08.240
  • and I speak to the gift that is in their life,
  • 00:25:08.240 --> 00:25:11.210
  • that gift that is dormant.
  • 00:25:11.210 --> 00:25:13.120
  • That gift that is just slightly growing.
  • 00:25:13.120 --> 00:25:16.120
  • And I thank You, Father, that that gift of God
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  • in their life comes forth free, strong, blessed, glorious,
  • 00:25:19.150 --> 00:25:24.150
  • beautiful, Father I thank You for women.
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  • That You are touching them, wherever they're at,
  • 00:25:27.200 --> 00:25:30.020
  • in this very moment with Your love and that You are calling
  • 00:25:30.020 --> 00:25:33.200
  • them and answer where other people
  • 00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:35.060
  • have called them a problem.
  • 00:25:35.060 --> 00:25:36.220
  • That You are calling them strong, where other people
  • 00:25:36.220 --> 00:25:38.170
  • have called them weak.
  • 00:25:38.170 --> 00:25:40.060
  • That You are calling them free,
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  • where other people have called them bound.
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  • Father, You said in your Word,
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  • "The Lord announces victory."
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  • and Father, I thank You that You look at a situation
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  • that we would call chaos and defeat
  • 00:25:50.280 --> 00:25:53.080
  • and You declare victory.
  • 00:25:53.080 --> 00:25:55.030
  • And Your Word says, "And throngs of women."
  • 00:25:55.030 --> 00:25:58.080
  • That means an innumerable host of women,
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  • throngs of women, how they shout,
  • 00:26:00.160 --> 00:26:03.280
  • not whisper in fear, but they shout the happy news.
  • 00:26:03.280 --> 00:26:08.020
  • And so, Father I thank You for an army of women,
  • 00:26:08.020 --> 00:26:10.200
  • declaring the goodness of God.
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  • The victory of Jesus Christ over their nations,
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  • over their families, in the Name of Jesus,
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  • I break intimidation and I thank You, Father
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  • for divine release in Jesus Name.
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  • Amen.
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