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How to Keep the Faith | Better Together

Watch How to Keep the Faith | Better Together
July 16, 2019
25:15

Tempted to give up? Let's talk how to hold on when life falls apart. | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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  • - How do you walk by faith?
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  • We have heard from so many of you
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  • who feel like giving up.
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  • You know what?
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  • You're not alone, so today we're gonna talk about it.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - Listen to this question, you guys, that
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  • we received on Facebook and it echoes so similar
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  • to what the first question was from the other viewer.
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  • Lori wrote, "How far must you go,
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  • and how long must you battle what feels impossible,
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  • before the breakthrough happens?"
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  • That's the first part of the question.
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  • - It's a two parter. - And it's not me,
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  • I didn't ask this question.
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  • (laughing)
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  • - It's not you.
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  • - "And if you reach the point where you cannot continue
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  • this journey, will God forgive you
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  • if you finally give up?" So she's in
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  • an impossible situation, obviously.
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  • She doesn't know if she needs to keep believing for this,
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  • we don't know what her circumstances are,
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  • but she obviously is tempted to give up.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You know there's a lot of people out there
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  • who are saying, you know, this feels so hard.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - This feels like I've been doing this so long.
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  • It feels impossible, and I think that's where we,
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  • we really mess up is when we feel, you know,
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  • - Feel.
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  • Is this ever going to end?
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • - You know, David said that, I'm trying to find it,
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  • where he says, "oh that I had wings and
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  • could get out of here. You know, I would do it.
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  • - Sure.
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  • - But I love how David always comes back to,
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  • I am desperate for you God. If I could get out
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  • of this, I would. I think Jesus echoed those same words.
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  • - Uh-huh.
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  • - He did.
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  • - If this cup could pass from me, please, let it.
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  • But not my will, but thine be done.
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  • - I understand the pain of that.
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • - I mean, I just remember a season for us
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  • when I felt like, is there one more battle
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  • that can come my way? You know, from cancer
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  • to like financial, people stealing money,
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  • it's just like to people betraying you,
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  • it's just like boom, boom, boom.
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  • - Identity theft.
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  • - Identity theft. It was just like one thing
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  • after another and so. And the thing is there
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  • is a season, I go, can I just sit on my couch
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  • and just like binge Netflix for. So that was my idea
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  • of giving up. But I'm not going to stay there forever,
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  • right? So I get the, the pain of that.
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  • - Yeah, you do, but like Victoria said, it's this
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  • feel, feel, feel. If we could really divorce ourselves
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  • from how we feel.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Our emotions.
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  • - Wouldn't that be helpful?
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  • - And it is, and it's possible, because so many
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  • people are emotion-led as opposed to being spirit-led.
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  • - For sure.
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  • - And if we could really allow the spirit of God
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  • to be bigger on the inside of us than how we feel,
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  • I guarantee you will see your victory much sooner
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  • than you would trying to manifest it in your own flesh.
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  • Because a lot of times you sit back and,
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  • if you feel a certain way, you're not going
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  • to be in faith. Because you're going to be
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  • so consumed and concerned about what
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  • you're going through. And you are
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  • going to want to quit. I've been there.
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  • That's what I was talking about even in.
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  • You know, I tried to make light of it
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  • in the beginning, but--
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  • - In a marriage.
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  • - It's like in a marriage, you know, I, I have been
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  • in moments where I wish I could just
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  • throw in the towel, get me out of here,
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  • I quit! And then God--
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  • - White flag, surrender!
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  • - Uh-huh! Are you going to forgive this?
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  • Like what, that's not even a question, I mean.
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  • Come on, you know the scriptures, it says
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  • God is faithful and just to forgive you of
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  • all of unrighteousness except marriage.
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  • - It doesn't say that!
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  • - It doesn't say that. It says all.
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  • So I know God would have forgiven me,
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  • but I was in my flesh. So I had to,
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  • you know, flip over and get over here
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  • in the spirit and say God, okay,
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  • I'm going to trust you. I'm going to believe you.
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  • And I'm going to do it your way.
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  • And when I began to do that, that's when
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  • I began to see transformation take place in my life.
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  • Because, not because of my marriage changed,
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  • because I changed. And the only way that
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  • I was able really to get to that place,
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  • was to get in His word and find out
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  • what did God say to me. And when
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  • God told me that His promises are
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  • yes and amen. That's all I needed.
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  • It was a wrap after that because
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  • after that, now, I started focusing
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  • on the promises and I took my face
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  • and I took my eyes off of that process.
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  • I didn't care about the process.
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  • I understand that we all have to go through
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  • this process. And we all have to go through
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  • our own journey. And we will all go through
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  • our own walk. But the final destination
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  • should be His promise. And so I focused
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  • on that promise, and I took my eyes
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  • off of that process. And that's what's is going
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  • to keep me in the game.
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  • - And I also think that I know some people,
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  • even my family, that deal with children who
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  • have real, you know, special needs kids and
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  • that can be a really challenging life navigating that.
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  • And so I think that the mistake sometimes is
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  • that people don't actually ask for help.
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  • - Uh-huh.
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  • - And say, I just need you to walk with me
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  • for a little bit on this journey.
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  • They just put up this and sometimes, you know,
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  • women we can be "I got this, I got this."
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  • And I think then you're way closer to giving up,
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  • if you're trying to do it all in your
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  • own strength and by yourself.
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  • - Right.
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  • - So bring somebody else on the journey with you.
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  • - I think that's powerful, having accountability,
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  • too, with what God's called you to do.
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  • And I think that helps, because when I hear
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  • that question, I think of so many, I think
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  • how it's so circumstantial for me.
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  • Because there are things that are
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  • really hard for me right now,
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  • that I feel like God has called me to stay in.
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  • And to stop asking for permission to get out of.
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  • And then I feel like there's other things
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  • that I'm fighting tooth and nail to complete
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  • and the Lord's saying, like, I've set
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  • you free from that. Or move on from that.
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  • Or don't keep investing in that project.
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  • I did not ask you to do that.
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  • - Right.
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  • - So for me, I think, man, it's so,
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  • it could be either depending on the
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  • circumstance. What has God called you to?
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  • - Right.
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  • - But He's saying keep on, I need you to keep on.
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  • - And then there's other circumstances that
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  • are unhealthy. That are ungodly.
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  • - Right.
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  • - But that it's like, are you fighting
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  • for the right things? The things
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  • that God desires.
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  • - That's good.
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  • - Right.
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  • - Who you, and so who is fighting for you?
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  • - Right.
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  • - So I love that you said--
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  • - Who's got your back?
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  • - Who's alongside of you? Because when I,
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  • when I'm going through, I want to
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  • give up on this and I want to give up on this.
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  • My husband will say, I think God's
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  • still calling us to stay in this.
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  • Because he knows, he's holding accountable
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  • to what I said God called us to do.
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  • And he's also saying when, this is killing you.
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  • You are not the woman I married anymore when
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  • you are killing yourself for this.
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  • - Right.
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  • - So I just think having people that can
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  • speak truth to you, because it's different circumstances.
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  • - And so you have someone agreeing with you?
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  • - Yes.
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  • - And that power of agreement,
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  • I think is so important. I think the power
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  • of agreement is the most powerful thing
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  • that we have. I mean to get in agreement
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  • with someone. To find someone full of faith,
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  • and to pray with them. If you're married,
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  • and you've got a husband that will agree with you.
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  • You know, the bible says that one puts a
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  • thousand to flight, two puts ten thousand.
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  • That agreement builds each other up.
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  • I know that when I need my husband,
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  • and we agree in prayer. There's just
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  • about nothing that we can't do.
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  • - We all need a boost.
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  • - Yes, so true.
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  • - You know, David had to encourage
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  • himself in the Lord. But, you know, it's,
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  • and we need to do that. We can't.
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  • We cannot expect other people to encourage
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  • us, but to have that support.
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  • - But, Moses had Aaron and Hur holding his hands up.
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  • - Yes, to have those people directing us,
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  • and if you can find those people.
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  • - But again, it goes back to this whole
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  • comparisons. Because if I think your life
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  • is so perfect, and mine is so jacked up.
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  • I'm not going to come and ask you for the help
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  • because of that embarrassment and
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  • because of the pride that I feel.
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  • And then I believe sometimes the church community.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - Makes you feel a certain way because--
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  • - If you ask for help!
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  • - If you ask, "Just trust God."
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  • "Just believe God. You're fine you've got it."
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  • And it's like, no, I really need to talk
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  • to somebody about this because
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  • I feel like I'm about to go crazy!
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  • - So good.
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  • - You know, so it's good to open up
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  • and to share. This is where I am.
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  • Because I guarantee you the moment
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  • you begin to talk to somebody,
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  • you will see that others are going through
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  • the same things that you are going through.
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  • - We all need people that we can confide in.
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  • People that we can trust. Whether it's
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  • a family member or a really dear friend.
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  • Someone that we can bring our feelings
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  • out into the open. Maybe our experiences.
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  • Maybe some things we're trying to hide.
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  • You know, nothing, nothing gets better
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  • in the dark. It's when we bring it
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  • to the light that it can be resolved.
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  • That we can work through it, that we can
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  • grow in it. So I just encourage you,
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  • find someone that you can trust and
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  • help you to grow. Things that are hidden,
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  • the bible talks about, when you keep
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  • them in secret, when you keep them in the dark.
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  • They manifest and they grow. But when you
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  • bring it out into the light. Then things
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  • start to change. And it can be an addiction,
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  • which people, like you said, are ashamed of.
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  • They are supposed to be perfect.
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  • A bad marriage, well, no one wants
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  • to admit that.
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  • - Right.
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  • - Or you know, a problem with your child
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  • and their children are perfect.
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  • But if you can learn to bring it into the light,
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  • and not be so concerned about what people think.
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  • But allow people to speak faith.
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  • And I think all of us, like you said,
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  • nobody just wants to hear "suck it up and get over it."
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  • You know, "you can do it, God's there."
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  • You know, you say, what's the next step.
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  • - Yeah, I mean scripture is so clear
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  • again. Confess your faults to one another--
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  • - That one another part!
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  • - So you can be healed, right?
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  • - And I was, even I was, I started thinking
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  • of another way to look at that question
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  • is, you know, how long do you keep going
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  • before you give up. And so I think sometimes
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  • people have dreams. It's like, I have this
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  • dream to be an actress or dream to be a singer
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  • or dream to whatever, and those doors
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  • haven't opened. So they've been trying
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  • for, you know, 25 years and trying and the door
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  • hasn't opened. And so do they give up?
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  • And I'm just thinking, I just don't
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  • think God is mean.
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  • - Uh-uh.
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  • Right, so if that's where He wanted you,
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  • He would have at some point opened a door
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  • to walk you through it. Now, sometimes,
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  • like Joseph's dream took a lot of years,
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  • so sometimes it takes time for things to happen.
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  • - Right.
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  • - But I just think, to your point, I think
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  • you said this, is that sometimes we go
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  • after a dream but it wasn't really
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  • what God wanted us to do. It's just that
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  • maybe that's where our pride gets involved or
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  • we let other people tell us what we should do.
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  • I don't know, but so maybe we should give up--
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - On those.
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  • - Well, we should, you know, there's a thing
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  • about giving up, but there's a thing about
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  • releasing your dream to God.
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  • - That's a better word. You should write a book.
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  • - That was so good. That was like,
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  • you can do it.
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  • - "Extraordinary You" book.
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  • - That's what I'm thinking.
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  • - So it's not really about giving up,
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  • but it's about, okay, God, I'm taking
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  • this out of my hands. I'm putting
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  • it in your hands.
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  • - It may not even have been God for you.
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  • You know, sometimes I think our dreams
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  • could be God's nightmare.
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  • (laughter)
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  • You know because He's looking like,
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  • I never placed you on the earth to do that.
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  • He's like I have another plan and
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  • a purpose for your life. That was
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  • something that you sought after, you know,
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  • and you went after to do, but that
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  • wasn't what I had for you.
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  • - And sometimes we hear really close though
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  • and that's why we have people in our lives that say
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  • "I think so, what if you did it this way?"
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  • Or like, I have this dream for this project,
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  • I feel this in my spirit and I'm telling people, and
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  • they're like "what if you did it like this though?"
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  • And it's like, "that's it." Like a soundboard
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  • of people and people that are wiser.
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  • And people that have your back.
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  • I think surrounding yourself with people,
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  • but they've got to be the right people.
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  • They got to be people that don't just say,
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  • "Oh man, that was hard, give up, I'd give up."
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  • "Oh man, you got in a fight with your husband?
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  • Man, I'd leave him." Man you, people that know--
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  • - Right, for sure, wrong person.
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  • - What God has called you to do
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  • and what you are capable of, who
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  • you are surrounding yourself with
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  • is so important. (instrumental music)
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  • When we are struggling to keep the faith,
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  • to fight the good fight, all that good stuff
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  • that we know we want to do, but sometimes
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  • we can't get ourselves to do for real reasons,
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  • real life circumstances. More than ever,
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  • we need to be surrounded by people.
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  • People that lift us up, when we
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  • can't lift ourselves up. People
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  • that fight for us when we don't want
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  • to fight for us. More than ever,
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  • we need people, and for me, that's been
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  • really hard. Because it takes a level
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  • of humiliation. Like I want to say humility,
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  • but that sounds so pretty and spiritual.
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  • Like I mean when I've had to humble myself
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  • to tell people the truth about what I'm
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  • going through so that they can
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  • fight alongside of me. It's been humiliating.
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  • Hard to be so weak. Hard to be so vulnerable.
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  • So I will say it is in those moments
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  • where you need people the most that
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  • the enemy will try to convince you the most
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  • that you don't need anybody.
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  • Don't let him win the war of your life.
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  • Get people around you and together,
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  • together they will help you get through
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  • in a way you've never imagined. I promise you.
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  • (instrumental music)
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  • - So Tina writes and says, "I know to
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  • forgive 70 times seven. But is it okay
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  • not to have a relationship with
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  • someone who keeps you spiritually
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  • tied up in knots because of betrayal,
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  • time after time. Would Jesus want me
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  • to keep turning the other cheek
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  • for a person who treats me any way
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  • they want without thinking about my feelings?
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  • I just want to obey Jesus."
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  • - Well, I think the first thing is forgiving
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  • 70 times seven is a scripture. That's what she's
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  • referring to. And I think what that means
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  • is just keep giving it to God. Forgive.
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  • God doesn't want you to hold bitterness
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  • in your heart, resentment in your heart.
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  • And sometimes when we pray, God, just help me
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  • forgive. We don't always feel like we really are.
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  • You know, but you know, God is just asking
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  • you to give it to him.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - And to continue to give it to him.
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  • And, you know, one thing I've learned,
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  • when I, when I want to forgive,
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  • if I begin to pray for that person.
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  • It's amazing how it changes things
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  • in my heart. Now, as far as, do you
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  • continue to get yourself in the same situation.
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  • If we're not talking about a marriage situation.
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  • - Abuse.
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  • - We're not talking about your spouse.
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  • I'm talking, I hope she is talking about,
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  • you know, a person who is just not good for her.
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  • Who she finds, just finds the wrong in her,
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  • nitpicks her. You know what?
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  • You need to set boundaries.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Boundaries are so important in relationships.
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  • They not only protect you, but
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  • they protect the other person.
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  • They protect the relationship, so I would say
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  • set those boundaries. And don't feel bad about it.
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  • Boundaries aren't to just to keep everybody away.
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  • Boundaries are to teach people,
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  • and to teach yourself, how to treat others.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You see, when you set boundaries, then,
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  • you know what, you can respect those boundaries
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  • for someone else. So I don't think there's
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  • any, any wrong. I don't think that
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  • there's any, you know, problem with
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  • setting boundaries and letting people
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  • know how to treat you.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - And to say, listen, you know,
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  • I don't believe what you're saying about me.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You know, you can say that,
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  • but I don't believe that and I'm not going
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  • to take that in. I'm not going--
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  • - I ain't going to take it anymore.
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  • - I'm not going to put that in my heart.
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  • - Right.
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  • - You know, so it really is important
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  • to set those boundaries and to not
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  • continue to go back to the same
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  • old situation all the time if you can help it.
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  • - First of all, I'm just grateful that
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  • people are writing in and asking questions.
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  • Because this is supposed to be a conversation.
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  • We are sitting here, but we actually
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  • want to be answering questions that
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  • you're asking. And we want to be
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  • having conversations about issues
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  • that matter to you. So that
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  • is what I love, first of all,
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  • is that you just send in questions.
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  • - We want you to join the conversation.
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  • Connect with us on social media,
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  • and let us know what you think
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  • about today's topic.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • - I heard someone say last week,
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  • that it's sometimes time to stop talking
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  • to God about our problems and start
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  • talking to our problems about God.
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  • - I like that.
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  • - That's really good.
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  • - It's the truth.
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  • - And I think, I think that, you know,
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  • there's no reason in the world I don't think
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  • that anybody should give up, because
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  • God's for you. And if God's for you,
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  • who can be against you. You might
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  • not feel that they are succeeding
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  • or winning anything. You know,
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  • much less a war or the battles,
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  • they are getting killed. But, that's why
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  • I think this program is so important to people
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  • to encourage them in the Lord and
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  • to edify and to lift up. And to remind
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  • people that God's grace is sufficient.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - For us.
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  • - At this moment.
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  • - At this moment in time and you've got
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  • people praying for you.
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  • (instrumental music)
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  • - I love when Laurie said that really
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  • we should spend more time talking to our
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  • problems about God. You know,
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  • in other words, speaking to the situation
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  • with faith and I think so many times
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  • when we are struggling, and I've been there.
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  • On some of these, you know, walks that I'll take
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  • to destress, for the first little bit of it,
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  • I'm just venting about that situation.
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  • And I'm complaining about that person, and
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  • focusing on it. But at some point,
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  • if I'm going to get free, that has to change.
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  • And I have to start speaking the truth
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  • of what God says about that situation.
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  • And what God says about me. Like speaking
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  • faith into it is almost like shifting my brain.
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  • Retraining my brain, because we can do that.
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  • Our brain can go negative or it can go faith.
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  • We get to choose. And so it's choosing
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  • the faith words. Choosing the positive words.
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  • Honestly, what that will do for your soul
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  • and will do, how you see the situation.
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  • It'll change it. It'll give you the fuel
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  • to keep fighting. You know, there are
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  • challenges that come to all of us.
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  • Sometimes they come one after another.
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  • I've been there. Where it just
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  • seems like this onslaught and onslaught
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  • keeps coming and you just want to go,
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  • "I surrender." But what's that going to do?
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  • Nothing. So now you start speaking to the problem
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  • with faith. Not "oh my gosh, I'm so, I can't
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  • believe it." No. No. There is nothing
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  • that can come against me that can overtake me
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  • because God is stronger in me.
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  • So just start speaking the truth.
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  • - You know, there's nothing wrong with
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  • taking a breath.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - You know what, it's not giving up.
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  • But you can take a breath.
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  • - Re-evaluate.
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  • - Step back. Re-evalute.
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  • - Give it to God.
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  • - And, just, yeah, release it to God,
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  • and know that it's in His perfect
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  • timing. You brought up Joseph, and
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  • you think about how many years it took him.
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  • - Right.
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  • - For that dream that God gave him to come to pass.
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  • But it really didn't probably look like--
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  • - At all.
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  • - What he thought it would look like.
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  • - Neither did Joseph. He was a different man.
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  • You know, the Joseph that had the dream
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  • was very different than the Joseph
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  • that saw it lived out.
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  • - Right. So and that's the thing.
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  • We get a picture of what it's supposed
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  • to look like.
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  • - Right, yeah.
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  • - We see it a certain way.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - But God may see it another way.
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  • And He may take us a different destination
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  • for that dream to come to pass but--
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  • - It's so, and it's so much better than our way.
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  • - Right, yeah, so sometimes give up on
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  • your flesh. Give up on the dreams that are
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  • standing in the way of God's. Like, I liked
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  • how you said maybe the term give up
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  • isn't correct because we think of giving up
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  • as failing, we are a failure. And it's like,
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  • but yeah let go of the things that
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  • are not of God.
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  • - Give it over.
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  • - I like that, give it over.
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  • - Give it up to God.
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  • - Yes, give it up to God.
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  • - Don't give up.
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  • - Not give up, like I failed, but give it up.
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  • - Yeah, give up your idea of how
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  • it is supposed to go. You know,
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  • I always talk about how, even when
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  • my husband was sick. You know I talked
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  • about the process a lot. A lot of times,
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  • we want to control the process.
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  • I'm not interested in the process,
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  • I just want the promise. Get me
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  • to the promise, God. Whatever way
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  • you want to take me, to get there.
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  • I just want to get there. You know?
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  • So I'm not so consumed and concerned
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  • with praying that this detail goes like this,
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  • and that detail works out that way
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  • in this situation. No, I remember
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  • when he was in the hospital and
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  • I told the doctors, I don't care
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  • how I get into the end zone. Whether
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  • it's a lot of little plays or
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  • one Hail Mary. Just get me in the end zone.
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  • You know?
  • 00:19:41.220 --> 00:19:42.290
  • - We all want the Hail Mary but--
  • 00:19:42.290 --> 00:19:44.070
  • - We want, we all want the Hail Mary, right?
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  • Nobody wants to go through anything
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  • to get there. And so we, now we want to give up.
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  • I'm, me? I'm never giving up.
  • 00:19:50.080 --> 00:19:53.100
  • - Giving up for what?
  • 00:19:53.100 --> 00:19:55.020
  • - Exactly.
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  • - What will you do?
  • 00:19:56.030 --> 00:19:57.210
  • - What will you get?
  • 00:19:57.210 --> 00:19:59.100
  • - It's like, for me to think of giving up
  • 00:19:59.100 --> 00:20:02.050
  • is like giving into the enemy.
  • 00:20:02.050 --> 00:20:04.150
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:20:04.150 --> 00:20:05.220
  • - To allow him to have my dreams,
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  • my desires, everything that I have lived for,
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  • everything that God has promised me.
  • 00:20:09.060 --> 00:20:11.220
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:20:11.220 --> 00:20:12.290
  • - I always say, the devil can't even have
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  • an ink pen that belongs to me.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - That'll be a cold day in hell won't it?
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  • - It will, and I'll believe to the grave.
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  • (instrumental music)
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  • Hey listen, Satan can't have anything
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  • that belongs to me. Not even an ink pen.
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  • Because one thing I realize that is if you
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  • start allowing him to have anything
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  • that belongs to you, he begins
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  • to take other things from you.
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  • So go after what you want. The bible says
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  • that the kingdom of heaven suffers violence
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  • and the violent take it by force.
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  • We can take everything that God
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  • has given to us because He's promised it to us.
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  • (soft music)
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  • - This is a question from Rachel,
  • 00:20:54.040 --> 00:20:56.000
  • "what do you do when your time with God
  • 00:20:56.000 --> 00:20:58.180
  • feels like a chore or an obligation,
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  • instead of a joy. Especially, when
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  • you don't get anything out of it.
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  • How do you change it from a chore
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  • to enjoyment?"
  • 00:21:06.120 --> 00:21:08.140
  • - Oh wow, that's, that's sad.
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  • - You know, I would say, Rachel, I have
  • 00:21:09.210 --> 00:21:11.170
  • been in a place like that as well for years.
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  • I can't imagine spending time with God,
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  • and not getting anything out of it.
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  • So I'm wondering, are you reading
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  • a version of the bible that--
  • 00:21:20.250 --> 00:21:22.030
  • - You don't understand.
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  • - Yeah, I would wonder that. What
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  • version are you reading? Is it
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  • something that's in a language
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  • that you understand, that you can enjoy.
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  • When are praying and how are you praying?
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  • And is it in a way that you can access
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  • God the best for you? Don't compare
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  • your time with God with someone else's
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  • time with God. Don't compare someone
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  • else's habits with yours. Truly assess.
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  • Because if you are doing something
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  • that truly was the best for yours
  • 00:21:43.030 --> 00:21:44.280
  • and His relationship specifically,
  • 00:21:44.280 --> 00:21:46.080
  • you would get something out of it.
  • 00:21:46.080 --> 00:21:47.240
  • - Yes, you would.
  • 00:21:47.240 --> 00:21:49.030
  • - So I would say, I would go online and
  • 00:21:49.030 --> 00:21:50.110
  • google a bunch of other versions of the bible,
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  • and see which one. Pick a favorite verse,
  • 00:21:51.180 --> 00:21:54.080
  • see it alongside other versions and
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  • see what version speaks the most to you.
  • 00:21:56.020 --> 00:21:58.020
  • I read five different versions, mostly
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  • because of--
  • 00:21:59.160 --> 00:22:00.200
  • - You teach.
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  • - How I preach.
  • 00:22:01.140 --> 00:22:02.090
  • - Right, right.
  • 00:22:02.090 --> 00:22:03.160
  • - But also there is one that I love
  • 00:22:03.160 --> 00:22:05.010
  • to read for fun. And one that I need to make sure,
  • 00:22:05.010 --> 00:22:06.070
  • so I would just say, double check how
  • 00:22:06.070 --> 00:22:09.060
  • you're spending time with the Lord,
  • 00:22:09.060 --> 00:22:10.130
  • what version of the bible you're reading.
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  • Don't compare your time with the Lord
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  • with anybody else's. See what's the best for you.
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  • - Take the pressure out of it.
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  • - Your relationship.
  • 00:22:17.090 --> 00:22:18.210
  • - Yeah, take the pressure out of it, Rachel.
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  • So, we will be praying for you
  • 00:22:19.250 --> 00:22:21.160
  • that you will really begin to develop
  • 00:22:21.160 --> 00:22:24.040
  • your relationship with God and
  • 00:22:24.040 --> 00:22:25.170
  • that you will enjoy it, so you
  • 00:22:25.170 --> 00:22:27.110
  • can be happy all the days of your life.
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  • - You can stream "Better Together" episodes on the go.
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  • - Download the TBN app to watch
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  • our latest conversations.
  • 00:22:34.280 --> 00:22:36.220
  • (music)
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  • - There's a look every day at life as a gift.
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  • - Yes.
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  • - And even if it's not going our way,
  • 00:22:44.260 --> 00:22:46.250
  • we have to know that it's going God's way.
  • 00:22:46.250 --> 00:22:49.050
  • - God's way.
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  • - That He's going to get us to where
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  • we need to be, and to grow through it.
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  • So I think, like you said, we want to get that,
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  • to the end that we forget. Am I learning
  • 00:22:55.120 --> 00:22:57.040
  • lessons here? Are there things I need
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  • to put in--
  • 00:22:59.080 --> 00:23:00.090
  • - Right.
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  • - In my arsenal?
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - Because I'm going to need that later.
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  • I'm going to need to.
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  • - When you get there! You're going to need it.
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  • - I'm going to need to remember my victories.
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  • I'm going to need remember what--
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  • - To sustain the promise when I get there.
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  • - Right.
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  • - I can live fully.
  • 00:23:10.090 --> 00:23:10.290
  • - Exactly.
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  • - Because I know if, if I kill the lion
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  • and the bear, whoa, the giant,
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  • they ain't nothing for me.
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  • - No trouble.
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  • - No trouble there. Woohoo. I love it.
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  • - Never give up, baby, never give up.
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  • - That's good.
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  • - Never give up.
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  • (cups clinking)
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  • - You know what, you cannot fail
  • 00:23:24.110 --> 00:23:25.210
  • unless you give up. See, God doesn't
  • 00:23:25.210 --> 00:23:28.090
  • see you as a failure. He sees you
  • 00:23:28.090 --> 00:23:30.280
  • as a learner. So I encourage you,
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  • you may stumble, you may even fall.
  • 00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:36.090
  • You may even need to just take a breather,
  • 00:23:36.090 --> 00:23:38.160
  • but never give up because God
  • 00:23:38.160 --> 00:23:41.020
  • is on your side. Can I pray for you right now?
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  • Father, I thank you, that you are strengthening
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  • those who feel weak. You said when we are weak,
  • 00:23:47.070 --> 00:23:50.090
  • you are strong. So, Father, we surrender
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  • our lives to you, our hearts to you,
  • 00:23:53.110 --> 00:23:55.130
  • and we ask you that your strength would come in,
  • 00:23:55.130 --> 00:23:58.170
  • fortify us, and help us through these
  • 00:23:58.170 --> 00:24:00.260
  • challenging situations.
  • 00:24:00.260 --> 00:24:02.220
  • - You can call the number on your screen
  • 00:24:02.220 --> 00:24:04.070
  • right now to talk to a prayer partner.
  • 00:24:04.070 --> 00:24:06.040
  • We're here for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
  • 00:24:06.040 --> 00:24:09.070
  • We love you and, most importantly,
  • 00:24:09.070 --> 00:24:11.070
  • God loves you.
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  • (upbeat music)
  • 00:24:12.150 --> 00:24:13.200
  • - We write songs together all the time.
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  • If I were to give a song title to this show,
  • 00:24:14.260 --> 00:24:17.030
  • it would be, like for today's episode,
  • 00:24:17.030 --> 00:24:20.070
  • it would be called "This is too real."
  • 00:24:20.070 --> 00:24:21.220
  • I, we went places I did not know we were going to go.
  • 00:24:21.220 --> 00:24:24.100
  • - Right.
  • 00:24:24.100 --> 00:24:25.230
  • - The people who asked questions and sent them in,
  • 00:24:25.230 --> 00:24:27.010
  • went to places I did not expect them to.
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  • So the whole time I was like,
  • 00:24:27.290 --> 00:24:29.050
  • this is too real. Like this is, this is
  • 00:24:29.050 --> 00:24:30.210
  • going places.
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  • - Ready, sing it, sing it.
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  • - (singing) This is too real. (laughter)
  • 00:24:33.040 --> 00:24:36.010
  • - (beatbox)
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  • - Buy my album today, folks. This is too real.
  • 00:24:38.200 --> 00:24:41.080
  • It's just that over and over, with autotune.
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  • (singing) This is too real. This is too real
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  • - You're on your own here, but I love you.
  • 00:24:48.090 --> 00:24:50.080
  • - Here's what's coming up next on "Better Together."
  • 00:24:50.080 --> 00:24:50.090
  • - Here's what's coming up next on "Better Together."
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  • - I think we put too much pressure on ourself.
  • 00:24:53.280 --> 00:24:55.260
  • We're supposed to go into all the world
  • 00:24:55.260 --> 00:24:57.190
  • and preach the good news. But we put so much
  • 00:24:57.190 --> 00:24:59.130
  • pressure on ourself that it's up to us.
  • 00:24:59.130 --> 00:25:01.150
  • - Right.
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  • - But you, I believe what you said is
  • 00:25:02.210 --> 00:25:04.250
  • that one waters.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • - One plants, one waters, but God brings the increase.
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