Overcoming Disappointment | Better Together | TBN

Overcoming Disappointment | Better Together

Watch Overcoming Disappointment | Better Together
June 6, 2019
25:30

How can we replace bitterness and despair with joy? | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

Closed captions
  • - Has disappointment led you to believe
  • 00:00:01.040 --> 00:00:02.110
  • that God isn't holding up His end of the deal?
  • 00:00:02.110 --> 00:00:05.070
  • Let's talk about it.
  • 00:00:05.070 --> 00:00:06.150
  • (light music)
  • 00:00:07.130 --> 00:00:09.280
  • - When we talk about
  • 00:00:33.070 --> 00:00:35.030
  • that all promises God made in Jesus are "yes"
  • 00:00:35.030 --> 00:00:37.200
  • We learn to make good yesses.
  • 00:00:37.200 --> 00:00:40.120
  • I think we should talk about the inevitable disappointment
  • 00:00:40.120 --> 00:00:43.140
  • that comes when we start making better yesses.
  • 00:00:43.140 --> 00:00:46.030
  • Just because God has told you
  • 00:00:46.030 --> 00:00:48.040
  • this is a priority in your life,
  • 00:00:48.040 --> 00:00:50.110
  • doesn't mean everybody else gets that
  • 00:00:50.110 --> 00:00:51.290
  • or even agrees with that.
  • 00:00:51.290 --> 00:00:54.270
  • A friend of mine who's a counselor,
  • 00:00:54.270 --> 00:00:56.160
  • told me not too long ago,
  • 00:00:56.160 --> 00:00:58.020
  • she said, "Lisa, when you change your dance step,
  • 00:00:58.020 --> 00:01:00.270
  • it affects everybody else in your life.
  • 00:01:00.270 --> 00:01:02.170
  • When you shift from the waltz to the foxtrot,
  • 00:01:02.170 --> 00:01:05.060
  • all the sudden everybody's steppin' all up everybody.
  • 00:01:05.060 --> 00:01:07.060
  • 'Cause the people in your world
  • 00:01:07.060 --> 00:01:08.120
  • have got used to you moving one way.
  • 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:10.210
  • When your acts are moving in a way
  • 00:01:10.210 --> 00:01:12.200
  • that is more God-honoring,
  • 00:01:12.200 --> 00:01:14.170
  • it still can have negative impact for season on the people
  • 00:01:14.170 --> 00:01:18.060
  • who are used to you dancing for their approval.
  • 00:01:18.060 --> 00:01:21.030
  • Have y'all experienced that
  • 00:01:21.030 --> 00:01:22.240
  • as you're growing more alert
  • 00:01:22.240 --> 00:01:25.110
  • to God's voice being louder than anybody else's?
  • 00:01:25.110 --> 00:01:27.250
  • Has that caused disappointment?
  • 00:01:27.250 --> 00:01:29.220
  • Kind of ripple effects in the world around you?
  • 00:01:29.220 --> 00:01:31.270
  • - Mhm.
  • 00:01:31.270 --> 00:01:33.040
  • Absolutely because we play the role
  • 00:01:33.040 --> 00:01:35.030
  • and everybody, including me,
  • 00:01:35.030 --> 00:01:36.290
  • is used to the way I do it.
  • 00:01:36.290 --> 00:01:38.240
  • And so if I stop doing it that way,
  • 00:01:38.240 --> 00:01:40.280
  • not only do they not know what to do,
  • 00:01:40.280 --> 00:01:43.090
  • they don't know what to do.
  • 00:01:43.090 --> 00:01:44.160
  • Their own growth... - Right, right.
  • 00:01:44.160 --> 00:01:45.250
  • They're questioning they're own growth.
  • 00:01:45.250 --> 00:01:47.160
  • I think
  • 00:01:47.160 --> 00:01:48.100
  • As I have voice,
  • 00:01:49.180 --> 00:01:50.290
  • as I have words being able to explain that,
  • 00:01:50.290 --> 00:01:53.000
  • being able to apologize when that's appropriate,
  • 00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:55.220
  • but to say that it's okay for me to do it differently.
  • 00:01:57.060 --> 00:01:59.050
  • And to recognize that their disappointment
  • 00:01:59.050 --> 00:02:01.220
  • is not in total my responsibility.
  • 00:02:01.220 --> 00:02:04.040
  • - Right. - That's good.
  • 00:02:04.040 --> 00:02:05.200
  • If there's a gap left because of what I'm doing differently,
  • 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:07.150
  • that there's a God who can take care of them.
  • 00:02:07.150 --> 00:02:09.170
  • And if I've been filling a hole
  • 00:02:09.170 --> 00:02:11.040
  • and realize that's not a hole I should be filling,
  • 00:02:11.040 --> 00:02:13.100
  • when I remove myself,
  • 00:02:13.100 --> 00:02:14.200
  • that hole is not necessarily my responsibility.
  • 00:02:14.200 --> 00:02:16.260
  • - Absolutely. - That's right.
  • 00:02:16.260 --> 00:02:17.280
  • I don't have to be the fixer.
  • 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:19.230
  • And so trusting God that
  • 00:02:19.230 --> 00:02:21.010
  • the same God who is redefining my role,
  • 00:02:21.010 --> 00:02:23.050
  • can redefine theirs,
  • 00:02:23.050 --> 00:02:24.130
  • it takes a lot of the pressure off.
  • 00:02:24.130 --> 00:02:25.270
  • - That's like looking at someone to be their answer.
  • 00:02:25.270 --> 00:02:28.030
  • I'm not your answer - Yeah; right.
  • 00:02:28.030 --> 00:02:29.120
  • I'm not between you and God. - Absolutely.
  • 00:02:29.120 --> 00:02:31.100
  • You need to get that figured out yourself.
  • 00:02:31.100 --> 00:02:34.080
  • Even here in TBN.
  • 00:02:34.080 --> 00:02:35.270
  • There's been role changes over the last few years.
  • 00:02:35.270 --> 00:02:38.050
  • Because my brother-in-law passed.
  • 00:02:38.050 --> 00:02:39.260
  • Then my mother-in-law passed.
  • 00:02:39.260 --> 00:02:41.130
  • And now, it's our turn.
  • 00:02:41.130 --> 00:02:43.220
  • And in that,
  • 00:02:46.020 --> 00:02:46.270
  • it can be messy.
  • 00:02:46.270 --> 00:02:48.030
  • 'Cause your roles do change
  • 00:02:48.030 --> 00:02:49.280
  • and there are things that I shouldn't...
  • 00:02:49.280 --> 00:02:51.280
  • You know, Matt will look at me and go,
  • 00:02:51.280 --> 00:02:53.060
  • "baby, you shouldn't be worrying about that."
  • 00:02:53.060 --> 00:02:55.020
  • - Right. Well, I used to do that.
  • 00:02:55.020 --> 00:02:57.170
  • But there's others to do that now.
  • 00:02:57.170 --> 00:03:00.140
  • So it can look messy for a while
  • 00:03:02.110 --> 00:03:05.070
  • when everyone is in that season of change.
  • 00:03:05.070 --> 00:03:08.120
  • Which you just have to figure out.
  • 00:03:09.280 --> 00:03:11.140
  • But I think not looking at someone to fill your hole.
  • 00:03:11.140 --> 00:03:14.290
  • - [Christine] Totally.
  • 00:03:14.290 --> 00:03:16.130
  • Which is major.
  • 00:03:16.130 --> 00:03:17.200
  • And I think how we do it is important, though.
  • 00:03:17.200 --> 00:03:20.230
  • - Yeah. - Yes.
  • 00:03:20.230 --> 00:03:22.040
  • Because you can inadvertently hurt people
  • 00:03:22.040 --> 00:03:23.030
  • you don't need to hurt.
  • 00:03:23.030 --> 00:03:24.120
  • I mean, I like what your therapist said,
  • 00:03:24.120 --> 00:03:27.030
  • that you're going to do it inevitably.
  • 00:03:27.030 --> 00:03:30.060
  • But you can either do it with grace
  • 00:03:30.060 --> 00:03:33.000
  • or you could do it harsh.
  • 00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:34.180
  • - Peace, I've been called to a new situation.
  • 00:03:35.290 --> 00:03:38.010
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:03:38.010 --> 00:03:39.290
  • - Too bad, so sad for you.
  • 00:03:39.290 --> 00:03:41.200
  • - I used to cook five nights a week
  • 00:03:41.200 --> 00:03:43.120
  • now go get your own wings.
  • 00:03:45.150 --> 00:03:47.050
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:03:47.050 --> 00:03:48.260
  • - You know there's gotta be a way
  • 00:03:48.260 --> 00:03:50.020
  • I think as everything shifts.
  • 00:03:50.020 --> 00:03:52.050
  • And I think, again it comes back to a heart attitude.
  • 00:03:52.050 --> 00:03:54.200
  • And we're doing this right.
  • 00:03:54.200 --> 00:03:56.060
  • And you wrestle with it.
  • 00:03:56.060 --> 00:03:57.230
  • I think, no doubt, as your responsibilities at work,
  • 00:03:57.230 --> 00:04:00.090
  • I look at the seasons in my life.
  • 00:04:00.090 --> 00:04:03.150
  • Oh, people that come,
  • 00:04:03.150 --> 00:04:04.220
  • I think they're gonna intern at A21 or Propel,
  • 00:04:04.220 --> 00:04:07.040
  • and I think they think they're
  • 00:04:07.040 --> 00:04:08.100
  • gonna have a quiet time with me everyday.
  • 00:04:08.100 --> 00:04:10.040
  • I'm not even in the same city everyday.
  • 00:04:11.100 --> 00:04:13.210
  • So you go, okay,
  • 00:04:13.210 --> 00:04:15.050
  • I can help to manage some of those expectations
  • 00:04:15.050 --> 00:04:18.000
  • ahead of time.
  • 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:19.140
  • But with some people, it doesn't matter what you say,
  • 00:04:19.140 --> 00:04:21.060
  • either I'm not gonna be there
  • 00:04:21.060 --> 00:04:22.070
  • or I can't do it.
  • 00:04:22.070 --> 00:04:23.140
  • I think for some of us who do what we do,
  • 00:04:23.140 --> 00:04:25.030
  • and I think without exaggeration,
  • 00:04:26.060 --> 00:04:27.130
  • would get us at least 20 to 30 times a week
  • 00:04:27.130 --> 00:04:30.200
  • to write at least blurbs for people, endorsements for books.
  • 00:04:30.200 --> 00:04:35.060
  • I think that would be minimum.
  • 00:04:35.060 --> 00:04:37.000
  • If I physically actually did that,
  • 00:04:37.000 --> 00:04:38.230
  • and my entire global staff did that,
  • 00:04:38.230 --> 00:04:41.180
  • if we read every one of those books,
  • 00:04:41.180 --> 00:04:43.120
  • I would have to employ hundreds of people to just do that.
  • 00:04:44.230 --> 00:04:48.000
  • And so you go, "I already know ahead of time
  • 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:50.090
  • how much people are about to get disappointed
  • 00:04:50.090 --> 00:04:52.280
  • before I even start."
  • 00:04:52.280 --> 00:04:54.000
  • And then some would start say,
  • 00:04:54.000 --> 00:04:56.240
  • "she thinks she's too good for us now."
  • 00:04:56.240 --> 00:04:58.190
  • Or "I helped her get there anyway."
  • 00:04:58.190 --> 00:05:00.110
  • I mean you know, you can hear these conversations.
  • 00:05:00.110 --> 00:05:02.230
  • So you gonna have to learn
  • 00:05:02.230 --> 00:05:04.140
  • to manage that in your own heart
  • 00:05:04.140 --> 00:05:07.000
  • To go, "I know this is what they're gonna think about.
  • 00:05:07.000 --> 00:05:10.150
  • I know this is what they're gonna process.
  • 00:05:10.150 --> 00:05:11.240
  • I think the degree to which you can manage
  • 00:05:11.240 --> 00:05:14.260
  • that initial awkwardness of that transition,
  • 00:05:14.260 --> 00:05:17.040
  • is the degree to which you're gonna then learn to flourish
  • 00:05:17.040 --> 00:05:19.240
  • in your next season.
  • 00:05:19.240 --> 00:05:21.010
  • - Right.
  • 00:05:21.010 --> 00:05:22.090
  • So, with people, I know you're always
  • 00:05:22.090 --> 00:05:23.230
  • gonna probably disappoint somebody in your life,
  • 00:05:23.230 --> 00:05:25.100
  • but you can't be everything to all people.
  • 00:05:25.100 --> 00:05:28.080
  • And so there's just some boundaries
  • 00:05:28.080 --> 00:05:29.290
  • and some things you just have to say no to.
  • 00:05:29.290 --> 00:05:32.240
  • And whether that's person's offended and disappointed
  • 00:05:34.120 --> 00:05:37.200
  • your thing is if God's disappointed in you
  • 00:05:37.200 --> 00:05:40.270
  • or if your parents or your family.
  • 00:05:40.270 --> 00:05:43.180
  • I think that's always first and foremost.
  • 00:05:43.180 --> 00:05:45.110
  • - [Lisa] What you attach on
  • 00:05:45.110 --> 00:05:46.280
  • was disappointment leading to spiritual maturity.
  • 00:05:46.280 --> 00:05:49.160
  • - Yes.
  • 00:05:49.160 --> 00:05:51.000
  • - That there's an inevitability that you're not gonna get it
  • 00:05:51.000 --> 00:05:54.020
  • in the same package you thought you're gonna get it in.
  • 00:05:54.020 --> 00:05:56.230
  • Ultimately, let's just say, hypothetically,
  • 00:05:56.230 --> 00:05:58.190
  • the young woman who come to work for you
  • 00:05:58.190 --> 00:06:00.180
  • and they think, "I'm gonna be besties with Christine.
  • 00:06:00.180 --> 00:06:03.060
  • We're gonna have matching ankle tattoos
  • 00:06:03.060 --> 00:06:05.050
  • (chuckles) that's awesome."
  • 00:06:05.050 --> 00:06:06.110
  • And then they realize, oh goodness
  • 00:06:06.110 --> 00:06:08.260
  • - She's already got the tattoo.
  • 00:06:08.260 --> 00:06:10.120
  • - She's in Europe from doing crusades or what have you,
  • 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:15.110
  • and they have to manage that.
  • 00:06:15.110 --> 00:06:16.270
  • But what they ultimately come to,
  • 00:06:16.270 --> 00:06:19.100
  • is this isn't about being besties with Christine,
  • 00:06:19.100 --> 00:06:22.230
  • this is about fulfilling God's call in my life.
  • 00:06:22.230 --> 00:06:24.080
  • - Right.
  • 00:06:24.080 --> 00:06:25.100
  • - So just in that setting,
  • 00:06:25.100 --> 00:06:27.040
  • it's actually a beautiful thing.
  • 00:06:30.060 --> 00:06:31.210
  • It's a tool God is using to take them to a place of
  • 00:06:31.210 --> 00:06:34.190
  • of a deeper commitment to Him.
  • 00:06:34.190 --> 00:06:36.230
  • I wanna go where you go,
  • 00:06:36.230 --> 00:06:38.080
  • have you disappointed God?
  • 00:06:38.080 --> 00:06:40.040
  • Let's talk about that.
  • 00:06:40.040 --> 00:06:41.110
  • But also let's talk about,
  • 00:06:41.110 --> 00:06:43.050
  • where have you seen disappointment in your own life?
  • 00:06:43.050 --> 00:06:46.090
  • Instead of fighting against this
  • 00:06:47.100 --> 00:06:49.030
  • or bemoaning this for too long,
  • 00:06:49.030 --> 00:06:51.110
  • when you recognize, like David did, in His faithfulness,
  • 00:06:51.110 --> 00:06:55.290
  • God has afflicted me.
  • 00:06:55.290 --> 00:06:57.130
  • God didn't make all my dreams come true.
  • 00:06:57.130 --> 00:06:59.240
  • Because He had bigger, better dreams for me.
  • 00:06:59.240 --> 00:07:02.000
  • Where's disappointment, I mean,
  • 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:03.140
  • goodness gracious your testimony is unbelievable.
  • 00:07:03.140 --> 00:07:05.130
  • - Yeah, I would love to answer that.
  • 00:07:05.130 --> 00:07:06.110
  • (chuckles)
  • 00:07:06.110 --> 00:07:07.060
  • From both angles.
  • 00:07:07.060 --> 00:07:08.040
  • So right now, in my household,
  • 00:07:08.040 --> 00:07:10.140
  • there's been a huge shift.
  • 00:07:10.140 --> 00:07:12.040
  • Partially because of some opportunities
  • 00:07:13.090 --> 00:07:14.150
  • that God has provided me.
  • 00:07:14.150 --> 00:07:16.020
  • Even it be here with you guys today.
  • 00:07:16.020 --> 00:07:18.150
  • But a lot of those have to do with my husband and his health
  • 00:07:18.150 --> 00:07:22.040
  • and because I've done the whole homeschool,
  • 00:07:22.040 --> 00:07:25.250
  • make bread, grow tomatoes in the backyard, all the things,
  • 00:07:25.250 --> 00:07:28.250
  • - Lord, have mercy all the things
  • 00:07:29.290 --> 00:07:30.220
  • Because I'm an achiever, it was like I'm a stay-at-home mom,
  • 00:07:34.120 --> 00:07:36.140
  • I'm gonna do all the things! - Right.
  • 00:07:36.140 --> 00:07:38.280
  • But that has shifted.
  • 00:07:38.280 --> 00:07:40.220
  • So what that looks like for my family means,
  • 00:07:40.220 --> 00:07:43.080
  • you know, what you all are used to me doing,
  • 00:07:43.080 --> 00:07:44.260
  • I actually, I'm not doing that anymore.
  • 00:07:44.260 --> 00:07:46.240
  • Or I'm not doing it that way or in that frequency.
  • 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:49.190
  • Even for my husband,
  • 00:07:49.190 --> 00:07:50.260
  • him relying on my to do a lot of the things,
  • 00:07:50.260 --> 00:07:52.270
  • and me having to say, "oh, I'm so sorry.
  • 00:07:52.270 --> 00:07:55.050
  • I'd love to do that, but I can't
  • 00:07:55.050 --> 00:07:56.110
  • 'cause I have these things
  • 00:07:56.110 --> 00:07:57.280
  • and then I have to get on a plane."
  • 00:07:57.280 --> 00:07:59.060
  • So I'm living perpetually
  • 00:07:59.060 --> 00:08:01.060
  • in the shift of roles, right now.
  • 00:08:01.060 --> 00:08:04.230
  • For what it looks like to be a mom and wife and Chrystal
  • 00:08:04.230 --> 00:08:07.080
  • in my family.
  • 00:08:07.080 --> 00:08:08.140
  • So to answer the first part of that,
  • 00:08:08.140 --> 00:08:10.100
  • is to say, I always want them to hear my heart.
  • 00:08:10.100 --> 00:08:13.040
  • It goes back to the "no" or the spirit of the "yes."
  • 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:15.150
  • I'm gonna say "no."
  • 00:08:15.150 --> 00:08:16.160
  • I know that I let you down,
  • 00:08:16.160 --> 00:08:18.020
  • and to say that I wish I didn't have to.
  • 00:08:18.020 --> 00:08:20.220
  • I know you need me, I'm sorry.
  • 00:08:20.220 --> 00:08:22.180
  • But just to leave it.
  • 00:08:22.180 --> 00:08:23.290
  • To leave it.
  • 00:08:23.290 --> 00:08:25.090
  • To leave the disappointment, I can't fix it.
  • 00:08:25.090 --> 00:08:27.160
  • It's not my job to fix everything.
  • 00:08:27.160 --> 00:08:28.290
  • But also on the other side,
  • 00:08:28.290 --> 00:08:30.140
  • with yes, feeling like in some poor choices that I've made
  • 00:08:30.140 --> 00:08:33.270
  • throughout my life, 'cause there's been a few.
  • 00:08:33.270 --> 00:08:36.110
  • - (chuckles) You've never been a saint?
  • 00:08:36.110 --> 00:08:38.040
  • - There've been a few.
  • 00:08:38.040 --> 00:08:39.070
  • (chuckles)
  • 00:08:39.070 --> 00:08:41.060
  • - It's like you said the other day,
  • 00:08:41.060 --> 00:08:42.170
  • if all of the rescuing that Jesus did for me,
  • 00:08:42.170 --> 00:08:44.220
  • had come before I knew Jesus, that would be so great.
  • 00:08:44.220 --> 00:08:47.200
  • But I've been saved since I was five,
  • 00:08:47.200 --> 00:08:49.050
  • so all of the rescuing I've needed was post-salvation.
  • 00:08:49.050 --> 00:08:51.120
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:08:51.120 --> 00:08:53.040
  • Okay, but even that to say, "okay, I've disappointed God.
  • 00:08:53.040 --> 00:08:56.160
  • So, I wanna fix that."
  • 00:08:57.260 --> 00:08:59.130
  • - [Christine] Yeah.
  • 00:08:59.130 --> 00:09:00.220
  • - Well here's the beautiful thing:
  • 00:09:00.220 --> 00:09:01.160
  • He doesn't need me to.
  • 00:09:01.160 --> 00:09:02.250
  • - Totally.
  • 00:09:02.250 --> 00:09:03.290
  • It's actually already... - Jesus did it.
  • 00:09:03.290 --> 00:09:06.050
  • So where I've learned not to fix it
  • 00:09:06.050 --> 00:09:08.080
  • with the people I disappoint.
  • 00:09:08.080 --> 00:09:09.220
  • I've also learned
  • 00:09:10.180 --> 00:09:12.020
  • that I don't need to fix it with the God I've disappointed.
  • 00:09:12.020 --> 00:09:14.060
  • Because His fix was done on Calvary,
  • 00:09:14.060 --> 00:09:16.210
  • and it is constantly flowing, the blood of Jesus,
  • 00:09:16.210 --> 00:09:19.100
  • to fill any gap that my disappointment has left.
  • 00:09:19.100 --> 00:09:22.170
  • So receiving that, I don't have to fix it.
  • 00:09:22.170 --> 00:09:25.060
  • Whether it's people or whether it's Jesus.
  • 00:09:25.060 --> 00:09:27.070
  • It's the most freeing thing in all the world.
  • 00:09:27.070 --> 00:09:29.200
  • - And I would've never said this theologically,
  • 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:31.180
  • but emotionally, I felt like pretty much every time
  • 00:09:31.180 --> 00:09:34.160
  • God looked at me, it was like, "oh , goodness gracious,
  • 00:09:34.160 --> 00:09:37.090
  • and then there's Lisa.
  • 00:09:37.090 --> 00:09:38.270
  • You know, Lisa who chose the wrong direction.
  • 00:09:38.270 --> 00:09:41.150
  • Lisa who drank rum in her Slurpee
  • 00:09:41.150 --> 00:09:44.020
  • when she was in high school.
  • 00:09:44.020 --> 00:09:45.090
  • Lisa who went out with the wrong guy.
  • 00:09:45.090 --> 00:09:47.270
  • Lisa who had that stuff done to her when she was younger.
  • 00:09:47.270 --> 00:09:50.190
  • I spent so many years trying to be good enough for God.
  • 00:09:50.190 --> 00:09:54.080
  • I would preach the grace of the gospel,
  • 00:09:54.080 --> 00:09:56.260
  • but always try to be a better girl.
  • 00:09:56.260 --> 00:09:59.170
  • So that I could somehow makeup for the ways
  • 00:09:59.170 --> 00:10:02.030
  • I disappointed God.
  • 00:10:02.030 --> 00:10:03.140
  • I'm astounded that God did not take His Spirit from me.
  • 00:10:04.270 --> 00:10:08.160
  • How patient He's been with me
  • 00:10:08.160 --> 00:10:11.160
  • in proving that I'm not a disappointment to Him.
  • 00:10:11.160 --> 00:10:15.050
  • I never was a disappointment to Him.
  • 00:10:15.050 --> 00:10:17.090
  • He grieved over the things that were done to me
  • 00:10:17.090 --> 00:10:20.280
  • when I was a little kid.
  • 00:10:20.280 --> 00:10:21.260
  • And the things I chose to do
  • 00:10:21.260 --> 00:10:23.190
  • when I should've known better.
  • 00:10:23.190 --> 00:10:25.040
  • He grieved over that separation.
  • 00:10:25.040 --> 00:10:27.260
  • I've never been a disappointment to God.
  • 00:10:27.260 --> 00:10:29.190
  • He is always delighted in me cause that's His character.
  • 00:10:29.190 --> 00:10:34.080
  • - Something I've had to overcome to get to where I am today
  • 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:36.260
  • which sound ironic because I'm intense and hardworking
  • 00:10:36.260 --> 00:10:39.250
  • and go-getter and all that,
  • 00:10:39.250 --> 00:10:41.080
  • is just complete self-reliance.
  • 00:10:41.080 --> 00:10:43.170
  • I think I've always really dependent on myself.
  • 00:10:43.170 --> 00:10:46.200
  • Of what I can do and my work, and my ideas,
  • 00:10:46.200 --> 00:10:49.030
  • and if I could just try hard enough,
  • 00:10:49.030 --> 00:10:50.260
  • I could get to where I wanna be.
  • 00:10:50.260 --> 00:10:52.130
  • And there's some truth to hard-work produces fruit.
  • 00:10:52.130 --> 00:10:55.290
  • But in all my self-reliance,
  • 00:10:55.290 --> 00:10:58.020
  • I have missed what it looks like,
  • 00:10:58.020 --> 00:11:00.170
  • to completely depend on God.
  • 00:11:00.170 --> 00:11:02.160
  • And so overcoming that,
  • 00:11:02.160 --> 00:11:04.000
  • and it's a continual process.
  • 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:06.080
  • Overcoming complete self-reliance
  • 00:11:06.080 --> 00:11:08.060
  • has been something that has been a learning curve
  • 00:11:08.060 --> 00:11:11.180
  • and a process over my life.
  • 00:11:11.180 --> 00:11:14.240
  • - We want you to join the conversation
  • 00:11:14.240 --> 00:11:16.210
  • please follow us on social media.
  • 00:11:16.210 --> 00:11:18.240
  • And let's get better together.
  • 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:21.020
  • - [Christine] But I agree, when you say,
  • 00:11:24.180 --> 00:11:26.100
  • "has God ever disappointed you?"
  • 00:11:26.100 --> 00:11:28.060
  • I think that's the unspoken thing
  • 00:11:28.060 --> 00:11:31.090
  • many of us have.
  • 00:11:31.090 --> 00:11:32.220
  • You feel like, you sort of know as a Christian,
  • 00:11:33.280 --> 00:11:36.060
  • "I'm not supposed to think that."
  • 00:11:36.060 --> 00:11:38.130
  • But if someone you prayed for died and didn't get healed
  • 00:11:38.130 --> 00:11:43.120
  • enraged that you were believing for God to restore
  • 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:45.260
  • wasn't restored.
  • 00:11:45.260 --> 00:11:46.250
  • Perhaps an opportunity.
  • 00:11:46.250 --> 00:11:48.070
  • What do you do?
  • 00:11:51.060 --> 00:11:52.200
  • And how we never talked about
  • 00:11:52.200 --> 00:11:56.100
  • how we would honestly say, "God I feel you disappointed me."
  • 00:11:56.100 --> 00:12:00.220
  • A lot of people carry the pain of that
  • 00:12:02.270 --> 00:12:05.040
  • through their Christian life.
  • 00:12:05.040 --> 00:12:07.020
  • - If you've been disappointed in the past by God
  • 00:12:07.020 --> 00:12:10.030
  • which I think we all have.
  • 00:12:10.030 --> 00:12:11.170
  • I think in the life of faith,
  • 00:12:11.170 --> 00:12:12.240
  • because you have an expectation...
  • 00:12:12.240 --> 00:12:14.110
  • - We can't see, we can say,
  • 00:12:16.090 --> 00:12:18.050
  • we can confess He's always good.
  • 00:12:18.050 --> 00:12:20.000
  • - Right.
  • 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:20.280
  • - Our minds are not redeemed
  • 00:12:20.280 --> 00:12:22.100
  • in that recognize He's always good.
  • 00:12:22.100 --> 00:12:24.290
  • - And to feel that.
  • 00:12:24.290 --> 00:12:26.070
  • And I think a fear of disappointment,
  • 00:12:26.070 --> 00:12:27.280
  • keeps a lot of us,
  • 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:29.260
  • I felt this even the last six months,
  • 00:12:29.260 --> 00:12:32.080
  • from a life of bold faith.
  • 00:12:32.080 --> 00:12:34.020
  • And so it was like four months ago, I was in church,
  • 00:12:34.020 --> 00:12:37.000
  • I was just praying,
  • 00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:38.270
  • and it was about something
  • 00:12:38.270 --> 00:12:40.050
  • that I was praying for that I can't control.
  • 00:12:40.050 --> 00:12:41.200
  • And so I was just praying, I was like,
  • 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:42.210
  • "but Lord,"
  • 00:12:42.210 --> 00:12:43.250
  • I just kept saying this,
  • 00:12:43.250 --> 00:12:45.020
  • it just sounds so funny in hindsight,
  • 00:12:45.020 --> 00:12:46.110
  • but in the moment, it feels so real.
  • 00:12:46.110 --> 00:12:48.200
  • I was like, "Lord, I just need to guard my heart.
  • 00:12:48.200 --> 00:12:50.200
  • I just need to guard my heart.
  • 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:51.240
  • I don't need to get my hopes up.
  • 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:53.020
  • I need to guard my heart I can't control that."
  • 00:12:53.020 --> 00:12:53.290
  • And I felt the Lord say,
  • 00:12:53.290 --> 00:12:55.200
  • "you never guard your heart with Me."
  • 00:12:55.200 --> 00:12:58.050
  • "But you guard your heart with other people,
  • 00:12:58.050 --> 00:12:59.220
  • but you never guard your heart with Me
  • 00:12:59.220 --> 00:13:01.090
  • because I know what to do with every desire I've given you
  • 00:13:01.090 --> 00:13:03.280
  • and I know what to do with every broken piece
  • 00:13:03.280 --> 00:13:05.240
  • when you're let down."
  • 00:13:05.240 --> 00:13:07.070
  • And it was like this breakthrough moment for me
  • 00:13:07.070 --> 00:13:09.290
  • to realize that I was letting fear of disappointment
  • 00:13:09.290 --> 00:13:13.010
  • keep me from taking my honest, bold, faith desires
  • 00:13:13.010 --> 00:13:17.030
  • to the feet of Jesus, saying, "this is what I want.
  • 00:13:17.030 --> 00:13:19.160
  • Your Will be done, but you know my heart.
  • 00:13:19.160 --> 00:13:21.060
  • So let's just both acknowledge what I want," you know?
  • 00:13:21.060 --> 00:13:23.260
  • And be bold about that.
  • 00:13:23.260 --> 00:13:25.090
  • But I think we want to pad ourselves and protect ourselves
  • 00:13:25.090 --> 00:13:27.140
  • and put up these walls to say,
  • 00:13:27.140 --> 00:13:28.220
  • "to protect me from being disappointed,
  • 00:13:28.220 --> 00:13:29.240
  • I don't really care."
  • 00:13:29.240 --> 00:13:30.190
  • But we do care.
  • 00:13:30.190 --> 00:13:31.140
  • - Yeah. - Right.
  • 00:13:31.140 --> 00:13:32.280
  • - But that's because we don't have the bird's eye view.
  • 00:13:32.280 --> 00:13:35.160
  • We don't have God's view.
  • 00:13:35.160 --> 00:13:37.110
  • Because He sees all of eternity
  • 00:13:37.110 --> 00:13:39.000
  • and we see right now, right here, today.
  • 00:13:39.000 --> 00:13:41.280
  • - [Chrystal And that's why
  • 00:13:41.280 --> 00:13:43.050
  • these conversations are so important.
  • 00:13:43.050 --> 00:13:44.190
  • - Disappointment has caused me to be angry with God.
  • 00:13:44.190 --> 00:13:47.100
  • But I think the great thing in that is that
  • 00:13:47.100 --> 00:13:50.260
  • I feel close enough to God to be angry with Him.
  • 00:13:50.260 --> 00:13:54.140
  • I feel close enough to Him to be honest about my anger.
  • 00:13:54.140 --> 00:13:58.060
  • I remember when I applied for this job.
  • 00:13:58.060 --> 00:14:00.170
  • This was like 12 years ago.
  • 00:14:00.170 --> 00:14:02.110
  • And it was the right next step for me, in my mind.
  • 00:14:02.110 --> 00:14:05.110
  • I was so qualified for it.
  • 00:14:05.110 --> 00:14:06.290
  • Every sign in the interview process was like
  • 00:14:06.290 --> 00:14:09.220
  • I was gonna get this job.
  • 00:14:09.220 --> 00:14:11.040
  • There was no one else that
  • 00:14:11.040 --> 00:14:12.120
  • was even close to my qualifications
  • 00:14:12.120 --> 00:14:14.170
  • and the relationships I build,
  • 00:14:14.170 --> 00:14:15.200
  • it was the next logical step.
  • 00:14:15.200 --> 00:14:16.260
  • Everything everybody was saying was,
  • 00:14:16.260 --> 00:14:18.040
  • "oh my gosh, this is the next move,"
  • 00:14:18.040 --> 00:14:19.110
  • within my company, but it was a promotion.
  • 00:14:19.110 --> 00:14:21.260
  • And I was hanging everything on this job.
  • 00:14:21.260 --> 00:14:24.110
  • And I didn't get this job.
  • 00:14:24.110 --> 00:14:25.280
  • And there was no reason in the world
  • 00:14:25.280 --> 00:14:27.190
  • that I could see that I didn't get this job.
  • 00:14:27.190 --> 00:14:30.070
  • And I remember laying on my couch.
  • 00:14:30.070 --> 00:14:32.210
  • And I was a couple years out of college.
  • 00:14:32.210 --> 00:14:34.280
  • But I just remember crying.
  • 00:14:34.280 --> 00:14:36.050
  • And be like, "I'm so mad at you."
  • 00:14:36.050 --> 00:14:38.120
  • "Why would you set me up for disappointment?
  • 00:14:38.120 --> 00:14:40.130
  • Why would you make me think I was gonna get it?
  • 00:14:40.130 --> 00:14:42.210
  • Why would you get my hopes up?
  • 00:14:42.210 --> 00:14:44.040
  • And I was just so mad,
  • 00:14:44.040 --> 00:14:45.170
  • but I was also so honest about the fact that I was mad.
  • 00:14:45.170 --> 00:14:48.000
  • Now, of course, in hindsight, that was not the right job.
  • 00:14:48.000 --> 00:14:50.010
  • Thank God had a better job and all the things.
  • 00:14:50.010 --> 00:14:52.220
  • We're talking about disappointment.
  • 00:14:52.220 --> 00:14:53.220
  • I'm not talking about tragedies.
  • 00:14:53.220 --> 00:14:55.240
  • That's a completely different conversation.
  • 00:14:55.240 --> 00:14:57.130
  • If you're talking about disappointment,
  • 00:14:57.130 --> 00:14:58.290
  • you had an expectation and God didn't meet your expectation,
  • 00:14:58.290 --> 00:15:02.160
  • that's really what it's about.
  • 00:15:02.160 --> 00:15:04.000
  • It's about your expectation.
  • 00:15:04.000 --> 00:15:05.160
  • It's not about God's disappointment,
  • 00:15:05.160 --> 00:15:07.080
  • it all roots in your expectation.
  • 00:15:07.080 --> 00:15:09.120
  • Your ideas about the best of your life.
  • 00:15:09.120 --> 00:15:11.220
  • And that's what I love about Scripture,
  • 00:15:11.220 --> 00:15:13.220
  • where it says, "more than we can ask or imagine.
  • 00:15:13.220 --> 00:15:17.000
  • No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived
  • 00:15:17.000 --> 00:15:22.000
  • what God has in store for those who love Him."
  • 00:15:23.050 --> 00:15:24.240
  • So when God doesn't meet my expectation,
  • 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:27.030
  • I now know, as a more mature Christian,
  • 00:15:27.030 --> 00:15:29.280
  • I don't have to get mad about it.
  • 00:15:29.280 --> 00:15:30.290
  • I was like, "oh, cool!"
  • 00:15:30.290 --> 00:15:32.100
  • "That means You got something better than that!?"
  • 00:15:32.100 --> 00:15:34.060
  • My expectation was here and You've got something better
  • 00:15:34.060 --> 00:15:36.200
  • that my mind can't conceive.
  • 00:15:36.200 --> 00:15:38.050
  • Awesome, I can't wait to find out what that is.
  • 00:15:38.050 --> 00:15:41.010
  • - [Chrystal] Honestly, while it does boil down to faith,
  • 00:15:41.010 --> 00:15:44.110
  • if where I am, I'm weak in mine,
  • 00:15:44.110 --> 00:15:46.270
  • let me borrow yours.
  • 00:15:48.010 --> 00:15:49.090
  • - Yeah, that's so good.
  • 00:15:49.090 --> 00:15:50.070
  • - That's where it talks about
  • 00:15:50.070 --> 00:15:51.150
  • we overcome by the blood of the Lamb
  • 00:15:51.150 --> 00:15:52.220
  • and by the word of our testimony.
  • 00:15:52.220 --> 00:15:53.250
  • If I can't see how
  • 00:15:53.250 --> 00:15:55.020
  • He's gonna work all this together for my good,
  • 00:15:55.020 --> 00:15:57.020
  • tell me your story.
  • 00:15:57.020 --> 00:15:58.070
  • - That's right.
  • 00:15:58.070 --> 00:15:59.050
  • - [Chrystal] I can hear Him.
  • 00:15:59.050 --> 00:16:00.130
  • He works all things together for you
  • 00:16:00.130 --> 00:16:01.200
  • that can hold me over a little bit.
  • 00:16:01.200 --> 00:16:02.270
  • I mean, I have a kid who I prayed,
  • 00:16:02.270 --> 00:16:04.170
  • I took him to the altar,
  • 00:16:04.170 --> 00:16:05.220
  • we prayed over him,
  • 00:16:05.220 --> 00:16:06.280
  • the whole situation,
  • 00:16:06.280 --> 00:16:08.070
  • whole and all of that.
  • 00:16:08.070 --> 00:16:09.100
  • God did not do what I wanted Him to do.
  • 00:16:10.210 --> 00:16:12.220
  • He did not fix the thing I wanted Him to fix.
  • 00:16:12.220 --> 00:16:15.210
  • With hindsight being 20/20,
  • 00:16:15.210 --> 00:16:17.250
  • there are a lot of things I could see God did do, right?
  • 00:16:17.250 --> 00:16:21.050
  • So now that faith journey,
  • 00:16:21.050 --> 00:16:23.160
  • while He didn't fix that one thing,
  • 00:16:23.160 --> 00:16:25.070
  • that faith journey seeing, what good did come?
  • 00:16:25.070 --> 00:16:28.040
  • God doesn't waste anything.
  • 00:16:28.040 --> 00:16:29.240
  • 'Cause right now there's a lot of other things
  • 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:31.070
  • I'm disappointed with.
  • 00:16:31.070 --> 00:16:32.230
  • God, you know, I'm hoping You answer these prayer requests,
  • 00:16:32.230 --> 00:16:35.220
  • but if You don't, my history of faith with You says,
  • 00:16:35.220 --> 00:16:39.260
  • even though I don't know how You're gonna work it out,
  • 00:16:39.260 --> 00:16:42.040
  • I can trust You.
  • 00:16:42.040 --> 00:16:43.040
  • - That's right. - That's right.
  • 00:16:43.040 --> 00:16:44.180
  • - Well, and grieving what you hope for, but didn't allow
  • 00:16:44.180 --> 00:16:47.200
  • - Cause He can handle it.
  • 00:16:47.200 --> 00:16:49.070
  • - That's right.
  • 00:16:49.070 --> 00:16:50.140
  • You see that all through Scripture,
  • 00:16:50.140 --> 00:16:51.210
  • drives me crazy that we don't sometimes see
  • 00:16:51.210 --> 00:16:55.100
  • where the saints who've gone before us,
  • 00:16:55.100 --> 00:16:57.080
  • were honest about their disappointment with God.
  • 00:16:57.080 --> 00:17:00.050
  • I said, "I don't get this, I don't understand."
  • 00:17:00.050 --> 00:17:03.090
  • Question that's asked the most often in the Psalms is,
  • 00:17:03.090 --> 00:17:05.260
  • "how much longer do I have to walk through this?"
  • 00:17:05.260 --> 00:17:07.200
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:17:07.200 --> 00:17:08.290
  • - I mean, bold disappointment in Scripture.
  • 00:17:08.290 --> 00:17:12.010
  • - I love that you mention the Psalms
  • 00:17:12.010 --> 00:17:13.080
  • because David was a man after God's own heart.
  • 00:17:13.080 --> 00:17:15.110
  • - Man after God's own heart He was super honest.
  • 00:17:15.110 --> 00:17:16.200
  • - But over and over and over again said,
  • 00:17:16.200 --> 00:17:18.170
  • "I don't get this." - I don't get it.
  • 00:17:18.170 --> 00:17:19.290
  • This is hard. - But I trust You.
  • 00:17:19.290 --> 00:17:21.160
  • I trust You. - Yep.
  • 00:17:21.160 --> 00:17:23.010
  • And sometimes He didn't get to "I trust You" for a while.
  • 00:17:23.010 --> 00:17:25.060
  • - And it's okay.
  • 00:17:25.060 --> 00:17:26.200
  • - Sometimes he said, "I don't want it to be like this."
  • 00:17:26.200 --> 00:17:28.070
  • - Torch my enemies (chuckle)
  • 00:17:28.070 --> 00:17:29.180
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:17:29.180 --> 00:17:32.130
  • - But You are faithful.
  • 00:17:33.180 --> 00:17:34.230
  • - He was born but he doesn't curse God
  • 00:17:35.280 --> 00:17:37.150
  • and I think sometimes,
  • 00:17:37.150 --> 00:17:39.000
  • where I've tried to teach my little girl,
  • 00:17:39.000 --> 00:17:40.260
  • and I certainly am not trying
  • 00:17:40.260 --> 00:17:42.060
  • to put myself in a metaphorical, heavenly parent.
  • 00:17:42.060 --> 00:17:44.130
  • - Oh, go ahead.
  • 00:17:44.130 --> 00:17:45.200
  • - But because I'm an a older mom,
  • 00:17:45.200 --> 00:17:47.180
  • and goodness gracious I've seen
  • 00:17:49.100 --> 00:17:50.200
  • so many mistakes of my own heart and mind
  • 00:17:50.200 --> 00:17:52.290
  • I would've just been a train wreck
  • 00:17:52.290 --> 00:17:54.240
  • had I been a mom earlier.
  • 00:17:54.240 --> 00:17:56.160
  • One of the things that I've noticed with my friends,
  • 00:17:56.160 --> 00:17:58.100
  • who are great moms, including y'all,
  • 00:17:58.100 --> 00:18:00.090
  • is they give their kids a voice.
  • 00:18:00.090 --> 00:18:02.050
  • And so I'm the authority,
  • 00:18:02.050 --> 00:18:04.160
  • if there's just two votes, my vote wins.
  • 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:07.070
  • But she has a vote.
  • 00:18:07.070 --> 00:18:08.030
  • She has a voice - Yeah.
  • 00:18:08.030 --> 00:18:09.110
  • So Missy will often go, "mom I don't like that."
  • 00:18:09.110 --> 00:18:12.120
  • "I don't like that you did that."
  • 00:18:12.120 --> 00:18:14.080
  • Before she even had English,
  • 00:18:14.080 --> 00:18:15.180
  • when she had just speak Creole,
  • 00:18:15.180 --> 00:18:17.040
  • we had one of those little things that have the faces
  • 00:18:17.040 --> 00:18:19.090
  • with the emotions attached to the face.
  • 00:18:19.090 --> 00:18:21.110
  • And I would say, "how do you feel?"
  • 00:18:21.110 --> 00:18:22.170
  • And she'd go
  • 00:18:22.170 --> 00:18:23.270
  • almost always mad.
  • 00:18:23.270 --> 00:18:25.180
  • Mad.
  • 00:18:25.180 --> 00:18:26.150
  • I'm mad because whatever
  • 00:18:26.150 --> 00:18:28.210
  • I didn't have mac and cheese all three meals
  • 00:18:28.210 --> 00:18:30.230
  • or she didn't have more time on the iPad
  • 00:18:30.230 --> 00:18:32.190
  • or whatever it was.
  • 00:18:32.190 --> 00:18:34.010
  • But we would talk through it
  • 00:18:34.010 --> 00:18:35.240
  • and the more she talked,
  • 00:18:35.240 --> 00:18:37.110
  • the more I would see all that disappointment,
  • 00:18:37.110 --> 00:18:39.150
  • anger, frustration just dissipate
  • 00:18:39.150 --> 00:18:41.290
  • from her precious, little body
  • 00:18:41.290 --> 00:18:43.270
  • because she'd go, "my mama cares about me."
  • 00:18:43.270 --> 00:18:46.160
  • It wasn't even that she got her way,
  • 00:18:46.160 --> 00:18:48.060
  • - She would be heard she wanted to be heard.
  • 00:18:48.060 --> 00:18:50.180
  • And so when you say, "we listen to each other."
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:52.230
  • I'm like, "absolutely."
  • 00:18:52.230 --> 00:18:54.080
  • - But I think God wants to hear that.
  • 00:18:54.080 --> 00:18:55.290
  • - That's what I'm saying Yeah.
  • 00:18:55.290 --> 00:18:57.060
  • - We go to God as our Heavenly Father
  • 00:18:57.060 --> 00:18:59.040
  • and go like Job did, "I'm dying here."
  • 00:18:59.040 --> 00:19:02.100
  • I'm disappointed.
  • 00:19:03.140 --> 00:19:04.290
  • I'm sad.
  • 00:19:04.290 --> 00:19:06.110
  • And if we'll really listen to what He says.
  • 00:19:06.110 --> 00:19:09.060
  • C.S. Lewis says, sometimes He doesn't even talk.
  • 00:19:09.060 --> 00:19:11.130
  • Sometimes you receive a no answer from heaven.
  • 00:19:11.130 --> 00:19:14.030
  • But it's not without compassion.
  • 00:19:14.030 --> 00:19:16.060
  • It's as if He's saying, "peace, child."
  • 00:19:16.060 --> 00:19:18.230
  • - [Christine] Right.
  • 00:19:18.230 --> 00:19:19.210
  • - [Lisa] You don't understand.
  • 00:19:19.210 --> 00:19:20.270
  • And I think if we would go to the Lord,
  • 00:19:20.270 --> 00:19:22.190
  • even more than we go to each other,
  • 00:19:22.190 --> 00:19:25.020
  • there is, even in the disappointment,
  • 00:19:25.020 --> 00:19:27.160
  • there's that sense that ultimately,
  • 00:19:27.160 --> 00:19:29.210
  • ultimately, all will be well
  • 00:19:29.210 --> 00:19:31.290
  • and I can lean into His chest and be held
  • 00:19:31.290 --> 00:19:35.280
  • even when I don't understand.
  • 00:19:35.280 --> 00:19:38.000
  • - Sometimes the ultimate way that I know I've trusted God,
  • 00:19:38.000 --> 00:19:40.290
  • is because I stopped talking about it,
  • 00:19:40.290 --> 00:19:43.170
  • because I stop trying to control it,
  • 00:19:43.170 --> 00:19:45.150
  • and moving the pieces or people around,
  • 00:19:45.150 --> 00:19:47.220
  • and because when it wakes me up in the middle of the night,
  • 00:19:49.050 --> 00:19:51.190
  • rather than sitting up,
  • 00:19:55.000 --> 00:19:58.100
  • and allowing it to keep me up,
  • 00:19:58.100 --> 00:20:01.060
  • I remind my mind and my heart,
  • 00:20:01.060 --> 00:20:04.020
  • that I've given it away
  • 00:20:04.020 --> 00:20:05.060
  • and keep doing that until my body decides to cooperate
  • 00:20:06.190 --> 00:20:09.110
  • and I go back to sleep.
  • 00:20:09.110 --> 00:20:10.180
  • Trust means, "You have it"
  • 00:20:11.260 --> 00:20:14.150
  • "And I don't have to."
  • 00:20:14.150 --> 00:20:16.070
  • - I think a lot of people that profess not to believe in God
  • 00:20:16.070 --> 00:20:19.030
  • actually what they harbor is the disappointment
  • 00:20:19.030 --> 00:20:21.140
  • because somewhere along the line,
  • 00:20:21.140 --> 00:20:23.030
  • they prayed a prayer that they don't feel God answered,
  • 00:20:23.030 --> 00:20:25.070
  • and I actually think that a lot of believers
  • 00:20:25.070 --> 00:20:27.090
  • live with this angst and this inner turmoil
  • 00:20:27.090 --> 00:20:30.160
  • of resentment
  • 00:20:30.160 --> 00:20:32.060
  • because they feel somewhere along the line,
  • 00:20:32.060 --> 00:20:34.060
  • God let them down.
  • 00:20:34.060 --> 00:20:35.050
  • If we don't talk about that,
  • 00:20:35.050 --> 00:20:37.030
  • and we don't resolve that internally.
  • 00:20:37.030 --> 00:20:38.230
  • Then we are not gonna believe God
  • 00:20:38.230 --> 00:20:40.130
  • for what He has for us in our future.
  • 00:20:40.130 --> 00:20:42.000
  • So I think that was a very important conversation.
  • 00:20:42.000 --> 00:20:44.240
  • - Have you missed an episode of Better Together?
  • 00:20:44.240 --> 00:20:47.030
  • You can download the TBN app and stream the latest episodes.
  • 00:20:47.030 --> 00:20:50.020
  • - [Christine] There's that side,
  • 00:20:55.000 --> 00:20:56.090
  • the emotional side of the Lord handling it.
  • 00:20:56.090 --> 00:20:58.190
  • I'm thinking about...
  • 00:20:58.190 --> 00:21:00.060
  • Remember the two disciples on the road to Emmaus?
  • 00:21:00.060 --> 00:21:04.170
  • So disappointed.
  • 00:21:05.220 --> 00:21:07.090
  • 'Cause sometimes you can get wallow in your disappointments.
  • 00:21:08.210 --> 00:21:10.090
  • - Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
  • 00:21:10.090 --> 00:21:11.080
  • - But He's like, right here.
  • 00:21:11.080 --> 00:21:13.160
  • - And He let them!
  • 00:21:13.160 --> 00:21:14.220
  • - I'm thinking so many things in my life,
  • 00:21:14.220 --> 00:21:16.230
  • as painful as that disappointment was,
  • 00:21:16.230 --> 00:21:19.130
  • when I look at what other opportunities opened up,
  • 00:21:19.130 --> 00:21:23.250
  • what other appointments opened up,
  • 00:21:23.250 --> 00:21:26.010
  • you go, "well, I wanted this"
  • 00:21:26.010 --> 00:21:28.090
  • I got plenty that I don't understand as well.
  • 00:21:30.030 --> 00:21:32.170
  • So some people were just gonna go to the grave.
  • 00:21:32.170 --> 00:21:35.030
  • You go, "I don't understand, but I trust You."
  • 00:21:36.120 --> 00:21:37.270
  • There's going to be those things
  • 00:21:37.270 --> 00:21:40.060
  • and I have just chosen
  • 00:21:40.060 --> 00:21:41.220
  • that I'm gonna trust that my God is good and does good
  • 00:21:41.220 --> 00:21:44.060
  • even when I don't get it.
  • 00:21:44.060 --> 00:21:46.050
  • And I think that's faith.
  • 00:21:46.050 --> 00:21:47.080
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:21:47.080 --> 00:21:49.020
  • - That's the faith
  • 00:21:49.020 --> 00:21:50.100
  • and we're all gonna have those things,
  • 00:21:50.100 --> 00:21:52.080
  • but I think we're gonna equally have
  • 00:21:52.080 --> 00:21:54.060
  • a great number of things where we're gonna go,
  • 00:21:54.060 --> 00:21:56.070
  • "oh wow, I'm so glad You disappointed me there."
  • 00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:59.030
  • I think when our greatest disappointments happen,
  • 00:21:59.030 --> 00:22:01.050
  • we've got to look back at the faithfulness of God.
  • 00:22:01.050 --> 00:22:03.110
  • We've got to remember that
  • 00:22:03.110 --> 00:22:05.120
  • you know, this too shall pass.
  • 00:22:05.120 --> 00:22:07.020
  • I recently had a huge disappointment,
  • 00:22:08.060 --> 00:22:10.120
  • just blindsided by something
  • 00:22:10.120 --> 00:22:12.180
  • that was just a huge disappointment.
  • 00:22:12.180 --> 00:22:15.090
  • And I wanted God to deal with it one way
  • 00:22:15.090 --> 00:22:17.110
  • and God, in His Sovereignty,
  • 00:22:17.110 --> 00:22:19.040
  • chose to deal with it in another way.
  • 00:22:19.040 --> 00:22:21.080
  • But the thing
  • 00:22:21.080 --> 00:22:22.290
  • I think I've been able to get over a lot it quicker.
  • 00:22:22.290 --> 00:22:26.010
  • Because as I look back over 30 years, I go,
  • 00:22:26.010 --> 00:22:27.230
  • "you know what, Chris, He's never left you."
  • 00:22:27.230 --> 00:22:29.140
  • He's never forsaken you.
  • 00:22:29.140 --> 00:22:30.270
  • And there have been some other big things in your life
  • 00:22:30.270 --> 00:22:34.030
  • that you didn't think you would get through,
  • 00:22:34.030 --> 00:22:36.050
  • you thought it was gonna kill you.
  • 00:22:36.050 --> 00:22:37.210
  • You thought it was gonna be the end.
  • 00:22:37.210 --> 00:22:39.220
  • And God got you through.
  • 00:22:39.220 --> 00:22:40.240
  • And you know what, Chris,
  • 00:22:40.240 --> 00:22:42.000
  • the same God that got your through that,
  • 00:22:42.000 --> 00:22:43.210
  • is the same God that's gonna get you through this.
  • 00:22:43.210 --> 00:22:45.270
  • - Yeah, realize that the disappointment was actually divine.
  • 00:22:45.270 --> 00:22:49.030
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:49.030 --> 00:22:50.040
  • And that our peace
  • 00:22:50.040 --> 00:22:51.200
  • doesn't come with getting our questions answered.
  • 00:22:51.200 --> 00:22:53.190
  • You may never get the "why did this happen?"
  • 00:22:53.190 --> 00:22:55.180
  • "why wasn't my son healed?"
  • 00:22:55.180 --> 00:22:57.070
  • That's not where our peace comes.
  • 00:22:57.070 --> 00:22:58.210
  • That's not where our disappointment dissipates.
  • 00:22:58.210 --> 00:23:00.270
  • Our peace and our disappointment dissipating
  • 00:23:00.270 --> 00:23:03.120
  • come in the presence of God.
  • 00:23:03.120 --> 00:23:05.080
  • Time and Truth walk hand in hand.
  • 00:23:05.080 --> 00:23:06.160
  • You walk with them long enough,
  • 00:23:06.160 --> 00:23:07.240
  • you look back over your life and go,
  • 00:23:07.240 --> 00:23:09.150
  • "I've never seen His back."
  • 00:23:09.150 --> 00:23:11.100
  • "He's always been present with me."
  • 00:23:11.100 --> 00:23:13.070
  • "He's always faithful even when we're disappointed."
  • 00:23:13.070 --> 00:23:16.200
  • "He's still faithful."
  • 00:23:16.200 --> 00:23:18.010
  • - Now let me pray, for all of us, today.
  • 00:23:18.010 --> 00:23:20.150
  • I'mma pray for you and for me.
  • 00:23:20.150 --> 00:23:21.190
  • So Father, I just pray today.
  • 00:23:21.190 --> 00:23:23.080
  • God, that we are willing
  • 00:23:24.040 --> 00:23:25.210
  • to be molded, and shaped, and formed.
  • 00:23:25.210 --> 00:23:29.180
  • And God help us not to complain.
  • 00:23:29.180 --> 00:23:32.130
  • Help us not to murmur.
  • 00:23:32.130 --> 00:23:34.000
  • Lord, help us to trust in You.
  • 00:23:34.280 --> 00:23:37.200
  • Through every tragedy,
  • 00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:39.000
  • through everything we go through, God.
  • 00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:41.160
  • I pray that You help us have our faith strong.
  • 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:44.070
  • Help us to recall the Word of God
  • 00:23:45.120 --> 00:23:48.090
  • and what You have to say over our lives.
  • 00:23:48.090 --> 00:23:50.250
  • Who You say we are.
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:52.160
  • What we are in You, Father.
  • 00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:54.220
  • Help us to proclaim, each and everyday,
  • 00:23:54.220 --> 00:23:57.050
  • that we are the righteousness of God in Christ.
  • 00:23:57.050 --> 00:24:00.090
  • God that we're over comers.
  • 00:24:00.090 --> 00:24:02.160
  • You have made us to over come.
  • 00:24:02.160 --> 00:24:05.130
  • Father, and I love that about You
  • 00:24:05.130 --> 00:24:07.020
  • and I thank You for that.
  • 00:24:07.020 --> 00:24:08.130
  • Lord, help us all today.
  • 00:24:08.130 --> 00:24:10.060
  • See who we are in Christ.
  • 00:24:10.060 --> 00:24:12.070
  • See each other through God's eyes.
  • 00:24:12.070 --> 00:24:15.030
  • The way You view everybody, Father.
  • 00:24:15.030 --> 00:24:17.200
  • We just praise and we worship You today.
  • 00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:19.120
  • In Jesus name, Amen.
  • 00:24:19.120 --> 00:24:21.210
  • - [Announcer] Call the number on your screen
  • 00:24:21.210 --> 00:24:23.020
  • to talk to a prayer partner.
  • 00:24:23.020 --> 00:24:24.220
  • We're here for you 24-hours a day, 7-days a week.
  • 00:24:24.220 --> 00:24:27.280
  • We love you.
  • 00:24:27.280 --> 00:24:29.020
  • And most importantly, God loves you.
  • 00:24:29.020 --> 00:24:30.080
  • - One of the things that I do,
  • 00:24:31.130 --> 00:24:32.280
  • if I've and a really challenging day,
  • 00:24:32.280 --> 00:24:35.050
  • Lisa Harper, is on my speed dial.
  • 00:24:35.050 --> 00:24:38.160
  • I mean, I call that woman so often.
  • 00:24:38.160 --> 00:24:40.140
  • Anyway, but she would be literally,
  • 00:24:40.140 --> 00:24:42.250
  • one of the very first people in the world, on earth,
  • 00:24:42.250 --> 00:24:45.170
  • I could be in another country,
  • 00:24:45.170 --> 00:24:47.030
  • it wouldn't matter if it's day or night,
  • 00:24:47.030 --> 00:24:48.190
  • I have literally called her at 3 o'clock in the morning
  • 00:24:48.190 --> 00:24:51.110
  • because I didn't know that it was 3 o'clock in America,
  • 00:24:51.110 --> 00:24:53.040
  • when I was in another continent.
  • 00:24:53.040 --> 00:24:55.270
  • But I was in such deep pain of something that happened
  • 00:24:55.270 --> 00:24:59.040
  • just recently in the last few months.
  • 00:24:59.040 --> 00:25:01.130
  • You know who you really trust,
  • 00:25:01.130 --> 00:25:03.160
  • when you just pick your phone
  • 00:25:03.160 --> 00:25:04.240
  • without thinking about what time it is
  • 00:25:04.240 --> 00:25:06.120
  • and you just call that person.
  • 00:25:06.120 --> 00:25:08.010
  • For me, Lisa Harper is that person.
  • 00:25:08.010 --> 00:25:10.050
  • - [Laurie] Here's what's happening next time
  • 00:25:11.090 --> 00:25:13.010
  • on Better Together.
  • 00:25:13.010 --> 00:25:14.150
  • - Research shows the average American spends
  • 00:25:14.150 --> 00:25:16.160
  • three to five hours a day watching T.V.
  • 00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:18.150
  • and checks their phone 150 times a day.
  • 00:25:18.150 --> 00:25:21.010
  • So this is what I said at Propel,
  • 00:25:21.010 --> 00:25:22.160
  • we don't have a time problem, we have a priority problem.
  • 00:25:22.160 --> 00:25:25.090
  • - [Laurie] Watch Better Together.
  • 00:25:25.090 --> 00:25:26.130
  • Weekdays, right here on TBN.
  • 00:25:26.130 --> 00:25:28.130
Show timecode
Hide timecode