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Overcoming Loneliness

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July 7, 2019
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In Touch with Dr. Charles Stanley

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Overcoming Loneliness

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  • - Dr. Charles Stanley: When you
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  • trust the Lord Jesus Christ as
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  • your personal Savior, you have a
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  • reason to believe the teaching
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  • of the Word of God that you will
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  • never be, listen, alone again.
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  • I didn't say you wouldn't be
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  • lonely.
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  • But once you trust Him as your
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  • Savior, you're never alone again
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  • no matter what you go through,
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  • what you experience, what you
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  • suffer in life, how good the
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  • - Dr. Stanley: Four decades
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  • ago, we started In Touch
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  • Ministries to lead people
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  • worldwide into a growing
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  • relationship with Jesus Christ.
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  • Throughout the years, we've seen
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  • God's greatness, his love and
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  • his blessings in such awesome
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  • ways that we just want everyone
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  • to know him.
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  • So, let's open God's
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  • - male announcer: Next on
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  • "In Touch,"
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  • - Dr. Charles Stanley: Lonely
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  • people are unhappy people.
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  • They feel insecure, feel
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  • inadequate; they feel restless.
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  • Oftentimes they feel confused
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  • and they tend to waste time
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  • because of feeling lonely,
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  • because their mind is divided.
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  • And when I think about their
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  • responses and how they operate
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  • based on that, they waste
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  • a lot of time.
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  • And a person's lonely, it's hard
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  • for them to concentrate.
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  • Their mind gets divided and they
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  • want to do one thing end up
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  • doing the other.
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  • They find themselves wasting
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  • time wondering about why they
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  • feel the way they feel and who's
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  • going to help them out.
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  • So, a lonely feeling is a bad
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  • feeling.
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  • And so, I want us to look at a
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  • particular passage of Scripture
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  • that you have read many times
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  • probably.
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  • And--but it's a good example of
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  • what Jesus says to us when we go
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  • through those times.
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  • So, I want you to turn to
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  • Matthew chapter eleven for
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  • moment and begin with verse
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  • twenty eight: "Come to Me,
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  • all you who are weary
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  • and heavy-laden.
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  • I'll give you rest.
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  • Take My yoke upon you and learn
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  • from Me, for I am gentle and
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  • humble in heart, and you will
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  • find rest for your souls.
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  • For My yoke is easy and My
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  • burden is light."
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  • This is a word of encouragement
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  • to all of you who feel lonely,
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  • because sometimes you're asking
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  • God where are You?
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  • If You're there, why don't You
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  • speak?
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  • Why don't You show Yourself?
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  • Why don't You do something to
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  • make Yourself known?
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  • And the Lord Jesus says come
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  • unto Me and I will show you the
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  • truth.
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  • I will make Myself known.
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  • I will lift your burden.
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  • I'll take away your loneliness.
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  • I'll be sufficient for any and
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  • every need that you have.
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  • So, when we think about
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  • loneliness, we think about an
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  • emotion that many people are not
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  • only troubled by, but overcome
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  • by.
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  • Do not know where to turn, and
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  • sometimes the things they turn
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  • to are not the things that help
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  • them at all.
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  • And so, what I want to do in
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  • this message is give you some
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  • suggestions of how to overcome
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  • it.
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  • You don't have to live in
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  • loneliness.
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  • That's not the will of God for
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  • us to live in loneliness.
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  • And He is our best friend.
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  • And if you'll think for just a
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  • moment when Jesus was on the
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  • cross, think about this.
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  • When He was on the cross, they
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  • nailed Him to the cross, nails
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  • in His hands, His feet.
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  • It's in those moments He was
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  • paying the price for your sin
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  • and mine.
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  • And most of all facing it
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  • without the Father's presence.
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  • "My God, My God, why have You
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  • forsaken Me?"
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  • If anybody understood
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  • loneliness, Jesus did.
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  • He does not intend for you and
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  • me to live lonely.
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  • When you trust the Lord Jesus
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  • Christ as your personal Savior,
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  • you have a reason to believe the
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  • teaching of the Word of God that
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  • you will never be, listen, alone
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  • again.
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  • I didn't say you wouldn't be
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  • lonely.
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  • But once you trust Him as your
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  • Savior, you're never alone again
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  • no matter what you go through,
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  • what you experience, what you
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  • suffer in life, how good the
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  • times are, you are never alone.
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  • Loneliness, yes, and loneliness
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  • is a plague in our society and
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  • then the world.
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  • We have everything that money
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  • can buy.
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  • We can go anywhere there is to
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  • have fun and somehow loneliness
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  • is like a disease.
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  • Loneliness has plagued us, and
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  • people are looking for a
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  • solution.
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  • So, let's define, briefly, what
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  • we mean by loneliness, listen to
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  • this: Loneliness is a separation
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  • anxiety, brought on by the
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  • feelings of being disconnected,
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  • out of touch.
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  • It is a loss of intimacy, or
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  • belonging, of feeling abandoned,
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  • ostracized, isolated.
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  • That is, something has happened
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  • in your life with somebody, with
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  • your family, whatever it might
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  • be.
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  • It's a disconnect.
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  • And people who have been through
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  • divorce, death, and all kinds of
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  • separations, they understand how
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  • absolutely telling that is on
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  • their mind, their emotions, and
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  • their body.
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  • God does not expect us to live a
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  • lonely life, and yet multitudes
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  • of people are doing just that.
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  • They have everything money can
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  • buy but they're lonely.
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  • And many people think, well, if
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  • I just had this, and if I had
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  • that, or if I had him, or if I
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  • had her, I would be fine.
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  • No, you wouldn't.
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  • There's not anything under God's
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  • creation or all of it together
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  • that can satisfy an emptiness in
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  • your life that only Jesus Christ
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  • can satisfy.
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  • So, let's think about some very
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  • specific ways that you overcome
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  • loneliness in your life.
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  • And the first one is this.
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  • Ask the question, what am I
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  • doing that's promoting
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  • loneliness in my life?
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  • You can be lonely and not know
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  • why.
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  • Now, if some member of your
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  • family passes away, or
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  • separation, divorce, or whatever
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  • we understand that.
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  • But what about that loneliness
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  • that you can't put your finger
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  • on?
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  • What about none of those things
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  • are true, but you're still
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  • lonely, still empty, still
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  • trying to figure out what's
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  • going on in your life.
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  • And so, when you ask the
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  • question, what am I doing that
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  • promotes it?
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  • Listen carefully, something is
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  • promoting it.
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  • Something is promoting
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  • loneliness in your life.
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  • And if you are a child of God
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  • you should not feel lonely.
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  • And if you still feel lonely you
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  • have to ask yourself the
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  • question, what is it about my
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  • thinking?
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  • What am I doing?
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  • What about my relationships
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  • that's leaving me empty?
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  • And so, something is wrong.
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  • Especially if you've ever
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  • trusted Jesus as your Savior and
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  • you're lonely, something's gone
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  • wrong, because you should not
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  • feel loneliness when you have
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  • the presence of Almighty God
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  • living within you who has said,
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  • "I'll never leave you nor
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  • forsake you."
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  • That's the promise of God to
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  • every single believer.
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  • Then of course, ask yourself
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  • this question.
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  • Is this the way I want to spend
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  • the rest of my life and die and
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  • give an account to the Lord for
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  • a life disobedience and waste?
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  • In all these years I have never
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  • met a person who said I used to
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  • be a Christian, I used to go to
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  • church, I used to do this, I
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  • used to do that, but I just
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  • quit.
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  • I've never met a person who told
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  • me that who was happy.
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  • Who would even claim to be
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  • happy, but always something
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  • missing.
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  • "Oh, I don't go to church again,
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  • but I don't do this again but,"
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  • but what?
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  • Still unhappy, still miserable,
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  • still lonely because without
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  • Jesus, think about this, He
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  • created us.
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  • He didn't have to.
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  • He created us; He gave us life.
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  • Why?
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  • In order to indwell us, in order
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  • to so work in our life that we
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  • would praise Him, and honor Him,
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  • and glorify Him, and live for
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  • Him, and reflect Him, and spread
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  • that awesome sense of fellowship
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  • and love with other people.
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  • So, I would ask you this.
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  • If you're one of those persons
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  • who's very happy, do you spread
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  • that around?
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  • When you talk to people about
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  • your relationship to Jesus, do
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  • you give Him credit for being
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  • the answer to your once
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  • loneliness?
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  • Because the truth is without
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  • Him, you don't have it.
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  • You can name anything that you
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  • possess.
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  • Without Him, you're still going
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  • to be lonely.
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  • And so, I say over, and over,
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  • and over again Jesus is the One
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  • that does it.
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  • When you surrender your life to
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  • Christ, here's what happens.
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  • The Bible says you surrender
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  • your life to Christ, Jesus comes
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  • into your life, watch this, He
  • 00:09:41.270 --> 00:09:44.050
  • comes to indwell you through the
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  • Holy Spirit.
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  • And the Holy Spirit, the Bible
  • 00:09:47.100 --> 00:09:48.150
  • says, sealed you, sealed you
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  • forever as a child of God.
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  • You can't be saved, sealed by
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  • the Holy Spirit of God, and then
  • 00:09:57.260 --> 00:09:59.060
  • unsealed.
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  • You may sin against God, and
  • 00:10:01.040 --> 00:10:02.200
  • what happens?
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  • You lose your joy and your
  • 00:10:03.150 --> 00:10:04.100
  • peace.
  • 00:10:04.100 --> 00:10:05.100
  • You get out of the will of God
  • 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:06.240
  • what happens?
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  • Do you lose your salvation?
  • 00:10:07.210 --> 00:10:08.260
  • No, but you lose your peace,
  • 00:10:08.260 --> 00:10:10.140
  • your joy, and your sense of
  • 00:10:10.140 --> 00:10:11.290
  • security; but you don't lose
  • 00:10:11.290 --> 00:10:13.060
  • your salvation.
  • 00:10:13.170 --> 00:10:16.170
  • God has sealed you as one of His
  • 00:10:16.170 --> 00:10:19.070
  • children and has the best life
  • 00:10:19.070 --> 00:10:21.290
  • possible for you.
  • 00:10:21.290 --> 00:10:23.160
  • But if you walk away from Him,
  • 00:10:23.160 --> 00:10:25.150
  • if you choose to go another
  • 00:10:25.150 --> 00:10:26.280
  • route than His route, you're
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  • going to end up lonely.
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  • And as a result, you'll walk
  • 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:31.220
  • away wondering what happened.
  • 00:10:31.220 --> 00:10:33.220
  • What happened is that you became
  • 00:10:33.220 --> 00:10:36.060
  • disconnected, spiritually, with
  • 00:10:36.060 --> 00:10:38.210
  • the very source of life and
  • 00:10:38.210 --> 00:10:41.120
  • that's where most people are
  • 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:42.140
  • living.
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  • So, you ask God to deliver you
  • 00:10:43.260 --> 00:10:46.260
  • from any behavior that would
  • 00:10:46.260 --> 00:10:49.020
  • drag you back.
  • 00:10:49.020 --> 00:10:50.220
  • For example, if you've trusted
  • 00:10:50.220 --> 00:10:51.230
  • Christ as your Savior, you're
  • 00:10:51.260 --> 00:10:54.260
  • going along fine, and all of a
  • 00:10:54.260 --> 00:10:56.110
  • sudden, you find yourself being
  • 00:10:56.110 --> 00:10:57.120
  • lonely for some reason, whatever
  • 00:10:57.120 --> 00:10:59.020
  • it might be.
  • 00:10:59.020 --> 00:11:00.080
  • You got disappointed in
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  • something, whatever.
  • 00:11:01.110 --> 00:11:03.180
  • Be careful not to allow somebody
  • 00:11:03.180 --> 00:11:05.290
  • else to drag you back into the
  • 00:11:05.290 --> 00:11:08.020
  • old lifestyle you were living in
  • 00:11:08.020 --> 00:11:10.270
  • and find yourself once again
  • 00:11:10.270 --> 00:11:13.050
  • empty when it was absolutely
  • 00:11:13.050 --> 00:11:14.240
  • unnecessary.
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  • Listen, loneliness is not
  • 00:11:16.230 --> 00:11:19.140
  • natural for a child of God.
  • 00:11:19.140 --> 00:11:21.210
  • It's natural for the world
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  • because they're not ta connected
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  • to the resource of life, and
  • 00:11:24.060 --> 00:11:25.240
  • joy, and peace, and happiness,
  • 00:11:25.240 --> 00:11:27.000
  • all the rest.
  • 00:11:27.000 --> 00:11:27.270
  • "My peace I give unto you," He
  • 00:11:27.270 --> 00:11:29.160
  • says, "not as the world gives
  • 00:11:29.160 --> 00:11:31.130
  • give I unto you, let not your
  • 00:11:31.130 --> 00:11:32.170
  • heart be troubled."
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  • Not as the world gives because
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  • He knows that's not adequate,
  • 00:11:35.110 --> 00:11:36.220
  • that's not sufficient.
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  • "Come to Me," He says, "and I
  • 00:11:39.070 --> 00:11:41.110
  • will give you rest."
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  • I will give you peace, I will
  • 00:11:43.000 --> 00:11:44.070
  • give you joy.
  • 00:11:44.070 --> 00:11:46.050
  • It's a relationship with Jesus.
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  • Listen, you can have
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  • relationship with the most
  • 00:11:49.230 --> 00:11:50.290
  • beautiful woman, of the most
  • 00:11:50.290 --> 00:11:52.140
  • handsome man, most beautiful
  • 00:11:52.140 --> 00:11:53.270
  • person in the world.
  • 00:11:53.270 --> 00:11:54.290
  • Most wealthy, name it.
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  • Without Jesus, you may try to
  • 00:11:58.020 --> 00:12:01.040
  • get it together, but you can't
  • 00:12:01.040 --> 00:12:02.080
  • get it together because Jesus is
  • 00:12:02.080 --> 00:12:04.240
  • the Great Connector.
  • 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:07.060
  • He's the One who connects us
  • 00:12:07.060 --> 00:12:09.140
  • with Himself and gives us a
  • 00:12:09.140 --> 00:12:11.240
  • sense of joy and peace, and
  • 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:13.280
  • happiness, and not loneliness.
  • 00:12:14.040 --> 00:12:17.040
  • And sometimes you'll meet some
  • 00:12:17.040 --> 00:12:19.000
  • of the happiest people you know
  • 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:20.230
  • who live by themselves.
  • 00:12:20.230 --> 00:12:22.190
  • If having somebody was essential
  • 00:12:22.190 --> 00:12:25.100
  • to being happy and having peace
  • 00:12:25.100 --> 00:12:27.280
  • in your life, that wouldn't be
  • 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:29.030
  • true.
  • 00:12:29.030 --> 00:12:30.250
  • But Jesus, when you surrender
  • 00:12:30.250 --> 00:12:33.080
  • your life to Him, He begins to
  • 00:12:33.080 --> 00:12:35.140
  • live in you, what?
  • 00:12:35.140 --> 00:12:37.000
  • A godly life, and a life
  • 00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:39.100
  • submissive to the Father.
  • 00:12:39.100 --> 00:12:41.070
  • And a life that listens to the
  • 00:12:41.070 --> 00:12:42.230
  • Father.
  • 00:12:42.230 --> 00:12:44.030
  • A life that dwells upon the Word
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  • of God.
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  • That's the difference it makes.
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  • So, ask yourself the question:
  • 00:12:49.160 --> 00:12:51.060
  • Where does all that fit in your
  • 00:12:51.060 --> 00:12:52.090
  • life?
  • 00:12:52.090 --> 00:12:53.230
  • And then, think about this.
  • 00:12:54.220 --> 00:12:57.220
  • Cultivate a new friendship with
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  • somebody who will be an asset in
  • 00:13:01.140 --> 00:13:03.270
  • your life.
  • 00:13:03.270 --> 00:13:06.150
  • Sometimes that's exactly what's
  • 00:13:06.150 --> 00:13:08.050
  • needed to overcome loneliness.
  • 00:13:08.140 --> 00:13:11.140
  • Cultivate a friendship, watch
  • 00:13:11.140 --> 00:13:12.270
  • this, not with someone who could
  • 00:13:12.270 --> 00:13:14.270
  • drag you back down to where you
  • 00:13:14.270 --> 00:13:16.170
  • were, but someone who will lift
  • 00:13:16.170 --> 00:13:19.140
  • you.
  • 00:13:19.140 --> 00:13:20.080
  • Someone who will encourage you,
  • 00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:21.170
  • and someone whose relationship
  • 00:13:21.170 --> 00:13:23.030
  • with Christ is very important.
  • 00:13:23.030 --> 00:13:26.020
  • Someone whose language, whose
  • 00:13:26.020 --> 00:13:28.190
  • lifestyle, whose dress, whose
  • 00:13:28.190 --> 00:13:31.170
  • demeanor, someone that you know
  • 00:13:31.170 --> 00:13:34.110
  • looks like this is what Jesus
  • 00:13:34.110 --> 00:13:36.150
  • would look like.
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  • A genuine friend who doesn't
  • 00:13:38.090 --> 00:13:40.180
  • want something from you, but
  • 00:13:40.180 --> 00:13:42.220
  • someone who's willing to be a
  • 00:13:42.220 --> 00:13:44.110
  • friend to you.
  • 00:13:44.110 --> 00:13:46.020
  • You want to overcome loneliness,
  • 00:13:46.020 --> 00:13:48.020
  • a godly friend.
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  • Somebody who's willing to give
  • 00:13:50.230 --> 00:13:52.020
  • of themselves to you in a godly
  • 00:13:52.020 --> 00:13:53.080
  • way, that will lift us up and
  • 00:13:53.080 --> 00:13:55.080
  • not drag us down.
  • 00:13:55.080 --> 00:13:57.050
  • But He wants us to be strong
  • 00:13:57.050 --> 00:13:58.190
  • enough to reach out to people
  • 00:13:58.190 --> 00:14:01.010
  • who are living down, and who are
  • 00:14:01.010 --> 00:14:03.290
  • lonely, and who need a friend.
  • 00:14:03.290 --> 00:14:06.090
  • But watch this carefully, be
  • 00:14:06.090 --> 00:14:08.140
  • sure you don't listen to the
  • 00:14:08.140 --> 00:14:09.240
  • devil who says, "Well, here's
  • 00:14:09.240 --> 00:14:11.110
  • somebody who needs you.
  • 00:14:11.110 --> 00:14:12.250
  • You can help them.
  • 00:14:12.250 --> 00:14:14.170
  • Just go."
  • 00:14:14.170 --> 00:14:16.080
  • Not necessarily, because some
  • 00:14:16.080 --> 00:14:18.020
  • people will drag you down.
  • 00:14:18.020 --> 00:14:20.150
  • There're looking for somebody
  • 00:14:20.150 --> 00:14:21.280
  • who will agree with them.
  • 00:14:21.280 --> 00:14:23.090
  • They're looking for somebody who
  • 00:14:23.090 --> 00:14:24.200
  • will enjoy the same sin that
  • 00:14:24.260 --> 00:14:27.260
  • they've enjoyed.
  • 00:14:27.260 --> 00:14:29.160
  • That is not freedom, and that is
  • 00:14:29.160 --> 00:14:31.140
  • not healthy.
  • 00:14:31.140 --> 00:14:32.280
  • It's not what God's says you and
  • 00:14:32.280 --> 00:14:34.240
  • I should do.
  • 00:14:34.240 --> 00:14:36.090
  • Sometimes you have to walk away.
  • 00:14:36.090 --> 00:14:38.140
  • God gives us wisdom to who we
  • 00:14:38.140 --> 00:14:40.030
  • can help and who we cannot help.
  • 00:14:40.030 --> 00:14:42.090
  • Or, if we're in a position,
  • 00:14:42.090 --> 00:14:44.070
  • spiritually, to help them.
  • 00:14:44.070 --> 00:14:46.100
  • Or, if our relationship to Jesus
  • 00:14:46.100 --> 00:14:48.270
  • is strong enough, that we can
  • 00:14:48.270 --> 00:14:50.230
  • give of ourselves to them to
  • 00:14:50.230 --> 00:14:52.010
  • help them.
  • 00:14:52.010 --> 00:14:53.210
  • He'll show you who to help.
  • 00:14:53.210 --> 00:14:55.250
  • He'll show you who you can be a
  • 00:14:55.250 --> 00:14:57.200
  • friend to, and who, on the other
  • 00:14:57.200 --> 00:14:59.150
  • hand, with good intentions, will
  • 00:14:59.150 --> 00:15:01.160
  • drag you down.
  • 00:15:01.160 --> 00:15:04.040
  • You think about your children,
  • 00:15:04.040 --> 00:15:05.180
  • think about teenagers, for
  • 00:15:05.180 --> 00:15:06.210
  • example.
  • 00:15:06.210 --> 00:15:08.010
  • What do you say to them, and
  • 00:15:08.010 --> 00:15:09.190
  • your grandchildren?
  • 00:15:09.190 --> 00:15:10.180
  • What do you say to them?
  • 00:15:10.180 --> 00:15:11.200
  • "Watch who you run with, because
  • 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:14.090
  • most of them will want to drag
  • 00:15:14.090 --> 00:15:16.110
  • you down."
  • 00:15:16.110 --> 00:15:17.040
  • "Well, you need to try this."
  • 00:15:17.040 --> 00:15:18.210
  • There're some things in life you
  • 00:15:18.210 --> 00:15:19.220
  • do not need to try.
  • 00:15:19.220 --> 00:15:21.270
  • You need to ask God to give you
  • 00:15:21.270 --> 00:15:23.140
  • wisdom to be able to detect in
  • 00:15:23.140 --> 00:15:26.100
  • someone else's ideas about what
  • 00:15:26.100 --> 00:15:28.230
  • friendship's really all about.
  • 00:15:28.230 --> 00:15:31.230
  • Choose to believe the truth,
  • 00:15:31.230 --> 00:15:34.210
  • that you're not alone, that
  • 00:15:34.210 --> 00:15:35.250
  • Christ is with you every
  • 00:15:35.250 --> 00:15:36.290
  • situation in your life.
  • 00:15:36.290 --> 00:15:39.080
  • You're not alone.
  • 00:15:39.080 --> 00:15:40.180
  • You may feel it, but you're not
  • 00:15:40.180 --> 00:15:42.200
  • alone.
  • 00:15:42.200 --> 00:15:43.290
  • He's always there,
  • 00:15:43.290 --> 00:15:45.090
  • realistically.
  • 00:15:45.090 --> 00:15:47.060
  • He is there, ready to reveal
  • 00:15:47.060 --> 00:15:49.260
  • Himself to you.
  • 00:15:49.260 --> 00:15:51.110
  • Do not believe that you're all
  • 00:15:51.110 --> 00:15:53.000
  • alone, and remember as we said
  • 00:15:53.000 --> 00:15:55.070
  • before, and I say it again on
  • 00:15:55.070 --> 00:15:56.120
  • purpose.
  • 00:15:56.120 --> 00:15:57.130
  • Remember you have the Holy
  • 00:15:57.130 --> 00:15:58.160
  • Spirit living within you.
  • 00:15:58.160 --> 00:16:00.260
  • And when people say, "Well, I
  • 00:16:00.260 --> 00:16:02.010
  • just can't, I just can't be
  • 00:16:02.010 --> 00:16:03.030
  • alone."
  • 00:16:03.030 --> 00:16:04.090
  • What that's saying is, that
  • 00:16:04.090 --> 00:16:06.130
  • emotionally, you are not mature
  • 00:16:06.130 --> 00:16:08.220
  • enough to live alone if you have
  • 00:16:08.220 --> 00:16:11.040
  • to.
  • 00:16:11.040 --> 00:16:11.260
  • And so, what do you do?
  • 00:16:11.260 --> 00:16:12.200
  • You got to have somebody.
  • 00:16:12.200 --> 00:16:14.060
  • Be on guard, be alert, be
  • 00:16:15.030 --> 00:16:18.030
  • careful.
  • 00:16:18.030 --> 00:16:19.060
  • The fire is out there, the traps
  • 00:16:19.060 --> 00:16:21.040
  • are out there, the holes are out
  • 00:16:21.040 --> 00:16:23.110
  • there.
  • 00:16:23.110 --> 00:16:24.090
  • And if you're not careful,
  • 00:16:24.090 --> 00:16:25.190
  • somebody comes along, you need
  • 00:16:25.190 --> 00:16:27.130
  • to ask questions.
  • 00:16:27.130 --> 00:16:30.040
  • Somebody wants to be your
  • 00:16:30.040 --> 00:16:30.290
  • friend, find out who they are,
  • 00:16:32.040 --> 00:16:35.040
  • what kind of friend they are to
  • 00:16:35.040 --> 00:16:36.120
  • somebody else, and who's their
  • 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:37.200
  • friend?
  • 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:39.020
  • If somebody wants to be my
  • 00:16:39.020 --> 00:16:39.280
  • friend, I want to know who their
  • 00:16:39.280 --> 00:16:41.240
  • friend is.
  • 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:43.230
  • Their friend could be most
  • 00:16:43.230 --> 00:16:45.110
  • anybody, so friendship is
  • 00:16:45.170 --> 00:16:48.170
  • absolutely essential to a full
  • 00:16:48.170 --> 00:16:50.130
  • life.
  • 00:16:50.130 --> 00:16:52.010
  • But friendship, first of all,
  • 00:16:52.010 --> 00:16:53.240
  • with the Lord Jesus Christ.
  • 00:16:53.240 --> 00:16:55.210
  • He will show you who you can be
  • 00:16:55.210 --> 00:16:56.220
  • a friend with.
  • 00:16:56.220 --> 00:16:57.250
  • He will show you the person who
  • 00:16:57.250 --> 00:17:00.020
  • needs your friendship for you
  • 00:17:00.190 --> 00:17:03.190
  • to build them up.
  • 00:17:03.190 --> 00:17:05.080
  • And then, I'm going to list some
  • 00:17:05.080 --> 00:17:06.200
  • very practical things besides
  • 00:17:06.200 --> 00:17:09.080
  • those and another one is this.
  • 00:17:09.080 --> 00:17:11.100
  • Make it a priority to read the
  • 00:17:11.100 --> 00:17:12.220
  • Word of God every day.
  • 00:17:12.220 --> 00:17:14.250
  • A priority to read the Word of
  • 00:17:14.250 --> 00:17:16.050
  • God every day and pray.
  • 00:17:16.050 --> 00:17:18.210
  • Now, when you read in the Word
  • 00:17:18.210 --> 00:17:21.100
  • of God what God has said and
  • 00:17:21.160 --> 00:17:24.160
  • desires to speak to you, who
  • 00:17:24.160 --> 00:17:26.120
  • kept--who put this together?
  • 00:17:26.120 --> 00:17:28.060
  • Man didn't put this together,
  • 00:17:28.060 --> 00:17:29.100
  • this is God's Word in order to
  • 00:17:29.100 --> 00:17:31.050
  • teach us how to live, how to
  • 00:17:31.050 --> 00:17:32.240
  • relate to Him, how to be a
  • 00:17:32.240 --> 00:17:34.020
  • friend, how to be a help, how to
  • 00:17:34.020 --> 00:17:35.280
  • have a discerning spirit to know
  • 00:17:35.280 --> 00:17:37.100
  • what's right and what's wrong,
  • 00:17:37.100 --> 00:17:38.130
  • and what's good and not good.
  • 00:17:38.130 --> 00:17:40.160
  • He's given us His Word, and the
  • 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:43.040
  • Word is like fuel in our life.
  • 00:17:44.190 --> 00:17:47.190
  • Keeps us going, spiritually.
  • 00:17:47.270 --> 00:17:50.270
  • And energy within our life.
  • 00:17:50.270 --> 00:17:52.250
  • When He says, "I'll never leave
  • 00:17:52.250 --> 00:17:53.240
  • you nor forsake you."
  • 00:17:53.240 --> 00:17:55.030
  • "I can do all things through
  • 00:17:55.030 --> 00:17:56.040
  • Christ who strengthen me,"
  • 00:17:56.040 --> 00:17:57.100
  • Paul said, so God's given us His
  • 00:17:57.100 --> 00:17:58.250
  • Word.
  • 00:17:58.250 --> 00:17:59.230
  • We should feed upon His Word
  • 00:17:59.230 --> 00:18:01.050
  • every day for the simple reason,
  • 00:18:01.050 --> 00:18:02.080
  • this.
  • 00:18:02.080 --> 00:18:03.150
  • Watch this, you heading the
  • 00:18:03.150 --> 00:18:05.100
  • wrong direction, somebody, but
  • 00:18:05.100 --> 00:18:06.280
  • you're reading the Bible every
  • 00:18:06.280 --> 00:18:07.250
  • day, you can mark it down.
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  • You going to read a passage that
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  • you weren't even looking for,
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  • and your name's going to be all
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  • over it.
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  • And God's going to be warning
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  • you, "Watch out, be careful,
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  • walk away, that is not the right
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  • relationship."
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  • Neglect the Word of God and
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  • you'll fall into traps.
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  • Reading the Word of God and
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  • praying every day, asking God to
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  • give you direction.
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  • Memorize a simple passage in the
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  • Scripture that that you have to
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  • deal.
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  • For example, if I had some need
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  • and I didn't have any idea what
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  • in the world was going on,
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  • here's a passage I'd read.
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  • "My God shall supply all your
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  • needs according to His riches in
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  • glory."
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  • That is, whatever I need, He's
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  • going to provide.
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  • Now, somebody says, "Well, what
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  • about dealing with situations
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  • that can't be changed?"
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  • And I would say accept it, call
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  • on the Lord to help you through
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  • it.
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  • For example, your husband or
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  • your wife dies.
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  • You say, "Well, you're telling
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  • me that I'm not to feel any
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  • loneliness."
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  • No, I didn't say that.
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  • Naturally, when somebody who's a
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  • part of your flesh almost is
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  • gone, you're going to feel it.
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  • But you feel it in the presence
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  • of Jesus.
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  • That if God took that person out
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  • of your life, He had a reason to
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  • take them.
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  • And we can say it was this
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  • disease, that, whatever it might
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  • be, He took them.
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  • He knew that you would remain
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  • alone, and God is going to be
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  • there from the very moment to
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  • remind you, I am with you, I
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  • will never forsake you, no
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  • matter what.
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  • So, naturally, there are periods
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  • and times and trials in life
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  • that you feel it.
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  • But the issue is you decide not
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  • to stay there.
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  • And everybody is going to go
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  • through those times when we lose
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  • loved ones.
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  • Whatever the reason may be, that
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  • loneliness is a loneliness that
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  • God will use to drive us to Him.
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  • When our attitude is right.
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  • Attitude is right, loneliness
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  • can drive us to Him.
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  • And then, I would say to you,
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  • reach out to serve somebody.
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  • There's something about giving
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  • yourself away to people.
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  • Be careful.
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  • Somebody'll take advantage of
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  • that, but you just say, "Lord,
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  • You told us we're to be
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  • servants, I'm willing to help
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  • someone."
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  • Watch this carefully, this is
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  • why the primary issue here is
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  • that the Holy Spirit is living
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  • within you who will direct you
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  • to who you can help.
  • 00:20:41.030 --> 00:20:42.210
  • And so, you have to ask Him for
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  • direction for that.
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  • Seeking fellowship with a godly
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  • person who will challenge you to
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  • be your best, because sometimes
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  • God wants you to be a friend to
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  • someone because He knows they
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  • have a contribution they could
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  • make to you.
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  • They don't want anything from
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  • you, they want to do something
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  • that'll challenge you, grow you
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  • up, mature you, help you,
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  • encourage you.
  • 00:21:03.220 --> 00:21:05.050
  • Those are kind of friends we all
  • 00:21:05.050 --> 00:21:06.070
  • need.
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  • We all had--need the kind of
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  • connection in this life that
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  • builds us up, helps us, enables
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  • us, because doing that makes us
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  • possible for us to do that with
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  • somebody else.
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  • He does not intend for us to
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  • live lonely lives.
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  • Godly people have a connect with
  • 00:21:27.250 --> 00:21:30.250
  • the Holy Spirit who will show
  • 00:21:30.250 --> 00:21:32.210
  • you exactly who you can relate
  • 00:21:32.210 --> 00:21:34.120
  • to and who you cannot relate to.
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  • Somebody says, "Well, that
  • 00:21:36.150 --> 00:21:37.170
  • sounds selfish."
  • 00:21:37.170 --> 00:21:38.130
  • No, it's sounds very, very
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  • important because you have to
  • 00:21:40.090 --> 00:21:42.110
  • make choices in life.
  • 00:21:42.110 --> 00:21:45.020
  • And choices of who your friend
  • 00:21:45.020 --> 00:21:46.140
  • will be is a very, very
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  • significant choice.
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  • "Come unto Me, all you that
  • 00:21:51.260 --> 00:21:53.030
  • labor and are heavy-laden, and
  • 00:21:53.030 --> 00:21:54.100
  • I'll give you rest."
  • 00:21:54.100 --> 00:21:55.180
  • Because He knows the weight, the
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  • weight of loneliness.
  • 00:21:58.240 --> 00:22:00.240
  • It's a heavy, heavy, heavy
  • 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:02.270
  • weight; but God can take that
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  • weight off and give you a sense
  • 00:22:04.280 --> 00:22:06.250
  • of fulfillment and joy in your
  • 00:22:06.250 --> 00:22:08.180
  • heart that only He can give.
  • 00:22:11.060 --> 00:22:14.060
  • And when I think about how
  • 00:22:14.060 --> 00:22:16.090
  • significant it is that Jesus
  • 00:22:16.090 --> 00:22:18.170
  • sent the Holy Spirit into us so
  • 00:22:18.170 --> 00:22:20.090
  • that you and I will never, watch
  • 00:22:20.090 --> 00:22:21.170
  • this, we will never be alone,
  • 00:22:21.170 --> 00:22:24.120
  • never.
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  • Never be alone.
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  • You may feel lonely, never be
  • 00:22:28.080 --> 00:22:29.170
  • alone because He sealed you with
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  • Himself.
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  • You will always have that
  • 00:22:34.230 --> 00:22:36.200
  • connect.
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  • It may get ruffled at times by
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  • your relationships, but that
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  • connection's always there.
  • 00:22:43.070 --> 00:22:46.070
  • Now, you know where you are in
  • 00:22:46.070 --> 00:22:47.070
  • life, you know who your friends
  • 00:22:47.070 --> 00:22:49.010
  • are, I would ask you this.
  • 00:22:49.010 --> 00:22:51.070
  • Are your friends dragging you
  • 00:22:51.070 --> 00:22:52.180
  • down or lifting you up?
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  • Are they looking out for your
  • 00:22:55.140 --> 00:22:56.160
  • best interest or their own?
  • 00:22:57.030 --> 00:23:00.050
  • Are they giving you presents
  • 00:23:00.050 --> 00:23:01.180
  • because they want something or
  • 00:23:01.180 --> 00:23:03.270
  • because they love you?
  • 00:23:04.050 --> 00:23:07.050
  • Are they truly faithful to you,
  • 00:23:07.050 --> 00:23:09.180
  • or just giving you the image
  • 00:23:09.180 --> 00:23:10.250
  • that they are?
  • 00:23:10.250 --> 00:23:13.030
  • Who in your life is a true,
  • 00:23:13.030 --> 00:23:15.020
  • genuine friend?
  • 00:23:15.020 --> 00:23:17.250
  • Who's courting your friendship
  • 00:23:17.250 --> 00:23:20.120
  • who has ulterior motives?
  • 00:23:20.120 --> 00:23:23.070
  • In this day and time, we have to
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  • ask questions.
  • 00:23:25.020 --> 00:23:26.260
  • We have to ask for God's
  • 00:23:26.260 --> 00:23:28.050
  • guidance, and direction, and
  • 00:23:28.050 --> 00:23:29.140
  • leadership in our life.
  • 00:23:29.140 --> 00:23:31.010
  • Then, when He gives you a sense
  • 00:23:31.010 --> 00:23:33.250
  • of mm-mm-mm-mm-mm.
  • 00:23:33.250 --> 00:23:35.250
  • No, no, no, no, no.
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  • You don't ignore that and keep
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  • going.
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  • When God stops you in a
  • 00:23:40.270 --> 00:23:43.020
  • relationship, He's saving you
  • 00:23:43.240 --> 00:23:46.240
  • from disaster.
  • 00:23:47.210 --> 00:23:50.210
  • And so, you listen to Him, you
  • 00:23:50.210 --> 00:23:53.110
  • obey Him, and you have the
  • 00:23:53.110 --> 00:23:55.230
  • awesome joy of having godly
  • 00:23:55.230 --> 00:23:57.130
  • friends who'll build you up,
  • 00:23:59.030 --> 00:24:02.050
  • never tear you down.
  • 00:24:02.050 --> 00:24:03.250
  • Now, think about this.
  • 00:24:03.250 --> 00:24:05.180
  • What is true of you, true of
  • 00:24:05.180 --> 00:24:07.090
  • your children, your
  • 00:24:07.090 --> 00:24:09.010
  • grandchildren.
  • 00:24:09.010 --> 00:24:10.280
  • You want your grandchildren and
  • 00:24:10.280 --> 00:24:12.110
  • your children to choose the
  • 00:24:12.110 --> 00:24:14.020
  • right kind of friends?
  • 00:24:14.220 --> 00:24:17.220
  • They're going to look at you,
  • 00:24:17.250 --> 00:24:20.250
  • who built up my dad or my
  • 00:24:20.250 --> 00:24:22.030
  • mother.
  • 00:24:22.030 --> 00:24:23.230
  • Who built up my--what kind of
  • 00:24:23.230 --> 00:24:25.150
  • folks did my grandparents have?
  • 00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:29.160
  • Life if so entwined, we have to
  • 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:33.000
  • keep our eyes open, and our
  • 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:35.130
  • heart sensitive to the voice of
  • 00:24:35.130 --> 00:24:37.140
  • God, then you'll have awesome
  • 00:24:37.140 --> 00:24:40.050
  • friends that one day you'll meet
  • 00:24:40.050 --> 00:24:42.150
  • in heaven and rejoice together.
  • 00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:45.200
  • Amen?
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  • Father, we love You and praise
  • 00:24:47.060 --> 00:24:48.060
  • You, that You love us enough to
  • 00:24:48.060 --> 00:24:50.100
  • want to be our friend.
  • 00:24:50.130 --> 00:24:53.130
  • I pray the Holy Spirit will sink
  • 00:24:53.130 --> 00:24:55.240
  • these simple truths into every
  • 00:24:55.240 --> 00:24:57.160
  • heart who hears them.
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  • That You would send a warning to
  • 00:25:00.050 --> 00:25:02.160
  • those who're headed in the wrong
  • 00:25:02.160 --> 00:25:04.010
  • direction.
  • 00:25:04.010 --> 00:25:06.020
  • That You'll give strength,
  • 00:25:06.020 --> 00:25:08.050
  • energy, and enjoyment to those
  • 00:25:08.050 --> 00:25:10.160
  • who're walking in Your ways.
  • 00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:13.140
  • Thank You for loving us enough
  • 00:25:13.140 --> 00:25:16.000
  • that we'll know, forever, that
  • 00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:18.020
  • You're always have been, always
  • 00:25:18.020 --> 00:25:20.130
  • will be our very best friend,
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  • - announcer: If you've been
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  • blessed by today's program,
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  • - announcer: What's my role in
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  • the church?
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  • Maybe it's helping those outside
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  • the church get closer to God
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  • while making lasting friendships
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  • or serving those in need while
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  • living and growing with others.
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  • When we share God's love and
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  • support each other, we
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  • participate in the work of
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  • building God's kingdom in our
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  • local community.
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  • Let's do more.
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  • Continue with us as we find our
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  • place in the whole church.
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  • To learn more, go to
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  • - male: --algorithm to the
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  • Eleven point six verses per day.
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  • And that's how you read through
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  • the Bible in a year.
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  • What do you think?
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  • - female announcer: Make
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  • reading through the Bible in a
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  • year easy and rewarding with
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  • "The Charles F. Stanley Life
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  • - Dr. Charles Stanley: Do you
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  • make decisions based on whether
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  • you'll be accepted or rejected?
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  • Or do you respond to God's
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  • commands in your life according
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  • to what you know God teaches in
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  • His Word?
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  • It takes courage to be obedient
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  • to God.
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  • - male announcer: Dr. Charles
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  • Stanley shares his personal
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  • journey of living by faith:
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  • "Courageous Faith: My Story From
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  • - announcer: "In Touch,"
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  • Leading people
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  • worldwide into a growing
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  • relationship with Jesus Christ
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  • and strengthening the local
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  • church.
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  • This program is sponsored by
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  • In Touch Ministries, and is made
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  • possible by the grace of God and
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