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March 10, 2017
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Rich & DawnChere Wilkerson

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  • - Dan Blythe: Hey,
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  • and welcome to "Fearless TV."
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  • I'm Dan and this is Charlie.
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  • And this show's come right out
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  • of the youth and young adults
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  • at Hillsong Church London.
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  • - Charlie Blythe: That's right.
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  • This season is all about
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  • fearless relationships so we'll
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  • be discussing what relationships
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  • look like without fear in all
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  • spheres of your life.
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  • - Dan: Right, we've got some of
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  • our youth and young adults here
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  • so let's meet the fearless
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  • - male: We are fearless.
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  • If fear did not exist,
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  • what would your life look like?
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  • How would you dream?
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  • How would you be?
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  • What would you do?
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  • Where would you go?
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  • That's what it is to be
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  • fearless.
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  • We're a generation that isn't
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  • held back by the fear of
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  • failure, fear of rejection,
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  • or fear of the unknown.
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  • We might not know
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  • what the future holds,
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  • but we know who holds it.
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  • We don't let fear distort our
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  • vision, faith, or dreams, for we
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  • follow the fearless one and we
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  • know that "Perfect love casts
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  • out all fear."
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  • Therefore, we stand bold.
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  • We stand courageous.
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  • We stand victorious,
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  • - Charlie: Well,
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  • we've got another great show
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  • lined up for you today.
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  • - Dan: That's right, we're
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  • gonna jump straight on the back
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  • of what happened last time.
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  • We have got Rich Wilkerson Jr.
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  • and DawnChere.
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  • If you didn't see what happened
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  • last week, you missed out.
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  • But here's some
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  • of the highlights.
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  • - Rich Wilkerson Jr: I love the
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  • idea that healthy things grow,
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  • and so I think that a marriage
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  • should grow.
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  • I think that as we get older,
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  • our marriage should get better.
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  • Now, hopefully, when we're in
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  • our 40s, it's like we're more in
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  • love and our friendship is,
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  • you know, blossoming
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  • - Dan: So as always in this
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  • part where we talk about real
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  • relationships, we separated the
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  • boys from the girls.
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  • So, girls--yeah.
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  • Girls, you got DC with you.
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  • And boys, you got Rich with you.
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  • So we're gonna go straight to a
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  • question that has come in.
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  • Now, someone's emailed this in
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  • and I don't know.
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  • I guess you were expecting it.
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  • Someone's asking this.
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  • There's sayin', "Rich, you did
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  • the wedding of Kanye West and
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  • Kim Kardashian.
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  • Tell us, how did you
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  • end up doing that,
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  • - Rich: Well, yeah, it was a
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  • beautiful wedding, one of the
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  • most beautiful weddings
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  • I've ever been to.
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  • Kanye attended our church a
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  • couple times many, a few years
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  • ago, and we just kind of struck
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  • up a friendship, became friends
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  • and kind of just been friends
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  • for a while.
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  • And so I think when that time
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  • came, we were at their
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  • engagement party.
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  • And when it came time for their
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  • wedding day, they invited us to
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  • be a part of it and so we were
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  • pretty excited to participate in
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  • such a special day with such
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  • good friends of ours.
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  • Yeah, it was cool.
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  • - Dan: Did they ask for any
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  • advice about relationships, any
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  • of that stuff?
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  • - Rich: Yeah, I mean, I think
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  • just in, like, normal, natural,
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  • you know, relationship-wise as
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  • friends do, you know?
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  • You kind of--DawnChere and I've
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  • been married now for 10 years
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  • and so we try to share what we
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  • do know.
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  • But I think they're doin' a
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  • pretty good job.
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  • - Dan: Yeah, yeah, it
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  • definitely looks like it.
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  • What about you, DC?
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  • Right, obviously, you, like,
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  • work with a lot of different
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  • people, a lot of different
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  • girls, all ages, people in
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  • different times in their
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  • relationship.
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  • Like, what are some of the keys
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  • you give them to healthy
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  • relationships?
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  • - DawnChere Wilkerson: Yeah, I
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  • think no matter where you're
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  • from, relationships take work.
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  • It doesn't matter if you grow up
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  • in the most perfect family or
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  • what examples you have in your
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  • life.
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  • Anything that is worth investing
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  • your time and effort into, it
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  • actually takes time to make it
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  • great.
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  • And so the conversations Rich
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  • and I have on the regular, you
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  • know, even 10 years later, and
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  • hopefully, 25, 30, 40 years
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  • later into our marriage is how
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  • can we continue to work to have
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  • a great marriage?
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  • I don't wanna have just a good
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  • marriage.
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  • I wanna have a great marriage.
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  • And it's gonna take my attention
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  • and my focus and my energy, but
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  • it's worth it because
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  • relationships are one of the
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  • greatest gifts that God's given
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  • us.
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  • - Charlie: Love that.
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  • Well, I know there's some people
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  • here that are dying to ask you
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  • some questions so we're gonna
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  • open it up to the floor now.
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  • Eric's already on it.
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  • Look at him.
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  • He's like, "Me first, please."
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  • - Eric: I have a question.
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  • So you said you've been, you had
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  • a long-distance relationship for
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  • over 4 years.
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  • And I wanted to know, like, were
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  • there, like, troubles along the
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  • way, and how did you, like, sort
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  • of combat them?
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  • - Rich: Do you know of a thing
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  • called a long-distance phone
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  • plan?
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  • - Eric: No.
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  • - Rich: Exactly.
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  • You know, we were 17 so this
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  • would have been oh, man, 14,
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  • 15 years ago.
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  • And she was livin' in Louisiana.
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  • I was livin' in Miami.
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  • And yeah, I think that there was
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  • all sorts of challenges,
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  • probably natural challenges,
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  • you know?
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  • A lot of that age group were
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  • kind of discovering who we are.
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  • And so many times, as we're
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  • discovering who we are, we tend
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  • to project who we want someone
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  • else to be.
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  • And so I think, you know, for
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  • me, and I'm gonna let DawnChere
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  • and the girls answer from their
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  • angle, but I think what I had to
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  • learn as a man was that I had to
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  • let DawnChere become who God was
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  • callin' her to be.
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  • And I couldn't try to fit her
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  • into my mold or shape her who I
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  • wanted her to be.
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  • And I also, to let God work on
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  • me.
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  • I think a lot of us in here,
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  • we're probably young.
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  • We're not married yet.
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  • And so many times we get so
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  • fixated on what the other person
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  • is becoming like.
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  • But really, I think the question
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  • we should start with is, "All
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  • right, I need to be the person
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  • I'm looking for is looking for."
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  • So what are you lookin' for?
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  • Okay, someone else is lookin'
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  • for that.
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  • Why don't you start bein' the
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  • thing that you're wanting
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  • someone else to be?
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  • You put that in you first.
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  • And so I think as we develop
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  • we grow.
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  • What were your challenges
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  • goin' long distance?
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  • My God.
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  • - DawnChere: Well, I think the
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  • obvious challenge is that you
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  • don't live near the person that
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  • you're in love with.
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  • - Rich: So we couldn't hold
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  • hands.
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  • - DawnChere: Yeah, we couldn't
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  • hold hands.
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  • We couldn't go to the movies
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  • together, you know?
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  • We couldn't spend time together.
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  • But I think that even in
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  • situations where it's not the
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  • best situation, that you would
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  • choose a different way if you
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  • could, there's always something
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  • good that's being developed
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  • inside of you, you know?
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  • And so I look back.
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  • Even though maybe I couldn't see
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  • it in the moment when we were,
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  • you know, having to pay for
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  • flights to go visit each other,
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  • I look back now all these years
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  • later and I see that it
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  • developed a real friendship that
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  • really is the foundation of our
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  • relationship all these years
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  • later, that I got to get to know
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  • him before my heart was really
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  • attached to him.
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  • I think so often we can run
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  • through the most basic
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  • foundational parts of a
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  • relationship and skip over it
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  • and get to a really serious
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  • place when really, you don't
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  • fully know the person.
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  • And so having to have that phone
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  • pressed up against my ear for
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  • hours, you know, it really made
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  • me get to know him.
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  • We had great conversations.
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  • - Rich: Yeah, and you know
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  • what it is, is that it taught us
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  • how to communicate.
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  • I think so many times, like,
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  • a lot of this generation that we
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  • live in today, it's like, man,
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  • things just go so quick.
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  • And even if you're not a
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  • believer in Jesus, you know what
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  • I mean, like, there's still a
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  • whole lot of consequences to
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  • moving too quick.
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  • Obviously, we believe that God
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  • has a better plan for us.
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  • His plan's not to punish us or
  • 00:07:07.140 --> 00:07:08.150
  • make our life small.
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  • But everything that he has in
  • 00:07:09.250 --> 00:07:10.190
  • the Book, you know what I'm
  • 00:07:10.190 --> 00:07:11.200
  • sayin', it's there to protect us
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  • and to enlarge our world.
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  • But even if you didn't believe
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  • in God, the way that a lot of
  • 00:07:15.110 --> 00:07:17.100
  • people do relationships is in an
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  • unhealthy way.
  • 00:07:18.230 --> 00:07:20.000
  • They move way too quick.
  • 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:20.290
  • They get physical way too quick.
  • 00:07:20.290 --> 00:07:22.210
  • And I think bein' long distance,
  • 00:07:22.210 --> 00:07:24.010
  • it forced us to learn how to
  • 00:07:24.010 --> 00:07:25.010
  • communicate.
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  • Let me just tell ya, as you get
  • 00:07:26.020 --> 00:07:26.220
  • older and older and older, what
  • 00:07:26.220 --> 00:07:27.200
  • you realize about life is that,
  • 00:07:27.200 --> 00:07:29.090
  • like, in a marriage, sex is
  • 00:07:29.090 --> 00:07:31.060
  • awesome.
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  • It's a great, amazing gift from
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  • God.
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  • But that's not what you do all
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  • day, hello, okay?
  • 00:07:34.240 --> 00:07:37.060
  • All these guys are like,
  • 00:07:37.060 --> 00:07:37.270
  • "Really?"
  • 00:07:37.270 --> 00:07:40.010
  • But you don't.
  • 00:07:40.010 --> 00:07:40.230
  • It's like, it's a portion.
  • 00:07:40.230 --> 00:07:42.210
  • But I'm sayin' the rest of it's
  • 00:07:42.210 --> 00:07:43.180
  • real life, and you have to learn
  • 00:07:43.180 --> 00:07:44.200
  • how to communicate with
  • 00:07:44.200 --> 00:07:45.140
  • somebody.
  • 00:07:45.140 --> 00:07:46.040
  • And so many people, they get so
  • 00:07:46.040 --> 00:07:47.080
  • caught up in emotions and
  • 00:07:47.080 --> 00:07:48.090
  • feelings and all this, and they
  • 00:07:48.090 --> 00:07:50.020
  • skip learning how to
  • 00:07:50.020 --> 00:07:51.170
  • communicate, and they move into
  • 00:07:51.170 --> 00:07:52.270
  • holding hands and making out.
  • 00:07:52.270 --> 00:07:54.050
  • And that always helps them
  • 00:07:54.050 --> 00:07:55.240
  • settle arguments quicker than
  • 00:07:55.240 --> 00:07:57.080
  • they needed to be settled.
  • 00:07:57.080 --> 00:07:58.130
  • They haven't learned how to
  • 00:07:58.130 --> 00:07:59.000
  • debate.
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  • They haven't learned how to
  • 00:07:59.150 --> 00:08:00.060
  • discuss.
  • 00:08:00.060 --> 00:08:00.240
  • They haven't learned how to
  • 00:08:00.240 --> 00:08:01.110
  • fight fair.
  • 00:08:01.110 --> 00:08:02.130
  • And so I think so much of our
  • 00:08:02.130 --> 00:08:03.120
  • journey really developed, I
  • 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:04.290
  • think, hopefully, a healthy
  • 00:08:04.290 --> 00:08:05.260
  • relationship that we have to
  • 00:08:05.260 --> 00:08:06.250
  • keep cultivating and working on.
  • 00:08:06.250 --> 00:08:08.070
  • - Charlie: So, Rich, just wanna
  • 00:08:08.070 --> 00:08:09.010
  • touch on what you just said.
  • 00:08:09.010 --> 00:08:10.180
  • It's not about feelings.
  • 00:08:10.180 --> 00:08:11.200
  • So how do you distinguish
  • 00:08:11.200 --> 00:08:12.200
  • between feelings and love?
  • 00:08:12.200 --> 00:08:15.120
  • - Rich: Absolutely, you know, I
  • 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:16.090
  • think--I'll talk to the men here
  • 00:08:16.090 --> 00:08:17.150
  • for a second, especially this
  • 00:08:17.150 --> 00:08:18.270
  • guy over here.
  • 00:08:18.270 --> 00:08:19.180
  • I don't trust him for 1 minute.
  • 00:08:19.180 --> 00:08:21.020
  • No, I'm kidding.
  • 00:08:21.020 --> 00:08:21.250
  • I'm kidding.
  • 00:08:21.250 --> 00:08:22.130
  • I'm kidding.
  • 00:08:22.130 --> 00:08:23.120
  • I'm kidding.
  • 00:08:23.120 --> 00:08:23.290
  • I love you.
  • 00:08:23.290 --> 00:08:25.020
  • I think a big part of life, and
  • 00:08:25.020 --> 00:08:26.280
  • especially as a man, and I'm
  • 00:08:26.280 --> 00:08:27.290
  • sure for girls too, but it's
  • 00:08:27.290 --> 00:08:29.190
  • like are you in love or are you
  • 00:08:29.190 --> 00:08:31.110
  • in lust?
  • 00:08:31.110 --> 00:08:34.000
  • And it comes down to that whole
  • 00:08:34.000 --> 00:08:34.190
  • idea of feelings.
  • 00:08:34.190 --> 00:08:36.020
  • And you know, the Bible gives us
  • 00:08:36.020 --> 00:08:37.070
  • pretty good criteria of what
  • 00:08:37.070 --> 00:08:38.110
  • love looks like.
  • 00:08:38.110 --> 00:08:39.100
  • 1 Corinthians chapter 13:
  • 00:08:39.100 --> 00:08:40.180
  • "Love is patient.
  • 00:08:40.180 --> 00:08:41.050
  • Love is kind.
  • 00:08:41.050 --> 00:08:41.260
  • It does not boast.
  • 00:08:41.260 --> 00:08:42.150
  • It does not envy."
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  • Go through the list of the
  • 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:44.060
  • definition of what love is and
  • 00:08:44.060 --> 00:08:45.260
  • what you'll find out is that
  • 00:08:45.260 --> 00:08:47.010
  • many times, lust is the
  • 00:08:47.010 --> 00:08:48.100
  • opposite.
  • 00:08:48.100 --> 00:08:49.240
  • And so if you say you love a
  • 00:08:49.240 --> 00:08:50.200
  • girl but you're not willing to
  • 00:08:50.200 --> 00:08:51.220
  • wait for her before you engage
  • 00:08:51.220 --> 00:08:53.070
  • in sexual relations, really, it
  • 00:08:53.070 --> 00:08:55.110
  • kinda sounds like you're
  • 00:08:55.110 --> 00:08:56.080
  • impatient, and it sound like
  • 00:08:56.080 --> 00:08:57.070
  • you're probably operating in
  • 00:08:57.070 --> 00:08:58.050
  • lust instead of love.
  • 00:08:58.050 --> 00:09:00.240
  • I think love protects.
  • 00:09:00.240 --> 00:09:02.050
  • Love is kind.
  • 00:09:02.050 --> 00:09:04.000
  • Love does not envy.
  • 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:05.070
  • If your whole life the girl
  • 00:09:05.070 --> 00:09:06.100
  • you're with you're always envy
  • 00:09:06.100 --> 00:09:07.070
  • and jealous, something's wrong
  • 00:09:07.070 --> 00:09:09.030
  • there.
  • 00:09:09.030 --> 00:09:09.240
  • So, DawnChere, how did you know
  • 00:09:13.240 --> 00:09:14.180
  • Rich was the one?
  • 00:09:14.180 --> 00:09:15.260
  • - Rich: My goodness,
  • 00:09:15.260 --> 00:09:16.110
  • talk about it.
  • 00:09:16.140 --> 00:09:19.140
  • It was a struggle.
  • 00:09:19.140 --> 00:09:20.040
  • - DawnChere: I remember being
  • 00:09:20.040 --> 00:09:21.030
  • in high school and talking to
  • 00:09:21.030 --> 00:09:22.270
  • Rich over the phone those first
  • 00:09:22.270 --> 00:09:24.090
  • few months of us getting to know
  • 00:09:24.090 --> 00:09:25.250
  • one another.
  • 00:09:25.250 --> 00:09:26.280
  • And I had never fallen in love
  • 00:09:26.280 --> 00:09:28.080
  • before.
  • 00:09:28.080 --> 00:09:29.140
  • And to be honest with you, my
  • 00:09:29.140 --> 00:09:30.130
  • parents didn't meet each other
  • 00:09:30.130 --> 00:09:31.130
  • till later in life so I wasn't
  • 00:09:31.130 --> 00:09:32.120
  • looking to get into a
  • 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:33.150
  • relationship.
  • 00:09:33.150 --> 00:09:34.120
  • I didn't want to have a serious
  • 00:09:34.120 --> 00:09:35.090
  • boyfriend at the time.
  • 00:09:35.090 --> 00:09:37.050
  • But I just remember just finding
  • 00:09:37.050 --> 00:09:38.230
  • our conversations so often going
  • 00:09:39.100 --> 00:09:42.100
  • to our dreams of the future and
  • 00:09:42.100 --> 00:09:43.230
  • the life that we wanted to live
  • 00:09:43.230 --> 00:09:44.270
  • and just going, "This is the
  • 00:09:44.270 --> 00:09:46.280
  • person that I wanna do life
  • 00:09:46.280 --> 00:09:48.180
  • with."
  • 00:09:48.180 --> 00:09:49.210
  • You really don't know where life
  • 00:09:49.210 --> 00:09:51.110
  • is gonna lead you, you know?
  • 00:09:51.110 --> 00:09:52.210
  • My dad always said it this way:
  • 00:09:52.210 --> 00:09:53.230
  • "You don't know where the bus is
  • 00:09:53.230 --> 00:09:54.200
  • gonna take you, but you get to
  • 00:09:54.200 --> 00:09:56.080
  • decide who is on the bus with
  • 00:09:56.080 --> 00:09:57.200
  • you."
  • 00:09:57.200 --> 00:09:58.240
  • And for me, I didn't know where
  • 00:09:58.240 --> 00:10:00.130
  • I was gonna live.
  • 00:10:00.130 --> 00:10:01.190
  • I didn't know what the future
  • 00:10:01.190 --> 00:10:02.220
  • held for me.
  • 00:10:02.220 --> 00:10:03.200
  • But I knew that I wanted to
  • 00:10:03.200 --> 00:10:04.210
  • spend my life with Rich.
  • 00:10:04.210 --> 00:10:06.040
  • And so it wasn't, like, this
  • 00:10:06.040 --> 00:10:07.130
  • angels-coming-down from-the-sky,
  • 00:10:07.130 --> 00:10:08.270
  • "This is your husband," moment,
  • 00:10:08.270 --> 00:10:11.100
  • but it was a conscious decision
  • 00:10:11.100 --> 00:10:12.120
  • in my heart that I wanted to be
  • 00:10:12.120 --> 00:10:13.280
  • committed to him because love is
  • 00:10:13.280 --> 00:10:15.200
  • a choice.
  • 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:17.040
  • Love is not this emotion or
  • 00:10:17.040 --> 00:10:18.270
  • feeling.
  • 00:10:18.270 --> 00:10:20.030
  • And that should be empowering to
  • 00:10:20.030 --> 00:10:21.130
  • us because we get to choose to
  • 00:10:21.130 --> 00:10:23.260
  • love someone, even when we don't
  • 00:10:23.260 --> 00:10:25.150
  • feel it.
  • 00:10:25.150 --> 00:10:26.210
  • And that's really how we go the
  • 00:10:26.210 --> 00:10:27.130
  • distance in relationships.
  • 00:10:27.130 --> 00:10:29.230
  • We get to choose to encourage.
  • 00:10:29.230 --> 00:10:31.070
  • It doesn't matter if you weren't
  • 00:10:31.070 --> 00:10:32.080
  • raised in a family that
  • 00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:33.060
  • encouraged each other.
  • 00:10:33.060 --> 00:10:34.140
  • You get to choose to encourage
  • 00:10:34.140 --> 00:10:35.200
  • the one that you love, you know?
  • 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:37.090
  • And I love that love is a choice
  • 00:10:37.090 --> 00:10:38.290
  • because it empowers us to create
  • 00:10:38.290 --> 00:10:40.230
  • a great marriage.
  • 00:10:40.230 --> 00:10:42.150
  • - Dan: Amazing.
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  • If you've just tuned in, we're
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  • and DawnChere Wilkerson and all
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  • - Dan: Girls, I feel like
  • 00:11:23.210 --> 00:11:24.070
  • you've got a question
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  • - female: So, practically, how
  • 00:11:27.190 --> 00:11:29.000
  • did you keep your long-distance
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  • - DawnChere: I think there were
  • 00:11:34.010 --> 00:11:34.200
  • a few things.
  • 00:11:34.200 --> 00:11:35.150
  • We took the time
  • 00:11:35.150 --> 00:11:37.100
  • to have conversations.
  • 00:11:37.100 --> 00:11:39.140
  • I think that long distance
  • 00:11:39.140 --> 00:11:40.220
  • sometimes you can go weeks
  • 00:11:40.220 --> 00:11:41.240
  • without talking because
  • 00:11:41.240 --> 00:11:43.070
  • life gets so crazy.
  • 00:11:43.070 --> 00:11:44.150
  • But we made sure that we were
  • 00:11:44.150 --> 00:11:45.280
  • priority to one another.
  • 00:11:45.280 --> 00:11:47.140
  • But then we also prioritized
  • 00:11:47.140 --> 00:11:48.280
  • other things that were in each
  • 00:11:48.280 --> 00:11:50.010
  • other's life.
  • 00:11:50.010 --> 00:11:51.010
  • So I wasn't expecting him to
  • 00:11:51.010 --> 00:11:52.150
  • shove all the other things that
  • 00:11:52.150 --> 00:11:53.270
  • he was working on in life to the
  • 00:11:53.270 --> 00:11:55.160
  • side for me.
  • 00:11:55.160 --> 00:11:56.290
  • No, I wanted to cheer him on in
  • 00:11:56.290 --> 00:11:58.080
  • everything that was in his heart
  • 00:11:58.080 --> 00:11:59.150
  • to do.
  • 00:11:59.150 --> 00:12:00.110
  • And the same for me.
  • 00:12:00.110 --> 00:12:01.210
  • And so I think in a
  • 00:12:01.210 --> 00:12:02.200
  • long-distance relationship you
  • 00:12:02.200 --> 00:12:03.230
  • have to love each other, support
  • 00:12:03.230 --> 00:12:05.120
  • each other, but also understand
  • 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:06.240
  • that there are time changes and
  • 00:12:06.240 --> 00:12:08.210
  • there are different
  • 00:12:08.210 --> 00:12:09.170
  • restrictions.
  • 00:12:09.170 --> 00:12:10.160
  • And you just gotta go with the
  • 00:12:10.160 --> 00:12:11.190
  • flow and be flexible.
  • 00:12:11.190 --> 00:12:12.280
  • I think in any season of a
  • 00:12:12.280 --> 00:12:14.080
  • relationship flexibility is so
  • 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:16.000
  • key.
  • 00:12:16.000 --> 00:12:17.020
  • Like, if you're gonna be rigid
  • 00:12:17.020 --> 00:12:18.130
  • and, "It's my way or the
  • 00:12:18.130 --> 00:12:19.140
  • highway," you're gonna find
  • 00:12:19.140 --> 00:12:21.040
  • yourself in a difficult and
  • 00:12:21.040 --> 00:12:22.170
  • unhappy position.
  • 00:12:22.170 --> 00:12:24.070
  • But if you decide to prefer one
  • 00:12:24.070 --> 00:12:25.190
  • another, and if you decide to
  • 00:12:25.190 --> 00:12:26.230
  • take the time, you know, and to
  • 00:12:26.230 --> 00:12:28.030
  • understand that his schedule
  • 00:12:28.030 --> 00:12:29.080
  • might not be just like mine, you
  • 00:12:29.080 --> 00:12:31.070
  • know, then I think it creates an
  • 00:12:31.070 --> 00:12:32.200
  • atmosphere for you to thrive.
  • 00:12:32.200 --> 00:12:34.150
  • And then also in a long-distance
  • 00:12:34.150 --> 00:12:35.250
  • relationship I think it's
  • 00:12:35.250 --> 00:12:37.120
  • important to have other voices
  • 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:38.110
  • in your life.
  • 00:12:38.110 --> 00:12:39.160
  • I think that having people that
  • 00:12:39.160 --> 00:12:41.240
  • have a really healthy
  • 00:12:41.240 --> 00:12:43.210
  • relationship that you look up
  • 00:12:43.210 --> 00:12:44.270
  • to, that you can look at and go,
  • 00:12:44.270 --> 00:12:46.240
  • "I want that marriage.
  • 00:12:46.240 --> 00:12:48.120
  • I want that kind of
  • 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:49.020
  • relationship.
  • 00:12:49.020 --> 00:12:49.270
  • They love each other and they've
  • 00:12:49.270 --> 00:12:50.220
  • been together for decades and
  • 00:12:50.220 --> 00:12:52.020
  • it's still workin' for them."
  • 00:12:52.020 --> 00:12:53.200
  • And so I had a few people in my
  • 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:55.060
  • life and so did Rich, that even
  • 00:12:55.060 --> 00:12:57.100
  • at 17, 18 years old, we could go
  • 00:12:57.100 --> 00:12:59.180
  • to and be honest and say, "We're
  • 00:12:59.180 --> 00:13:01.080
  • arguing about this, and I don't
  • 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:02.280
  • wanna talk about it anymore, and
  • 00:13:02.280 --> 00:13:04.170
  • there's no resolution."
  • 00:13:04.170 --> 00:13:06.070
  • And they could go, "Well, have
  • 00:13:06.070 --> 00:13:07.110
  • you looked at it this way?
  • 00:13:07.110 --> 00:13:09.080
  • Have you thought of it this
  • 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:10.020
  • way?"
  • 00:13:10.020 --> 00:13:10.280
  • And I think it's important to
  • 00:13:10.280 --> 00:13:11.220
  • have voices in our life.
  • 00:13:11.220 --> 00:13:13.150
  • You can't have a successful
  • 00:13:13.150 --> 00:13:14.220
  • relationship just the two of
  • 00:13:14.220 --> 00:13:15.220
  • you.
  • 00:13:15.220 --> 00:13:16.140
  • You've gotta have wisdom.
  • 00:13:16.140 --> 00:13:17.040
  • - Rich: I think on the back end
  • 00:13:17.040 --> 00:13:17.280
  • of that, you know, in terms of,
  • 00:13:17.280 --> 00:13:18.220
  • I think it's always amazing
  • 00:13:18.220 --> 00:13:19.170
  • where people will go to get
  • 00:13:19.170 --> 00:13:20.150
  • their advice from?
  • 00:13:20.150 --> 00:13:21.220
  • You know, one of the most basic
  • 00:13:21.220 --> 00:13:22.130
  • things you need to do when you
  • 00:13:22.130 --> 00:13:23.210
  • get advice from somebody is get
  • 00:13:23.210 --> 00:13:24.220
  • advice from somebody who you
  • 00:13:24.220 --> 00:13:25.270
  • wanna actually be like.
  • 00:13:25.270 --> 00:13:28.030
  • Meaning, don't get financial
  • 00:13:28.030 --> 00:13:29.010
  • advice from the guy who can't
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  • hold a job, okay?
  • 00:13:30.060 --> 00:13:31.180
  • Like, and don't go to your uncle
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  • who's been divorced three times
  • 00:13:32.250 --> 00:13:33.270
  • to get, you know, relationship
  • 00:13:33.270 --> 00:13:35.030
  • advice.
  • 00:13:35.030 --> 00:13:35.200
  • He doesn't know, okay?
  • 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:36.270
  • He's a good guy, but he's not
  • 00:13:36.270 --> 00:13:37.220
  • the guy you want counsel from.
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  • You wanna look at people's fruit
  • 00:13:39.150 --> 00:13:40.200
  • in their life and go, "That's
  • 00:13:40.200 --> 00:13:41.290
  • the fruit I want in my life."
  • 00:13:41.290 --> 00:13:42.260
  • So what is their root that's
  • 00:13:42.260 --> 00:13:45.030
  • producing that type of fruit?
  • 00:13:45.030 --> 00:13:46.220
  • And I think when it comes to
  • 00:13:46.220 --> 00:13:47.190
  • relationships--I love this idea
  • 00:13:47.190 --> 00:13:48.180
  • we're talkin' about fearless
  • 00:13:48.180 --> 00:13:49.110
  • relationships because really, in
  • 00:13:49.110 --> 00:13:51.030
  • every relationship, with your
  • 00:13:51.030 --> 00:13:52.090
  • friends, boyfriend, girlfriend,
  • 00:13:52.090 --> 00:13:53.210
  • mom, dad, sons, daughters,
  • 00:13:53.210 --> 00:13:55.200
  • husband, wife, really what it
  • 00:13:55.200 --> 00:13:57.000
  • always comes down to is that you
  • 00:13:57.000 --> 00:13:58.240
  • have to give instead of trying
  • 00:13:58.240 --> 00:14:01.020
  • to focus on getting.
  • 00:14:01.020 --> 00:14:03.020
  • It's always about what you give.
  • 00:14:03.020 --> 00:14:04.230
  • And the reason why we operate in
  • 00:14:04.230 --> 00:14:05.270
  • fear is because we're afraid
  • 00:14:05.270 --> 00:14:07.060
  • that we're gonna give and not
  • 00:14:07.060 --> 00:14:08.210
  • get back.
  • 00:14:08.210 --> 00:14:10.160
  • But the only way that you'll
  • 00:14:10.160 --> 00:14:12.020
  • ever have a healthy relationship
  • 00:14:12.020 --> 00:14:13.150
  • is when you're not focused on
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  • what the other person's gonna
  • 00:14:14.290 --> 00:14:16.010
  • give but when you focus on,
  • 00:14:16.010 --> 00:14:16.290
  • "What am I gonna give?
  • 00:14:16.290 --> 00:14:18.090
  • Who am I gonna be?
  • 00:14:18.090 --> 00:14:19.220
  • And as I give, I'm gonna trust
  • 00:14:19.220 --> 00:14:20.240
  • that I'm gonna see the return
  • 00:14:20.240 --> 00:14:22.040
  • I'm lookin' for."
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  • - Dan: That's very good, mate,
  • 00:14:23.250 --> 00:14:24.140
  • very good.
  • 00:14:24.140 --> 00:14:27.070
  • We're gonna continue chatting
  • 00:14:27.070 --> 00:14:27.280
  • to Rich and DC.
  • 00:14:27.280 --> 00:14:29.210
  • But before we do that, why don't
  • 00:14:29.210 --> 00:14:30.150
  • you check out this?
  • 00:14:30.150 --> 00:14:31.130
  • This is called "Awkward," where
  • 00:14:31.130 --> 00:14:32.090
  • people face their fears
  • 00:14:32.090 --> 00:14:33.050
  • - Joey: Hello, I'm Joey.
  • 00:14:37.140 --> 00:14:38.250
  • - Bonito: I'm Bonito.
  • 00:14:38.250 --> 00:14:39.230
  • - Joey: And this is "Awkward."
  • 00:14:39.230 --> 00:14:41.160
  • "Awkward" is all about going
  • 00:14:41.160 --> 00:14:42.100
  • into the world and facing
  • 00:14:42.100 --> 00:14:43.150
  • the fear--
  • 00:14:43.150 --> 00:14:44.060
  • - both: Of mankind.
  • 00:14:44.060 --> 00:14:45.020
  • - Bonito: That's right, Joey.
  • 00:14:45.020 --> 00:14:45.200
  • And today we're gonna do a few
  • 00:14:45.200 --> 00:14:46.190
  • challenges and have a bit of
  • 00:14:46.190 --> 00:14:47.140
  • fun.
  • 00:14:47.140 --> 00:14:48.030
  • We're not gonna take ourselves
  • 00:14:48.030 --> 00:14:48.210
  • too seriously.
  • 00:14:48.210 --> 00:14:49.170
  • - Joey: I love it.
  • 00:14:49.170 --> 00:14:50.070
  • - Bonito: I love that though.
  • 00:14:50.070 --> 00:14:51.040
  • - Joey: But you know what's a
  • 00:14:51.040 --> 00:14:51.230
  • little bit too serious, Bonito?
  • 00:14:51.230 --> 00:14:52.160
  • - Bonito: What's that, Joey?
  • 00:14:52.160 --> 00:14:53.110
  • - Joey: A handshake.
  • 00:14:53.110 --> 00:14:54.090
  • - Bonito: That's way too formal
  • 00:14:54.090 --> 00:14:54.280
  • for me.
  • 00:14:54.280 --> 00:14:55.130
  • I prefer a hug to bring in love.
  • 00:14:55.130 --> 00:14:57.190
  • There you go.
  • 00:14:57.190 --> 00:14:58.220
  • - Joey: Amazing.
  • 00:14:58.220 --> 00:14:59.120
  • - Bonito: Yes.
  • 00:14:59.120 --> 00:14:59.270
  • - Joey: But you know what
  • 00:14:59.270 --> 00:15:00.270
  • trumps it all, mate?
  • 00:15:00.270 --> 00:15:01.230
  • - Bonito: What trumps it all?
  • 00:15:01.230 --> 00:15:02.140
  • - Joey: I'll tell you in a bit.
  • 00:15:02.140 --> 00:15:03.030
  • But first, we are sponsored by
  • 00:15:03.030 --> 00:15:05.270
  • Harva--
  • 00:15:05.270 --> 00:15:07.020
  • - Bonito: Clothing.
  • 00:15:07.020 --> 00:15:08.010
  • - Joey: Amazing.
  • 00:15:08.010 --> 00:15:08.240
  • Now, fear is a lie.
  • 00:15:08.240 --> 00:15:09.190
  • It's true.
  • 00:15:09.190 --> 00:15:11.200
  • Thank you very much.
  • 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:12.060
  • One of our contestants will be
  • 00:15:12.060 --> 00:15:13.130
  • in a chance to winning one of
  • 00:15:13.130 --> 00:15:14.230
  • these garments.
  • 00:15:14.230 --> 00:15:16.180
  • They're exclusive, mate.
  • 00:15:16.180 --> 00:15:17.140
  • - Bonito: That's right, Joey.
  • 00:15:17.140 --> 00:15:18.030
  • And about our contestants, why
  • 00:15:18.030 --> 00:15:18.250
  • don't we introduce who the
  • 00:15:18.250 --> 00:15:19.230
  • contestants are?
  • 00:15:19.230 --> 00:15:20.160
  • - Joey: That's right.
  • 00:15:20.160 --> 00:15:21.040
  • - Bonito: We have our kids'
  • 00:15:21.040 --> 00:15:21.250
  • pastors, Alex and Rich.
  • 00:15:21.250 --> 00:15:22.230
  • Bring it in, guys.
  • 00:15:22.230 --> 00:15:23.080
  • Yes, yes.
  • 00:15:23.080 --> 00:15:24.050
  • - Joey: Hello, guys.
  • 00:15:24.050 --> 00:15:25.180
  • Oh, yes, I love it.
  • 00:15:25.180 --> 00:15:28.030
  • Are you guy good?
  • 00:15:28.030 --> 00:15:29.020
  • - Alex: Yeah.
  • 00:15:29.020 --> 00:15:29.170
  • - Joey: So you've been married
  • 00:15:29.170 --> 00:15:30.130
  • for about a year now.
  • 00:15:30.130 --> 00:15:31.280
  • - Rachel: That's correct.
  • 00:15:31.280 --> 00:15:32.170
  • - Bonito: Would you say that
  • 00:15:32.170 --> 00:15:33.080
  • there's any awkward moments in
  • 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:34.060
  • marriage?
  • 00:15:34.060 --> 00:15:34.220
  • - Rachel: Every day.
  • 00:15:34.220 --> 00:15:35.110
  • - Bonito: Oh my goodness.
  • 00:15:35.110 --> 00:15:36.280
  • - Rachel: Yeah.
  • 00:15:36.280 --> 00:15:37.130
  • - Joey: Okay, that gives me
  • 00:15:37.130 --> 00:15:38.020
  • hope.
  • 00:15:38.020 --> 00:15:38.190
  • That gives me hope.
  • 00:15:38.190 --> 00:15:39.210
  • Amazing, well, I think today
  • 00:15:39.210 --> 00:15:40.130
  • we're gonna take it to a whole
  • 00:15:40.130 --> 00:15:41.270
  • 'nother level.
  • 00:15:41.270 --> 00:15:42.160
  • - Bonito: Whole 'nother level.
  • 00:15:42.160 --> 00:15:43.060
  • - Rich: Ah, we're ready.
  • 00:15:43.060 --> 00:15:43.280
  • - Joey: Now, like me and Bonito
  • 00:15:43.280 --> 00:15:44.210
  • said, I love a good handshake,
  • 00:15:44.210 --> 00:15:46.220
  • but it's a little bit too
  • 00:15:46.220 --> 00:15:47.170
  • serious.
  • 00:15:47.170 --> 00:15:48.230
  • Hugs are really good.
  • 00:15:48.230 --> 00:15:50.200
  • - Bonito: But Joey, it's all
  • 00:15:50.200 --> 00:15:51.090
  • about the high five.
  • 00:15:51.090 --> 00:15:53.280
  • - Joey: Oh, that's a bit
  • 00:15:53.280 --> 00:15:54.160
  • awkward.
  • 00:15:54.160 --> 00:15:55.040
  • That's your challenge for today.
  • 00:15:55.040 --> 00:15:56.210
  • We need to get as many awkward
  • 00:15:56.210 --> 00:15:57.270
  • high fives as possible here at
  • 00:15:57.270 --> 00:16:00.040
  • Trafalgar Square.
  • 00:16:00.040 --> 00:16:01.130
  • - Joey: Okay, here we go.
  • 00:16:04.100 --> 00:16:05.050
  • - Alex: Hello,
  • 00:16:10.050 --> 00:16:10.200
  • can I get a high five?
  • 00:16:10.200 --> 00:16:11.270
  • - male: What?
  • 00:16:11.270 --> 00:16:12.130
  • - Alex: Can I high five?
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:13.150
  • No?
  • 00:16:13.150 --> 00:16:14.170
  • Just a little high five?
  • 00:16:14.170 --> 00:16:17.060
  • No, you're not?
  • 00:16:17.060 --> 00:16:18.000
  • Here, high five?
  • 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:19.250
  • - Alex: High five?
  • 00:16:19.250 --> 00:16:21.070
  • No high five?
  • 00:16:21.070 --> 00:16:23.060
  • Yeah, thank you.
  • 00:16:24.030 --> 00:16:27.030
  • - male: What's happening?
  • 00:16:27.220 --> 00:16:30.220
  • Can I get a high five?
  • 00:16:35.280 --> 00:16:37.060
  • - Rachel: Hey,
  • 00:16:44.070 --> 00:16:44.290
  • can I get a high five?
  • 00:16:44.290 --> 00:16:46.160
  • Aww, we missed,
  • 00:16:46.160 --> 00:16:47.220
  • aw, just great then.
  • 00:16:47.220 --> 00:16:48.250
  • - Rachel: Hi,
  • 00:16:52.260 --> 00:16:53.170
  • can I get a high five?
  • 00:16:53.170 --> 00:16:55.250
  • Oh, thanks.
  • 00:16:55.250 --> 00:16:57.280
  • Can I get a high five, guys?
  • 00:16:57.280 --> 00:16:59.260
  • Oh, did I scare you?
  • 00:16:59.260 --> 00:17:01.090
  • Oh, can I have a high five?
  • 00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:04.120
  • - Rachel: Quickly*,
  • 00:17:07.240 --> 00:17:08.100
  • can I get a high five?
  • 00:17:08.100 --> 00:17:09.150
  • Whoa, whoa, do you feel that?
  • 00:17:09.150 --> 00:17:11.110
  • There's like a wall,
  • 00:17:11.110 --> 00:17:12.110
  • a wall between us.
  • 00:17:12.110 --> 00:17:14.150
  • Try again.
  • 00:17:14.150 --> 00:17:16.100
  • Whoa, ahh,
  • 00:17:16.100 --> 00:17:18.160
  • - Rachel: Thanks,
  • 00:17:22.030 --> 00:17:22.200
  • could I have a high five?
  • 00:17:22.200 --> 00:17:25.140
  • Oh, so, and again.
  • 00:17:25.140 --> 00:17:28.030
  • Oh, thanks.
  • 00:17:28.030 --> 00:17:29.230
  • - Joey: Oh my gosh.
  • 00:17:37.020 --> 00:17:38.040
  • - Bonito: Joey,
  • 00:17:38.040 --> 00:17:38.190
  • that was amazing.
  • 00:17:38.190 --> 00:17:39.060
  • - Joey: That was incredible.
  • 00:17:39.060 --> 00:17:39.250
  • - Bonito: That was incredible.
  • 00:17:39.250 --> 00:17:40.140
  • - Joey: Let's just get them in.
  • 00:17:40.140 --> 00:17:41.030
  • - Bonito: Let's bring 'em in,
  • 00:17:41.030 --> 00:17:41.210
  • guys.
  • 00:17:41.210 --> 00:17:42.030
  • C'mon, Alex.
  • 00:17:42.030 --> 00:17:42.190
  • So awkward.
  • 00:17:42.190 --> 00:17:43.140
  • - Alex: So awkward,
  • 00:17:43.140 --> 00:17:44.220
  • it's horrible.
  • 00:17:44.220 --> 00:17:45.220
  • - Joey: You guys did so well.
  • 00:17:45.220 --> 00:17:48.090
  • - Bonito: They did good.
  • 00:17:48.090 --> 00:17:49.000
  • - Rachel: Thank you.
  • 00:17:49.000 --> 00:17:49.180
  • - Joey: That was really good.
  • 00:17:49.180 --> 00:17:50.080
  • - Rachel: Thank you so much.
  • 00:17:50.080 --> 00:17:50.280
  • - Joey: Hey, hey,
  • 00:17:50.280 --> 00:17:52.030
  • are you a Jedi?
  • 00:17:52.030 --> 00:17:53.160
  • - Alex: No.
  • 00:17:53.160 --> 00:17:54.100
  • - Joey: 'Cause you're
  • 00:17:54.100 --> 00:17:54.260
  • the loser.
  • 00:17:54.260 --> 00:17:56.020
  • - Rachel: Hey!
  • 00:17:56.020 --> 00:17:56.230
  • - Joey: That was so funny.
  • 00:17:56.230 --> 00:17:57.260
  • - Bonito: That was a funny one,
  • 00:17:57.260 --> 00:17:58.160
  • man.
  • 00:17:58.160 --> 00:17:59.010
  • - Joey: Oh my gosh.
  • 00:17:59.010 --> 00:17:59.190
  • - Bonito: Okay, we find out
  • 00:17:59.190 --> 00:18:00.100
  • who the winner is, Joey,
  • 00:18:00.100 --> 00:18:01.020
  • of this challenge.
  • 00:18:01.020 --> 00:18:01.180
  • - Joey: That's the whole point.
  • 00:18:01.180 --> 00:18:03.060
  • - Bonito: The winner wins a
  • 00:18:03.060 --> 00:18:04.180
  • Harva tee shirt, exclusively--
  • 00:18:04.180 --> 00:18:06.010
  • - Joey: Yes.
  • 00:18:06.010 --> 00:18:07.200
  • - Alex: I want that.
  • 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:08.090
  • - Joey: Yoda-licious,
  • 00:18:08.090 --> 00:18:08.280
  • Harva-licious, it's incredible.
  • 00:18:08.280 --> 00:18:10.010
  • - Bonito: So, c'mon,
  • 00:18:10.010 --> 00:18:10.230
  • who is the winner, Joey.
  • 00:18:10.230 --> 00:18:11.170
  • Who are we givin' it to today?
  • 00:18:11.170 --> 00:18:13.250
  • - both: It's Rachel!
  • 00:18:13.250 --> 00:18:15.260
  • - Bonito: It's Rach.
  • 00:18:15.260 --> 00:18:16.140
  • There you go.
  • 00:18:16.140 --> 00:18:18.090
  • - Joey: That was amazing.
  • 00:18:18.090 --> 00:18:18.250
  • Both of you had some pretty good
  • 00:18:18.250 --> 00:18:19.240
  • moments, but Rachel, you truly
  • 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:22.060
  • proved that you can go into the
  • 00:18:22.060 --> 00:18:24.100
  • world and face your fear of
  • 00:18:24.100 --> 00:18:25.150
  • mankind.
  • 00:18:25.150 --> 00:18:26.180
  • - Alex: Well done.
  • 00:18:26.180 --> 00:18:27.130
  • - Joey: That's amazing.
  • 00:18:27.130 --> 00:18:28.030
  • - Dan: So, Rich and DC, I don't
  • 00:18:33.190 --> 00:18:35.110
  • know who wants to answer this
  • 00:18:35.110 --> 00:18:36.170
  • one first.
  • 00:18:36.170 --> 00:18:37.170
  • It's one someone just emailed in
  • 00:18:37.170 --> 00:18:38.250
  • and they said, "How do you deal
  • 00:18:38.250 --> 00:18:40.080
  • with the difficulties of life?
  • 00:18:40.080 --> 00:18:42.050
  • Have you ever had to overcome
  • 00:18:42.050 --> 00:18:43.060
  • anything big, any big challenges
  • 00:18:43.060 --> 00:18:45.130
  • together that have tested your
  • 00:18:45.130 --> 00:18:46.230
  • relationship?"
  • 00:18:46.230 --> 00:18:48.140
  • - Rich: Yeah, I think there's
  • 00:18:48.140 --> 00:18:49.200
  • been a lot of different series.
  • 00:18:49.200 --> 00:18:51.030
  • Some when we were, you know,
  • 00:18:51.030 --> 00:18:53.020
  • before we were married.
  • 00:18:53.020 --> 00:18:54.160
  • I grew up in a home where my
  • 00:18:54.160 --> 00:18:56.150
  • little brother at 6 months of
  • 00:18:56.150 --> 00:18:57.290
  • age was misdiagnosed with spinal
  • 00:18:57.290 --> 00:18:59.040
  • meningitis,
  • 00:18:59.040 --> 00:19:00.170
  • ended up takin' his life.
  • 00:19:00.170 --> 00:19:01.140
  • By the grace of God,
  • 00:19:01.140 --> 00:19:02.030
  • after 10 minutes
  • 00:19:02.030 --> 00:19:02.230
  • of not breathing he was revived.
  • 00:19:02.230 --> 00:19:04.240
  • And doctors said he would
  • 00:19:04.240 --> 00:19:05.190
  • never walk, talk, see, hear,
  • 00:19:05.190 --> 00:19:07.000
  • and he somehow overcame
  • 00:19:07.000 --> 00:19:09.060
  • all of those challenges.
  • 00:19:09.060 --> 00:19:10.050
  • It was miraculous, but he
  • 00:19:10.050 --> 00:19:11.020
  • suffered severe brain damage.
  • 00:19:11.020 --> 00:19:12.100
  • And so we grew up in a home with
  • 00:19:12.100 --> 00:19:13.210
  • a special needs little brother
  • 00:19:13.210 --> 00:19:15.150
  • and child and I think there was
  • 00:19:15.150 --> 00:19:17.080
  • all sorts of obstacles
  • 00:19:17.080 --> 00:19:18.060
  • that I saw in all that.
  • 00:19:18.060 --> 00:19:19.200
  • But what I've learned about God
  • 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:20.240
  • is that oftentimes, every
  • 00:19:20.240 --> 00:19:21.250
  • obstacle that comes your way,
  • 00:19:21.250 --> 00:19:23.010
  • there's typically an opportunity
  • 00:19:23.010 --> 00:19:24.180
  • for God to show up
  • 00:19:24.180 --> 00:19:25.110
  • and reveal his grace.
  • 00:19:25.110 --> 00:19:26.240
  • And so I think we learned
  • 00:19:26.240 --> 00:19:28.000
  • a whole lot about that.
  • 00:19:28.000 --> 00:19:29.010
  • I watched my parents, and their
  • 00:19:29.010 --> 00:19:30.130
  • faith has really inspired me and
  • 00:19:30.130 --> 00:19:32.020
  • it's really taught me to be a
  • 00:19:32.020 --> 00:19:33.100
  • person of conviction, not
  • 00:19:33.100 --> 00:19:34.120
  • convenience.
  • 00:19:34.120 --> 00:19:35.080
  • It's really taught me to be a
  • 00:19:35.080 --> 00:19:36.010
  • person that operates in faith
  • 00:19:36.010 --> 00:19:37.190
  • and doesn't operate in fear.
  • 00:19:37.190 --> 00:19:39.280
  • But I think those are the types
  • 00:19:39.280 --> 00:19:41.000
  • of things that you go through
  • 00:19:41.000 --> 00:19:41.270
  • different little trials.
  • 00:19:41.270 --> 00:19:42.280
  • And what you'll look back in
  • 00:19:42.280 --> 00:19:43.170
  • life is that you'll get through
  • 00:19:43.170 --> 00:19:44.220
  • one storm, and when you're in
  • 00:19:44.220 --> 00:19:45.240
  • the storm, you're like, "This
  • 00:19:45.240 --> 00:19:46.260
  • is--I'll never get through it."
  • 00:19:46.260 --> 00:19:47.260
  • But then you keep trusting and
  • 00:19:47.260 --> 00:19:49.070
  • God gets you through it.
  • 00:19:49.070 --> 00:19:50.180
  • Then you look back and you're
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  • like, "Pfft, that wasn't so
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  • bad."
  • 00:19:52.200 --> 00:19:54.070
  • And I like that about God
  • 00:19:54.070 --> 00:19:54.270
  • because before you get to the
  • 00:19:54.270 --> 00:19:56.080
  • next storm what you have to do
  • 00:19:56.080 --> 00:19:57.180
  • is, all you have to do is look
  • 00:19:57.180 --> 00:19:58.160
  • back and you'll see God's been
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  • faithful in the past.
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  • If he was faithful in the past,
  • 00:20:01.070 --> 00:20:02.000
  • he's gonna be faithful
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  • for this next one.
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  • And so I think there's been
  • 00:20:03.100 --> 00:20:04.100
  • individual things and
  • 00:20:04.100 --> 00:20:05.070
  • challenges.
  • 00:20:05.070 --> 00:20:05.260
  • I know in DawnChere's life,
  • 00:20:05.260 --> 00:20:06.190
  • things that she's gone through
  • 00:20:06.190 --> 00:20:08.080
  • and her testimony of just
  • 00:20:08.080 --> 00:20:09.220
  • developing the gift that's on
  • 00:20:09.220 --> 00:20:11.060
  • the inside of her.
  • 00:20:11.060 --> 00:20:12.020
  • But you know, in our marriage,
  • 00:20:12.020 --> 00:20:12.270
  • we've have all sorts of
  • 00:20:12.270 --> 00:20:14.090
  • different obstacles.
  • 00:20:14.090 --> 00:20:15.070
  • One of which is that we've
  • 00:20:15.070 --> 00:20:16.090
  • wanted to have a child for many
  • 00:20:16.090 --> 00:20:17.100
  • years and we've gone to
  • 00:20:17.100 --> 00:20:19.150
  • different doctors and there's
  • 00:20:19.150 --> 00:20:20.170
  • just been an obstacle.
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  • There's been a preventative.
  • 00:20:21.210 --> 00:20:22.230
  • It just hasn't happened yet for
  • 00:20:22.230 --> 00:20:23.240
  • us.
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  • And now we're in our 30s and you
  • 00:20:24.170 --> 00:20:25.230
  • know, science would tell you
  • 00:20:25.230 --> 00:20:27.040
  • that you're, you know, time's,
  • 00:20:27.040 --> 00:20:28.080
  • you know, it's kinda startin' to
  • 00:20:28.080 --> 00:20:29.240
  • pass, all those types of things
  • 00:20:29.240 --> 00:20:30.250
  • that wants to put fear into our
  • 00:20:30.250 --> 00:20:32.050
  • life.
  • 00:20:32.050 --> 00:20:33.080
  • But we just have to keep
  • 00:20:33.080 --> 00:20:33.280
  • reminding ourselves that number
  • 00:20:33.280 --> 00:20:35.020
  • one, our identity's not found in
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  • havin' a child, and our
  • 00:20:36.180 --> 00:20:37.290
  • identity's not, you know, found
  • 00:20:37.290 --> 00:20:39.220
  • in being parents.
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  • Our identity is that we're
  • 00:20:41.120 --> 00:20:42.050
  • children of God and we've
  • 00:20:42.050 --> 00:20:43.050
  • already got everything we need
  • 00:20:43.050 --> 00:20:44.120
  • in him.
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  • But we also wanna keep speaking
  • 00:20:45.020 --> 00:20:46.040
  • out faith and not living in fear
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  • and making sure that we don't
  • 00:20:47.250 --> 00:20:49.110
  • let one moment pass that we're
  • 00:20:49.110 --> 00:20:50.270
  • not thankful, grateful for the
  • 00:20:50.270 --> 00:20:52.050
  • amazing life God 's given us.
  • 00:20:52.050 --> 00:20:53.290
  • And it's so easy in life to
  • 00:20:53.290 --> 00:20:55.090
  • start to focus on what you don't
  • 00:20:55.090 --> 00:20:56.150
  • have and it makes you miss all
  • 00:20:56.150 --> 00:20:57.270
  • - male: That's great.
  • 00:20:59.280 --> 00:21:00.150
  • So just kind of off the back of
  • 00:21:00.150 --> 00:21:01.040
  • what you were just sayin' about
  • 00:21:01.040 --> 00:21:02.000
  • thought life, you know,
  • 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:03.010
  • sometimes our thoughts can take
  • 00:21:03.010 --> 00:21:03.290
  • us down this crazy road, give us
  • 00:21:03.290 --> 00:21:05.280
  • all these different types of
  • 00:21:05.280 --> 00:21:07.090
  • thinking and different fears of,
  • 00:21:07.090 --> 00:21:08.200
  • you know, maybe where,
  • 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:10.000
  • "I'm gonna be single forever,"
  • 00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:11.110
  • or whatever it is, you know?
  • 00:21:11.110 --> 00:21:12.180
  • What can we do practically
  • 00:21:12.180 --> 00:21:14.060
  • to control our thinking?
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  • - Charlie: Yeah,
  • 00:21:15.070 --> 00:21:15.230
  • great question.
  • 00:21:15.230 --> 00:21:16.090
  • - Rich: Yeah, I think that's a
  • 00:21:16.090 --> 00:21:16.280
  • great question.
  • 00:21:16.280 --> 00:21:17.180
  • You know, honestly, one of my
  • 00:21:17.180 --> 00:21:18.150
  • favorite books is a book by
  • 00:21:18.150 --> 00:21:19.080
  • Joyce Meyer.
  • 00:21:19.080 --> 00:21:20.050
  • It's called "The Battlefield of
  • 00:21:20.050 --> 00:21:20.240
  • the Mind" and it's such a
  • 00:21:20.240 --> 00:21:22.100
  • powerful book because what it
  • 00:21:22.100 --> 00:21:23.120
  • really is talking about is the
  • 00:21:23.120 --> 00:21:24.150
  • idea is that every day we fight
  • 00:21:24.150 --> 00:21:25.240
  • a battle and it's in our mind.
  • 00:21:25.240 --> 00:21:28.150
  • I think T.D. Jakes
  • 00:21:28.150 --> 00:21:29.060
  • who said that,
  • 00:21:29.060 --> 00:21:29.280
  • "Your greatest sexual organ
  • 00:21:29.280 --> 00:21:31.200
  • is right in between your ears."
  • 00:21:31.200 --> 00:21:34.010
  • Meaning, like, it all starts in
  • 00:21:34.010 --> 00:21:35.090
  • your mind.
  • 00:21:35.090 --> 00:21:36.090
  • And what the mind does is the
  • 00:21:36.090 --> 00:21:37.130
  • mind is actually the thing that
  • 00:21:37.130 --> 00:21:38.150
  • produces feelings.
  • 00:21:38.150 --> 00:21:39.290
  • A lot of people, they make
  • 00:21:39.290 --> 00:21:40.160
  • But what they don't understand
  • 00:21:42.170 --> 00:21:43.140
  • is those emotions are coming
  • 00:21:43.140 --> 00:21:44.180
  • from a thought life.
  • 00:21:44.180 --> 00:21:46.040
  • That's why you can be watching,
  • 00:21:46.040 --> 00:21:47.000
  • like, a scary movie and although
  • 00:21:47.000 --> 00:21:48.110
  • what you're watching is not real
  • 00:21:48.110 --> 00:21:49.190
  • at all, you can have these
  • 00:21:49.190 --> 00:21:51.170
  • feelings of real fear, like, "Oh
  • 00:21:51.170 --> 00:21:52.290
  • my goodness, there's someone--"
  • 00:21:52.290 --> 00:21:53.240
  • There's nobody in the house.
  • 00:21:53.240 --> 00:21:55.060
  • You're watching a movie.
  • 00:21:55.060 --> 00:21:57.150
  • And so what happens is the
  • 00:21:57.150 --> 00:21:59.040
  • things that we think about
  • 00:21:59.040 --> 00:22:00.160
  • ultimately are the things that
  • 00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:01.040
  • we feel.
  • 00:22:01.040 --> 00:22:02.120
  • And so we've gotta get control
  • 00:22:02.120 --> 00:22:03.070
  • of what we're thinking about.
  • 00:22:03.070 --> 00:22:04.090
  • And so practically, how do we do
  • 00:22:04.090 --> 00:22:05.050
  • that?
  • 00:22:05.050 --> 00:22:05.210
  • Bible talks about it
  • 00:22:05.210 --> 00:22:06.120
  • in Romans chapter 12.
  • 00:22:06.120 --> 00:22:07.130
  • It says: "Do not conform any
  • 00:22:07.130 --> 00:22:08.210
  • longer to the patterns of this
  • 00:22:08.210 --> 00:22:09.230
  • world, but be transformed by,"
  • 00:22:09.230 --> 00:22:11.260
  • what?
  • 00:22:11.260 --> 00:22:12.110
  • "By the renewing of your mind."
  • 00:22:12.110 --> 00:22:14.230
  • So what?
  • 00:22:14.230 --> 00:22:15.140
  • "So that you may test and
  • 00:22:15.140 --> 00:22:16.090
  • approve what God's will is, his
  • 00:22:16.090 --> 00:22:17.240
  • good, pleasing, perfect will."
  • 00:22:17.240 --> 00:22:19.290
  • So the way that we discover for
  • 00:22:19.290 --> 00:22:20.210
  • our life is not some big
  • 00:22:20.210 --> 00:22:22.140
  • supernatural, crazy, like, "Oh
  • 00:22:22.140 --> 00:22:24.120
  • my goodness, let me, you know,
  • 00:22:24.120 --> 00:22:25.100
  • stay up all night and like,
  • 00:22:25.100 --> 00:22:26.240
  • you know?"
  • 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:27.100
  • It really is actually practical.
  • 00:22:27.100 --> 00:22:28.240
  • You renew your mind daily.
  • 00:22:28.240 --> 00:22:31.150
  • And really, that word
  • 00:22:31.150 --> 00:22:32.060
  • "renewing," it's synonymous with
  • 00:22:32.060 --> 00:22:33.190
  • the idea of "renovating."
  • 00:22:33.190 --> 00:22:34.240
  • I don't know if you've ever
  • 00:22:34.240 --> 00:22:35.130
  • renovated a house, but you rip
  • 00:22:35.130 --> 00:22:36.100
  • up the floor and you clean it
  • 00:22:36.100 --> 00:22:37.150
  • out.
  • 00:22:37.150 --> 00:22:38.060
  • We gotta do the same thing with
  • 00:22:38.060 --> 00:22:39.040
  • our thoughts, man.
  • 00:22:39.040 --> 00:22:40.040
  • You've gotta check what you're
  • 00:22:40.040 --> 00:22:41.180
  • thinking about.
  • 00:22:41.180 --> 00:22:42.210
  • Bible says in Philippians
  • 00:22:42.210 --> 00:22:43.110
  • chapter 4, verse 8, it says:
  • 00:22:43.110 --> 00:22:44.120
  • "Whatever's pure, whatever's
  • 00:22:44.120 --> 00:22:46.020
  • noble, whatever's admirable,
  • 00:22:46.020 --> 00:22:47.210
  • lovely, think on these things."
  • 00:22:47.210 --> 00:22:50.190
  • And so I think it's not just
  • 00:22:50.190 --> 00:22:51.090
  • about cleaning it out, but it's
  • 00:22:51.090 --> 00:22:53.000
  • actually focusing your mind on
  • 00:22:53.000 --> 00:22:54.150
  • the right things.
  • 00:22:54.150 --> 00:22:55.270
  • So practically, getting in God's
  • 00:22:55.270 --> 00:22:57.030
  • Word, getting in healthy
  • 00:22:57.030 --> 00:22:58.190
  • conversations, watching the
  • 00:22:58.190 --> 00:23:00.250
  • right stuff, listening to the
  • 00:23:00.250 --> 00:23:02.110
  • right stuff.
  • 00:23:02.110 --> 00:23:03.290
  • I think if you start gettin' the
  • 00:23:03.290 --> 00:23:04.190
  • right thoughts in, you'll start
  • 00:23:04.190 --> 00:23:05.190
  • to have the right feelings that
  • 00:23:05.190 --> 00:23:06.180
  • are produced in your life
  • 00:23:06.180 --> 00:23:07.250
  • from--I think for sure when it
  • 00:23:07.250 --> 00:23:10.000
  • comes to people that have those
  • 00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:10.260
  • ideas of, like, "I'm not gonna
  • 00:23:10.260 --> 00:23:11.250
  • ever get married," once again,
  • 00:23:11.250 --> 00:23:13.060
  • it's fear.
  • 00:23:13.060 --> 00:23:13.280
  • Fear's projecting something.
  • 00:23:13.280 --> 00:23:15.160
  • You're never gonna get anywhere
  • 00:23:15.160 --> 00:23:16.160
  • operating out of fear.
  • 00:23:16.160 --> 00:23:18.050
  • All of your success, all of what
  • 00:23:18.050 --> 00:23:19.220
  • God has for you, is on the other
  • 00:23:19.220 --> 00:23:21.040
  • side of fear.
  • 00:23:21.040 --> 00:23:22.190
  • So whenever you have those
  • 00:23:22.190 --> 00:23:23.050
  • thoughts, you've gotta
  • 00:23:23.050 --> 00:23:24.030
  • - Dan: We've got time for one
  • 00:23:27.140 --> 00:23:28.020
  • more question.
  • 00:23:28.020 --> 00:23:29.170
  • Quako.
  • 00:23:29.170 --> 00:23:30.190
  • - Quako: Yeah.
  • 00:23:30.190 --> 00:23:31.100
  • So, Rich, where you at?
  • 00:23:31.100 --> 00:23:32.180
  • What's up, bro?
  • 00:23:32.180 --> 00:23:33.150
  • - Rich: What's up, bro?
  • 00:23:33.150 --> 00:23:34.030
  • How are you?
  • 00:23:34.030 --> 00:23:34.210
  • - Quako: So you're friends
  • 00:23:34.210 --> 00:23:35.130
  • with Kanye West, right?
  • 00:23:35.130 --> 00:23:36.180
  • - Rich: Sure.
  • 00:23:36.180 --> 00:23:37.050
  • - Quako: And like,
  • 00:23:37.050 --> 00:23:38.010
  • he raps and stuff.
  • 00:23:38.010 --> 00:23:39.000
  • - Rich: Yeah.
  • 00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:39.170
  • - Quako: So I'm pretty sure,
  • 00:23:39.170 --> 00:23:40.090
  • like, he's rapped with you in
  • 00:23:40.090 --> 00:23:41.010
  • the room and stuff and
  • 00:23:41.010 --> 00:23:41.220
  • So I wanna do somethin'
  • 00:23:43.230 --> 00:23:45.020
  • right now.
  • 00:23:45.020 --> 00:23:45.170
  • I just wanna challenge you
  • 00:23:45.170 --> 00:23:46.080
  • to a rap battle.
  • 00:23:46.080 --> 00:23:47.180
  • - all: Oh!
  • 00:23:47.210 --> 00:23:50.210
  • - Quako: Let's go, man.
  • 00:23:50.210 --> 00:23:51.200
  • - Rich: Oh.
  • 00:23:58.150 --> 00:24:01.170
  • Yo, oh, turn my beat up.
  • 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:07.160
  • All right, all right,
  • 00:24:07.160 --> 00:24:09.100
  • it's Quako?
  • 00:24:09.100 --> 00:24:10.070
  • - Quako: Yeah.
  • 00:24:10.070 --> 00:24:11.110
  • - Rich: All right, bro.
  • 00:24:11.110 --> 00:24:12.250
  • What you know about this show,
  • 00:24:12.250 --> 00:24:15.180
  • yo?
  • 00:24:15.180 --> 00:24:18.040
  • Got the brown shirt on.
  • 00:24:18.040 --> 00:24:20.100
  • Got the kicks in the black and
  • 00:24:20.100 --> 00:24:21.170
  • the shoes and the jeans.
  • 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:25.000
  • Yo, man, you a man of God.
  • 00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:26.240
  • I can see that from a mile away,
  • 00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:27.280
  • yo, Quako.
  • 00:24:29.110 --> 00:24:32.110
  • You got it.
  • 00:24:32.110 --> 00:24:33.100
  • I don't--
  • 00:24:33.100 --> 00:24:33.250
  • none of that made sense.
  • 00:24:33.250 --> 00:24:36.030
  • - Quako: Oh, okay,
  • 00:24:36.030 --> 00:24:38.090
  • one, two, three, go.
  • 00:24:38.130 --> 00:24:41.130
  • They say your name's Rich,
  • 00:24:41.130 --> 00:24:42.160
  • but you rich in faith.
  • 00:24:42.160 --> 00:24:43.210
  • I know God loves you 'cause
  • 00:24:43.210 --> 00:24:44.280
  • you got a nice face.
  • 00:24:44.280 --> 00:24:46.060
  • Now, wait a minute.
  • 00:24:46.060 --> 00:24:47.110
  • We ain't gonna too hard.
  • 00:24:47.110 --> 00:24:48.200
  • Let me tell you one thing about
  • 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:49.230
  • your boss, like, man, your boss,
  • 00:24:49.230 --> 00:24:52.110
  • I'm so whack.
  • 00:24:52.110 --> 00:24:53.120
  • I mean, the devil hears them,
  • 00:24:53.120 --> 00:24:54.160
  • and he claps back.
  • 00:24:54.160 --> 00:24:55.200
  • - Charlie: Well,
  • 00:25:10.200 --> 00:25:11.070
  • that's all for today.
  • 00:25:11.070 --> 00:25:11.240
  • But don't forget we've got a
  • 00:25:11.240 --> 00:25:12.140
  • YouTube channel that shows
  • 00:25:12.140 --> 00:25:13.270
  • behind-the-scenes so make sure
  • 00:25:13.270 --> 00:25:15.010
  • you check that out.
  • 00:25:15.010 --> 00:25:16.040
  • - Dan: That's right.
  • 00:25:16.040 --> 00:25:16.190
  • We're gonna finish the show a
  • 00:25:16.190 --> 00:25:17.080
  • little bit differently today.
  • 00:25:17.080 --> 00:25:18.060
  • Some of you might not realize,
  • 00:25:18.060 --> 00:25:19.100
  • So, Rich and DC,
  • 00:25:23.220 --> 00:25:25.070
  • you wanna join us over here?
  • 00:25:25.070 --> 00:25:26.150
  • - Charlie: Come on up,
  • 00:25:26.150 --> 00:25:27.180
  • birthday girl.
  • 00:25:27.180 --> 00:25:28.100
  • - Rich: Can I jump
  • 00:25:28.100 --> 00:25:28.260
  • in the middle?
  • 00:25:28.260 --> 00:25:29.120
  • - Dan: Yes.
  • 00:25:29.120 --> 00:25:29.270
  • - Charlie: We're gonna wish
  • 00:25:29.270 --> 00:25:30.170
  • you--you guys come together
  • 00:25:30.170 --> 00:25:31.120
  • here.
  • 00:25:31.120 --> 00:25:32.010
  • - Dan: Here you go.
  • 00:25:32.010 --> 00:25:32.160
  • From "Fearless TV,"
  • 00:25:32.160 --> 00:25:33.190
  • we just wanna wish you guy
  • 00:25:33.190 --> 00:25:34.260
  • a happy birthday.
  • 00:25:34.260 --> 00:25:35.280
  • C'mon, let's sing, guys.
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  • [music]
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  • Happy birthday to you
  • 00:25:39.000 --> 00:25:42.000
  • Happy birthday to you
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