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Praise | Spark Marriage Conference | 10/12/18

Watch Praise | Spark Marriage Conference | 10/12/18
October 12, 2018
56:35

Joel & Victoria Osteen host Spark Marriage Conference 2018 with John & Aventer Gray and Tauren & Lorna Wells.

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  • MARRIAGE CONFERENCE FROM LAKEWOOD CHURCH ON TBN.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - ANNOUNCER: TONIGHT ON PRAISE FROM HOUSTON,
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  • TEXAS SENIOR PASTORS OF RELENTLESS CHURCH, JOHN
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  • AND AVENTER GRAY ALONG WITH TAUREN AND
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  • LORNA WELLS.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • GET READY TO ADD SOME SPARK TO YOUR MARRIAGE
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  • COMING UP NOW ON PRAISE.
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  • - JOHN GRAY: BIG NIGHT.
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  • BIG NIGHT, GIRL.
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  • LOOK AT YOUR FINE SELF OVER THERE LOOKING LIKE
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  • DELICIOUS POLKA DOT FLAVORED GOODNESS.
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  • - AVENTER GRAY: THANK YOU.
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  • I'M SO EXCITED ABOUT SPARK.
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  • - I KNOW YOU, SO LET'S GO AHEAD AND GET WHATEVER
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  • PICTURES YOU WANT TO TAKE AS SOON AS WE GET THERE.
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  • - YES.
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  • I NEED TO GET MY PHONE.
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  • - YEAH, GET IT.
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  • - GET ALL THE PHOTOS.
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  • - WHAT?
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  • - DID YOU -DID YOU GET MY PHONE?
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  • - IT WAS ON THE COUNTER.
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  • I DON'T TOUCH YOUR PHONE.
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  • - I FORGOT MY PHONE.
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  • WE HAVE TO GO HOME.
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  • - AVENTER, I'M NOT GOING HOME.
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  • - WE HAVE TO GO HOME.
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  • - I GOT A PHONE.
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  • WHY DO YOU NEED YOUR PHONE?
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  • - I HAVE TO HAVE IT BECAUSE I HAVE TO CHECK --
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  • - AVENTER, I HAVE A PHONE.
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  • - JOHN, YOU DON'T CHECK YOUR PHONE ENOUGH FOR ME.
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  • - BECAUSE I TRUST GOD.
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  • THE KIDS ARE GOING TO BE FINE.
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  • - I TRUST GOD AS WELL BUT I'M ALSO A MOMMY, SO
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  • I NEED MY PHONE.
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  • - MMMOM -- - ARE YOU GOING TO HELP?
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  • - I WILL GET YOUR THINGS AND I'LL GO --
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  • - HEY, TAUREN.
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  • - TAUREN?
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  • - TAUREN WELLS: MY WIFE FORGOT HER PHONE.
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  • - NO!
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  • - CAN YOU SWING ME BY?
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  • - BROTHER TIME!
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  • I'M OLD. YOU'RE YOUNG.
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  • YOU'RE IN SHAPE.
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  • I'M NOT.
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  • YOU'RE LIGHT SKINNED.
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  • I'M CHOCOLATE.
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  • IT'S EBONY AND IVORY IN HERE.
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  • - NO, BRO.
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  • WE TIMON IN PUMBA IN HER.
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  • - WE ARE!
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  • AND THAT IS FUNNY!
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  • [SINGING]
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - IF I WAS A YOUNG WART HOG!
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - NOW YOU'RE MARRIED, GOT 3 BABIES.
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  • - WE NEED THIS CONFERENCE.
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  • MY WIFE BRINGS THE CHURCH TO KIDS BY HERSELF ALL
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  • THE TIME.
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  • THREE BABIES.
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  • HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?
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  • - SHE'S WHITE.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - THAT'S HOW.
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  • THAT'S HOW THAT WORKS IS.
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  • SHE'S LIKE GUYS, COME ON.
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  • LET'S GO.
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  • YOU GOT YOUR CRACKERS, GOLDFISH, APPLE SAUCE.
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  • WHOSE GOT JUICE CUPS, WHOSE GOT THE WIPIES?
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  • SHE'S PERFECT.
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  • I LOVE IT.
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  • BUT AVENTER DOES THE SAME THING, BRO.
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  • AVENTER DOES THE SAME THING.
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  • AND THAT'S WHY SHE'S GOT ME GOING TO THE HOUSE.
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  • SHE'S ALL WORRIED.
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  • BUT I'M LIKE BABE, IT'S CONFERENCE TIME.
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  • WE'RE MEN.
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  • THE TRUTH IS IT'S ACTUALLY GOOD FOR US AS
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  • MEN TO BE GOING TO THIS CONFERENCE.
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  • - IT IS.
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  • - BECAUSE THAT'S THE LAST PLACE A LOT OF
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  • FELLAS WANT TO GO.
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  • YOU KNOW, TAUREN, LET'S LET THESE PEOPLE
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  • OFF THE HOOK.
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  • WE ARE NOT GOING TO GET PHONES.
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  • - NO.
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  • - WE ARE GETTING READY TO PULL UP RIGHT NOW TO
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  • THE SPARK CONFERENCE.
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  • - WE'RE ROLLING IN.
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  • - LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, LIVE FROM SPARK CONFERENCE.
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  • - HOUSTON, TEXAS, LAKEWOOD CHURCH.
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  • - IT'S TONIGHT!
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - SPARK 2018.
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  • HOW Y'ALL DOING?
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - BECAUSE I HAD TO LAY THE GAME DOWN.
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
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  • - WHO SAID SORRY MORE IN THE MARRIAGE?
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  • - ME.
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  • - WE'RE ON TBN.
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  • - YOU.
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  • - THANK YOU.
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  • YOU'RE GONNA GET STRUCK BY THE JESUS LIGHTNING.
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  • TELL US WHAT YOU NEED.
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  • - HUSBAND.
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  • - WE WILL -HOLD ON, BABY.
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  • I'M ON A ROLL.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - GO AHEAD, BABY.
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  • SAY WHATEVER YOU WANT.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • HE DOESN'T EVEN CARE ABOUT MY NEEDS.
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  • HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND.
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  • - UM -HOW MANY TIMES HAVE WE SAID IT AND THEY
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  • HAVE NOT HEARD IT?
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • - I NEVER GOT TO FINISH OUT MY THING.
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  • THAT'S PART OF THE ASSUMPTION.
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  • YOU ASSUMED I WAS DONE.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU
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  • HAVE TIME FOR EACH OTHER EVEN IF YOU DO
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  • HAVE CHILDREN.
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  • YOU HAVE TO FIGHT FOR IT.
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  • - WE CAN'T ARGUE IF WE'RE TOUCHING.
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  • - IT IS TRUE.
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  • - WHEN DADDY PUT THE FINGER ON [LAUGHTER]
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  • [GROWLING]
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  • MAN, YOU CAN'T EVEN FOCUS.
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  • I'M GOOD, RIGHT?
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  • HA HA!
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  • THE CURSE OF COMMON IS WHEN YOU ARE SITTING NEXT
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  • TO THE PERSON GOD HAD IN MIND FOR ALL OF ETERNITY
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  • AND YOU TREAT THEM REGULARLY.
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  • WE NEED TO BE THE ONES LEADING IN LOVE AND
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  • PASSION AND ROMANCE.
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  • BRING HER LUNCH.
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  • BRING SOME FLOWERS.
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  • PUT HER UP AGAINST THE WALL IN THE CUBICLE AND
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  • BE LIKE GIRL, I LOVE YOU.
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  • I NEED YOU.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • DON'T THINK IT'S BETTER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE
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  • FENCE BECAUSE THE GRASS MIGHT LOOK GREENER BUT
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  • THE DOG IS ALSO MEANER.
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  • I THINK THE GREATEST DANGER OF WESTERNIZED
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  • CHRISTIAN THOUGHT IS THIS IDEA OF ISOLATIONISM
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  • WHERE WE CAN FIGURE IT OUT ON OUR OWN, WE CAN
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  • GET THE ANSWERS ON OUR OWN.
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  • ALL WE HAVE TO DO IS GOOGLE EVERYTHING OR USE
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  • A SEARCH ENGINE AND FIND IT.
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  • BUT WE ARE BETTER IN COMMUNITY AND BETTER WITH
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  • ONE ANOTHER.
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  • THE CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY IS A PLACE OF SHARED
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  • IDEALS AND IDEAS.
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  • AND SO COMING INTO A PLACE TO GATHER PEOPLE
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  • WHO ARE LIKE-MINDED, SAME FAITH AS A FOUNDATION,
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  • DIFFERENT LIFE EXPERIENCES AND LESSONS
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  • THAT CAN BE LEARNED, SPARK IS THE PLACE WHERE
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  • YOU GET THE BEST OF ALL WORLDS.
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  • SO YOU'VE GOT COUPLES WHO ARE LEARNING AND FIGURING
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  • IT OUT, PEOPLE WHO ARE FIRMLY ESTABLISHED.
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  • YOU'VE GOT TIME TESTED PROVEN PRINCIPLES,
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  • PRACTICAL APPLICATION AND SPIRITUAL REVELATION.
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  • THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED IN A TIME OF GREAT HOSTILITY
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  • TOWARDS TENETS OF OUR FAITH.
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  • THE PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE BASED ON THE
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  • BIBLICAL NARRATIVE, WE NEED SOMETHING THAT
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  • CELEBRATES, HONORS AND SPEAKS LIFE TO THE
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  • BIBLICAL REPRESENTATION OF MARRIAGE.
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  • AND SPARK IS NECESSARY FOR THAT.
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  • I THINK WE'RE IN A CULTURE OF CASUAL, AND
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  • IT'S KIND OF LIKE -- - THERE ARE A LOT LESS
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  • PEOPLE CHOOSING THE COVENANT WAY AT THIS
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  • POINT BECAUSE THERE ARE SO MANY MARRIAGES THAT
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  • LOOK LIKE THEY'RE SO MUCH WORK AND LOOK LIKE
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  • THEY'RE GOING TO END UP RAILROADING ANY WAYS.
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  • I FEEL LIKE A LOT OF TIMES THEY DON'T SEE
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  • ENOUGH HAPPY AND WHOLE MARRIAGES LEARNING THAT
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  • IT IS NOT THE FAIRY TALE FOR THE WHOLE TIME BUT IT
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  • IS WORK.
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  • AND YOU'RE CHOOSING TO LOVE A BROKEN PERSON, AN
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  • IMPERFECT PERSON WHO IS LIKE YOU, THE SAME.
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  • NO ONE IS PERFECT.
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  • AND YOU'RE CHOOSING TO DO LIFE WITH THEM, AND IT'S
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  • A BEAUTIFUL THING TO WATCH THAT EVOLUTION AND
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  • HOW YOU GROW.
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  • AND IT'S A BEAUTIFUL THING, BUT WHEN IT LOOKS
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  • LIKE IT'S WORK AND IT LOOKS LIKE IT'S ALWAYS
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  • HARD, A LOT OF PEOPLE WON'T CHOOSE THAT WAY, SO
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  • I THINK THAT SPARK AND OTHER ENTITIES THAT
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  • CHOOSE TO SEE MARRIAGES ARE VERY IMPORTANT FOR
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  • PEOPLE WHO ARE WAITING TO SEE IF THERE IS IN FACT
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  • HOPE IN MAKING THAT TYPE OF DECISION.
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  • - WE'RE COMING UP ON 8 YEARS, AND WHAT WE WANTED
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  • TO TALK ABOUT IS 8 ENOUGH.
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  • 8 OF COURSE IS THE NUMBER OF NEW BEGINNINGS, SO
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  • WHAT WE WANTED TO DO IS TAKE 8 LESSONS FROM
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  • THESE YEARS.
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  • SO FOR US I THOUGHT IT WAS IMPORTANT TO TALK
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  • ABOUT WHAT WE'VE LEARNED.
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  • SO SHE'S GOING TO SHARE 4 POINTS, I'M GOING TO
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  • SHARE 4 POINTS.
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  • AND WE'RE JUST GOING TO SHARE REALLY FROM OUR
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  • HEARTS AND HOPEFULLY IT WILL ADD SOME VALUE AND
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  • LEVITY AND LAUGHTER AND ALSO GIVE SOME PEOPLE
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  • SOME HOPE.
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  • IT'S IMPORTANT.
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  • SPARK DANCE.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - NO?
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  • - NO, SIR.
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  • - OKAY.
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  • ALL RIGHT.
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  • - ANNOUNCER: AND NOW SENIOR PASTORS OF
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  • RELENTLESS CHURCH JOHN AND AVENTER GRAY.
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  • - I WANT YOU TO DO ME A FAVOR.
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  • GRAB YOUR SPOUSE BY THE HAND, PLEASE.
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  • LOOK THEM IN THE EYE.
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  • TELL THEM, I LOVE YOU.
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  • LOVE YOU.
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  • I NEED YOU.
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  • AND I WOULDN'T TRADE YOU IN UNLESS IT WAS A REALLY
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  • GOOD DEAL.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • STOP! STOP IT!
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  • - WOW.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - I'M SORRY, BABE.
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  • I WOULD NOT TRADE YOU IN, GIRL.
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  • I LOVE YOU.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • ON DECEMBER 11 OF THIS YEAR, WE WILL HAVE BEEN
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  • MARRIED 8 YEARS.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • THANK YOU FOR THE SMATTERING OF APPLAUSE.
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  • THE REASON WHY THAT'S SIGNIFICANT FROM A
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  • BIBLICAL NUMERIC STANDPOINT IS 8 IN THE
  • 00:08:37.010 --> 00:08:39.270
  • NUMBER OF NEW BEGINNINGS.
  • 00:08:39.290 --> 00:08:43.020
  • SO-SO WHAT MY WIFE AND I WANTED TO TALK ABOUT FOR
  • 00:08:43.040 --> 00:08:46.100
  • A FEW MINUTES IS THE IDEA OF 8 IS ENOUGH.
  • 00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:49.150
  • IDENTIFYING 8 PRINCIPLES OR 8 THOUGHTS THAT WE CAN
  • 00:08:49.170 --> 00:08:52.080
  • TAKE FROM THESE FIRST 8 YEARS OF THINGS THAT
  • 00:08:52.100 --> 00:08:55.280
  • WE'VE LEARNED.
  • 00:08:56.000 --> 00:08:57.270
  • I WANTED TO SHARE SOME PRINCIPLES, AND IF YOU
  • 00:08:57.290 --> 00:09:00.130
  • WANT TO GRAB THESE, I THINK IT WILL BLESS US
  • 00:09:00.150 --> 00:09:02.280
  • BECAUSE SOME THINGS THAT I'VE LEARNED, NUMBER 1,
  • 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:06.090
  • I WAS BROKEN WHEN I GOT HERE.
  • 00:09:06.110 --> 00:09:09.280
  • THAT WAS IMPORTANT FOR ME TO COME TO THE
  • 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:12.050
  • REALIZATION BECAUSE MY IMPERFECTION WAS NOT
  • 00:09:12.070 --> 00:09:14.150
  • SOMETHING NEW.
  • 00:09:14.170 --> 00:09:16.190
  • IT WAS JUST NEW TO HER.
  • 00:09:16.210 --> 00:09:18.280
  • AND SO GOD HELPED ME TO UNDERSTAND THAT WHEN I
  • 00:09:19.000 --> 00:09:22.050
  • WALKED INTO MY MARRIAGE, I CAME IN WITH SOME
  • 00:09:22.070 --> 00:09:24.280
  • PLACES OF DEFICIT, BUT I ALSO CAME IN WITH A
  • 00:09:25.000 --> 00:09:27.200
  • POSTURE OF HOPE.
  • 00:09:27.220 --> 00:09:30.020
  • SO EVERY MARRIAGE COMES WITH PLACES OF DEFICIT
  • 00:09:30.040 --> 00:09:32.180
  • AND A POSTURE OF HOPE.
  • 00:09:32.200 --> 00:09:34.240
  • WE ALL HAVE THIS IDEAL OF MARRIAGE, AND THEN THE
  • 00:09:34.260 --> 00:09:37.200
  • REALITY OF MARRIAGE SETS IN BECAUSE IT'S NOT LIKE
  • 00:09:37.220 --> 00:09:39.180
  • THE MOVIES.
  • 00:09:39.200 --> 00:09:41.190
  • YOU KNOW, WE WERE SINGING ALL THE ROMANTIC SONGS.
  • 00:09:41.210 --> 00:09:43.220
  • ONE, YOU'RE LIKE A DREAM COME TRUE ...
  • 00:09:43.240 --> 00:09:48.150
  • TWO, JUST ONE TO BE WITH YOU ...
  • 00:09:48.170 --> 00:09:51.180
  • BY THE FIRST WEEK I WAS LIKE I DON'T KNOW IF THIS
  • 00:09:51.200 --> 00:09:54.120
  • IS GOING TO WORK, JESUS, BECAUSE [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:54.140 --> 00:09:58.010
  • BECAUSE OUR MARRIAGE WAS ON LIFE SUPPORT 48 HOURS
  • 00:09:58.030 --> 00:10:00.220
  • INTO THE MARRIAGE.
  • 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:02.020
  • - YEAH.
  • 00:10:02.040 --> 00:10:03.040
  • HONEYMOON.
  • 00:10:03.060 --> 00:10:04.110
  • - WE WERE ON THE HONEYMOON, AND I ASKED MY
  • 00:10:04.130 --> 00:10:07.130
  • WIFE FOR SOMETHING AND SHE WAS LIKE IT'S
  • 00:10:07.150 --> 00:10:08.180
  • IN MY PURSE.
  • 00:10:08.200 --> 00:10:10.140
  • SO I DID NOT KNOW THAT YOU DO NOT PUT YOUR HAND
  • 00:10:10.160 --> 00:10:11.280
  • IN A BLACK WOMAN'S PURSE.
  • 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:13.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:10:13.160 --> 00:10:14.280
  • WITHOUT ASKING.
  • 00:10:15.000 --> 00:10:16.110
  • AND EVEN IF YOU ASK, THE ANSWER IS STILL NO.
  • 00:10:16.130 --> 00:10:17.210
  • AND I PUT MY HAND IN THAT PURSE, AND I DIDN'T EVEN
  • 00:10:17.230 --> 00:10:20.260
  • HEAR -I HEARD THE SOUND OF THE WIND FROM HER NECK
  • 00:10:20.280 --> 00:10:24.140
  • WOO!
  • 00:10:24.160 --> 00:10:27.240
  • DID YOU PUT YOUR HAND IN MY PURSE?
  • 00:10:27.260 --> 00:10:29.130
  • I WAS LIKE -I -I -I.
  • 00:10:29.150 --> 00:10:31.140
  • AND I ONLY HAD SIX DOLLARS AT THE TIME IN MY
  • 00:10:31.160 --> 00:10:37.100
  • MARRIAGE THE WAY MY CHECKING WAS CONNECTED TO
  • 00:10:37.120 --> 00:10:39.180
  • MY OVERDRAFT.
  • 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:41.070
  • SO I COULDN'T EVEN GET ANOTHER ROOM IN HAWAII.
  • 00:10:41.090 --> 00:10:43.260
  • YOU KNOW, IN HAWAII EVERYTHING COSTS
  • 00:10:43.280 --> 00:10:45.140
  • $800 DOLLARS.
  • 00:10:45.160 --> 00:10:47.000
  • SIX CHICKEN NUGGETS WAS $75 DOLLARS SO I WAS LIKE
  • 00:10:47.020 --> 00:10:49.120
  • BABE, I FEEL THE LORD CALLING US TO FAST.
  • 00:10:49.140 --> 00:10:51.180
  • [SPEAKING IN TONGUES] [LAUGHTER] WHAT I
  • 00:10:51.200 --> 00:10:57.140
  • REALIZED IS THAT GOD LOVED ME ENOUGH TO PUT ME
  • 00:10:57.160 --> 00:11:02.260
  • WITH A WOMAN WHO WHEN SHE SAW THE TRUTH ABOUT ME
  • 00:11:02.280 --> 00:11:06.090
  • WOULD LOVE ME ANYWAY.
  • 00:11:06.110 --> 00:11:09.000
  • AND ISN'T THAT THE BEAUTIFUL THING ABOUT
  • 00:11:09.020 --> 00:11:11.240
  • MARRIAGE THAT WE HAVE BEEN GIFTED WITH THE
  • 00:11:11.260 --> 00:11:13.280
  • OPPORTUNITY TO GROW WITH SOMEONE.
  • 00:11:14.000 --> 00:11:15.260
  • AND EVERYBODY NEEDS TO HEAR THIS, THE IDEA OF
  • 00:11:15.280 --> 00:11:18.100
  • MARRIAGE FROM A BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE IS
  • 00:11:18.120 --> 00:11:21.020
  • NO LONGER POPULAR.
  • 00:11:21.040 --> 00:11:23.130
  • WE'RE IN A DAY AND AGE WHERE PEOPLE SAY THINGS
  • 00:11:23.150 --> 00:11:25.280
  • LIKE LIVE YOUR TRUTH AND DO WHAT YOU WANT.
  • 00:11:26.000 --> 00:11:28.180
  • BUT THE REALITY IS FOR THOSE OF US WHO ARE
  • 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.140
  • CHRIST FOLLOWERS, THE WORD OF GOD IS VERY CLEAR.
  • 00:11:31.160 --> 00:11:33.210
  • AND EVERY COVENANT STOPS A CURSE.
  • 00:11:33.230 --> 00:11:36.080
  • AND I WANT TO ENCOURAGE EVERY MARRIAGE HERE FIRST
  • 00:11:36.100 --> 00:11:38.170
  • AND FOREMOST THAT YOUR COVENANT IS BLOCKING THE
  • 00:11:38.190 --> 00:11:41.000
  • CURSE FROM COMING INTO THE EARTH.
  • 00:11:41.020 --> 00:11:43.060
  • SO BE ENCOURAGED THAT THE REASON WHY THE ENEMY
  • 00:11:43.080 --> 00:11:45.120
  • ATTACKS YOU AND ATTACKS YOUR MARRIAGE IS BECAUSE
  • 00:11:45.140 --> 00:11:48.230
  • OF WHAT IT PRODUCES FOR THE KINGDOM AND WHAT IT
  • 00:11:48.250 --> 00:11:51.150
  • STOPS WITH THE PLAN OF THE ENEMY.
  • 00:11:51.170 --> 00:11:53.190
  • SO YOU NEED TO THANK GOD THAT HE CHOSE YOU AND
  • 00:11:53.210 --> 00:11:56.090
  • LET'S GIVE GOD A PRAISE THAT WHAT HE SAID IN HIS
  • 00:11:56.110 --> 00:11:59.260
  • WORD IS STILL ACTIVE.
  • 00:11:59.280 --> 00:12:01.170
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:12:01.190 --> 00:12:03.050
  • AMEN?
  • 00:12:03.070 --> 00:12:04.290
  • - AMEN.
  • 00:12:05.010 --> 00:12:06.170
  • - SO WE GOT A COUPLE PRINCIPLES THAT WE WANTED
  • 00:12:06.190 --> 00:12:08.020
  • TO SHARE.
  • 00:12:08.040 --> 00:12:09.150
  • EVERYBODY SAY 8 IS ENOUGH.
  • 00:12:09.170 --> 00:12:11.030
  • [AUDIENCE RESPONDS ] JUST 8 LITTLE PRINCIPLES
  • 00:12:11.050 --> 00:12:13.190
  • FROM THE YEARS WE'VE BEEN MARRIED.
  • 00:12:13.210 --> 00:12:15.120
  • BABE, OUT OF MY HONOR FOR YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:12:15.140 --> 00:12:17.030
  • AMAZINGNESS I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO BEGIN.
  • 00:12:17.050 --> 00:12:20.140
  • - I'LL BEGIN, AND I BELIEVE THAT SOMETIMES WE
  • 00:12:20.160 --> 00:12:25.080
  • DON'T GROW AT THE SAME SPEED.
  • 00:12:25.100 --> 00:12:28.090
  • [LAUGHTER] SO WHEN THAT HAPPENS, YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:12:28.110 --> 00:12:31.050
  • REMEMBER WHY YOU CHOSE EACH OTHER IN THE
  • 00:12:31.070 --> 00:12:32.270
  • FIRST PLACE.
  • 00:12:32.290 --> 00:12:34.100
  • SOMETIMES I'M REALLY INTO GOD HELP ME WITH
  • 00:12:34.120 --> 00:12:38.110
  • UNDERSTANDING MY HUSBAND'S PERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:12:38.130 --> 00:12:41.060
  • HELP ME TO CHANGE PLACES WITH HIM AND SEE THINGS
  • 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:44.070
  • THE WAY HE SEES THINGS BECAUSE WE'RE
  • 00:12:44.090 --> 00:12:46.040
  • NOT THE SAME.
  • 00:12:46.060 --> 00:12:47.270
  • THAT'S SO IMPORTANT TO ME BECAUSE IT'S NOT JUST
  • 00:12:47.290 --> 00:12:49.190
  • ABOUT YOU.
  • 00:12:49.210 --> 00:12:51.010
  • WHEN YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE AND YOU ENTER INTO A
  • 00:12:51.030 --> 00:12:53.070
  • COVENANT, YOU ARE NO LONGER THE PRIORITY.
  • 00:12:53.090 --> 00:12:56.000
  • THEY ARE.
  • 00:12:56.020 --> 00:12:57.270
  • AND ONCE YOU DECIDE TO DENY YOURSELF AND TO
  • 00:12:57.290 --> 00:13:01.210
  • CHOOSE THEM OVER YOU, THEN THE LORD CAN SPEAK
  • 00:13:01.230 --> 00:13:05.200
  • TO YOU MORE ABOUT THE PERSON THAT YOU CHOSE.
  • 00:13:05.220 --> 00:13:09.120
  • I THINK WE NEED TO SEED OURSELVES IN THE WORD.
  • 00:13:09.140 --> 00:13:13.080
  • WE HAVE TO STAY THERE.
  • 00:13:13.100 --> 00:13:15.110
  • WE HAVE TO LAND THERE BECAUSE THE DEVIL IS
  • 00:13:15.130 --> 00:13:17.070
  • COUNTING ON YOU TO BE TOO BUSY TO VISIT WITH
  • 00:13:17.090 --> 00:13:19.050
  • THE LORD.
  • 00:13:19.070 --> 00:13:21.030
  • AND IN THAT I HAVE LEARNED THROUGH PERSONAL
  • 00:13:21.050 --> 00:13:24.120
  • MATURATION AS I'M MATURING, GROWING AND
  • 00:13:24.140 --> 00:13:26.220
  • DEVELOPING AND EVOLVING THAT MY HUSBAND IS DOING
  • 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:29.070
  • IT AT A DIFFERENT PACE THAN ME.
  • 00:13:29.090 --> 00:13:32.170
  • WHEN I JOKED WHEN I LOOKED AT HIM.
  • 00:13:32.190 --> 00:13:34.210
  • THERE'S SOMETIMES WHEN HE'S RUNNING ON A PATH
  • 00:13:34.230 --> 00:13:36.270
  • AND I'M RUNNING IN A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
  • 00:13:36.290 --> 00:13:38.150
  • DIRECTION, BUT WE HAVE TO BE MATURE ENOUGH TO STOP
  • 00:13:38.170 --> 00:13:40.240
  • AND ASK THE LORD TO HELP US TO MEET EACH
  • 00:13:40.260 --> 00:13:42.130
  • OTHER AGAIN.
  • 00:13:42.150 --> 00:13:44.130
  • AND THAT IS SO IMPORTANT IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF
  • 00:13:44.150 --> 00:13:46.110
  • YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:13:46.130 --> 00:13:48.260
  • SO THAT IS MY FIRST ONE OF THE 8 IS SUBMITTING
  • 00:13:48.280 --> 00:13:52.030
  • YOUR PERSONAL MATURITY TO THE LORD.
  • 00:13:52.050 --> 00:13:54.210
  • - I GOT A POINT, AND THIS IS ONE I'VE LEARNED
  • 00:13:54.230 --> 00:13:57.040
  • THROUGH PAIN, THAT THE ENEMY OF PEACE
  • 00:13:57.060 --> 00:14:00.130
  • IS ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:14:00.150 --> 00:14:03.080
  • THE ENEMY OF PEACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:14:03.100 --> 00:14:06.050
  • IS ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:14:06.070 --> 00:14:06.090
  • ONE THING ABOUT ME I LIKE PEACE.
  • 00:14:07.220 --> 00:14:09.060
  • I DON'T LIKE TO ARGUE.
  • 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:10.210
  • THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO LOVE CONFLICT AND
  • 00:14:10.230 --> 00:14:11.270
  • THRIVE ON IT.
  • 00:14:11.290 --> 00:14:12.260
  • I DON'T.
  • 00:14:12.280 --> 00:14:13.250
  • I'M AN ONLY CHILD.
  • 00:14:13.270 --> 00:14:14.280
  • I NEVER HAD TO ARGUE WITH ANYBODY.
  • 00:14:15.000 --> 00:14:16.010
  • IT WAS MY TOYS.
  • 00:14:16.030 --> 00:14:17.000
  • IT WAS MY ROOM.
  • 00:14:17.020 --> 00:14:19.040
  • IT WAS MY TV.
  • 00:14:19.060 --> 00:14:20.190
  • THAT'S MY CEREAL.
  • 00:14:20.210 --> 00:14:22.000
  • THAT'S MY MILK.
  • 00:14:22.020 --> 00:14:23.090
  • THAT'S MY BIKE WITH NO BRAKES GOING DOWN THE
  • 00:14:23.110 --> 00:14:25.030
  • HILL WHICH IS WHY NO HAIR GROWS ON MY SHINS NOW
  • 00:14:25.050 --> 00:14:26.190
  • BECAUSE I HAVE RUBBED THE SKIN OFF TO THE BONE.
  • 00:14:26.210 --> 00:14:31.050
  • BUT THE ENEMY OF PEACE IS ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:14:31.070 --> 00:14:34.210
  • AND WHY I SAY THAT IS BECAUSE COMMUNICATION AS
  • 00:14:34.230 --> 00:14:37.150
  • YOU'VE ALREADY HEARD THROUGH MULTIPLE GIFTS
  • 00:14:37.170 --> 00:14:40.220
  • TONIGHT, COMMUNICATION IS SO KEY TO A
  • 00:14:40.240 --> 00:14:42.220
  • HEALTHY MARRIAGE.
  • 00:14:42.240 --> 00:14:46.110
  • I HAVE LEARNED THAT I NEED TO COMMUNICATE IN A
  • 00:14:46.130 --> 00:14:49.270
  • WAY THAT DOESN'T JUST GET OFF MY CHEST WHAT I WANT
  • 00:14:49.290 --> 00:14:53.080
  • TO SAY BUT CAN PHASE THE IDEA THAT I NEED HER TO
  • 00:14:53.100 --> 00:14:56.080
  • INTERPRET SO I CAN GET THE ANSWER THAT I NEED.
  • 00:14:56.100 --> 00:15:01.100
  • BECAUSE IT'S NEVER WHAT I SAY.
  • 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:03.200
  • IT'S WHAT SHE HEARD.
  • 00:15:03.220 --> 00:15:05.190
  • IS THERE ANYBODY ELSE IN HERE?
  • 00:15:05.210 --> 00:15:07.120
  • THANK YOU, MA'AM.
  • 00:15:07.140 --> 00:15:08.280
  • I NEED CALL AND RESPONSE.
  • 00:15:09.000 --> 00:15:10.250
  • THIS FEELS TOO MUCH LIKE A UNIVERSITY.
  • 00:15:10.270 --> 00:15:12.130
  • I NEED TO STAND YOU.
  • 00:15:12.150 --> 00:15:14.120
  • I DON'T LIKE SITTING DOWN.
  • 00:15:14.140 --> 00:15:16.060
  • THE ENEMY OF PEACE IS ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:17.260
  • THERE HAVE BEEN A NUMBER OF TIMES, 7.000, IN
  • 00:15:17.280 --> 00:15:19.150
  • OUR MARRIAGE --
  • 00:15:19.170 --> 00:15:22.020
  • - HOW MANY?
  • 00:15:22.040 --> 00:15:23.170
  • - WHERE MY WIFE SAYS WELL, YOU SHOULD HAVE
  • 00:15:23.190 --> 00:15:24.260
  • KNOWN THAT.
  • 00:15:24.280 --> 00:15:26.110
  • I'M LIKE, HOW CAN I KNOW THAT?
  • 00:15:26.130 --> 00:15:28.030
  • I'VE ONLY BEEN MARRIED TO YOU AND I'M STILL TRYING
  • 00:15:28.050 --> 00:15:29.200
  • TO FIGURE THAT OUT.
  • 00:15:29.220 --> 00:15:31.030
  • I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU NEED.
  • 00:15:31.050 --> 00:15:32.120
  • AND I DON'T READ MINDS.
  • 00:15:32.140 --> 00:15:34.080
  • IT'S SO FUNNY THAT -THANK YOU, SIR.
  • 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:36.080
  • I NEED -ARE THERE ANY OTHER MEN THAT SAY BABY,
  • 00:15:36.100 --> 00:15:39.020
  • TELL ME WHAT IT IS.
  • 00:15:39.040 --> 00:15:41.150
  • IF YOU TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT, I WILL GET IT FOR YOU.
  • 00:15:41.170 --> 00:15:46.110
  • - OKAY, LADIES.
  • 00:15:46.130 --> 00:15:47.240
  • OKAY. HOLD ON. HOLD ON.
  • 00:15:47.260 --> 00:15:49.110
  • - NO MAN WANTS TO ARGUE.
  • 00:15:49.130 --> 00:15:51.110
  • IF YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH, LADIES, WE WILL GET IT.
  • 00:15:51.130 --> 00:15:53.120
  • SOMETIMES WE'RE BRIGHT AND SOMETIMES WE'RE NOT,
  • 00:15:53.140 --> 00:15:56.000
  • BUT WE DON'T WANT TO FIGHT.
  • 00:15:56.020 --> 00:15:58.180
  • IF YOU TELL US WHAT YOU NEED --
  • 00:15:58.200 --> 00:16:00.220
  • - HUSBAND.
  • 00:16:00.240 --> 00:16:02.040
  • - HOLD ON, BABY.
  • 00:16:02.060 --> 00:16:03.200
  • I'M ON A ROLL.
  • 00:16:03.220 --> 00:16:04.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:16:04.280 --> 00:16:08.070
  • IF YOU TELL US WHAT YOU WANT, WE WILL GET IT FOR YOU.
  • 00:16:08.090 --> 00:16:12.260
  • THE LAST THING WE NEED IS FOR YOU TO GET INSIDE
  • 00:16:12.280 --> 00:16:16.140
  • YOUR FEMININE MIND AND START CREATING ENTIRE
  • 00:16:16.160 --> 00:16:18.250
  • SCENARIOS THAT NEVER HAPPEN.
  • 00:16:18.270 --> 00:16:20.250
  • HE DOESN'T LOVE ME.
  • 00:16:20.270 --> 00:16:22.210
  • HE DOESN'T EVEN CARE ABOUT MY NEEDS.
  • 00:16:22.230 --> 00:16:24.090
  • HE DIDN'T UNDERSTAND.
  • 00:16:24.110 --> 00:16:25.130
  • JUST FORGET IT, KENNY.
  • 00:16:25.150 --> 00:16:28.070
  • FORGET IT!
  • 00:16:28.090 --> 00:16:29.130
  • - OKAY.
  • 00:16:29.150 --> 00:16:30.200
  • I'M GOING TO LET YOU BE GRAY FOR ABOUT 20
  • 00:16:30.220 --> 00:16:31.200
  • MORE SECONDS.
  • 00:16:31.220 --> 00:16:33.030
  • SO LADIES, IN THIS PARTICULAR INSTANCE --
  • 00:16:33.050 --> 00:16:39.080
  • - STAND UP IF YOU REALLY WANT IT.
  • 00:16:39.100 --> 00:16:42.130
  • STAND UP.
  • 00:16:42.150 --> 00:16:43.180
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:45.030
  • - I'M PERFECTLY POSTURED TO SIT.
  • 00:16:45.050 --> 00:16:47.090
  • UM -[LAUGHTER ] LADIES, HOW MANY TIMES HAVE WE
  • 00:16:47.110 --> 00:16:51.120
  • -WHAT IS HAPPENING?
  • 00:16:51.140 --> 00:16:54.260
  • IS THIS REALLY HAPPENING?
  • 00:16:54.280 --> 00:16:57.080
  • [LAUGHTER ] HOW MANY TIMES HAVE WE SAID IT AND
  • 00:16:57.100 --> 00:16:59.250
  • THEY HAVE NOT HEARD IT?
  • 00:16:59.270 --> 00:17:01.060
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:17:01.080 --> 00:17:07.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:17:07.120 --> 00:17:14.290
  • THERE HAVE BEEN A FEW TIMES WHERE WE HAVE TAKEN
  • 00:17:15.010 --> 00:17:17.190
  • THE OPPORTUNITY TO POSITION THINGS IN A WAY
  • 00:17:17.210 --> 00:17:21.260
  • THAT WOULD GIVE HINTS TO OUR HUSBANDS.
  • 00:17:21.280 --> 00:17:25.000
  • - HINTS!
  • 00:17:25.020 --> 00:17:26.200
  • BUT I'M NOT SMART.
  • 00:17:26.220 --> 00:17:28.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:17:28.150 --> 00:17:29.240
  • YOU GOT TO SPELL IT OUT.
  • 00:17:29.260 --> 00:17:31.220
  • I NEED YOU TO GO TO THE STORE AND BUY ME THEM RED
  • 00:17:31.240 --> 00:17:33.180
  • SHOES SO YOU CAN HAVE A GOOD EVENING TONIGHT.
  • 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:36.200
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:17:36.220 --> 00:17:38.200
  • DON'T BE TALKING ABOUT THOSE ARE PRETTY.
  • 00:17:38.220 --> 00:17:40.260
  • THEY ARE PRETTY BUT THEY'RE ALSO $400.
  • 00:17:40.280 --> 00:17:43.130
  • - I'M NOT EVEN TALKING ABOUT PHYSICAL AND
  • 00:17:43.150 --> 00:17:46.250
  • TANGIBLE THINGS.
  • 00:17:46.270 --> 00:17:48.230
  • - GO AHEAD.
  • 00:17:48.250 --> 00:17:50.040
  • I'M LISTENING.
  • 00:17:50.060 --> 00:17:51.180
  • - I'M TALKING OUR EMOTIONAL STATES.
  • 00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:53.070
  • I'M TALKING ABOUT SOMETIMES WE OFFER WHAT
  • 00:17:53.090 --> 00:17:57.110
  • WE NEED AND THEY DON'T CATCH IT BECAUSE THEY MAY
  • 00:17:57.130 --> 00:18:00.140
  • BE OTHERWISE OCCUPIED.
  • 00:18:00.160 --> 00:18:02.190
  • IN ALL THE TIME - [ LAUGHTER ] WHAT?
  • 00:18:02.210 --> 00:18:09.130
  • SOMETIMES THEY ARE OTHERWISE OCCUPIED IN
  • 00:18:09.150 --> 00:18:11.160
  • WAYS THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT YOU NEED
  • 00:18:11.180 --> 00:18:13.210
  • THEIR ATTENTION, SO WE HAVE TO BE BETTER ABOUT
  • 00:18:13.230 --> 00:18:16.170
  • SAYING HEY BABE, I REALLY NEED YOU TO LISTEN TO ME
  • 00:18:16.190 --> 00:18:19.100
  • AT THIS POINT INSTEAD OF THE ASSUMPTION LIKE YOU
  • 00:18:19.120 --> 00:18:22.160
  • SAID, BUT SOMETIMES WE FEEL LIKE WE'VE OFFERED
  • 00:18:22.180 --> 00:18:26.050
  • ENOUGH INFORMATION FOR YOU TO KNOW ABOUT ME WHAT
  • 00:18:26.070 --> 00:18:29.020
  • I NEED AT THIS POINT, BUT IN THAT I THINK WE ALSO
  • 00:18:29.040 --> 00:18:32.100
  • HAVE TO EXTEND GRACE.
  • 00:18:32.120 --> 00:18:35.120
  • - PLEASE.
  • 00:18:35.140 --> 00:18:38.260
  • AMAZING GRACE.
  • 00:18:38.280 --> 00:18:40.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:18:40.070 --> 00:18:42.180
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:18:42.200 --> 00:18:44.100
  • - WE'RE BOTH BALLS OF EMOTION AND NERVES,
  • 00:18:44.120 --> 00:18:48.050
  • SO WE'RE LIKE OPEN NERVE ENDINGS.
  • 00:18:48.070 --> 00:18:49.250
  • WE DON'T WANT TO OFFEND THE OTHER ONE, SO WHEN WE
  • 00:18:49.270 --> 00:18:52.200
  • DO, WE TRY TO FIX IT AND WE GO, WE'RE BOTH ZERO TO
  • 00:18:52.220 --> 00:18:55.210
  • A HUNDRED, BUT I'M MORE LEARNING HOW TO BE THE
  • 00:18:55.230 --> 00:18:58.210
  • GUY IN THE MIDDLE TO TRY TO NEUTRALIZE CONFLICT
  • 00:18:58.230 --> 00:19:02.220
  • BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE CONFLICT.
  • 00:19:02.240 --> 00:19:04.230
  • MY WIFE IS FIERCELY INDEPENDENT AND SO WE
  • 00:19:04.250 --> 00:19:09.230
  • BOTH DIG IN LIKE TICS TO OUR PART OF AN ARGUMENT.
  • 00:19:09.250 --> 00:19:13.060
  • I'M NORMALLY THE ONE THAT GOD KEEPS SAYING GO OVER
  • 00:19:13.080 --> 00:19:15.080
  • THERE AND APOLOGIZE, AND I SAY I AIN'T SAYING
  • 00:19:15.100 --> 00:19:17.150
  • NOTHING, JESUS! SHE WAS WRONG! I'M NOT SORRY!
  • 00:19:17.170 --> 00:19:20.110
  • HE SAYS GO APOLOGIZE. I'M NOT BOWING DOWN!
  • 00:19:20.130 --> 00:19:23.070
  • HE'S LIKE, YOU'RE NOT LIKE CHRIST.
  • 00:19:23.090 --> 00:19:25.000
  • [MOANS]
  • 00:19:25.020 --> 00:19:26.250
  • [GRITTING TEETH] AVENTER, I'M SORRY. I'M SORRY.
  • 00:19:26.270 --> 00:19:30.030
  • SO GOD HAS TO--
  • 00:19:30.050 --> 00:19:31.260
  • - WOULD YOU LIKE TO MEAN IT?
  • 00:19:31.280 --> 00:19:33.140
  • - I DO MEAN IT.
  • 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:34.200
  • WHO HAS SAID SORRY MORE IN THE MARRIAGE?
  • 00:19:34.220 --> 00:19:36.240
  • - ME.
  • 00:19:36.260 --> 00:19:38.240
  • - WE'RE ON TBN.
  • 00:19:38.260 --> 00:19:39.240
  • - YOU. - THANK YOU.
  • 00:19:39.260 --> 00:19:41.040
  • YOU'RE GONNA GET STRUCK BY THE JESUS LIGHTNING.
  • 00:19:41.060 --> 00:19:43.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:19:43.110 --> 00:19:45.100
  • BUT I THINK THAT CONFLICT IS HEALTHY BECAUSE IT'S
  • 00:19:45.120 --> 00:19:47.120
  • THE PART OF TWO BECOMING ONE FLESH.
  • 00:19:47.140 --> 00:19:49.180
  • IT'S THE PRUNING, IT'S THE PROCESS, AND THERE'S
  • 00:19:49.200 --> 00:19:54.010
  • SO MUCH POTENTIAL IN WHO WE ARE.
  • 00:19:54.030 --> 00:19:56.160
  • WE'RE JUST SCRATCHING THE SURFACE SO I THINK IT'S
  • 00:19:56.180 --> 00:19:59.010
  • A GOOD THING. IF YOU AGREE ON EVERYTHING,
  • 00:19:59.030 --> 00:20:00.150
  • SOMETHING'S WRONG.
  • 00:20:00.170 --> 00:20:02.090
  • - WE HAVE TO EXTEND GRACE BECAUSE SOMETIMES
  • 00:20:03.210 --> 00:20:05.200
  • THEY DIDN'T QUITE GET IT, AND THAT KIND OF BRINGS
  • 00:20:05.220 --> 00:20:08.170
  • ME LIKE TO THE NEXT POINT, AND I CAN SIT.
  • 00:20:08.190 --> 00:20:12.120
  • IS THAT OKAY?
  • 00:20:12.140 --> 00:20:14.090
  • - IT IS. I'M GONNA STAND BACK UP AGAIN.
  • 00:20:14.110 --> 00:20:16.230
  • BABE, I NEVER GOT TO FINISH OUT MY THING.
  • 00:20:16.250 --> 00:20:20.050
  • THAT'S PART OF THE ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:20:20.070 --> 00:20:21.040
  • YOU ASSUMED I WAS DONE.
  • 00:20:21.060 --> 00:20:22.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:22.190 --> 00:20:27.050
  • - OKAY, WELL, SINCE YOU'RE NOT DONE...
  • 00:20:27.070 --> 00:20:29.190
  • - JOHN: YOU GOT IT.
  • 00:20:29.210 --> 00:20:31.250
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:31.270 --> 00:20:34.200
  • ALL I WAS SAYING IS THE ENEMY OF PEACE
  • 00:20:34.220 --> 00:20:36.040
  • IS ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:20:36.060 --> 00:20:37.150
  • YOU CANNOT ASSUME THAT THE OTHER PERSON KNOWS YOUR
  • 00:20:37.170 --> 00:20:39.150
  • NEEDS OR KNOWS WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART UNLESS YOU
  • 00:20:39.170 --> 00:20:41.280
  • CLEARLY CONVEY IT.
  • 00:20:42.000 --> 00:20:43.230
  • YOU CANNOT HOLD PEOPLE HOSTAGE TO SOMETHING
  • 00:20:43.250 --> 00:20:46.090
  • THEY ARE NOT AWARE OF.
  • 00:20:46.110 --> 00:20:47.210
  • - I CAN AGREE WITH THAT. THAT IS TRUE.
  • 00:20:47.230 --> 00:20:49.260
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:20:49.280 --> 00:20:52.040
  • BUT WE WOULD LIKE TO SUBMIT AS WIVES THAT
  • 00:20:52.060 --> 00:20:55.180
  • SOMETIMES IN ALLOWING YOU TO LEAD AND TAKING OUR
  • 00:20:55.200 --> 00:21:01.230
  • PROPER PLACE AND SUBMITTING AND RESPECTING
  • 00:21:01.250 --> 00:21:04.280
  • AND LOVING THE WAY THAT THE BIBLE DESCRIBES THAT
  • 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:10.080
  • SOMETIMES WE DON'T WANT TO COME OFF AS NAGGING OR
  • 00:21:10.100 --> 00:21:13.140
  • NITPICKING, AND WE WILL DENY OURSELVES AND WE
  • 00:21:13.160 --> 00:21:16.230
  • WILL SIT QUIET RATHER THAN TELL YOU EVERY
  • 00:21:16.250 --> 00:21:20.190
  • SINGLE TIME THAT YOU'RE NOT GETTING IT RIGHT
  • 00:21:20.210 --> 00:21:24.240
  • BECAUSE THEN THAT PICKS AT YOUR MANHOOD AS WELL.
  • 00:21:24.260 --> 00:21:29.020
  • SO FOR THEN LADIES, I SAY INSTEAD OF DOING THIS,
  • 00:21:29.040 --> 00:21:32.280
  • DO THIS. YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO PRAY THAT HE GETS IT,
  • 00:21:33.000 --> 00:21:36.230
  • AND WHEN HE DOES, THANK GOD THAT HE DID.
  • 00:21:36.250 --> 00:21:39.050
  • AND DON'T THINK THAT HE WON'T REVISIT THAT PLACE
  • 00:21:39.070 --> 00:21:42.010
  • WHERE HE DOESN'T GET IT BECAUSE HE WILL.
  • 00:21:42.030 --> 00:21:44.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:21:44.140 --> 00:21:46.120
  • BUT WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE, YOU LOVE THEM
  • 00:21:46.140 --> 00:21:48.230
  • FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD.
  • 00:21:48.250 --> 00:21:50.290
  • I AGREE THAT THE ENEMY OF A MARRIAGE
  • 00:21:51.010 --> 00:21:54.200
  • CAN ALSO BE ASSUMPTION.
  • 00:21:54.220 --> 00:21:56.120
  • - THANK YOU, BABY.
  • 00:21:56.140 --> 00:21:57.150
  • ALL I SAY IS THIS TO END THIS POINT.
  • 00:21:57.170 --> 00:21:59.130
  • THERE ARE FOUR WORDS THAT CAN BREAK A MAN WHILE GOD
  • 00:21:59.150 --> 00:22:02.070
  • IS TRYING TO BUILD HIM.
  • 00:22:02.090 --> 00:22:03.230
  • WIVES, BE VERY CAREFUL WHEN YOU USE THESE FOUR
  • 00:22:03.250 --> 00:22:06.110
  • WORDS WHEN GOD IS TEACHING US HOW TO LEAD.
  • 00:22:06.130 --> 00:22:08.080
  • I TOLD YOU SO.
  • 00:22:08.100 --> 00:22:11.060
  • BE CAREFUL BECAUSE WHAT THAT SAYS IS I KNEW YOU
  • 00:22:11.080 --> 00:22:14.020
  • WERE WRONG FROM THE BEGINNING, I JUST LET YOU
  • 00:22:14.040 --> 00:22:16.090
  • FAIL WHILE I WATCHED.
  • 00:22:16.110 --> 00:22:18.010
  • AND WHAT WE NEED IS TO BE ENCOURAGED THAT YOU KNOW
  • 00:22:18.030 --> 00:22:21.080
  • WHAT BABE, I KNOW YOU MEANT WELL, YOUR INTENT
  • 00:22:21.100 --> 00:22:23.070
  • WAS TO LEAD US IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION, AND JUST
  • 00:22:23.090 --> 00:22:25.140
  • KEEP GOING AFTER GOD.
  • 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:27.090
  • KEEP THE "I TOLD YOU SO" TO YOU AND YOUR
  • 00:22:27.110 --> 00:22:29.140
  • GIRLFRIENDS WHEN YA'LL TALK ON THE PHONE.
  • 00:22:29.160 --> 00:22:31.150
  • DON'T TELL US. NOT ALL THE TIME.
  • 00:22:31.170 --> 00:22:34.000
  • - YOU GOTTA TELL SOMEBODY.
  • 00:22:34.020 --> 00:22:35.070
  • - YEAH, YA'LL TALK.
  • 00:22:35.090 --> 00:22:37.050
  • - JUST KIDDING.
  • 00:22:37.070 --> 00:22:38.090
  • - GIRL, YOU'LL NEVER BELIEVE.
  • 00:22:38.110 --> 00:22:39.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:39.250 --> 00:22:41.110
  • UH-HUH...YES.
  • 00:22:41.130 --> 00:22:44.180
  • ALL RIGHT, YOUR POINT.
  • 00:22:44.200 --> 00:22:46.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:46.040 --> 00:22:49.040
  • - I LIKE YOUR SKIRT.
  • 00:22:49.060 --> 00:22:50.100
  • - THANK YOU. I APPRECIATE IT.
  • 00:22:50.120 --> 00:22:52.200
  • MY NEXT ONE IS TO-- [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:22:52.220 --> 00:22:56.140
  • DETACH FROM THE BUTTERFLY MENTALITY AT THE ORIGIN
  • 00:22:56.160 --> 00:22:59.220
  • OF YOUR MARRIAGE BECAUSE ALL OF US WERE ONCE
  • 00:22:59.240 --> 00:23:05.110
  • CATERPILLARS, SO WE'RE EXCITED, WE'RE BUBBLY,
  • 00:23:05.130 --> 00:23:10.260
  • WE'RE FLOATING AROUND, EVERYTHING IS AMAZING
  • 00:23:10.280 --> 00:23:13.140
  • BECAUSE IT'S THE GENESIS OF THE THING, AND THEN
  • 00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:18.120
  • YOU HIT A BRICK WALL AND YOU REALIZE THAT YOU
  • 00:23:18.140 --> 00:23:22.050
  • WEREN'T QUITE PREPARED FOR WHAT THE LORD WAS
  • 00:23:22.070 --> 00:23:25.080
  • TRYING TO DO TO GET YOU TO THE BEAUTY THAT YOU
  • 00:23:25.100 --> 00:23:27.230
  • WERE TRYING TO REACH.
  • 00:23:27.250 --> 00:23:29.220
  • MY HUSBAND WON ME WITH HIS SMILE, HE WON ME WITH
  • 00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:33.200
  • HIS HEART FOR GOD AND HIS HEART FOR PEOPLE, BUT I
  • 00:23:33.220 --> 00:23:36.270
  • DIDN'T SEE THE BROKEN LITTLE BOY WHO WOULD NEED
  • 00:23:36.290 --> 00:23:39.290
  • CERTAIN ASPECTS FULFILLED THAT I WASN'T AWARE OF,
  • 00:23:40.010 --> 00:23:45.000
  • SO WHEN YOU CHOOSE A PERSON, TRY TO TAKE SOME
  • 00:23:45.020 --> 00:23:48.010
  • TIME TO GET TO KNOW THEM.
  • 00:23:48.030 --> 00:23:49.170
  • THERE'S NOT ENOUGH TIME OR YEARS IN PREMARITAL
  • 00:23:49.190 --> 00:23:55.050
  • COUNSELING TO COVER EVERYTHING THAT YOU WILL
  • 00:23:55.070 --> 00:23:58.260
  • MEET INSIDE OF YOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:23:58.280 --> 00:24:02.010
  • SO IT ACTUALLY IS A JOURNEY.
  • 00:24:02.030 --> 00:24:04.060
  • IT'S A JOURNEY OF UNVEILING AND OF REVEALING.
  • 00:24:04.080 --> 00:24:08.220
  • AND IN THAT REVELATION, YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED
  • 00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:12.240
  • BY MAKING SURE YOU HAVE WORD ON RESERVE FOR
  • 00:24:12.260 --> 00:24:16.180
  • WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOUR HUSBAND OR YOUR WIFE MAY
  • 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:21.020
  • HAVE HAD TO GO THROUGH OR WALK THROUGH
  • 00:24:21.040 --> 00:24:23.280
  • BEFORE THEY GOT TO YOU.
  • 00:24:24.000 --> 00:24:25.260
  • SO I FEEL STRONGLY THAT AS I'M MEETING MY HUSBAND
  • 00:24:25.280 --> 00:24:32.040
  • AT THE AGE HE WAS AT THE TIME WHEN WE DECIDED THAT
  • 00:24:32.060 --> 00:24:35.140
  • THIS IS WHAT WE'RE GONNA DO, WE'RE GONNA GET
  • 00:24:35.160 --> 00:24:38.270
  • MARRIED, WE'RE GONNA WALK OUT LIFE TOGETHER, WE'RE
  • 00:24:38.290 --> 00:24:40.180
  • GONNA DO LIFE TOGETHER, I HAD TO ALSO REALIZE THAT
  • 00:24:40.200 --> 00:24:45.060
  • THERE'S ANOTHER PERSON IN THERE, THERE ARE A FEW
  • 00:24:45.080 --> 00:24:47.060
  • PEOPLE IN THERE THAT-- [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:24:47.080 --> 00:24:54.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:24:54.100 --> 00:24:56.210
  • NOT CRAZY PEOPLE BUT A BROKEN LITTLE BOY AGE
  • 00:24:56.230 --> 00:25:00.030
  • FOUR, AND THERE WAS THE ONE THAT DIDN'T GET
  • 00:25:00.050 --> 00:25:02.280
  • CHOSEN FOR THE TEAM AT NINE WHO STILL CARRIES
  • 00:25:03.000 --> 00:25:05.270
  • THAT, SO WHEN I SAY SOMETHING THAT REMINDS
  • 00:25:05.290 --> 00:25:08.150
  • HIM OF THAT MOMENT WHERE HE WAS CHOSEN LAST, IT
  • 00:25:08.170 --> 00:25:13.140
  • BRINGS ALL OF THAT PAIN THAT HAD NOTHING
  • 00:25:13.160 --> 00:25:14.270
  • TO DO WITH ME TO ME.
  • 00:25:14.290 --> 00:25:16.250
  • SO WE HAVE TO BE PREPARED TO RECEIVE THAT, AND WE
  • 00:25:16.270 --> 00:25:19.290
  • HAVE TO KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN IT COMES.
  • 00:25:20.010 --> 00:25:22.000
  • [APPLAUSE] AMEN.
  • 00:25:22.020 --> 00:25:26.150
  • THE BUTTERFLY MENTALITY IS GREAT, BUT GOD DOESN'T
  • 00:25:26.170 --> 00:25:29.270
  • WANT US BROKEN AND HURTING ALL THE TIME,
  • 00:25:29.290 --> 00:25:32.190
  • BUT WE HAVE THOSE BROKEN PLACES AND THAT ALWAYS
  • 00:25:32.210 --> 00:25:34.220
  • KEEPS YOU CLOSE TO HIM BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO HAVE
  • 00:25:34.240 --> 00:25:39.090
  • SOMETHING THAT WILL KEEP YOU HUMBLE BEFORE HIM,
  • 00:25:39.110 --> 00:25:42.170
  • SO I BELIEVE THAT BREAKING DOWN THE BUTTERFLY
  • 00:25:42.190 --> 00:25:47.040
  • MENTALITY FROM THE START WILL HELP YOU IN
  • 00:25:47.060 --> 00:25:49.240
  • YOUR MARRIAGE AS WELL.
  • 00:25:49.260 --> 00:25:51.110
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:25:51.130 --> 00:25:55.050
  • TWO OR THREE PEOPLE.
  • 00:25:55.070 --> 00:25:57.030
  • - WE GOT 16 MINUTES AND WE GOT FIVE MORE POINTS.
  • 00:25:57.050 --> 00:25:59.180
  • - GO FAST.
  • 00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:00.240
  • - I'M NOT.
  • 00:26:00.260 --> 00:26:01.290
  • - WHICH IS HARD FOR YOU, YOU'RE BLACK.
  • 00:26:02.010 --> 00:26:04.120
  • - I'M MIXED. I AM BLACK AND WHITE.
  • 00:26:04.140 --> 00:26:07.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:07.090 --> 00:26:09.250
  • - THAT'S WHY I ONLY SPANK MY KIDS HALF THE TIME.
  • 00:26:09.270 --> 00:26:11.240
  • - LONGEST MIDWEEK SERVICE LAKEWOOD HAS EVER HAD.
  • 00:26:11.260 --> 00:26:14.180
  • - STOP JUDGING ME.
  • 00:26:14.200 --> 00:26:16.020
  • I THINK ONE OF THE THINGS TO JUST ADD A CAVEAT TO
  • 00:26:16.040 --> 00:26:21.090
  • YOUR POINT ABOUT THIS PRINCIPAL OF THE
  • 00:26:21.110 --> 00:26:23.140
  • BUTTERFLY IS THAT VERY RARELY DO YOU HEAL PAST
  • 00:26:23.160 --> 00:26:26.180
  • YOUR FIRST REJECTION.
  • 00:26:26.200 --> 00:26:29.140
  • SO WHEN YOU TALKED ABOUT THINGS THAT HAPPENED TO
  • 00:26:29.160 --> 00:26:32.070
  • ME AT FOUR YEARS OLD, NOT GETTING PICKED AT NINE,
  • 00:26:32.090 --> 00:26:34.280
  • BEING REJECTED BY THE GIRL AT 13 WHICH...
  • 00:26:35.000 --> 00:26:38.040
  • - THAT'S HER LOSS.
  • 00:26:38.060 --> 00:26:39.130
  • - TOO BAD FOR YOU BOO 'CAUSE I'M A BALLER NOW.
  • 00:26:39.150 --> 00:26:42.200
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:42.220 --> 00:26:44.090
  • - YEAH GIRL! THANK YOU WHOEVER YOU ARE.
  • 00:26:44.110 --> 00:26:46.050
  • THANK YOU, I APPRECIATE THAT.
  • 00:26:46.070 --> 00:26:47.250
  • [JOHN LAUGHS]
  • 00:26:47.270 --> 00:26:50.250
  • [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
  • 00:26:50.270 --> 00:26:53.170
  • WHEN I THINK ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE SOMEONE
  • 00:26:53.190 --> 00:26:57.250
  • LOVE YOU THROUGH YOUR MOST VULNERABLE PLACES,
  • 00:26:57.270 --> 00:27:00.180
  • I NOTICE EVEN IN THE LAST FEW WEEKS THERE'S BEEN A
  • 00:27:00.200 --> 00:27:02.220
  • LOT OF STRESS, LAST COUPLE OF YEARS THERE'S
  • 00:27:02.240 --> 00:27:04.210
  • BEEN TONS OF STRESS IN OUR MARRIAGE, AND I'VE
  • 00:27:04.230 --> 00:27:06.200
  • TAKEN IT OUT ON YOU BECAUSE WITHOUT KNOWING
  • 00:27:06.220 --> 00:27:09.080
  • IT YOU ALWAYS, YOU ALWAYS SHOW YOUR GREATEST PLACES
  • 00:27:09.100 --> 00:27:14.250
  • OF PAIN TO THE ONES CLOSEST TO YOU.
  • 00:27:14.270 --> 00:27:17.210
  • IF YOU DON'T DO IT PROPERLY, YOU CAN WOUND
  • 00:27:17.230 --> 00:27:20.040
  • THE PERSON THAT WAS DESIGNED TO LOVE YOU OUT OF IT.
  • 00:27:20.060 --> 00:27:22.240
  • AND SO I FOUND MYSELF RAILING, BEING SHORT IN
  • 00:27:22.260 --> 00:27:27.140
  • TEMPER AND DISPOSITION SAYING WORDS OF OFFENSE
  • 00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:30.180
  • OUT OF MY OWN PAIN, AND YOU NORMALLY DO THAT TO
  • 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:33.230
  • PEOPLE WHO YOU KNOW WON'T LEAVE YOU.
  • 00:27:33.250 --> 00:27:36.170
  • AND SO IT'S ALMOST LIKE GOD WAS SHOWING ME THAT
  • 00:27:36.190 --> 00:27:39.080
  • SOMETIMES YOU SPEAK AND TREAT STRANGERS BETTER
  • 00:27:39.100 --> 00:27:42.210
  • THAN YOUR OWN WIFE, AND THAT NEEDS TO END.
  • 00:27:42.230 --> 00:27:45.220
  • SO NOW I'M GONNA START TREATING STRANGERS LIKE
  • 00:27:45.240 --> 00:27:47.250
  • CRAP AND LOVING MY WIFE.
  • 00:27:47.270 --> 00:27:49.130
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:27:49.150 --> 00:27:51.240
  • - WHY CAN'T WE DO BOTH!
  • 00:27:51.260 --> 00:27:55.040
  • - I'M SO SERIOUS.
  • 00:27:55.060 --> 00:27:56.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:27:56.280 --> 00:27:59.030
  • SO I JUST WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT HERE WITH
  • 00:27:59.050 --> 00:28:02.100
  • EVERYBODY, SOMETIMES GLOSSES OVER THE THING
  • 00:28:02.120 --> 00:28:05.030
  • THAT I'VE NOT BEEN IS A GREAT HUSBAND.
  • 00:28:05.050 --> 00:28:07.000
  • I'VE BEEN I THINK A GOOD MAN AND A GOOD PROVIDER,
  • 00:28:07.020 --> 00:28:09.030
  • BUT I ALSO HAVE TO BE HONEST AND SAY I HAVEN'T
  • 00:28:09.050 --> 00:28:10.240
  • MET YOUR EMOTIONAL NEEDS, I HAVEN'T ALWAYS COVERED
  • 00:28:10.260 --> 00:28:13.070
  • THE HOUSE LIKE I COULD, FIGHTING FOR
  • 00:28:13.090 --> 00:28:14.280
  • EVERYBODY ELSE'S MARRIAGE, TRAVELING AND
  • 00:28:15.000 --> 00:28:16.180
  • ALL OF THAT AND NEEDING OR THINKING THAT I WAS
  • 00:28:16.200 --> 00:28:19.280
  • HELPING GOD BY PUSHING FOR KINGDOM THINGS WHEN
  • 00:28:20.000 --> 00:28:23.240
  • IN FACT WHAT GOD'S GONNA ASK ME ABOUT WHEN THE END
  • 00:28:23.260 --> 00:28:26.020
  • OF THIS IS HOW DID YOU TAKE CARE OF
  • 00:28:26.040 --> 00:28:27.210
  • YOUR WIFE AND YOUR KIDS.
  • 00:28:27.230 --> 00:28:29.170
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:28:29.190 --> 00:28:32.160
  • SO THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME WHEN I WAS MOST UNLOVABLE.
  • 00:28:32.180 --> 00:28:36.170
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:28:36.190 --> 00:28:40.100
  • - ME.
  • 00:28:40.120 --> 00:28:42.220
  • BUT SHE KEPT FOLLOWING ME AROUND CHURCH.
  • 00:28:42.240 --> 00:28:45.070
  • VERY EMBARRASSING.
  • 00:28:45.090 --> 00:28:47.040
  • OH, MY GOSH, JOHN GRAY, YOU ARE SO HANDSOME.
  • 00:28:47.060 --> 00:28:51.250
  • OH, MY GOSH, I LOVE YOU ALREADY.
  • 00:28:51.270 --> 00:28:53.210
  • - EVERYBODY KNOWS THIS IS NOT ACCURATE.
  • 00:28:53.230 --> 00:28:55.210
  • - AVENTER, TELL THE TRUTH.
  • 00:28:55.230 --> 00:28:57.010
  • WHO SAT NEXT TO WHO AT CHURCH FIRST?
  • 00:28:57.030 --> 00:28:59.100
  • - YOU SAT NEXT TO ME BECAUSE I WAS ALREADY SEATED.
  • 00:28:59.120 --> 00:29:01.230
  • - WHO SAT NEXT TO WHO SECOND?
  • 00:29:01.250 --> 00:29:04.040
  • - YOU.
  • 00:29:04.060 --> 00:29:05.030
  • - RIGHT.
  • 00:29:05.050 --> 00:29:06.060
  • - BECAUSE I WAS ALREADY SEATED.
  • 00:29:06.080 --> 00:29:07.050
  • - YES, BOTH TIMES.
  • 00:29:07.070 --> 00:29:08.110
  • WE ENDED UP SITTING NEXT TO EACH OTHER TWICE
  • 00:29:08.130 --> 00:29:10.060
  • AT A CHURCH WITH LIKE 15.000 MEMBERS.
  • 00:29:10.080 --> 00:29:12.170
  • WE ENDED UP SITTING NEXT TO EACH OTHER TWO WEEKS
  • 00:29:12.190 --> 00:29:14.260
  • IN A ROW, AND THAT'S HOW GOD GETS MY ATTENTION
  • 00:29:14.280 --> 00:29:17.060
  • BECAUSE I'M NOT VERY BRIGHT, SO HE HAS TO BE
  • 00:29:17.080 --> 00:29:19.060
  • LIKE HEY, DUMB DUMB, THAT'S THE ONE I LIKE!
  • 00:29:19.080 --> 00:29:22.090
  • AND SO THAT'S HOW WE CONNECTED.
  • 00:29:22.110 --> 00:29:24.240
  • AND THE SECOND WEEK WE ENDED UP SITTING NEXT TO
  • 00:29:24.260 --> 00:29:26.110
  • EACH OTHER I WAS LIKE WHY DO YOU KEEP FOLLOWING ME,
  • 00:29:26.130 --> 00:29:28.050
  • AND HER RESPONSE WAS...
  • 00:29:28.070 --> 00:29:29.290
  • - YOU'RE SITTING IN THE DANCER'S SECTION, WHICH
  • 00:29:30.010 --> 00:29:31.210
  • WAS THE TRUTH BECAUSE THAT'S WHERE WE SIT.
  • 00:29:31.230 --> 00:29:34.020
  • THAT'S HOW YOU WERE STALKING ME BECAUSE YOU
  • 00:29:34.040 --> 00:29:36.050
  • FIGURED OUT WHERE THE DANCER SECTION WAS.
  • 00:29:36.070 --> 00:29:38.050
  • YOU KNEW THAT'S WHERE I WOULD BE.
  • 00:29:38.070 --> 00:29:40.160
  • YOU JUST KEPT SHOWING UP AND SITTING DOWN.
  • 00:29:40.180 --> 00:29:43.190
  • I WAS MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS WORSHIPPING THE
  • 00:29:43.210 --> 00:29:46.060
  • LORD AND YOU WERE FOLLOWING ME.
  • 00:29:46.080 --> 00:29:47.160
  • THANK YOU.
  • 00:29:47.180 --> 00:29:49.080
  • - IT'S KIND OF HOW IT WENT.
  • 00:29:49.100 --> 00:29:50.140
  • - THANK YOU.
  • 00:29:50.160 --> 00:29:52.040
  • - MY NEXT POINT IS FOR THE FELLAHS AND THE
  • 00:29:52.060 --> 00:29:55.130
  • LADIES, BEWARE THE CURSE OF COMMON.
  • 00:29:55.150 --> 00:29:58.120
  • THE CURSE OF COMMON.
  • 00:29:58.140 --> 00:30:01.220
  • SCRIPTURE SAYS LOVE YOUR WIFE LIKE CHRIST LOVES
  • 00:30:01.240 --> 00:30:04.050
  • THE CHURCH, SO THAT IS AN UNCOMMON LOVE.
  • 00:30:04.070 --> 00:30:08.140
  • THAT IS AN UNCOMMON PASSION.
  • 00:30:08.160 --> 00:30:10.270
  • AND IN A VERY COMMON TIME WHERE PEOPLE TREAT EACH
  • 00:30:10.290 --> 00:30:13.240
  • OTHER CASUALLY, YOU CAN VERY WELL WALK PAST YOUR
  • 00:30:13.260 --> 00:30:17.040
  • MIRACLE AND MISS YOUR BLESSING.
  • 00:30:17.060 --> 00:30:19.230
  • IT'S REAL QUIET IN HERE.
  • 00:30:19.250 --> 00:30:22.010
  • I THINK I NEED TO STAND UP AGAIN BUT I'M GONNA,
  • 00:30:22.030 --> 00:30:24.280
  • THE CURSE OF COMMON IS WHEN YOU ARE SITTING NEXT
  • 00:30:25.000 --> 00:30:27.080
  • TO THE PERSON GOD HAD IN MIND FOR ALL OF ETERNITY
  • 00:30:27.100 --> 00:30:30.060
  • AND YOU TREAT THEM REGULARLY.
  • 00:30:30.080 --> 00:30:32.240
  • MA'AM, I KNOW THAT HE IS NOT PERFECT, AND HE HAS
  • 00:30:32.260 --> 00:30:38.100
  • NOT DONE EVERYTHING RIGHT, BUT HE WAS WHO GOD
  • 00:30:38.120 --> 00:30:40.250
  • INTENDED FOR YOU TO BE WITH IN THIS MOMENT IN
  • 00:30:40.270 --> 00:30:43.270
  • YOUR LIFE TO BRING ABOUT YOUR HOPES, YOUR DREAMS,
  • 00:30:43.290 --> 00:30:47.010
  • AND EVERYTHING THAT'S IN YOU EVEN THE GOOD AND BAD
  • 00:30:47.030 --> 00:30:49.040
  • WAS PURPOSED, SO LET US NOT TREAT HIM COMMONLY,
  • 00:30:49.060 --> 00:30:52.280
  • MAN OF GOD THAT WOMAN IS YOUR FAVOR,
  • 00:30:53.000 --> 00:30:55.010
  • SHE IS THE FAVOR FACTOR IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:30:55.030 --> 00:30:57.000
  • DO NOT WALK PAST HER LIKE SHE'S JUST A REGULAR OLD
  • 00:30:57.020 --> 00:31:00.030
  • SOMEBODY AND DON'T GIVE YOUR EYES TO FOREIGN
  • 00:31:00.050 --> 00:31:03.030
  • WOMEN, AND DON'T THINK THAT IT'S BETTER ON THE
  • 00:31:03.050 --> 00:31:05.080
  • OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE BECAUSE THE GRASS MIGHT
  • 00:31:05.100 --> 00:31:08.020
  • LOOK GREENER BUT THE DOG IS ALSO MEANER.
  • 00:31:08.040 --> 00:31:10.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:10.280 --> 00:31:14.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:31:14.140 --> 00:31:17.150
  • - AVENTER: RUFF, RUFF.
  • 00:31:17.170 --> 00:31:18.240
  • - I'M TIRED OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES LOOKING GOOFY
  • 00:31:18.260 --> 00:31:21.140
  • AND CORNY AND NON-ROMANTIC.
  • 00:31:21.160 --> 00:31:23.230
  • WE'LL JUST GO READ BIBLES AND EAT COOKIES.
  • 00:31:23.250 --> 00:31:28.070
  • NO. WE ARE THE ONES THAT HAVE THE REVELATION.
  • 00:31:28.090 --> 00:31:30.260
  • WE NEED TO BE THE ONES LEADING IN LOVE AND
  • 00:31:30.280 --> 00:31:33.080
  • PASSION AND ROMANCE.
  • 00:31:33.100 --> 00:31:35.050
  • AND WE NEED TO NOT TREAT EACH OTHER COMMON.
  • 00:31:35.070 --> 00:31:37.150
  • MAN OF GOD IN THE NEXT TWO WEEKS GO UP TO HER
  • 00:31:37.170 --> 00:31:39.210
  • JOB, SET IT OFF, SURPRISE HER, BRING HER LUNCH,
  • 00:31:39.230 --> 00:31:42.200
  • BRING FLOWERS, PUT HER UP AGAINST THE WALL IN THE
  • 00:31:42.220 --> 00:31:45.000
  • CUBICAL AND BE LIKE GIRL, I LOVE YOU!
  • 00:31:45.020 --> 00:31:47.030
  • I NEED YOU!
  • 00:31:47.050 --> 00:31:49.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:31:49.110 --> 00:31:52.020
  • JUST GO UP THERE AND LET ALL THE MEN AT THE JOB
  • 00:31:52.040 --> 00:31:53.280
  • KNOW SHE GOT A GROWN MAN WAITING ON HER OUTSIDE.
  • 00:31:54.000 --> 00:31:57.120
  • JUST GO ON UP THERE LIKE A LION AND
  • 00:31:57.140 --> 00:31:59.060
  • MARK YOUR TERRITORY. WHAT'S UP MAN?
  • 00:31:59.080 --> 00:32:01.060
  • YOU GOOD? GOOD TO SEE YOU TOO!
  • 00:32:01.080 --> 00:32:04.030
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:32:04.050 --> 00:32:08.100
  • GOOD TO SEE YOU, GOOD TO SEE YOU.
  • 00:32:08.120 --> 00:32:10.130
  • GOOD TO SEE YOU! [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:32:10.150 --> 00:32:15.110
  • BEWARE THE CURSE OF COMMON.
  • 00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:19.080
  • STOP TREATING EACH OTHER LIKE WE'RE DISPOSABLE.
  • 00:32:19.100 --> 00:32:23.060
  • LET'S NOT CARRY OUR MARRIAGES
  • 00:32:23.080 --> 00:32:25.020
  • LIKE THEY'RE REGULAR.
  • 00:32:25.040 --> 00:32:26.190
  • STOP LOOKING AT INSTAGRAM WISHING YOU WERE WITH
  • 00:32:26.210 --> 00:32:29.110
  • SOMEBODY ELSE DOING OTHER THINGS BECAUSE ALL OF
  • 00:32:29.130 --> 00:32:32.070
  • THEM PICTURES TOOK 45 PICTURES BEFORE
  • 00:32:32.090 --> 00:32:34.170
  • THEY PUT THAT ONE UP.
  • 00:32:34.190 --> 00:32:37.010
  • THEN THEY PUT A FILTER ON IT TO
  • 00:32:37.030 --> 00:32:38.120
  • COVER OVER THE ZITS.
  • 00:32:38.140 --> 00:32:40.160
  • AND YOU DON'T KNOW, SHE GOT HER TOES OUT BUT IT
  • 00:32:40.180 --> 00:32:42.180
  • SMELL LIKE THREE CORN CHIPS AND AN
  • 00:32:42.200 --> 00:32:45.010
  • OLD BAG OF POTATOES.
  • 00:32:45.030 --> 00:32:48.180
  • LOVE WHO YOU GOT IN YOUR HOUSE LIKE YOU
  • 00:32:48.200 --> 00:32:51.240
  • GOT ONE DAY LEFT.
  • 00:32:51.260 --> 00:32:54.030
  • LOVE HER LIKE CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH!
  • 00:32:54.050 --> 00:32:58.230
  • HONOR THAT MAN. TAKE CARE OF THAT MAN.
  • 00:32:58.250 --> 00:33:02.090
  • EVERY NOW AND THEN COOK FOR THAT MAN IN SOME
  • 00:33:02.110 --> 00:33:04.270
  • LINGERIE. COOK FOR HIM IN A LITTLE SOMETHING.
  • 00:33:04.290 --> 00:33:13.130
  • - SO LET ME SPEAK TO THAT.
  • 00:33:13.150 --> 00:33:14.260
  • LET ME SPEAK TO THAT SIR.
  • 00:33:14.280 --> 00:33:16.170
  • - SPEAK TO IT.
  • 00:33:16.190 --> 00:33:18.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:33:18.160 --> 00:33:21.120
  • - CAN'T ALWAYS COOK IN LINGERIE WHEN YOU HAVE
  • 00:33:21.140 --> 00:33:23.210
  • LITTLE PEOPLE AS A RESULT OF THE LINGERIE.
  • 00:33:23.230 --> 00:33:27.010
  • - GET A BABYSITTER. LET THEM WATCH NETFLIX.
  • 00:33:27.030 --> 00:33:28.290
  • - I'M TALKING TO WIVES NOW.
  • 00:33:29.010 --> 00:33:31.030
  • NO, BECAUSE SOMETIMES THE HUSBANDS ARE LIKE MAN,
  • 00:33:31.050 --> 00:33:34.040
  • THIS IS ALL ABOUT THE KIDS AND THEY START
  • 00:33:34.060 --> 00:33:36.020
  • FEELING LEFT OUT, SO SOMETIMES YOU ARE GOING
  • 00:33:36.040 --> 00:33:40.010
  • TO HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE TIME FOR EACH
  • 00:33:40.030 --> 00:33:43.150
  • OTHER. EVEN IF YOU DO HAVE CHILDREN, YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:33:43.170 --> 00:33:45.180
  • FIGHT FOR IT. IT'S REALLY HARD.
  • 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:47.160
  • MINE, THEY COME IN ALL TIMES OF THE DAY AND NIGHT.
  • 00:33:47.180 --> 00:33:50.260
  • THEY DO WHAT THEY WANT.
  • 00:33:50.280 --> 00:33:52.110
  • IT'S HIS FAULT BECAUSE HE ALLOWS THEM TO, SO GET A
  • 00:33:52.130 --> 00:33:55.090
  • HANDLE ON YOUR KIDS SO YOU CAN COOK IN LINGERIE
  • 00:33:55.110 --> 00:33:58.040
  • AND ALL THAT KIND CARRYING ON.
  • 00:33:58.060 --> 00:33:59.240
  • - YOU BETTER LOCK THAT DOOR.
  • 00:33:59.260 --> 00:34:01.270
  • - MY NEXT ONE IS LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS,
  • 00:34:01.290 --> 00:34:04.210
  • AND I REALLY WANT TO SPEAK TO WHAT YOU WERE
  • 00:34:04.230 --> 00:34:07.190
  • SAYING ABOUT COMMON.
  • 00:34:07.210 --> 00:34:09.110
  • EVEN AT YOUR WORST MOMENT OR WHEN YOU'VE BEEN HURT
  • 00:34:09.130 --> 00:34:12.270
  • MOST BY YOUR SPOUSE, STILL HONOR AND REVERE
  • 00:34:12.290 --> 00:34:15.130
  • THEM THE WAY THAT THE LORD SAYS.
  • 00:34:15.150 --> 00:34:17.160
  • I FEEL LIKE YOU SHOULD STILL TREAT YOUR HUSBAND
  • 00:34:17.180 --> 00:34:20.160
  • LIKE THE KING THAT HE IS EVEN THOUGH HE HAS DONE
  • 00:34:20.180 --> 00:34:24.010
  • SOMETHING THAT YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WANTED TO, YOU
  • 00:34:24.030 --> 00:34:28.170
  • KNOW, PUT HIM IN THE TOILET AND FLUSH IT.
  • 00:34:28.190 --> 00:34:31.180
  • BUT IT'S OKAY. THOSE TIMES WILL COME.
  • 00:34:31.200 --> 00:34:35.080
  • IT'S INEVITABLE, BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE
  • 00:34:35.100 --> 00:34:38.160
  • WAY YOU LOVE A PERSON THROUGH THE TIMES WHERE
  • 00:34:38.180 --> 00:34:42.140
  • THEY MIGHT NOT HAVE GOTTEN IT RIGHT REMINDS
  • 00:34:42.160 --> 00:34:44.230
  • THEM OF THE LOVE OF CHRIST, AND WE ALWAYS
  • 00:34:44.250 --> 00:34:47.020
  • HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT WE ARE REPRESENTING CHRIST
  • 00:34:47.040 --> 00:34:49.290
  • INSIDE OF OUR MARRIAGES.
  • 00:34:50.010 --> 00:34:52.050
  • THERE'S NO GREATER LOVE THAN THE LOVE THAT THE
  • 00:34:52.070 --> 00:34:55.100
  • LORD GIVES TO US AND THE GRACE THAT HE GIVES TO
  • 00:34:55.120 --> 00:34:57.170
  • US, AND I KNOW IT'S HARD BUT WE ALSO HAVE TO
  • 00:34:57.190 --> 00:35:00.150
  • EXTEND THAT SAME LOVE AND GRACE TO OUR SPOUSES WHEN
  • 00:35:00.170 --> 00:35:03.200
  • THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING OPPOSITE OF WHAT
  • 00:35:03.220 --> 00:35:06.140
  • YOU FEEL IS CORRECT.
  • 00:35:06.160 --> 00:35:08.240
  • SOMETIMES MY WORLD VIEW AND MY HUSBAND'S WORLD
  • 00:35:08.260 --> 00:35:12.170
  • VIEW DO NOT ALIGN, SO WHO IS RIGHT?
  • 00:35:12.190 --> 00:35:19.070
  • I THINK YOU CAN AGREE TO DISAGREE RESPECTFULLY
  • 00:35:19.090 --> 00:35:22.050
  • WITHOUT HURTING EACH OTHER'S FEELINGS,
  • 00:35:22.070 --> 00:35:23.240
  • WITHOUT TREATING EACH OTHER DIFFERENTLY.
  • 00:35:23.260 --> 00:35:26.280
  • I'M NOT GONNA COOK FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T
  • 00:35:27.000 --> 00:35:28.220
  • AGREE WITH ME, OR I'M NOT GONNA PICK YOU UP TODAY
  • 00:35:28.240 --> 00:35:32.170
  • FROM WORK, FIND A RIDE.
  • 00:35:32.190 --> 00:35:35.000
  • ALL OF THOSE VINDICTIVE THINGS WE NEED TO
  • 00:35:35.020 --> 00:35:36.230
  • PUT UNDER THE TABLE.
  • 00:35:36.250 --> 00:35:38.200
  • WE HAVE TO LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS AND BE
  • 00:35:38.220 --> 00:35:41.260
  • REMINDED LIKE THE WORD SAYS THAT...
  • 00:35:41.280 --> 00:35:46.240
  • - GO AHEAD. I JUST WANTED TO TOUCH YOUR FINGER.
  • 00:35:46.260 --> 00:35:49.060
  • GO AHEAD.
  • 00:35:49.080 --> 00:35:50.230
  • GET YOU THROWN OFF, HUH?
  • 00:35:50.250 --> 00:35:52.080
  • - IT DOES! WHY ARE YOU TOUCHING ME?
  • 00:35:52.100 --> 00:35:53.290
  • - BECAUSE I WANTED TO PROVE A POINT.
  • 00:35:54.010 --> 00:35:55.230
  • WE CAN'T ARGUE IF WE'RE TOUCHING.
  • 00:35:55.250 --> 00:35:57.250
  • - IT IS TRUE.
  • 00:35:57.270 --> 00:35:59.100
  • - WE CANNOT ARGUE WHEN WE'RE TOUCHING.
  • 00:35:59.120 --> 00:36:01.060
  • I DON'T CARE HOW ANGRY WE ARE.
  • 00:36:01.080 --> 00:36:03.000
  • - IT'S NOT FAIR. THAT'S NOT FAIR.
  • 00:36:03.020 --> 00:36:05.090
  • - SHE COULD BE GOING OFF AND SHE COULD BE RIGHT,
  • 00:36:05.110 --> 00:36:07.040
  • I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU DID.
  • 00:36:07.060 --> 00:36:08.180
  • ALL I'LL DO IS THIS RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:36:08.200 --> 00:36:10.080
  • WHEN DADDY PUT THE FINGER ON HER.
  • 00:36:10.100 --> 00:36:12.030
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:12.050 --> 00:36:13.210
  • [GROWLING]
  • 00:36:13.230 --> 00:36:15.100
  • YES, HOW CAN TWO WALK LEST THEY AGREE,
  • 00:36:15.120 --> 00:36:19.090
  • ANY TWO TOUCH AS AGREEING.
  • 00:36:19.110 --> 00:36:21.140
  • - YEAH, IT IS TRUE.
  • 00:36:21.160 --> 00:36:24.090
  • FIND A WAY TO TOUCH, FIND A WAY TO CONNECT
  • 00:36:24.110 --> 00:36:26.130
  • ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU'RE UPSET BECAUSE WHEN YOU
  • 00:36:26.150 --> 00:36:28.130
  • ARE CONNECTED AND WHEN YOU ARE TOUCHING...
  • 00:36:28.150 --> 00:36:31.060
  • - GO AHEAD.
  • 00:36:31.080 --> 00:36:33.090
  • YOU CAN'T EVEN FOCUS. [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:33.110 --> 00:36:36.090
  • I'M GOOD, RIGHT?
  • 00:36:36.110 --> 00:36:37.150
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:37.170 --> 00:36:39.070
  • - THE LOVE SEEMS TO FIND ITS WAY BACK.
  • 00:36:39.090 --> 00:36:42.190
  • - HERE'S THE THING, IT DOESN'T FIND ITS WAY
  • 00:36:42.210 --> 00:36:44.170
  • BACK; IT MANIFESTS AND REEMERGES BECAUSE
  • 00:36:44.190 --> 00:36:47.140
  • IT HAD NEVER LEFT.
  • 00:36:47.160 --> 00:36:49.040
  • THE KEY IS THE ENEMY WILL USE SMALL ISSUES AND TURN
  • 00:36:49.060 --> 00:36:52.130
  • THEM INTO MAJOR OCCURRENCES, BUT WHEN YOU
  • 00:36:52.150 --> 00:36:56.050
  • GET BACK TO THE ROOT, GIVE ME THIS HERE, YES,
  • 00:36:56.070 --> 00:36:59.270
  • SEE WHEN YOU GET RIGHT HERE, YOU DON'T GIVE ROOM.
  • 00:36:59.290 --> 00:37:02.250
  • THE BIBLE SAYS GIVE NO ROOM TO THE DEVIL.
  • 00:37:02.270 --> 00:37:05.030
  • SO YOU'VE GOT TO RECONNECT AND IT'S VERY
  • 00:37:05.050 --> 00:37:08.000
  • HARD TO ARGUE WHEN YOU'RE HUGGING.
  • 00:37:08.020 --> 00:37:10.000
  • IT'S VERY HARD TO ARGUE WHEN YOU'RE KISSING.
  • 00:37:10.020 --> 00:37:12.090
  • IT'S VERY HARD TO ARGUE WHEN YOU
  • 00:37:12.110 --> 00:37:13.230
  • BOOT UP! DA, DA, DA, DA, BOOT UP! BOOT UP!
  • 00:37:13.250 --> 00:37:17.160
  • SO WHEN YOU--
  • 00:37:17.180 --> 00:37:19.130
  • - I HAVE NO CLUE WHO SINGS THAT SONG.
  • 00:37:19.150 --> 00:37:21.100
  • - I DON'T KNOW EITHER.
  • 00:37:21.120 --> 00:37:22.190
  • I'M SAVED, I DON'T EVEN SING SONGS LIKE THAT.
  • 00:37:22.210 --> 00:37:24.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:24.090 --> 00:37:26.080
  • WHEN YOU SAY LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS, MY WIFE WILL
  • 00:37:26.100 --> 00:37:28.080
  • TELL YOU THERE ARE TIMES WHEN WE ARGUE AND THIS IS
  • 00:37:28.100 --> 00:37:30.280
  • HOW I ARGUE, WELL I'M MAD AT YOU TOO!
  • 00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:34.190
  • YEAH, WELL, YOU GET ON MY NERVES TOO!
  • 00:37:34.210 --> 00:37:36.220
  • WHAT DO YOU WANT TO EAT?
  • 00:37:36.240 --> 00:37:38.090
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:38.110 --> 00:37:40.080
  • AND AS SOON AS I SAY IT, SHE'S LIKE WHAT?
  • 00:37:40.100 --> 00:37:44.210
  • RED LOBSTER, CHEDDAR BISCUITS, SWEET TEA.
  • 00:37:44.230 --> 00:37:48.030
  • BECAUSE I KNOW HOW TO STOP AN ARGUMENT.
  • 00:37:48.050 --> 00:37:50.130
  • I HONOR HER IN THE MIDDLE OF IT.
  • 00:37:50.150 --> 00:37:52.080
  • I'M ACKNOWLEDGING HER ANGER, BUT I'M ALSO
  • 00:37:52.100 --> 00:37:54.080
  • SAYING, THIS IS GOING TO END, SO LET ME
  • 00:37:54.100 --> 00:37:56.240
  • END IT WITH LOVE.
  • 00:37:56.260 --> 00:37:58.100
  • IF SHE'S MAD AT ME, I'LL STILL SERVE.
  • 00:37:58.120 --> 00:37:59.280
  • SHE'S BEEN MAD AT ME, AND I'LL STILL BRING
  • 00:38:00.020 --> 00:38:01.170
  • HER A PLATE OF FOOD.
  • 00:38:01.190 --> 00:38:02.260
  • - YEAH, GET BACK TO LOVE.
  • 00:38:02.280 --> 00:38:04.060
  • - AND I ALWAYS BRING A NAPKIN AND SILVERWARE.
  • 00:38:04.080 --> 00:38:05.230
  • I HONOR HER, SO EVEN WHILE SHE'S MAD, I
  • 00:38:05.250 --> 00:38:07.030
  • VALIDATE HER, HONOR HER ISSUE.
  • 00:38:07.050 --> 00:38:09.010
  • WHATEVER IT IS, IT'S REAL, BUT I'M STILL GOING
  • 00:38:09.030 --> 00:38:11.100
  • TO SERVE YOU, AND THAT'S HOW YOU NEUTRALIZE THE
  • 00:38:11.120 --> 00:38:13.090
  • DEVIL.
  • 00:38:13.110 --> 00:38:14.250
  • YOU CAN STILL DISAGREE AND LOVE EACH OTHER
  • 00:38:14.270 --> 00:38:16.120
  • THROUGH THE DISAGREEMENT.
  • 00:38:16.140 --> 00:38:17.160
  • - AMEN.
  • 00:38:17.180 --> 00:38:18.270
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:38:18.290 --> 00:38:20.150
  • THAT'S GREAT.
  • 00:38:20.170 --> 00:38:22.080
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:38:22.100 --> 00:38:23.170
  • - YES, IT'S MY TURN.
  • 00:38:23.190 --> 00:38:25.070
  • DON'T DO THAT, GIRL. I'LL TURN THESE LIGHTS DOWN.
  • 00:38:25.090 --> 00:38:26.290
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:38:27.010 --> 00:38:28.230
  • LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M STARVING.
  • 00:38:28.250 --> 00:38:30.180
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:38:30.200 --> 00:38:32.190
  • HERE'S A POINT, CHECK YOUR ROOTS. CHECK YOUR ROOTS.
  • 00:38:32.210 --> 00:38:37.110
  • LADIES ARE LIKE, WHY? IS MY HAIR A MESS?
  • 00:38:37.130 --> 00:38:39.290
  • NO, CHECK YOUR ROOTS. EVERYBODY SAY IT.
  • 00:38:40.010 --> 00:38:43.070
  • - CHECK YOUR ROOTS.
  • 00:38:43.090 --> 00:38:45.040
  • - PLANTED IN THE HOUSE OF THE LORD, THEY SHALL
  • 00:38:45.060 --> 00:38:47.020
  • FLOURISH IN THE COURTS OF OUR GOD.
  • 00:38:47.040 --> 00:38:49.190
  • I AM THE VINE, YOU ARE THE BRANCHES.
  • 00:38:49.210 --> 00:38:51.030
  • APART FROM ME, YOU CAN DO NOTHING.
  • 00:38:51.050 --> 00:38:54.100
  • AND SO EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS TO BE ROOTED IN
  • 00:38:54.120 --> 00:38:56.140
  • CHRIST JESUS.
  • 00:38:56.160 --> 00:38:58.100
  • AND WHAT THE HOLY GHOST SAID TO ME WAS,
  • 00:38:58.120 --> 00:39:00.040
  • "CHECK YOUR ROOTS".
  • 00:39:00.060 --> 00:39:01.230
  • BUILD YOUR HOUSE NOT FROM THE GROUND, BUT FROM
  • 00:39:01.250 --> 00:39:03.250
  • UNDERGROUND. EVERYBODY SAY UNDERGROUND.
  • 00:39:03.270 --> 00:39:05.160
  • - UNDERGROUND.
  • 00:39:05.180 --> 00:39:07.150
  • - AND SO WHEN YOU'RE BUILDING FROM
  • 00:39:07.170 --> 00:39:09.110
  • UNDERGROUND, THAT MEANS THERE ARE CERTAIN THINGS
  • 00:39:09.130 --> 00:39:11.120
  • THAT YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE NEED TO BUILD THAT NO ONE
  • 00:39:11.140 --> 00:39:13.040
  • ELSE IS AWARE OF.
  • 00:39:13.060 --> 00:39:14.250
  • THERE ARE SOME CONVERSATIONS THAT ARE
  • 00:39:14.270 --> 00:39:16.140
  • NOT PRIVY TO YOUR FRIENDS.
  • 00:39:16.160 --> 00:39:18.010
  • THERE ARE THINGS THAT MY WIFE AND I DISCUSS THAT I
  • 00:39:18.030 --> 00:39:19.130
  • DON'T SHARE WITH MY CLOSE CONFIDANTS.
  • 00:39:19.150 --> 00:39:21.030
  • I HAVE ABOUT THREE OR FOUR MEN OF GOD THAT I
  • 00:39:21.050 --> 00:39:24.030
  • SPEAK TO ABOUT THE DEEP AREAS OF MY MARRIAGE, AND
  • 00:39:24.050 --> 00:39:26.210
  • ALL OF THEM, EVEN WHEN I'M IN A PLACE OF GREAT
  • 00:39:26.230 --> 00:39:29.190
  • VULNERABILITY, THEY ALWAYS PUSH ME TO MY MARRIAGE.
  • 00:39:29.210 --> 00:39:32.180
  • BY THE WAY, STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE THAT WILL TRY
  • 00:39:32.200 --> 00:39:35.020
  • TO UPROOT YOU OUT OF YOUR SITUATION.
  • 00:39:35.040 --> 00:39:37.090
  • THAT IS THE DEVIL. I BIND IT.
  • 00:39:37.110 --> 00:39:39.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:39:39.140 --> 00:39:41.290
  • OF COURSE I'M NOT SPEAKING ABOUT IF YOU'RE
  • 00:39:42.010 --> 00:39:43.280
  • IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP OR THINGS OF
  • 00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:45.220
  • THAT NATURE WHERE YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER.
  • 00:39:45.240 --> 00:39:47.040
  • THEN ABSOLUTELY GET OUT.
  • 00:39:47.060 --> 00:39:48.210
  • CALL THE POLICE, OR YOU KNOW, USE YOUR SECOND
  • 00:39:48.230 --> 00:39:50.120
  • AMENDMENT RIGHTS TO DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO
  • 00:39:50.140 --> 00:39:52.010
  • TO PROTECT YOURSELF.
  • 00:39:52.030 --> 00:39:54.150
  • YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING?
  • 00:39:54.170 --> 00:39:56.030
  • BUT IF YOU'RE ARGUING, YOU DON'T NEED SOMEBODY,
  • 00:39:56.050 --> 00:39:58.130
  • YEAH, GIRL, HE AIN'T NO GOOD.
  • 00:39:58.150 --> 00:39:59.250
  • THERE'S A REASON WHY SHE'S SINGLE, MA'AM.
  • 00:39:59.270 --> 00:40:01.260
  • WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO HER?
  • 00:40:01.280 --> 00:40:04.090
  • YOU NEED SOMEBODY THAT WILL PUSH YOU
  • 00:40:04.110 --> 00:40:06.010
  • TOWARDS YOUR COVENANT.
  • 00:40:06.030 --> 00:40:07.200
  • BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED, EVERY MAN WHO STOOD WITH
  • 00:40:07.220 --> 00:40:10.010
  • ME, I MADE IT CLEAR, THIS IS NOT A PHOTO OP.
  • 00:40:10.030 --> 00:40:12.140
  • YOU NEED TO BE STANDING UP HERE, AND WHEN I CALL
  • 00:40:12.160 --> 00:40:15.060
  • YOU AND SAY SHE DONE GOT ON MY NERVES, AND I WANT
  • 00:40:15.080 --> 00:40:17.200
  • TO GO MARRY HALLE BERRY, YOU'RE GOING TO TELL ME
  • 00:40:17.220 --> 00:40:19.250
  • TO GO HOME BECAUSE YOU DON'T WANT SOMEBODY
  • 00:40:19.270 --> 00:40:22.020
  • THAT WILL LISTEN --
  • 00:40:22.040 --> 00:40:23.200
  • - HEY.
  • 00:40:23.220 --> 00:40:25.030
  • - I KNOW. YOU DON'T WANT SOMEBODY THAT WILL LISTEN TO YOU
  • 00:40:25.050 --> 00:40:26.170
  • IN YOUR FLESH.
  • 00:40:26.190 --> 00:40:28.020
  • SO I'M CHECKING ROOTS AT THIS SEASON OF MY
  • 00:40:28.040 --> 00:40:29.090
  • MARRIAGE.
  • 00:40:29.110 --> 00:40:30.240
  • EIGHT YEARS IN, ARE WE STRONG?
  • 00:40:30.260 --> 00:40:32.080
  • WHERE ARE WE WEAK?
  • 00:40:32.100 --> 00:40:33.250
  • WHERE DO I NEED TO CHANGE?
  • 00:40:33.270 --> 00:40:35.110
  • I LOVE WHAT PASTOR JOEL SAID EARLIER.
  • 00:40:35.130 --> 00:40:37.090
  • HE WAS LIKE, I DIDN'T ASK GOD TO CHANGE VICTORIA.
  • 00:40:37.110 --> 00:40:39.050
  • I ASKED GOD TO CHANGE ME.
  • 00:40:39.070 --> 00:40:41.020
  • THERE'S ENOUGH ABOUT ME THAT NEEDS TO CHANGE AND
  • 00:40:41.040 --> 00:40:43.030
  • GROW, AND WHAT I REALIZE IS THAT, GOD, I DON'T
  • 00:40:43.050 --> 00:40:46.080
  • WANT TO LEAVE THIS EARTH WITH MY WIFE PUSHING ALL
  • 00:40:46.100 --> 00:40:48.150
  • OF MY DREAMS OUT, AND I DIDN'T PUSH ANY OF HER
  • 00:40:48.170 --> 00:40:50.190
  • DREAMS OUT.
  • 00:40:50.210 --> 00:40:52.070
  • SO NOW IT'S MY TURN TO CELEBRATE, HONOR AND
  • 00:40:52.090 --> 00:40:55.150
  • PROJECT THE GIFTS AND CALLINGS THAT ARE ON MY WIFE.
  • 00:40:55.170 --> 00:40:58.210
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:40:58.230 --> 00:41:03.120
  • - GO AHEAD.
  • 00:41:03.140 --> 00:41:05.060
  • - [SINGING] HE HEALS ME...
  • 00:41:05.080 --> 00:41:08.160
  • THAT'S ALL I KNOW.
  • 00:41:08.180 --> 00:41:09.240
  • I KNOW MORE OF IT, BUT...
  • 00:41:09.260 --> 00:41:11.140
  • - I WAS ABOUT TO SAY HOW IS THAT THE ONLY?
  • 00:41:11.160 --> 00:41:13.150
  • - I WOULD SAY MAYBE THE SONG THAT YOU SANG TO ME
  • 00:41:13.170 --> 00:41:16.260
  • WHEN YOU PROPOSED.
  • 00:41:16.280 --> 00:41:18.220
  • - IT'S YOUR SONG.
  • 00:41:18.240 --> 00:41:20.240
  • IT'S A SONG FROM A WOMAN TALKING ABOUT HER MAN.
  • 00:41:20.260 --> 00:41:23.050
  • SO WHAT IS IT?
  • 00:41:23.070 --> 00:41:24.170
  • - THAT WAS IT.
  • 00:41:24.190 --> 00:41:25.220
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:41:25.240 --> 00:41:27.010
  • - SING A LITTLE BIT.
  • 00:41:27.030 --> 00:41:28.110
  • - I WANT FOR YOU TO SING IT.
  • 00:41:28.130 --> 00:41:30.110
  • - "A DIFFERENT BEAUTIFUL" BY RYAN EDGAR. YEAH.
  • 00:41:30.130 --> 00:41:34.150
  • - HE SANG TO ME WHEN HE PROPOSED.
  • 00:41:34.170 --> 00:41:36.100
  • - SEE, I WAS GOING TO GO [SINGING] YOU MAKE THE
  • 00:41:36.120 --> 00:41:38.130
  • HAIR ON THE...
  • 00:41:38.150 --> 00:41:40.010
  • - OKAY, BUT IT'S A SONG THAT MY WIFE PICKED OUT.
  • 00:41:40.030 --> 00:41:42.170
  • I LOVE IT, AND SO YEAH, THAT WAS IT.
  • 00:41:42.190 --> 00:41:47.060
  • - SO, ALL RIGHT, LET'S PUT A PLAY LIST TOGETHER,
  • 00:41:47.080 --> 00:41:49.290
  • ALL RIGHT? [SINGING]
  • 00:41:50.010 --> 00:41:51.240
  • ONE, YOU'RE LIKE A DREAM COME TRUE...
  • 00:41:51.260 --> 00:41:54.280
  • TWO, JUST WANT TO BE WITH YOU...
  • 00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:58.120
  • THREE, GIRL, IT'S PLAIN TO SEE THAT YOU'RE THE
  • 00:41:58.140 --> 00:42:02.240
  • ONLY ONE FOR ME...
  • 00:42:02.260 --> 00:42:05.140
  • AND FOUR, REPEAT STEPS ONE, TWO, THREE...
  • 00:42:05.160 --> 00:42:09.060
  • HEY, FIVE, MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH ME...
  • 00:42:09.080 --> 00:42:12.280
  • IF EVER I BELIEVE MY WORK IS DONE, THEN I START
  • 00:42:13.000 --> 00:42:18.220
  • BACK AT ONE...
  • 00:42:18.240 --> 00:42:21.110
  • HEY.
  • 00:42:21.130 --> 00:42:23.000
  • - YOU HAVE A NICE LITTLE OLD SCHOOL.
  • 00:42:23.020 --> 00:42:24.280
  • YOU GOT A LITTLE THING.
  • 00:42:25.000 --> 00:42:26.200
  • A LITTLE CHOCOLATE UNDER THE VANILLA.
  • 00:42:26.220 --> 00:42:29.000
  • - COME ON, I AIN'T READY FOR THE SHOW.
  • 00:42:29.020 --> 00:42:32.110
  • - YES, SIR.
  • 00:42:32.130 --> 00:42:34.030
  • SO, BRO, IF THERE WAS ONE SONG THAT YOU'VE WRITTEN,
  • 00:42:34.050 --> 00:42:38.250
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE A SONGWRITER, IF THERE'S
  • 00:42:38.270 --> 00:42:41.110
  • ONE SONG THAT YOU'VE WRITTEN THAT PERFECTLY
  • 00:42:41.130 --> 00:42:42.250
  • DESCRIBES MARRIAGE, WHICH ONE WOULD IT BE?
  • 00:42:42.270 --> 00:42:45.140
  • - PROBABLY MY SONG [SINGING] I'M FULLY KNOWN AND
  • 00:42:45.160 --> 00:42:50.100
  • LOVED BY YOU...
  • 00:42:50.120 --> 00:42:53.080
  • WON'T LET GO NO MATTER WHAT I DO...
  • 00:42:53.100 --> 00:42:58.130
  • IT'S NOT ONE OR THE OTHER...
  • 00:42:58.150 --> 00:43:01.090
  • IT'S HARD TRUTH AND RIDICULOUS GRACE
  • 00:43:01.110 --> 00:43:04.020
  • TO BE KNOWN...
  • 00:43:04.040 --> 00:43:05.210
  • AND LOVED BY YOU...
  • 00:43:05.230 --> 00:43:09.250
  • - SEE, NOW YOU SHOWING OFF.
  • 00:43:09.270 --> 00:43:11.130
  • - NO, BRO.
  • 00:43:11.150 --> 00:43:13.100
  • - BABY FACE, BRIAN MCKNIGHT.
  • 00:43:13.120 --> 00:43:14.240
  • - THAT'S THE ONE.
  • 00:43:14.260 --> 00:43:16.080
  • - MICHAEL JACKSON, IT'S A GREAT SONG, TOO.
  • 00:43:16.100 --> 00:43:18.100
  • - SO I'M CHECKING MY ROOTS.
  • 00:43:18.120 --> 00:43:21.210
  • I'M MAKING SURE THAT WE'RE STAYING CLOSE TO JESUS.
  • 00:43:21.230 --> 00:43:23.260
  • I'M MAKING SURE THAT OUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE ALIGNED UP.
  • 00:43:23.280 --> 00:43:26.170
  • I'M STAYING AWAY FROM FRIVOLOUS PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:43:26.190 --> 00:43:29.040
  • TALK TOO MUCH AND DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO ADD.
  • 00:43:29.060 --> 00:43:31.130
  • KEEP PEOPLE OUT OF YOUR GARDEN THAT ONLY SOW WEEDS.
  • 00:43:31.150 --> 00:43:34.090
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:43:34.110 --> 00:43:36.170
  • I AM A PREACHER, AND I JUST HAD TO PUT THAT IN THERE.
  • 00:43:36.190 --> 00:43:38.180
  • I COULD GET AN AMEN.
  • 00:43:38.200 --> 00:43:40.070
  • - AMEN.
  • 00:43:40.090 --> 00:43:41.290
  • - YOUR MARRIAGE IS A GARDEN.
  • 00:43:42.010 --> 00:43:43.110
  • WHY WOULD YOU LET SOMEBODY IN THAT'S SOWING
  • 00:43:43.130 --> 00:43:44.200
  • THE WRONG THING?
  • 00:43:44.220 --> 00:43:46.150
  • HE EVERYBODY DOESN'T NEED TO SPEAK
  • 00:43:46.170 --> 00:43:48.180
  • INTO YOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:43:48.200 --> 00:43:50.040
  • EVERYBODY DOESN'T NEED TO BE SOWING BECAUSE THEY
  • 00:43:50.060 --> 00:43:52.160
  • DON'T HAVE WISDOM AND INSIGHT FOR
  • 00:43:52.180 --> 00:43:53.290
  • YOUR JOURNEY, AMEN.
  • 00:43:54.010 --> 00:43:56.000
  • IT'S ZEROS ON THE CLOCK, BUT THAT'S
  • 00:43:56.020 --> 00:43:57.160
  • NEVER STOPPED ME.
  • 00:43:57.180 --> 00:43:59.000
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:43:59.020 --> 00:44:02.180
  • - LOOK, THEY'RE FLASHING.
  • 00:44:02.200 --> 00:44:04.070
  • - SHOULD HAVE NEVER GAVE TWO BLACK PEOPLE 28
  • 00:44:04.090 --> 00:44:06.190
  • MINUTES.
  • 00:44:06.210 --> 00:44:08.150
  • THAT'S LIKE GIVING A WHALE A TIC TAC.
  • 00:44:08.170 --> 00:44:10.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:44:10.080 --> 00:44:13.170
  • GO AHEAD, BABY, SAY WHATEVER YOU WANT.
  • 00:44:13.190 --> 00:44:15.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:44:15.070 --> 00:44:21.110
  • - I AGREE WITH CHECKING THE ROOTS.
  • 00:44:21.130 --> 00:44:23.060
  • I'M GOING TO MAKE THIS FAST.
  • 00:44:23.080 --> 00:44:25.090
  • I DID WANT TO PIGGY BACK ON SOMETHING THAT YOU
  • 00:44:25.110 --> 00:44:27.290
  • SAID AND LISTENING TO OTHER PEOPLE TALK ABOUT
  • 00:44:28.010 --> 00:44:30.200
  • WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE YOUR TURN?
  • 00:44:30.220 --> 00:44:32.200
  • AND I GET THAT QUESTION A LOT.
  • 00:44:32.220 --> 00:44:34.170
  • WHAT IS IT LIKE BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS THE
  • 00:44:34.190 --> 00:44:38.060
  • PERSONALITY?
  • 00:44:38.080 --> 00:44:39.240
  • OR DO YOU FEEL LEFT OUT? DO YOU FEEL LOOKED OVER?
  • 00:44:39.260 --> 00:44:42.140
  • DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE LEFT BEHIND?
  • 00:44:42.160 --> 00:44:46.280
  • AND MY ANSWER TO THAT, MY TRUE ANSWER TO THAT, IS
  • 00:44:47.000 --> 00:44:50.190
  • NO BECAUSE WHEN WE BECAME MARRIED, WE BECAME ONE,
  • 00:44:50.210 --> 00:44:53.160
  • SO EVERY MESSAGE PREACHED, I PREACHED IT.
  • 00:44:53.180 --> 00:44:57.290
  • EVERY TIME A SOUL IS SAVED WITH THE VOICE OF
  • 00:44:58.010 --> 00:45:03.180
  • THE LORD BEING HEARD THROUGH MY HUSBAND'S
  • 00:45:03.200 --> 00:45:05.230
  • MESSAGE, I WAS THERE.
  • 00:45:05.250 --> 00:45:08.010
  • I HAVE PARTICIPATED, AND I HAVE BEEN A PART OF
  • 00:45:08.030 --> 00:45:12.050
  • EVERYTHING THAT MY HUSBAND HAS ACCOMPLISHED,
  • 00:45:12.070 --> 00:45:14.060
  • SO I DON'T FEEL ANY LACK.
  • 00:45:14.080 --> 00:45:16.030
  • I DON'T FEEL LESS THAN. I FEEL LIKE I'VE WON.
  • 00:45:16.050 --> 00:45:19.100
  • EVERY TIME HE STANDS UP, I'M STANDING UP.
  • 00:45:19.120 --> 00:45:21.090
  • EVERY TIME HE SPEAKS, I AM SPEAKING.
  • 00:45:21.110 --> 00:45:24.150
  • SO I WANT TO SPEAK TO THE WOMAN THAT FEELS LIKE
  • 00:45:24.170 --> 00:45:26.130
  • SHE'S UNDERVALUED BECAUSE MAYBE THE HUSBAND IS THE
  • 00:45:26.150 --> 00:45:29.130
  • ONE THAT'S OUT IN THE FOREFRONT.
  • 00:45:29.150 --> 00:45:31.030
  • IF YOU'RE TAKING CARE OF HOME, THEN WHAT YOU DO TO
  • 00:45:31.050 --> 00:45:33.260
  • CREATE PEACE IN THAT HOME IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS
  • 00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:36.260
  • WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS DOING OUTSIDE.
  • 00:45:36.280 --> 00:45:39.110
  • AND EVEN MORE SO BECAUSE WHEN HE CAN COME HOME AND
  • 00:45:39.130 --> 00:45:41.260
  • MAKE SURE EVERYTHING IS TOGETHER, AND HE CAN
  • 00:45:41.280 --> 00:45:45.020
  • SLEEP IN PEACE, THEN HE HAS THE FUEL HE NEEDS TO
  • 00:45:45.040 --> 00:45:49.010
  • GO OUT AND DO WHAT THE CALLING IS ON HIS LIFE,
  • 00:45:49.030 --> 00:45:51.290
  • WHATEVER THAT IS.
  • 00:45:52.010 --> 00:45:53.230
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:45:53.250 --> 00:45:55.270
  • - MY LAST POINT IS SIMPLY THIS: GIVE YOUR
  • 00:45:55.290 --> 00:45:57.260
  • LOVE STORY ROOM TO GROW.
  • 00:45:57.280 --> 00:46:00.040
  • GIVE YOUR LOVE STORY ROOM TO EVOLVE.
  • 00:46:00.060 --> 00:46:02.060
  • WHEN YOU GOT HAIR HE'D, YOU ALL HAVE CERTAIN
  • 00:46:02.080 --> 00:46:04.180
  • DREAMS AND GOALS, BUT NOW THOSE GOALS HAVE
  • 00:46:04.200 --> 00:46:06.130
  • PROBABLY EVOLVED.
  • 00:46:06.150 --> 00:46:08.050
  • HOPEFULLY, YOU'VE MATURED, AND WHEN YOU
  • 00:46:08.070 --> 00:46:09.290
  • WERE WHEN YOU FIRST GOT MARRIED, NOW YOU'RE
  • 00:46:10.010 --> 00:46:11.170
  • THINKING BIGGER.
  • 00:46:11.190 --> 00:46:13.030
  • THE MORE YOU WALK WITH CHRIST, THE BIGGER YOUR
  • 00:46:13.050 --> 00:46:15.020
  • DREAMS SHOULD GET. NEVER SETTLE.
  • 00:46:15.040 --> 00:46:17.130
  • GIVE YOUR LOVE STORY ROOM TO GROW AND EVOLVE.
  • 00:46:17.150 --> 00:46:19.270
  • AND IF YOUR LOVE STORY DOESN'T LOOK LIKE YOU
  • 00:46:19.290 --> 00:46:22.110
  • WANT IT, GUESS WHAT?
  • 00:46:22.130 --> 00:46:24.200
  • IT'S NOBODY'S FAULT BUT YOUR OWN.
  • 00:46:24.220 --> 00:46:27.100
  • NOBODY'S RESPONSIBILITY BUT YOUR OWN.
  • 00:46:27.120 --> 00:46:28.290
  • IF YOU WANT A NEW LOVE STORY, THEN YOU WRITE IT.
  • 00:46:29.010 --> 00:46:30.200
  • IF YOU WANT MORE ROMANCE, THEN GO GET IT.
  • 00:46:30.220 --> 00:46:32.180
  • IF YOU WANT HER.
  • 00:46:32.200 --> 00:46:34.220
  • - WITH YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND.
  • 00:46:34.240 --> 00:46:36.240
  • NOW, DON'T GO OUTSIDE AND GET IT.
  • 00:46:36.260 --> 00:46:39.120
  • STAY INSIDE AND FIND THE ROMANCE, AND DON'T
  • 00:46:39.140 --> 00:46:41.170
  • GO GET IT LIKE GO.
  • 00:46:41.190 --> 00:46:44.260
  • STAY IN THERE AND FIND IT.
  • 00:46:44.280 --> 00:46:47.050
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:46:47.070 --> 00:46:50.270
  • YOU HAVE TO BE -- THAT'S A GOD THING.
  • 00:46:50.290 --> 00:46:53.030
  • GO GET IT.
  • 00:46:53.050 --> 00:46:55.060
  • - I ASSUMED, I ASSUMED THAT THEY WOULD KNOW
  • 00:46:55.080 --> 00:46:57.230
  • THAT, BUT THANK YOU BECAUSE ASSUMPTION IS,
  • 00:46:57.250 --> 00:47:00.170
  • YES. OKAY.
  • 00:47:00.190 --> 00:47:02.120
  • - WE JUST TALKED ABOUT IT, MAKE IT PLAIN.
  • 00:47:02.140 --> 00:47:04.100
  • - WITH THE PERSON THAT LIVES IN YOUR HOUSE.
  • 00:47:04.120 --> 00:47:07.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:47:07.190 --> 00:47:09.140
  • BUILD YOUR LOVE STORY.
  • 00:47:09.160 --> 00:47:12.220
  • CREATE THE ROMANTIC STORY OF YOUR DREAMS.
  • 00:47:12.240 --> 00:47:16.170
  • BUILD YOUR HOUSE.
  • 00:47:16.190 --> 00:47:18.170
  • LOVE HER THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE LOVED.
  • 00:47:18.190 --> 00:47:21.260
  • WIVES ARE A GARDEN, AND WHAT YOU SOW INTO
  • 00:47:21.280 --> 00:47:24.110
  • THEM WILL GROW.
  • 00:47:24.130 --> 00:47:26.130
  • IF YOU WANT IT, MAN OF GOD, SOW IT INTO HER.
  • 00:47:26.150 --> 00:47:29.110
  • SAME THING, WOMEN OF GOD.
  • 00:47:29.130 --> 00:47:31.100
  • THERE ARE A LOT OF THINGS THAT YOU WANT YOUR
  • 00:47:31.120 --> 00:47:33.120
  • HUSBAND TO PRODUCE.
  • 00:47:33.140 --> 00:47:35.060
  • I GUARANTEE YOU, IF YOU SOW IT AND SPEAK LIFE, IT
  • 00:47:35.080 --> 00:47:37.110
  • WILL PRODUCE FRUIT IN TIME, BUT ALLOW YOUR LOVE
  • 00:47:37.130 --> 00:47:40.270
  • STORY TO GROW AND EVOLVE.
  • 00:47:40.290 --> 00:47:43.000
  • DON'T SETTLE. DON'T SETTLE.
  • 00:47:43.020 --> 00:47:45.230
  • IF WE SERVE THE CREATOR GOD OF THE UNIVERSE, THEN
  • 00:47:45.250 --> 00:47:48.110
  • WHY WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR LIFE AS USUAL AND
  • 00:47:48.130 --> 00:47:50.170
  • LOVE AS USUAL?
  • 00:47:50.190 --> 00:47:52.070
  • LET'S GO FOR A LOVE UNUSUAL.
  • 00:47:52.090 --> 00:47:54.020
  • LET'S GO FOR ROMANCE UNUSUAL.
  • 00:47:54.040 --> 00:47:57.000
  • LET'S ENJOY OUR LIVES.
  • 00:47:57.020 --> 00:47:59.110
  • WHAT WE DOING AFTER THERE?
  • 00:47:59.130 --> 00:48:01.030
  • WE GOT SOME FOOD OUT THERE AND SOME DESSERT?
  • 00:48:01.050 --> 00:48:02.160
  • WHAT WE DOING? GOING TO THE HOTEL? YEAH.
  • 00:48:02.180 --> 00:48:06.100
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:48:06.120 --> 00:48:08.120
  • THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT, IT'S THE HOTEL,
  • 00:48:08.140 --> 00:48:09.250
  • IT'S THE AFTER PARTY.
  • 00:48:09.270 --> 00:48:11.230
  • ALL RIGHT, OUR TIME IS UP.
  • 00:48:11.250 --> 00:48:13.080
  • YOU WANT TO PRAY?
  • 00:48:13.100 --> 00:48:14.280
  • LET'S PRAY. YOU WANT KNOW PRAY? LORD, IT'S TIME TO GO.
  • 00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:18.080
  • WE'RE GOING TO THE HOTEL.
  • 00:48:18.100 --> 00:48:19.270
  • WE LOVE YOU, AMEN.
  • 00:48:19.290 --> 00:48:21.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:48:21.090 --> 00:48:26.140
  • OKAY, I'M SORRY. COME ON, BABY.
  • 00:48:26.160 --> 00:48:29.280
  • COME ON, STAND UP, SWEETY, STAND UP.
  • 00:48:30.000 --> 00:48:33.030
  • ALL RIGHT, SIT DOWN.
  • 00:48:33.050 --> 00:48:35.180
  • - HE SAID COME ON AND GET UP.
  • 00:48:35.200 --> 00:48:37.290
  • - ALL RIGHT, COME ON, STAND UP, SWEET GIRL.
  • 00:48:38.010 --> 00:48:40.040
  • - THANK YOU. - THERE YOU GO.
  • 00:48:40.060 --> 00:48:42.010
  • - THANK YOU.
  • 00:48:42.030 --> 00:48:43.260
  • - GRAB YOUR SPOUSE'S HAND, KISS THEM REAL QUICK.
  • 00:48:43.280 --> 00:48:50.030
  • OH, THAT WAS LOVELY. HERCULES, HERCULES!
  • 00:48:50.050 --> 00:48:54.120
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:48:54.140 --> 00:48:56.140
  • DO IT AGAIN. SOUND LIKE A BUNCH OF BIRDS.
  • 00:48:56.160 --> 00:49:01.210
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:49:01.230 --> 00:49:03.250
  • FLYING OUT OF A NEST.
  • 00:49:03.270 --> 00:49:05.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:49:05.100 --> 00:49:07.270
  • LORD, WE THANK YOU FOR LOVE.
  • 00:49:07.290 --> 00:49:10.020
  • WE THANK YOU FOR COVENANT.
  • 00:49:10.040 --> 00:49:11.170
  • WE THANK YOU FOR YOUR HEART ON MARRIAGE.
  • 00:49:11.190 --> 00:49:13.160
  • I PRAY THAT THIS CONFERENCE WILL SPARK, IN
  • 00:49:13.180 --> 00:49:16.080
  • FACT, IGNITE IN US A REKINDLING, A LOVE AND A
  • 00:49:16.100 --> 00:49:19.110
  • PASSION AND A HOPE AND A FUTURE THAT IS BRIGHTER
  • 00:49:19.130 --> 00:49:23.080
  • THAN ANYTHING WE'VE WALKED THROUGH.
  • 00:49:23.100 --> 00:49:25.020
  • I BIND THE HAND OF THE ENEMY, THE SPIRIT OF
  • 00:49:25.040 --> 00:49:27.110
  • DIVORCE AND EVERY OTHER LIE THAT THE DEVIL WOULD
  • 00:49:27.130 --> 00:49:29.170
  • BRING THAT THERE IS SOMETHING BETTER
  • 00:49:29.190 --> 00:49:31.170
  • SOMEWHERE ELSE.
  • 00:49:31.190 --> 00:49:33.200
  • WHAT YOU HAVE GIVEN US IN OUR SPOUSE IS THE GIFT
  • 00:49:33.220 --> 00:49:35.200
  • NECESSARY TO PRODUCE KINGDOM FRUIT.
  • 00:49:35.220 --> 00:49:37.200
  • NOW, LET US LEARN, GLEAN, GROW, AND PROSPER
  • 00:49:37.220 --> 00:49:40.280
  • ACCORDING TO YOUR WORD AND YOUR WILL.
  • 00:49:41.000 --> 00:49:43.010
  • WE LOVE YOU, WE HONOR YOU, IN JESUS' NAME, AMEN.
  • 00:49:43.030 --> 00:49:45.250
  • SOMEBODY GIVE THE LORD A GREAT PRAISE. THANK Y'ALL.
  • 00:49:45.270 --> 00:49:48.140
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:49:48.160 --> 00:49:54.250
  • - SO IN THESE NEXT FEW MINUTES THAT WE HAVE
  • 00:49:54.270 --> 00:49:57.170
  • TOGETHER, WHY DON'T WE INVITE GOD'S
  • 00:49:57.190 --> 00:49:59.230
  • PRESENCE IN OUR LIVES?
  • 00:49:59.250 --> 00:50:03.230
  • WHY DON'T WE INVITE GOD'S PRESENCE
  • 00:50:03.250 --> 00:50:05.180
  • IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS?
  • 00:50:05.200 --> 00:50:07.210
  • WHY DON'T WE INVITE GOD'S PRESENCE INTO THIS VERY
  • 00:50:07.230 --> 00:50:09.270
  • ROOM AT THIS VERY MOMENT?
  • 00:50:09.290 --> 00:50:12.170
  • JESUS, COME AND HAVE YOUR WAY.
  • 00:50:12.190 --> 00:50:15.180
  • MOVE WITHIN OUR HEARTS.
  • 00:50:15.200 --> 00:50:17.220
  • REARRANGE THINGS WITHIN US.
  • 00:50:17.240 --> 00:50:20.030
  • LET US SEE YOU CLEARLY.
  • 00:50:20.050 --> 00:50:24.140
  • SING HOLY SPIRIT YOU ARE WELCOME HERE...
  • 00:50:24.160 --> 00:50:30.160
  • COME FLOOD THIS PLACE AND FILL THE ATMOSPHERE...
  • 00:50:30.180 --> 00:50:37.230
  • YOUR GLORY, GOD, IS WHAT OUR HEARTS LONG FOR...
  • 00:50:37.250 --> 00:50:43.210
  • TO BE OVERCOME BY YOUR PRESENCE, LORD...
  • 00:50:43.230 --> 00:50:50.240
  • - AS WE WERE FRIENDS FOR SEVERAL YEARS BEFORE WE
  • 00:50:50.260 --> 00:50:53.260
  • DATED AND THEN GOT MARRIED, SO WE HAD A
  • 00:50:53.280 --> 00:50:56.120
  • REALLY COOL FRIENDSHIP THAT WAS JUST LIKE WE'RE
  • 00:50:56.140 --> 00:50:59.110
  • HOMIES, AND THEN THAT EVOLVED BECAUSE I HAD TO
  • 00:50:59.130 --> 00:51:03.030
  • LAY THE GAME DOWN, YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
  • 00:51:03.050 --> 00:51:06.060
  • - IT TOOK A WHILE, BUT IT WORKED.
  • 00:51:06.080 --> 00:51:08.230
  • - IT DID, LONG GAME.
  • 00:51:08.250 --> 00:51:10.270
  • YEAH, WE'RE DOING A BUNCH OF SONGS THAT JUST
  • 00:51:10.290 --> 00:51:13.160
  • REVOLVE AROUND GOD'S PRESENCE BECAUSE I KNOW
  • 00:51:13.180 --> 00:51:18.110
  • IN OUR MARRIAGE, WE WOULD NOT MAKE IT WITHOUT THE
  • 00:51:18.130 --> 00:51:23.050
  • PRESENCE OF GOD, AND THAT'S CENTRAL IN OUR
  • 00:51:23.070 --> 00:51:26.070
  • RELATIONSHIP, CENTRAL IN OUR HOME.
  • 00:51:26.090 --> 00:51:29.010
  • SO WE WANTED TO BRING EVERYONE INTO WHAT A
  • 00:51:29.030 --> 00:51:32.180
  • LITTLE WELLS WORSHIP EXPERIENCE IS LIKE WHEN
  • 00:51:32.200 --> 00:51:36.280
  • WE GATHER ALL THE KIDDOS AROUND AND TRY TO SING
  • 00:51:37.000 --> 00:51:39.080
  • SONGS TOGETHER.
  • 00:51:39.100 --> 00:51:40.210
  • - YEAH.
  • 00:51:40.230 --> 00:51:42.130
  • - I THINK WORSHIPPING TOGETHER IS ESSENTIAL TO
  • 00:51:42.150 --> 00:51:46.000
  • KNOW THAT OUR FAMILY GOES TO CHURCH.
  • 00:51:46.020 --> 00:51:49.130
  • IT'S NOT A CONVERSATION ON SUNDAY MORNING,
  • 00:51:49.150 --> 00:51:52.040
  • ARE WE GOING? ARE WE STAYING? IT'S AUTOMATIC.
  • 00:51:52.060 --> 00:51:55.250
  • AND THEN HAVING THE TIME OUTSIDE OF CHURCH THAT
  • 00:51:55.270 --> 00:51:59.180
  • THE FAMILY JUST COMES TOGETHER, AND THAT CAN BE
  • 00:51:59.200 --> 00:52:02.050
  • REALLY AWKWARD, AND IT CAN BE REALLY CHAOTIC,
  • 00:52:02.070 --> 00:52:05.000
  • AND I'VE HEARD PEOPLE DESCRIBE IT, AND IT
  • 00:52:05.020 --> 00:52:07.000
  • SOUNDS SO SPECIAL AND AMAZING, BUT USUALLY,
  • 00:52:07.020 --> 00:52:10.170
  • IT'S LIKE, CANAAN, YOU'RE GOING TO GET A SPANKING
  • 00:52:10.190 --> 00:52:13.050
  • IF YOU DON'T SIT DOWN AND SING THIS SONG.
  • 00:52:13.070 --> 00:52:15.010
  • LAWSON, PUT YOUR BROTHER DOWN.
  • 00:52:15.030 --> 00:52:16.140
  • STOP THROWING UP.
  • 00:52:16.160 --> 00:52:18.250
  • AND THEN YOU KNOW, TRYING TO --
  • 00:52:18.270 --> 00:52:21.060
  • - LIFT YOUR HANDS NOW.
  • 00:52:21.080 --> 00:52:22.130
  • - YES, NOW.
  • 00:52:22.150 --> 00:52:24.150
  • DO YOU NOT -- BUT THE INTENTIONALITY OF IT I
  • 00:52:24.170 --> 00:52:26.220
  • THINK IS, MAN, THIS IS WHAT WE DO BEYOND SUNDAY.
  • 00:52:26.240 --> 00:52:33.180
  • WE INVITE GOD'S PRESENCE INTO EVERY AREA OF OUR LIVES.
  • 00:52:33.200 --> 00:52:37.000
  • WE CAN'T MAKE IT WITHOUT YOU LORD...
  • 00:52:37.020 --> 00:52:39.160
  • COME FLOOD IN PLACE AND FILL THE ATMOSPHERE...
  • 00:52:39.180 --> 00:52:44.140
  • YOUR GLORY, GOD IS WHAT OUR HEARTS LONG FOR...
  • 00:52:44.160 --> 00:52:50.230
  • OUR ONLY HOPE IS YOU...
  • 00:52:50.250 --> 00:52:53.110
  • TO BE OVERCOME BY YOUR PRESENCE, LORD...
  • 00:52:53.130 --> 00:53:00.190
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:53:00.210 --> 00:53:13.060
  • BECAUSE WHEN YOU SPEAK, WHEN YOU MOVE...
  • 00:53:13.080 --> 00:53:16.230
  • WHEN YOU DO WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO...
  • 00:53:16.250 --> 00:53:19.270
  • IT CHANGES US...
  • 00:53:19.290 --> 00:53:21.270
  • IT CHANGES WHAT WE SEE AND WHAT WE SING...
  • 00:53:21.290 --> 00:53:27.010
  • AND WHEN YOU COME IN THE ROOM...
  • 00:53:27.030 --> 00:53:30.200
  • WHEN YOU DO WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO...
  • 00:53:30.220 --> 00:53:34.040
  • IT CHANGES US, IT CHANGES WHAT WE SING...
  • 00:53:34.060 --> 00:53:38.070
  • AND WHAT WE SEE...
  • 00:53:38.090 --> 00:53:45.280
  • YOU'RE CHANGING EVERYTHING...
  • 00:53:46.000 --> 00:53:54.040
  • BECAUSE WHEN YOU MOVE...
  • 00:53:54.060 --> 00:53:56.190
  • YOU MOVE ALL OUR FEARS...
  • 00:53:56.210 --> 00:54:01.010
  • AND WHEN YOU MOVE, YOU MOVE US TO TEARS...
  • 00:54:01.030 --> 00:54:08.030
  • AND WHEN YOU MOVE, YOU MOVE ALL OUR FEARS...
  • 00:54:08.050 --> 00:54:14.130
  • YES, YOU DO...
  • 00:54:14.150 --> 00:54:17.010
  • AND WHEN YOU MOVE, YOU MOVE US TO TEARS...
  • 00:54:17.030 --> 00:54:22.170
  • AND WHEN YOU FALL, WE FALL ON OUR KNEES...
  • 00:54:22.190 --> 00:54:29.160
  • AND WHEN YOU FALL, WE FALL AT YOUR FEET...
  • 00:54:29.180 --> 00:54:36.130
  • AND WHEN YOU FALL, WE FALL ON OUR KNEES...
  • 00:54:36.150 --> 00:54:43.280
  • AND WHEN YOU FALL, WE FALL AT YOUR FEET...
  • 00:54:44.000 --> 00:54:54.020
  • WHEN YOU SPEAK, WHEN YOU MOVE...
  • 00:54:54.040 --> 00:54:56.270
  • WHEN YOU DO WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO...
  • 00:54:56.290 --> 00:55:00.160
  • IT CHANGES US, IT CHANGES WHAT WE SEE AND WHAT WE
  • 00:55:00.180 --> 00:55:05.230
  • SING...
  • 00:55:05.250 --> 00:55:08.100
  • AND WHEN YOU COME IN THE ROOM...
  • 00:55:08.120 --> 00:55:11.030
  • WHEN YOU DO WHAT ONLY YOU CAN DO...
  • 00:55:11.050 --> 00:55:14.220
  • IT CHANGES US, IT CHANGES WHAT WE SING...
  • 00:55:14.240 --> 00:55:18.240
  • AND WHAT WE SEE...
  • 00:55:18.260 --> 00:55:26.240
  • WE'RE AFTER YOUR PRESENCE...
  • 00:55:26.260 --> 00:55:32.070
  • YEAH, JESUS...
  • 00:55:32.090 --> 00:55:38.030
  • IT'S ALL FOR YOU, LORD...
  • 00:55:38.050 --> 00:55:40.100
  • IT'S ALL BECAUSE OF YOU, LORD...
  • 00:55:40.120 --> 00:55:45.140
  • WE ADORE YOU, JESUS...
  • 00:55:45.160 --> 00:55:52.240
  • EVERY BREATH WE TAKE...
  • 00:55:52.260 --> 00:55:55.130
  • IT'S ALL FOR YOU, LORD...
  • 00:55:55.150 --> 00:55:59.140
  • JESUS...
  • 00:55:59.160 --> 00:56:09.000
  • - PUT YOUR HANDS TOGETHER WITH THUNDEROUS
  • 00:56:09.020 --> 00:56:11.110
  • APPLAUSE FOR THE KING OF KINGS.
  • 00:56:11.130 --> 00:56:14.180
  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:56:17.270 --> 00:56:24.140
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:56:24.140 --> 00:56:32.010
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