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October 13, 2019
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  • Ed Young: In our culture, I think we all know that marriage
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  • is in trouble.
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  • The Bible begins with marriage, and in Genesis chapter 2--
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  • we know that Genesis 1 is an account of creation,
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  • Genesis 2 is a commentary, an explanation of chapter 1,
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  • which dealt with creation.
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  • We read in the Bible in chapter 1, six straight "good."
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  • God created, he said it's good, it's good, it's good, it's good,
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  • it's good, it's good.
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  • And then the last part of chapter 1,
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  • he says it's very good.
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  • He had created man out of dust and his image, and then
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  • in chapter 2, he tells us that God breathed into man life.
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  • Image of God, now breath came into man.
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  • An Italian director was writing a movie on the Bible and he
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  • wondered how in the world he'd picture creation.
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  • God, creating man, mankind.
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  • And it was a foggy kind of mist, and then the mist began to sort
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  • of coagulate, and there was a body on the ground.
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  • The creation of man.
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  • Now, was that body laying on the ground or lying
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  • on the ground?
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  • Objects, inanimate objects that are not alive lay,
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  • living things lie.
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  • There was this inanimate body created by dust which was man
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  • in chapter 1, but in chapter 2 we can say not that he was
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  • laying on the ground, inanimate.
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  • When God breathed into him through his nostrils, he
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  • breathed into him life, and now he is lying on the ground.
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  • He's alive.
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  • And the movie depicted man standing to his own feet.
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  • Six "It is good," one "It is very good," and then finally we
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  • see an assignment was given to Adam, to man, to name all
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  • the beasts that had been created.
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  • One assignment.
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  • That idea in heaven we're gonna be strumming on harps
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  • or floating around in clouds, God's gonna give us wonderful,
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  • creative, unperceived, unimagined assignments to carry
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  • out for him throughout eternity.
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  • What anticipation, what excitement this must be
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  • for all of us.
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  • And here was Adam, first man, and God is parading by him
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  • animals he had to name.
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  • Naming all the animals, all the birds.
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  • To name something indicates authority over it, and Adam had
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  • the assignment of being a steward, of being a shepherd,
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  • of being one who presided for all of creation.
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  • What a magnificent assignment, ladies and gentlemen.
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  • And now God says, "Name the animals," and how quickly
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  • did he do it?
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  • I think he took his time.
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  • The Bible pictures God leading one animal out and Adam looking,
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  • and praying, and searching out the characteristic of that
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  • animal, and he finally decided, "Aardvark."
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  • And the next animal would come out and it could be,
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  • "What will I name this animal?"
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  • And he named it a hippopotamus.
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  • Doesn't a hippopotamus look like a hippopotamus?
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  • Good name, isn't it?
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  • But as the animals were paraded by, Adam didn't see anything
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  • that would complete him.
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  • He didn't see the other half of himself until he went
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  • to sleep and God performed a divine operation.
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  • He took a rib out of his side, took that rib, and made woman,
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  • the rest of man.
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  • Man, the rest of woman.
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  • Out of his side, not out of his foot so we would dominate.
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  • Not out of his head, so he'd be superior.
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  • But out of his side, so there would be equality there,
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  • and there would be protection there under his arm, and it will
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  • be close to his heart.
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  • And there we have the beautiful picture of Adam and Eve,
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  • and then we have the first marriage performed in the Bible.
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  • And we have a divine formula for marriage, but marriage is
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  • in trouble.
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  • Marriage is suspect.
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  • The homosexual community has tried to redefine
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  • marriage for us.
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  • God has already defined it.
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  • God invented marriage.
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  • God tells us what marriage is all about.
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  • But we're worried about it because we know that 50% of all
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  • marriages end in divorce.
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  • I dare say half of us here have gone through a divorce,
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  • and so we know it is a precarious thing.
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  • Someone said it's a dangerous institution to be a part of.
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  • I remember when I got married a long time ago.
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  • I dated my wife 6 1/2 years.
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  • And before the ceremony, I remember standing
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  • out on the side saying, "You know, my friend said this is
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  • a good time to run."
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  • I didn't know if I wanted to be a part of an institution.
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  • And we've made marriage something that the young people
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  • look at it and say, "You know, I don't know if I want to be
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  • a part of this."
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  • And so they live together, they cohabit without being married,
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  • thinking, "Well, this is the way I'll improve upon the family
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  • from which I came.
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  • We'll have a little trial period here."
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  • What they don't realize that those who live together
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  • before they're married, they have a smaller chance of getting
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  • married than those who do not, and those who live together
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  • before they're married, when they do get married, the odds
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  • of them being divorced are astronomical.
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  • But still, you have 50%.
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  • But what we don't know is that so many of these 50%, or those
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  • who dropped out of school before there were 18, pregnancy
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  • was involved and they got married, and that's the reason,
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  • the primary reason, divorce rate is so high.
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  • What we don't look at is that when two young people finish
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  • their education, come from a home that is intact,
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  • and they are genuinely Christians, not, "Well, he used
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  • to go to the Presbyterian church," or "He was christened,"
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  • or whatever, but they're genuinely practicing Christians,
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  • and they get married when they're 25 or later, you know
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  • what divorce rate is for those in that category?
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  • It is microscopic.
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  • God's way works.
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  • So, we have to work through this process.
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  • It's God's process and the results are magnificent.
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  • And then he gives us, in the very first marriage
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  • ceremony in Genesis chapter 2, the five things that will take
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  • any marriage-- if you've been married five minutes or 50
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  • years, it makes no difference.
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  • Some of you are back there saying, well, you know,
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  • I don't know about marriage.
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  • It's like that comedian stood up and his opening line is he
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  • had a routine on marriage.
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  • He said, "If you're single, you're lonely.
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  • If you're married, you're bored."
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  • And a lot of people have bought that lie.
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  • Folks, God gave us marriage.
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  • It is to be exciting, dynamic, fulfilling,
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  • creative, magnificent.
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  • And if you think, "Well, that can't happen to me," it's
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  • because you haven't put it into practice, the basic
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  • fundamental steps that makes a dynamic marriage
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  • and a marriage that sizzles.
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  • Now, if you want to stay like you are, don't pay
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  • any attention to it.
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  • Just surrender.
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  • I'm content just to hang in there and stay with her.
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  • I'm gonna stay with him through thick and-- my glory.
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  • The law of gravity works, right?
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  • You haven't seen any-- the laws and the principles of God
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  • about marriage work every single time, whatever stage you're in.
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  • Let's look at them.
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  • First of all, the first reason for your marriage is--
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  • The first thing you do is you leave.
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  • You leave father and mother.
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  • A lot of marriages start off in trouble because one
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  • of the mates holds onto the relationship with a mom,
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  • or dad, or some other person.
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  • When you get married, you leave those relationships.
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  • Not that you don't talk with your parents.
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  • You commune with your parents, but they're not your best
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  • friend, your closest friend.
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  • You don't share with them all the intimacies of your marriage.
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  • You leave father and mother.
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  • And a lot of people in marriage haven't done that.
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  • Their first allegiance may be to father
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  • or mother or brother or sister or a friend
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  • or a prior relationship.
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  • When you say, "I do," ladies and gentlemen, you leave
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  • and your primary direction of your life is devoted to your
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  • spouse, to your mate.
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  • That's where you start.
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  • That's where you start.
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  • Say, "Well, I didn't marry the whole family."
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  • Yes, you did.
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  • If you think that doesn't work, you married everything
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  • about the past, everything about the present,
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  • and the future of the person that you have taken
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  • under your arms.
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  • You said, "I do," and they said, "I will."
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  • You married the whole shooting match.
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  • Everyone, "Well, I didn't know I was marrying my mother-in-law."
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  • You certainly are.
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  • You certainly have.
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  • What's the next thing?
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  • It says you cleave.
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  • You hold onto.
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  • You grab.
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  • And that's a picture almost of super glue.
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  • You cleave to one another.
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  • You cleave to that love that you have.
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  • You have to do that.
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  • You have to work on marriage.
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  • You know, I was married for three months, and we dated
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  • all those years, and I woke up one day and I said, "Who is
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  • this strange woman I've married?"
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  • You married a stranger.
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  • And nobody is naturally compatible.
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  • Don't believe that.
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  • There's no such thing as that perfect soul mate.
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  • There is not such a person.
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  • Or I could have only married one person.
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  • No, you don't get that from the Bible.
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  • And so we cleave.
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  • You work at it.
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  • Say, "I didn't know you had to work at love.
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  • I thought is just a feeling."
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  • No, love is not a feeling.
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  • It's an action.
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  • And feelings come and go, but a commitment of love,
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  • and to love, and to love.
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  • And in marriage there has to be two things, love and truth.
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  • Love by itself is mushy.
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  • Can't have much of a marriage like that.
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  • Truth by itself is harsh.
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  • That won't work either.
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  • But in marriage, in the cleaving, there has to be
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  • truth and love.
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  • How in the world can truth and love work together?
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  • In the human person it cannot, but when the Holy Spirit can
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  • come and blend truth and love, and truth and love together, it
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  • will help your marriage know how to sing in the clinging process.
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  • Remember that divine math, one plus one equals one.
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  • And all of a sudden you are one.
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  • You leave and you cleave.
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  • You work at marriage every day.
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  • And you realize it is a-- Paul says it as he deals
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  • with marriage in Ephesians 5, and Jesus echoes this
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  • in Matthew 11.
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  • Same opening words of God when he performed that marriage,
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  • and he says marriage is a great mysterion.
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  • It is a great mystery.
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  • Have you discovered that?
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  • It really is.
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  • That's the part of the glory, and the excitement,
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  • and the thrill, and the dynamic of it.
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  • You leave. You cleave.
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  • Then you become one flesh.
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  • Say, "Well, that's just a sexual thing."
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  • Oh no, that's part of it.
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  • Body to body, yes.
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  • Soul to soul, personality to personality, yes.
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  • Spirit to spirit, yes.
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  • And that's the process of cleaving
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  • and becoming one flesh.
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  • It's a marvelous thing and that's the reason.
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  • What is marriage for?
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  • Procreation. Be fruitful and multiply.
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  • It is for pleasure and also it is a physical symbol
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  • of the relationship you and I have in Jesus Christ.
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  • Therefore in marriage, they have to be operating all the time
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  • repentance and forgiveness, repentance and forgiveness.
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  • Just like in the Lord Jesus Christ, we repent and by his
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  • grace he forgives, in marriage we repent
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  • and there's forgiveness.
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  • You have to have those things working.
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  • That's the process of becoming one flesh.
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  • Leave, cleave, one flesh, repentance and forgiveness
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  • operating together.
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  • And then what's the next step?
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  • You're naked.
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  • Not so much physical nakedness.
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  • Certainly that's a part of it, but you're just vulnerable.
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  • You're open.
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  • You've exposed yourself.
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  • You see, when you get married, you're totally reprogrammed.
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  • Did you know that?
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  • Somebody has told you all your life, friends, family, parents,
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  • teachers, "You know, you're just not very smart."
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  • And your mate says, "You know, you are sharp and you've got
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  • stuff in so many areas."
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  • You see, your mate has reprogrammed you.
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  • By the same token, if you're married somebody in a negative
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  • case, heaven help us all.
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  • They reprogram you and you say, "You know, I've always felt
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  • pretty confident," but your mate keeps under cutting you,
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  • and under cutting you, and you lose your confidence.
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  • Your wife, your husband reprograms everyone here.
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  • And if you are a negative kinda programmer, change your view.
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  • You see, the wife is to be the cheerleader, and the husband
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  • is to be the one who can be trusted.
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  • Trust and cheering, cheering and trusting.
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  • And your mate reprograms you.
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  • Any prior opinion you had of yourself, any prior
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  • affirmation you had of yourself, it is your mate that determines
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  • who you really are and who you believe you are.
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  • And so in marriage, see, we expose ourselves.
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  • We're just naked. We're open.
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  • We're vulnerable.
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  • And therefore, our mate reprograms us, hopefully
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  • in the finest and the best ways.
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  • Not just making up stuff, but being honest with us,
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  • challenging us, rebuilding us in a wonderful way,
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  • without trying to change us.
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  • If you marry anybody to change them, God help that person,
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  • and you are stupid to say "I do" in the first place.
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  • But we do get reprogrammed.
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  • This is being naked.
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  • Soren Kierkegaard the philosopher talks
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  • about a costume ball, and said back in the old days they'd have
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  • costume balls, and everybody would dress up with mask on,
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  • and nobody knew who the other person was, and they'd
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  • intermingled all in the party.
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  • They would dance together, and eat together, and talk
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  • together, and everybody had a wonderful time, totally
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  • in mask.
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  • And then about 1 o'clock, everybody would take their mask
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  • off and you would see these people and who you really had
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  • been engaged with.
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  • That's what marriage is.
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  • The mask comes off and all of a sudden you see that person
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  • as they are, and they see you as you really are.
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  • That's the beautiful part of being naked, of being open,
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  • of being receptive, of being reprogrammed.
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  • And the problem is when we see ourselves as we really are, it's
  • 00:17:23.230 --> 00:17:27.270
  • like that bridge that had all those little flaws, little,
  • 00:17:27.280 --> 00:17:31.270
  • microscopic cracks in the bridge, and nobody knew
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  • it was there until that big ol' Mack truck came
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  • over that little bridge.
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  • And that Mack truck was so heavy, all those little
  • 00:17:40.050 --> 00:17:43.050
  • bitty, microscopic flaws were expanded and you saw how weak
  • 00:17:43.060 --> 00:17:47.080
  • the bridge really was.
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  • That's what happens in marriage.
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  • That's the thrill of it, the challenge of it,
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  • how God works in it.
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  • Naked.
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  • And then finally, finally, what's the last thing?
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  • There's no shame.
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  • Isn't that great to live a life?
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  • There's no shame, nothing hidden, no unusual agendas,
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  • no under cutting of someone.
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  • Just no shame.
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  • Let me tell you, that'll work wherever you are.
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  • It works every time.
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  • Leave, cleave, one flesh, naked, no shame.
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  • Boy, that marriage will sizzle.
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  • If you want your marriage just to stay wherever it is,
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  • you can certainly do it.
  • 00:18:41.230 --> 00:18:44.140
  • When I was a boy, polio was epidemic proportions.
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  • They found that Salk vaccine and nobody--
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  • everybody stopped getting polio.
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  • What if that were you?
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  • You say, "You know, I'm not gonna take that vaccine."
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  • You're not gonna use God's principles?
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  • If you're 50 years in marriage or five minutes in marriage,
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  • how absolutely stupid can someone get?
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  • God has a way.
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  • God's plan works.
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  • Think it through, pray it through, put into practice,
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  • and then come back and say, "Well, it didn't work for me."
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  • You can't find anybody like that.
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  • Have the courage and the boldness to do those things.
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  • And there's a little operating principle.
  • 00:19:23.150 --> 00:19:26.090
  • What do you think the best known verse in the Bible is?
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  • Known all over the world.
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  • What verse is it?
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  • You'll guess and you'll be wrong, but your happy to guess.
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  • It really is.
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  • What verse in the Bible is the best known verse
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  • around the world?
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  • Somebody said John 3:16.
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  • That's what I said and I was wrong, and you're wrong.
  • 00:19:48.040 --> 00:19:51.100
  • What is it?
  • 00:19:51.110 --> 00:19:53.150
  • Somebody said it. Golden rule.
  • 00:19:53.160 --> 00:19:57.090
  • That's right.
  • 00:19:57.100 --> 00:19:59.060
  • A-plus, you can miss next Sunday, no charge.
  • 00:19:59.070 --> 00:20:02.070
  • No, no, you need to be here.
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  • The Golden rule.
  • 00:20:04.010 --> 00:20:05.170
  • The Golden rule is known in all kinds of cultures, Western,
  • 00:20:05.180 --> 00:20:08.280
  • Eastern, all over southern.
  • 00:20:08.290 --> 00:20:11.000
  • It's just known, but a lot of people don't know it's
  • 00:20:11.010 --> 00:20:13.020
  • in the Bible.
  • 00:20:13.030 --> 00:20:14.150
  • Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
  • 00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:16.130
  • By the same token, it's the best known verse in all the world.
  • 00:20:16.140 --> 00:20:20.260
  • And I would guess that nobody here has ever heard a sermon
  • 00:20:20.270 --> 00:20:25.000
  • preached totally on that verse.
  • 00:20:25.010 --> 00:20:27.040
  • I've never preached one on that verse.
  • 00:20:27.050 --> 00:20:29.170
  • Isn't it something?
  • 00:20:29.180 --> 00:20:30.290
  • I don't believe you've ever-- you've heard it mentioned.
  • 00:20:31.000 --> 00:20:32.130
  • I've mentioned it many times.
  • 00:20:32.140 --> 00:20:33.250
  • You've never heard a total sermon on the best known verse
  • 00:20:33.260 --> 00:20:36.200
  • in the Bible in all the world completely.
  • 00:20:36.210 --> 00:20:38.190
  • How many, be careful, have ever heard a complete sermon
  • 00:20:38.200 --> 00:20:41.290
  • on that one verse?
  • 00:20:42.000 --> 00:20:43.220
  • Lift your hand.
  • 00:20:43.230 --> 00:20:45.060
  • Be careful. I may call on you.
  • 00:20:45.070 --> 00:20:47.230
  • I've never seen anybody lift their hand.
  • 00:20:47.240 --> 00:20:50.010
  • Isn't that something?
  • 00:20:50.020 --> 00:20:52.030
  • Because what does the verse mean?
  • 00:20:52.040 --> 00:20:55.040
  • Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
  • 00:20:55.050 --> 00:20:57.130
  • What in the world does that mean?
  • 00:20:57.140 --> 00:20:59.090
  • Sounds nice.
  • 00:20:59.100 --> 00:21:01.010
  • It means this, simply stated.
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  • Whatever you need, that's what you give.
  • 00:21:03.270 --> 00:21:10.000
  • That's what it means.
  • 00:21:10.010 --> 00:21:12.080
  • In a seminar on marriage, mostly singles, and a dumb thing to do,
  • 00:21:12.090 --> 00:21:16.280
  • I said, "Are there any questions?
  • 00:21:16.290 --> 00:21:20.130
  • Now raise your hand.
  • 00:21:20.140 --> 00:21:23.120
  • Yes, yes, yes, yes, what's your question?"
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  • "I've been married and divorced twice and I need a husband.
  • 00:21:27.020 --> 00:21:34.070
  • Where do I get a husband?"
  • 00:21:34.080 --> 00:21:37.200
  • Just stand where I stand and see how you manage that question.
  • 00:21:37.210 --> 00:21:42.120
  • And you know, I thought, I said, "Well, why do you want
  • 00:21:42.130 --> 00:21:46.020
  • a husband?
  • 00:21:46.030 --> 00:21:47.210
  • What do you need?"
  • 00:21:47.220 --> 00:21:49.090
  • She said, "I need someone to cheer for me,
  • 00:21:49.100 --> 00:21:52.100
  • to encourage me."
  • 00:21:52.110 --> 00:21:54.020
  • I said, "Okay."
  • 00:21:54.030 --> 00:21:55.240
  • I said, "Whatever you need, that's what you give.
  • 00:21:55.250 --> 00:22:01.030
  • And when you give that which you need, it'll come back to you
  • 00:22:01.040 --> 00:22:05.270
  • like bread on water."
  • 00:22:05.280 --> 00:22:08.000
  • Jesus said, "You cast your bread on water,
  • 00:22:08.010 --> 00:22:10.030
  • it will come back to you."
  • 00:22:10.040 --> 00:22:11.200
  • Not through that person that you encourage, but probably
  • 00:22:11.210 --> 00:22:14.250
  • through someone else.
  • 00:22:14.260 --> 00:22:16.070
  • It's one of those principles.
  • 00:22:16.080 --> 00:22:17.180
  • It's like the law of gravity.
  • 00:22:17.190 --> 00:22:20.220
  • This is a principle. It's a law.
  • 00:22:20.230 --> 00:22:22.160
  • Whatever you need-- what is that you need?
  • 00:22:22.170 --> 00:22:24.100
  • Anybody here, will you need anything?
  • 00:22:24.110 --> 00:22:26.000
  • What is it-- that is what you give.
  • 00:22:26.010 --> 00:22:28.180
  • And when you give that which you need, it will come back to you.
  • 00:22:28.190 --> 00:22:33.060
  • And you'll understand maybe in relationships the genius
  • 00:22:33.070 --> 00:22:35.270
  • of marriage.
  • 00:22:35.280 --> 00:22:38.010
  • I love Abraham.
  • 00:22:38.020 --> 00:22:40.020
  • He got his servant to go out and find a wife
  • 00:22:40.030 --> 00:22:42.100
  • for his son Isaac.
  • 00:22:42.110 --> 00:22:45.050
  • Isaac means laughter, by the way.
  • 00:22:45.060 --> 00:22:46.270
  • That's his name.
  • 00:22:46.280 --> 00:22:48.110
  • And I guess he laughed so much he couldn't pick out anybody,
  • 00:22:48.120 --> 00:22:50.190
  • so his daddy had to do it for him.
  • 00:22:50.200 --> 00:22:52.220
  • And he sent his servant out to find a wife, and this
  • 00:22:52.230 --> 00:22:55.130
  • servant goes out to another country, another land, and what
  • 00:22:55.140 --> 00:22:59.120
  • a challenge he had.
  • 00:22:59.130 --> 00:23:01.150
  • It's tough enough to pick out a mate for yourself, let
  • 00:23:01.160 --> 00:23:04.110
  • alone to pick out a mate for somebody else.
  • 00:23:04.120 --> 00:23:07.260
  • It's like the old boy in Walgreens was picking
  • 00:23:07.270 --> 00:23:10.230
  • up glasses, looking through it, and picking up glasses
  • 00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:13.210
  • and looking through it, and you know, I said, "It's hard to find
  • 00:23:13.220 --> 00:23:17.130
  • out which one fits."
  • 00:23:17.140 --> 00:23:19.060
  • He said, "It really is, particularly when you're picking
  • 00:23:19.070 --> 00:23:21.130
  • out glasses for somebody else."
  • 00:23:21.140 --> 00:23:26.110
  • That's what the servant had to do, pick out a wife
  • 00:23:26.120 --> 00:23:30.200
  • for Isaac.
  • 00:23:30.210 --> 00:23:32.130
  • He goes in a country and there you have all the young girls
  • 00:23:32.140 --> 00:23:34.160
  • all watering their camels.
  • 00:23:34.170 --> 00:23:36.120
  • Rows and rows of young girls.
  • 00:23:36.130 --> 00:23:37.270
  • That's what they did.
  • 00:23:37.280 --> 00:23:39.100
  • The young teenagers watered the camels.
  • 00:23:39.110 --> 00:23:40.270
  • And he looks and he said, "How in the world am I going to know
  • 00:23:40.280 --> 00:23:44.080
  • which one of these girls I'm to pick out for Isaac?"
  • 00:23:44.090 --> 00:23:47.120
  • And he prayed to God, he said, "God, show me.
  • 00:23:47.130 --> 00:23:49.090
  • Help me know."
  • 00:23:49.100 --> 00:23:50.240
  • And God told him, he said, "The one that becomes a servant,
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:57.270
  • that goes the extra mile."
  • 00:23:57.280 --> 00:23:59.260
  • So he's studying these young girls, not their face,
  • 00:23:59.270 --> 00:24:01.290
  • or their form, or their voice.
  • 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:04.120
  • He just studies these young girls.
  • 00:24:04.130 --> 00:24:06.070
  • They all water their camels, watering their camels.
  • 00:24:06.080 --> 00:24:09.040
  • And finally, one little girl comes to him and said, "Sir, I
  • 00:24:09.050 --> 00:24:12.060
  • see you're a foreigner and you don't know exactly how to water
  • 00:24:12.070 --> 00:24:15.240
  • your camels.
  • 00:24:15.250 --> 00:24:17.210
  • Let me take your pots and fill the water for you."
  • 00:24:17.220 --> 00:24:21.020
  • And he said, "That's Isaac's wife."
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  • You look at the person you married and see,
  • 00:24:26.170 --> 00:24:28.190
  • "How can I serve?
  • 00:24:28.200 --> 00:24:30.100
  • Will I enjoy serving that person?"
  • 00:24:30.110 --> 00:24:32.040
  • And you look at one another like that, not what I will get,
  • 00:24:32.050 --> 00:24:35.150
  • but what I can give and what we can become together.
  • 00:24:35.160 --> 00:24:39.260
  • What do you need?
  • 00:24:39.270 --> 00:24:42.110
  • What do you need?
  • 00:24:42.140 --> 00:24:44.160
  • Whatever you need, that is what you give.
  • 00:24:44.170 --> 00:24:48.160
  • And you throw that need out into somebody else, meet
  • 00:24:48.170 --> 00:24:52.050
  • somebody else's need in that area, and it will come back
  • 00:24:52.060 --> 00:24:56.130
  • to you like bread on water in another wave,
  • 00:24:56.140 --> 00:25:00.280
  • not necessarily with that person.
  • 00:25:00.290 --> 00:25:03.010
  • It'll come back to you in God's appointed time like bread
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  • on water, and that bread will have butter and jelly on it.
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  • This kind of marriage is only possible when you and your mate
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  • Let him do that supernatural work in your lives.
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  • And when you do, you'll discover that God's plan for marriage
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