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Victory with Paul Daugherty | Embracing Imperfection | May 28, 2022
- - God's goal is not for you to have everything perfect,
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- and everybody's shaped up,
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- and you never have
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- a flaw in your life.
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- God's goal is for you to enjoy who He's called you to be
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- and be in a process
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- called sanctification.
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- And I may not be perfect, but
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- He is making me more like him.
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- - I'm Paul.
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- You're here on purpose.
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- God's not finished with you yet.
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- Your best days are right in front of you,
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- and you have victory in your life,
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- because Jesus lives in you.
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- (congregation applauding)
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- - This is a series about winning in your mind.
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- How many guys want to win in your thoughts?
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- Like, you just need to get your thoughts
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- in a healthier place.
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- All right.
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- Proverbs 23:7.
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- If you got your Bibles, you can shout if you want.
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- And this is a scripture that really reminds us
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- the power of thinking right thoughts,
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- that as we think, so we are.
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- As a man thinketh, so is he.
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- Your thoughts are determining the direction of your life.
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- The battle for your destiny is between the ears.
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- If we can get our thoughts right,
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- we can get our lives headed in the right direction.
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- Paul says in Romans 12:2,
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- "Be transformed in your lives by the renewing of your mind."
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- So in order to have a transformed life,
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- it's got to start in the thoughts.
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- It's got to start between the ears.
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- And one of the thoughts that I think
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- a lot of us in this room deal with, we may not admit it,
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- is the thought that everything has to be perfect.
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- A perfectionism pattern of thinking
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- can hold you back from truly enjoying your life.
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- And this week, as I was studying,
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- I just felt like I want to tackle
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- this stronghold right here
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- and that is the
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- perfectionist mindset.
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- So today the title
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- of the message is,
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- Embracing Imperfection.
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- And I want to ask you a few questions,
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- just to kind of get you thinking,
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- could you be battling perfectionism.
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- A few questions that might help answer that question,
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- if you deal with perfectionism,
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- one of the questions is,
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- do you often avoid trying new things,
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- because you do not want others to see
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- that you're not very good at them?
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- Like, do you avoid trying new things,
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- because you're thinking, if I can't do it perfect,
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- I don't want to be seen as like a failure
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- in front of anyone.
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- You might be a perfectionist.
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- Do you usually think that you should
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- have done things better?
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- Right? That's something that I deal with,
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- like, I'll preach a sermon and people will say,
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- hey, it was a great message,
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- and immediately I start thinking,
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- yeah, but I should've done this, and I could have done that,
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- and I wish I would have done that better.
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- And then there's some sermons that I thought,
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- and that was really good.
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- Like, it is an aim for me to preach a perfect sermon.
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- I'm always thinking, is this going to be the one?
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- Is this going to be the perfect sermon
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- where everybody gives me thumbs up on YouTube?
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- And it's like, perfect in all of its ways.
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- There is this one time I was preaching a message,
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- I kid you not, it was like five years ago,
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- and right before I preached,
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- I had to run to go use the restroom, came back out,
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- come up on stage,
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- and I am preaching a sermon that I'm like,
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- this is a killer message.
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- The only problem was nobody told me.
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- (congregation laughing)
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- And I was like, God loves you so much,
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- and He is for you,
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- and your best days are
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- right in front of you,
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- and he is not
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- finished with you yet,
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- and he's going to clean out
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- every part of your life,
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- you know, and I'm
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- like getting into it.
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- And finally, like after a
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- while, Ashley's like, hey,
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- there's toilet paper hanging from.
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- (congregation laughing)
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- And I was so embarrassed. I was so mad.
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- It was going to be the perfect sermon,
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- and then there was toilet paper there.
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- And there's been times where I feel like
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- things are going well, and then one thing is off, right,
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- it's the toilet paper.
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- It's something that.
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- Our society is obsessed with perfection.
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- Paul the apostle was someone who struggled,
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- I think, with perfectionism.
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- He wrote all these books in the Bible,
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- and when he got saved, he went
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- all in for Jesus, extreme.
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- He was an extreme zealous
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- religious guy, who
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- terrorized the church,
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- because he didn't understand Christianity.
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- And then when he got saved, he went all in for Jesus,
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- but he became extremely focused on doing it all right,
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- to the point where I think he got frustrated with himself
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- because perfectionist, it's like,
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- it's hard to just feel restful.
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- It's hard to feel good at the end of the day,
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- unless you've accomplished everything,
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- and not just accomplished it, but accomplished it perfectly.
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- And so he wrote about his journey,
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- his story of imperfections
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- in 2 Corinthians 12,
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- and he says this in verse eight.
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- He says, "Three
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- times I begged God
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- "to get rid of this thing "that was bothering me."
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- Like it was just messing with my ministry.
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- It was an imperfection.
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- It was a thorn in my flesh,
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- and God responded to Paul's frustration
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- with the imperfection and he said,
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- "My grace is sufficient for you, Paul,
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- "for my power is made
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- perfect in weakness."
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- In other words, God is more
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- attracted to your imperfections
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- than your perfections.
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- Your imperfections are an invitation for the grace of God,
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- and I don't know about you, but I need grace.
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- Anybody else need grace?
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- Do you dislike the idea that you may be just average
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- in some area of your life,
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- that you're not as good as one of your closest friends?
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- Do you struggle with contentment
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- in where you are at in life?
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- Like, it's just hard to be happy
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- because things aren't perfect.
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- We haven't moved into the perfect house.
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- My car is not perfectly clean.
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- My kids have not gotten their act together,
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- and because things aren't perfect, I can't be happy.
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- Here's what perfectionism does,
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- it drives us to have a restless soul.
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- It drives you to the point of exhaustion.
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- It keeps you constantly on the treadmill,
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- being busy and never enjoying relationships.
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- Perfectionism kills connectionism,
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- that's good right there.
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- God's goal is not for you to have everything perfect,
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- and everybody's shaped up,
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- and you never have a flaw in your life,
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- and nobody else has flaws.
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- God's goal is for you to enjoy
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- who He's called you to be,
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- where He's placed you,
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- and be in a process called sanctification,
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- which means every single day I'm getting closer to Jesus,
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- and I may not be perfect,
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- but He is making me more like Him.
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- And I don't have to live with a constant anger at myself,
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- and the world and everybody else for their flaws.
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- Our society craves perfection,
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- even with our phones, as we're taking pictures.
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- And I want to take a selfie today,
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- but I'm going to take my jacket off,
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- because I really want to show my tan, you know,
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- because we always want to show the best parts.
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- Like pastors, we always post the picture
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- with the most people in the background,
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- like, don't show the empty row, you know.
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- Here we go, a little selfie, boom.
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- And then what do we do?
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- We begin to filter it,
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- because filtering is a part of the perfectionist desire,
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- the mindset.
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- So I want to filter this with you for a little bit.
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- Let's throw this picture up on the screen.
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- And by the way, my ear is still getting healed,
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- so I'm preaching with some imperfection.
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- I can't fully hear as I'm preaching.
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- It's okay.
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- Well, let's get on the contrast.
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- Let's turn the contrast up a little bit,
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- and bring the contrast.
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- Yeah. Okay, get out of there.
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- Get out of there.
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- Let's turn up the warmth.
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- I want to accentuate the golden tan.
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- Yeah. All right.
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- We're done with that. All right.
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- Done with that.
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- Go over to the sharpness.
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- Go, I want to make this sharp.
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- I want to just sharpen it up.
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- Perfect.
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- Not really.
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- Cause if I really could make it perfect,
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- I would take a few pounds off my face, right.
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- I'd have that nice jawline.
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- And I'd have like a little bit more hair
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- on the top sides of my head,
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- and my mustache would be a little more full,
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- I can only grow 120 hairs right here.
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- (congregation laughing)
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- I've been trying to be a man with a beard since I was a kid,
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- still can't get it to grow.
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- I didn't even shave this week.
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- I'm just feeling.
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- Do you feel that you have no purpose in life
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- unless you can make a spectacular performance,
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- or a contribution in some way?
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- Like, I'm not special or significant
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- unless I do something spectacular.
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- That's a perfectionist mindset.
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- People are watching, and if I don't succeed,
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- and if I don't do something spectacular,
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- and if the project, if the party's not perfect.
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- Did we get enough donuts, did we have enough balloons?
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- We should've put a hallway there. The chairs were too soft.
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- They were too hard.
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- And if he would just get his act together,
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- and if our kids could just appear perfect at church,
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- and if you just wouldn't make mistakes
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- in front of everybody.
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- That's not healthy.
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- That's a strong hold in your mind.
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- The enemy is in no hurry to destroy someone
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- if he can just convince
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- them of a lie in their mind,
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- because then he's got you captive.
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- He's got you in this captive thought that says,
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- I'm not good enough unless I'm perfect.
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- Do you find it hard to believe compliments,
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- because you don't meet your own standards.
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- I've been there before.
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- I'll finish doing something, like preaching a sermon,
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- or leading a meeting, or doing something as a church,
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- and people will say, hey, that was a great decision.
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- I love the, for the future building,
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- And you're doing a great job leading, Paul.
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- Man, you led that meeting so well,
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- and that sermon was, was great.
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- And in my mind I go, they don't mean it.
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- They're just having pity for me.
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- They're just feeling sorry for me,
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- because my father pastored.
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- They're just trying to make me feel better.
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- And I don't believe the compliments,
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- not because they're not genuine,
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- but because of my own perfectionism mindset.
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- And I'm telling you a perfectionist struggles daily
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- to feel worthy, struggles daily to feel good enough,
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- struggles to even go on a vacation.
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- I got to work when I'm on vacation,
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- I got to work on my day off, I'm never good enough.
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- I didn't do enough, I didn't do it right enough.
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- Do you miss out on the joy of living today,
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- because you're so busy worrying
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- about whether you will be able to do all the things
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- that you are committed to do in the future?
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- A perfectionist believes that God's special affection,
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- and attention and love will never come
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- until you shape up and meet the higher standards
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- for prayer, Bible reading, devotions, witnessing.
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- I haven't done enough for God,
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- so I'm not worthy of His love.
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- Do you feel that keeping your appearance and home immaculate
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- is important to keeping the approval of others,
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- or maintaining the sense of peace?
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- I just can't have peace until
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- all the dishes are cleaned.
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- I can't have peace, God won't love me
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- until my car is perfectly clean,
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- until my house is perfectly clean.
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- Wrong.
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- And it's robbing you
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- of joy and peace,
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- and I'm coming for it today.
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- - Perfectionism is rooted in a prideful,
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- like me do it myself, I'm a self-made millionaire.
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- I'm a self-made success story.
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- I built my success. No, you didn't.
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- Who gave you that body? Who gave you those gifts?
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- Who gave you that personality? God did.
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- Put him back on the throne of your heart,
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- so you could take a vacation,
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- so you could stop beating yourself up.
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- - For a perfectionist,
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- it doesn't just affect us,
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- it affects everyone around us,
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- because no one's ever enough for you.
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- Like, a perfectionist parent
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- is constantly pounding their kids.
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- You didn't do enough.
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- You better get your act together.
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- You better be fast.
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- You better clean. You better do this and do that.
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- And you might, you might be thinking,
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- man, I'm creating the best golfer in the world,
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- but what happens 20 years later in his life.
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- After as a kid, he's grown up with a dad
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- who just screamed at him to be perfect.
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- What happens to that tennis player,
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- Andre Agassi, Tiger Woods.
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- What happens growing up with a perfectionist,
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- performance mentality?
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- It makes us great pretenders.
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- It makes us great performers,
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- making the outside look perfect in all of its ways,
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- while we look for escape routes privately
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- to handle the pressure of appearing perfect
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- in the eyes of our parents, the eyes of the press,
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- because NBC's watching, ABC's watching.
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- I got to perform well.
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- Perfection is a killer.
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- The pressure to be perfect.
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- So I want to give you six truths
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- about perfectionism that we can find in God's word.
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- Number one, perfectionism does not make you more successful.
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- Believe it or not being perfect
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- actually doesn't make you
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- a more successful person.
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- Perfectionism is not
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- the same as excellence,
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- or a healthy striving to do your best.
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- Perfectionism is an unrelenting standard
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- that can never be met, it's an impossible standard.
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- It's an intolerance for mistakes.
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- Did you know the definition of perfect
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- means to have no mistakes, no defects,
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- no flaws, no faults.
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- Newsflash, none of us meet that standard.
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- No matter how amazing you might think you are,
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- perfectionism is an impossible standard.
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- And it becomes mentally paralyzing,
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- it leads to a stronghold.
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- It stifles creativity.
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- It stifles you from ever trying anything
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- because of the fear of not doing it perfectly.
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- Number two, perfectionism does not make you more likable.
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- We often think that being perfect
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- is going to help us be accepted or liked,
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- or that perfectionism will protect us
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- from rejection or abandonment.
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- But instead perfectionism creates emotional distance.
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- It doesn't create connection between us and others,
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- true connection requires vulnerability.
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- Again, we impress people with our strengths,
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- but we connect with people through our weaknesses.
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- It doesn't matter how amazingly perfect I could do a job,
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- it matters was I vulnerable enough?
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- And the more vulnerable I am,
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- that means the more I trust you to like me for who I am.
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- You should feel loved and trusted
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- because I'm pretty vulnerable with y'all every Sunday,
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- I try to just come as real as.
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- What you see is what you get.
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- Sometimes you get a little bit of this, right.
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- We always gotta deal with this.
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- Everybody's got a little bit of this,
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- and we got to clean this up.
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- There's always a but to be cleaned up,
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- you know what I'm saying?
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- So like, and you know what?
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- That makes you human,
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- because we all,
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- you know what I'm saying?
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- (congregation laughing)
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- But you know what?
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- We think that if I'm perfect more people will like me.
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- No, no, no, it's actually the opposite.
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- The more perfect you come across,
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- people are like, I just don't.
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- I just can't handle.
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- But when you come with that sense of, this is who I am,
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- the authentic you is the best version of you.
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- That's God created you to be,
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- He made you, fearfully and wonderfully made.
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- You're a masterpiece,
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- not because you perfectly performed great,
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- but because you're a child of God.
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- Number three, perfectionism costs you precious time.
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- Some perfectionist will spend inordinate amounts of time
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- on day-to-day activities, such as cleaning,
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- so that their house, their car,
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- their desk are immaculate, right.
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- Like redoing tasks
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- until they're perfect.
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- But they were perfect before that.
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- You messed up the dishes,
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- you put them in the dishwasher the wrong way.
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- And you left a toilet seat up.
- 00:15:20.269 --> 00:15:22.604
- And Paul, the chairs here are too comfortable,
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- it's movie theater seats.
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- We need to fix that because we're falling asleep
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- during your sermon.
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- And listen, I walked through the halls,
- 00:15:28.911 --> 00:15:30.045
- and there's something wrong.
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- And it's this constant,
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- I'm paying attention to so many flaws,
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- and then I'm spending all of this time
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- trying to fix everything,
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- that maybe not everything supposed to be fixed.
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- I don't know, like maybe, maybe
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- maybe we're in a process,
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- and we're becoming more like Jesus,
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- and you can go to sleep at the end of the day,
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- even though you didn't accomplish everything.
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- And even though one hanger is off
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- from the rest of the hangers in the closet.
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- Like, maybe we don't have to live
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- with such an insane standard of perfection,
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- and maybe that'll set us free from so much pain and hurt.
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- Number four, perfectionist frequently feel frustrated,
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- unfulfilled, and inadequate.
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- When we expect perfection, we're never satisfied.
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- It's never enough. Never good enough.
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- We're never happy with our performance, or our appearance.
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- Well, if I could just lose a few more pounds.
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- Someone's trying to pay you a compliment,
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- they don't mean it.
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- I just need to lose a little bit more weight.
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- I just got, by the way,
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- y'all, I was preaching this message
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- like five years ago and this lady came up to me
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- after the sermon.
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- She goes, don't you know the scripture,
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- "Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect."
- 00:16:34.343 --> 00:16:36.912
- I said, yes, by the way,
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- I'm going to address that scripture
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- at the end of this message, so stay for the whole thing,
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- because this message is media.
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- I've got to work my way to that.
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- She goes, aren't we supposed to be perfect.
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- Cause I preached a sermon and I said,
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- God's okay with your crooked tooth,
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- because I got to cook a tooth down here.
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- If you had never noticed it, I try to hide it in my smiles,
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- but it's there.
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- It's on the bottom teeth.
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- And she goes, God wants you to get that tooth fixed.
- 00:17:00.903 --> 00:17:05.507
- I kid you not.
- 00:17:05.507 --> 00:17:06.842
- You know what I told her?
- 00:17:06.842 --> 00:17:08.310
- I said, did you notice that my nose is crooked too?
- 00:17:08.310 --> 00:17:10.412
- I said, look close here.
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- I broke my nose when I was a teenager,
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- and it never did go back to the other way.
- 00:17:13.415 --> 00:17:15.884
- I got a little Owen Wilson nose going on over here.
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- And I was like, you know what? God loves my crooked nose.
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- I don't have the Jolo Steen teeth,
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- but you know what, I got the Paul Daugherty teeth.
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- And you know what? God loves.
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- His grace is made perfect in our weaknesses.
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- And I said, also that scripture you're saying
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- is not about the outward appearance.
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- "Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect."
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- Like get a Botox as your heavenly father has a Botox.
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- No wrinkles.
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- Get all the body
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- jobs you need to get,
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- as your heavenly father
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- also does over time,
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- because we all age and we
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- all need to get stuff fixed,
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- and make sure our bodies
- 00:17:51.386 --> 00:17:53.255
- always look perfect.
- 00:17:53.255 --> 00:17:53.689
- No, like what.
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- He wasn't talking about outward appearance.
- 00:17:55.224 --> 00:17:57.326
- Jesus actually cared less about the religious people's
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- obsession with clean cars and clean cups and clean dishes.
- 00:18:00.095 --> 00:18:03.599
- Jesus said you cleaned the outside,
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- but your inside is filthy.
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- You got so much jealousy, envy, comparison.
- 00:18:07.202 --> 00:18:09.972
- You got so much stuff, you need the.
- 00:18:09.972 --> 00:18:12.875
- Where's that toilet paper.
- 00:18:12.875 --> 00:18:14.376
- We got some stuff, we need to clean out your booty, right.
- 00:18:14.376 --> 00:18:17.112
- (congregation laughing)
- 00:18:17.112 --> 00:18:18.614
- I'm sorry.
- 00:18:18.614 --> 00:18:20.182
- Guys, it's summertime, relax.
- 00:18:20.182 --> 00:18:21.650
- Let's just have some fun. All right.
- 00:18:21.650 --> 00:18:23.519
- Don't get mad at me.
- 00:18:23.519 --> 00:18:24.453
- (congregation laughing)
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- Embrace the imperfections.
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- But I'm serious, even religion,
- 00:18:28.123 --> 00:18:30.993
- religion kills authenticity.
- 00:18:30.993 --> 00:18:35.030
- It just makes us really great performers,
- 00:18:35.030 --> 00:18:37.933
- and really like,
- 00:18:37.933 --> 00:18:39.635
- stiff-necked perfectionists,
- 00:18:40.235 --> 00:18:42.404
- and we're making ourselves miserable and everybody else.
- 00:18:42.404 --> 00:18:44.740
- And Jesus said, "My yoke is easy, my burden is light."
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- If you're exhausted with the treadmill of perfectionism,
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- come to Jesus and find rest for your souls.
- 00:18:51.680 --> 00:18:56.051
- The sixth point,
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- actually the fifth point perfectionism isn't possible,
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- and it isn't healthy for our soul.
- 00:19:00.889 --> 00:19:03.192
- If you're perfect, there's no room for growth.
- 00:19:04.159 --> 00:19:06.428
- There's nothing left to learn. Nothing left to strive for.
- 00:19:06.428 --> 00:19:09.798
- The truth is no one is perfect all the time,
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- all of us have moments where we miss it.
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- We get impatient. We get frustrated.
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- We feel afraid. We feel discouraged.
- 00:19:15.671 --> 00:19:18.273
- And it's not healthy for your soul to plague yourself,
- 00:19:18.273 --> 00:19:20.576
- feeling like you've gotta be perfect.
- 00:19:20.576 --> 00:19:22.878
- But leads me to my final point here, and that is,
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- number six, perfectionist thoughts and behaviors
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- can be changed.
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- There's hope,
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- if you feel like you're a slave to perfectionism,
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- today's your day for freedom.
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- It's time to sign your declaration of independence.
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- So, I want to leave you with three thoughts
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- that I think can bring us into a place of freedom
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- from the perfectionism mindset.
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- Number one, repeat after me,
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- I'm not perfect. - I'm not perfect.
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- - I didn't hear everybody say it. I'm just kidding.
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- Y'all are like, whoa.
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- (laughing)
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- There's a reason why I didn't make that point,
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- you're not perfect,
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- because that'd be easy for you to say,
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- you just point at someone to be like,
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- you're not a perfect.
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- Pastor Paul's not perfect.
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- We all know that, right?
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- But it's hard when you have
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- to say it about yourself.
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- I'm not perfect. I'm not.
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- Again, the definition of perfect
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- means to be entirely without fault.
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- Is anyone here entirely without fault ever in your life?
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- No, no.
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- Romans 3:23 says, "We've all sinned,
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- "and fallen short of the glory of God."
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- We've all sinned. We've all fallen short in some way.
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- We've all missed the bullseye.
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- Righteousness is a bullseye,
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- like, it has to be spot on,
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- otherwise if it has any defect, it's not righteous.
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- I cannot attain righteousness through my performance.
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- The Bible says that my righteous acts
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- are filthy rags in God's eyes.
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- No matter how hard I try to appear perfect,
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- to impress you, to never miss a moment,
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- to never have a bad day,
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- I can't get there.
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- I can't do it in my own ability. My behavior.
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- I cannot earn righteousness
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- through my perfect performance.
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- But here's the second thought that I think can set us free.
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- He is perfect.
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- He is the righteous standard that I need.
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- I'm not going to look to a person, or to myself,
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- this allows me to take me off the throne of my heart.
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- Perfectionism is rooted in pride.
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- This is why Lucifer fell.
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- He thought he could be God himself.
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- He thought, I'm just as good as God.
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- I'm just as perfect and holy as God.
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- The second he exalted himself on the throne of his heart,
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- perfectionism is rooted in a prideful,
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- like me do it myself, I'm a self-made millionaire,
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- I'm a self-made success story,
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- I built my success.
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- No you didn't. Who gave you that body?
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- Who gave you those ears?
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- Who gave you those eyes?
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- Who gave you those hands, those feet?
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- Who gave you those gifts?
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- Who gave you that personality? God did.
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- Put Him back on the throne of your heart,
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- so you could take a vacation.
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- Put Him back on the throne of your heart,
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- so you could take a day off,
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- Put Him back on the throne of your heart.
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- so you could stop beating yourself up,
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- and putting so much pressure on yourself
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- to always get it a hundred percent right.
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- You're not going to be able to,
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- you won't hit the standard of perfection,
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- but He is perfect.
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- Psalm 18:30 says, "As for
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- God, His way is perfect.
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- "The Lord's word is flawless."
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- He used flawed people, but He
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- accomplished a flawless plan.
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- He moved through the hearts of broken men and women,
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- and brought a Son into the world.
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- A messy manger with an imperfect father,
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- and imperfect mother.
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- Mary and Joseph were not perfect in all of their ways,
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- but Jesus was.
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- I'm not perfect, but he is perfect.
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- Hebrews 4:15 says, "We do not have a high priest
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- "who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses,
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- "but we have one who has been tempted in every single way,
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- "just as we are, yet He never sinned."
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- Which leads me to my last thought,
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- that can set your mind free.
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- I am perfected in Christ.
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- I am not perfected
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- by my performance,
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- I am perfected by the
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- blood of Jesus Christ.
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- The word perfected, when you read the scripture
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- that that woman threw at me
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- the day that I preached this message.
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- She said, what about the scripture in Matthew 5:48,
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- the sermon on the mount, where Jesus said,
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- "Be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect."
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- I wanted to understand the scripture more.
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- What was Jesus saying?
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- Was he saying that I
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- have to have perfection
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- in every single thing that I do in my.
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- Like, I'm never allowed to ever miss it,
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- and if I do then I'm going to hell.
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- No.
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- The Hebrew translation of this word right here,
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- means be complete.
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- In fact, perfected in this moment right here, Jesus said
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- the definition of this word actually means finished.
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- What Jesus was saying is
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- you will be complete, lacking nothing,
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- once I go to the cross.
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- Because in John 19:30,
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- the perfect Savior stretched His hands out
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- with nails in His hands, scars on His back,
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- and a crown of thorns on His head,
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- and he said, "It is finished."
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- What was he saying?
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- For all the perfectionists in the world
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- who have never met the standard of their own perfection,
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- for all the religious people,
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- for the Zacchaeus' and the Rahab's and the Noah's,
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- and the Adam's and the Eve's, and the David,
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- and the Saul's and the Solomon's and the Peter's.
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- For all these guys and girls
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- who've been striving for perfection,
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- I am now bringing
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- what they've been looking for their whole life.
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- It is finished.
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- He forgives you. He loves you.
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- He justifies you before God.
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- He calls you righteous.
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- My righteousness doesn't come from my perfect performance,
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- but my faith in the spotless blood of the Lamb of God,
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- without faults or defects.
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- - It's okay to be imperfect.
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- God is not looking for perfect people,
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- He's looking for honest people,
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- people who will say, God, I don't have it all together.
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- I'm struggling.
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- I'm frustrated with some areas in my life
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- that I don't feel like are perfect.
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- And God says, I can use that.
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- God is attracted even to our weaknesses.
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- In Corinthians, as you heard in the message,
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- the Bible says that in our weakness,
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- his strength is made perfect.
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- God wants to perfect you in your imperfections,
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- because he's the only one who's perfect.
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- And when we open up and say,
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- Lord, I've been struggling with this perfectionism mindset.
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- I've been getting angry at other people
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- who are dropping the ball,
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- I've been getting angry at myself
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- for not doing things perfect.
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- I've been there before,
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- and it's a miserable way to live,
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- when you expect perfection from yourself,
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- you expect perfection from others.
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- You're constantly on edge, upset,
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- critiquing yourself, never happy with yourself.
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- God's not pleased with that kind of mindset.
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- God says, release the burden
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- of trying to be perfect,
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- and trying to make everyone else perfect,
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- and trying to make the world perfect.
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- Everyone and everything in the world
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- is going to have imperfection in it,
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- and the sooner we embrace that,
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- and the more we embrace
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- a perfect Father in heaven who loves us,
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- the more at peace our soul will be,
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- the more rest we can experience,
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- the more joy we can have.
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- So why not pray this prayer with me right now?
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- Say, Lord, help me
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- to embrace the imperfections,
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- and to release it to you.
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- Lord, I cast my cares to you.
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- God, I invite your grace into my heart,
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- towards myself and towards others.
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- To love people through their imperfections,
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- just like you love me through my imperfections.
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- In Jesus' name. Amen.
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- we just want you to know that we love you,
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- we're celebrating with you.
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- God is for you, your best days are right in front of you.
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